Greenerie:
So sorry darling.Ure still grieving,give urself time,gradually ur emotional wounds will heal..You really need to process ur feelings and don't hold back your tears and pain.

.While grieving,pray,sing,pour your heart out to God,ask him to comfort you,to help u and carry you through...if you pray this from depths of ur heart ,he will answer you.dont isolate urself from people,go out to places,just go, even if you sit alone...just leave the house and hang out... attend church services,where u interact with others..

Find a job or something to keep you busy, to help support urself and ur family.You will get better and better gradually,be patient.

Don't forget to pray and get closer to God,He will sustain u and send helpers to u.He is the comforter.My thoughts and prayers are with you this difficult period.

This is the best advice.

It is God that heals any grieving, wounded, and broken heart.

Try HIM, He never fails.

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

Condolence on the death of your brother, being a caregiver to a sick relative takes a toll on one's physiological and physical health. Trust me there are no guarantees you could transplant all the organs of this world and it still won't work, the most important thing is that you did all you could and your brother dealt love and care before he died. Dear of a loved one is a wound that takes time to heal, so go through the healing process which starts by halting all assumptions of what you could have done thinking, think about how much of a blessing your brother was to you, how much fun and love you both shared, how he won't want you to beat up yourself about his death. Try going to see a counsellor or therapist if you need extra help. Talk to you friends about how you feel to get support from them. Most importantly ask God for help and healing.

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

So sorry for all you have been through

You did exactly what you can and you know that he will never survive it but you were trying your best to see if he will be through with it

Go to his grave and tell him how bad you fell about his death and how you tried your best

You on your own side, you must learn to forget him else you will never forget how he died

You just have to adjust yourself and move on

Since you are an introvert, you have to come out and mix up with people you need it especially as you have graduated and will be looking for work

If you don't come out to mix uou especially now, you may go into depression and no one will ever know because you like staying alone

Just help yourself

Download the song "Stronger" by Mandisa.when i lost a brother in 2016,the song helped me heal faster and God saw me through. it was hurtful because i took care of him and did everything until he went to be with the Lord.just listen to the song continuously and pray when you cant sleep and you be okay in no time.God be with you and sorry for your loss.

buy secret gold and drink and thank me later

What I do when I'm finding it hard to sleep is to take warm tea without sugar or milk. Preferably Milo.

numtums:

What's the name of the book?

Stoic wisdom by Nancy sharman

Patrioticman007:


The technique you mentioned ( about not wanting to sleep) is an old tradition. The op should try reading the holy Quran at night, sleep will visit him before he finish reading one or two surahs. This a well recognized fact.

funny you

SUPERPACK:
If sleeping is hard for you then do the opposite of sleeping ''try being awake''. It might sound weird but it works like magic, I personally its been almost 3 years I went to bed with intention to sleep, just like people say I want to sleep and next thing they are snoring. I work online and mostly pray to stay awake till morning, now here is the twist, I will be working on my tablet from 10pm to around 2pm and voom I will wake up in the morning with my tablet on my chest. So I battle sleep but what I need is sleep . What do you do for a living? Can you be a freelancer? You need something that will create a conflicting goal with sleeping at night not drugs.

Hello good morning sir
Am interested in becoming a free lancer but i have a problem

Just take some weed u will be fine

Am sorry to hear about your brother death . Almost 30% of nigerian got kidney disease but they dont know , there is no symptoms for kidney disease and there is no cure only dialysis and kidney transplant. High blood pressure is the major cause of kidney disease and people you are diabetic are prone to kidney disease .do your medical checkup regularly. Kidney disease is well managed in the uk people live on dialysis of 10 years

Brunosamel:
Stoic wisdom by Nancy sharman

Thank you

You keep imagining all you could have done to keep him alive but couldn't. Stop blaming yourself. You did your best and there was nothing more left. Even your late bro knew that and want you to move on and live your life. Stop over thinking it. Even if you got the five million and did transplant,it not a 70% chance. You making first class despite all this has made him proud. Time heals all wounds. May his soul rest in peace.

doggedfighter:


How are you doing?

You took a break here?

Been a while.

I'm alright.
I've been busy with stuffs, but I'm back now.
Hope you're good too

First thing I want u to know is... Am sorry for that lost.
2nd is... You just have to see how u will move on.. it has happened it has happened... Just tell ursef tat since ur brother died because of money... Nobody under ur watch will die again cus of money... Get busy... Make money and trust me... Sleep will fetch u...

And let's not even completely say it was the trauma from the death of ur brother o... Bros u came out with first class... Those people with first class don't sleep..they usually have dis type of problem after sch... so hope u gerrit.. if u don't gerrit forget it

africandollar:
Na first class dey write all dis kain dirty English? Fear God nau!

u wey be last class... Oya write your own naw

makavelli47:


I'm alright.
I've been busy with stuffs, but I'm back now.
Hope you're good too

Yes, I am good.

Glad to have you back.

doggedfighter:


Yes, I am good.

Glad to have you back.

Thanks hun
Now reply your email

you dont need to insult those who dont share your believe...anyway overtime you will get over it.

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

stop worrying and sleep at the first instance at night. Don't try to fight off sleep when it creeps in allow it and sleep off

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

when you understands what your brothers intentions for you to suceed in life...then, i believe you will have to prepare your self for the future just to see his dream of making you somebody in life to manifest and make him happy where ever his spirit is...you are here wallowing in self pity.

Continue this way and dont man up,or,do you think you will stay this life forever....

What do you mean by ,you felt you should have done more?...did your actions or inactions contributed to his death?...just asking..

Pray and read aloud Psalms27, 121, 4 and 127 before going to bed and thank God later.

So sorry about that.... my brother is currently going through thesame kidney problem and we have done like 4 times dialysis, I'm currently in the hospital now.
What advice can u give to me?

Is it safe to say we aren't drinking enough water the cause of high kidney problems in Nigeria ?

We are supposed to drink 8 cups of clean water.

I think 30% is huge.

lakeside79937:
Am sorry to hear about your brother death . Almost 30% of nigerian got kidney disease but they dont know , there is no symptoms for kidney disease and there is no cure only dialysis and kidney transplant. High blood pressure is the major cause of kidney disease and people you are diabetic are prone to kidney disease .do your medical checkup regularly. Kidney disease is well managed in the uk people live on dialysis of 10 years

Plz try and have sex at night it will really help and talking from experience

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

Chai. Is a pity.
Take heart bro.
As for the insomnia, boil a cup of water and mix it with raw honey, drink when warm. You can also boil 2 fingers of bananas with a cup of water, drink when warm. May God console you. It's not easy.

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

Omo I can relate o. This was the kind of insomnia that dealt with me after the death of my father in 2012 and still affecting my sleep Till date.i hardly see 4 to 5hrs in a night. I pray u find
Healing soon

hnmmmm this is serious more than u think, if this continue to happen, u might develop migrate headache, help urself now,leave the house for now ,make sure u sleep with someone around you,then let the dead go,I mean be mean to him,like move on,there is nothing u can do.

Valuc:
u wey be last class... Oya write your own naw

How I wan take write now? How last class go fit write better pass first class?

africandollar:


How I wan take write now? How last class go fit write better pass first class?

so u Sabi sey u no Sabi write... U com dey jam talk

Valuc:
so u Sabi sey u no Sabi write... U com dey jam talk

No vex Sir. I no go try am again