Togo is a fellow but poorer West African country just like Nigeria. Your earnings as a waitress over there should be lower than what you can get from Nigeria here.

For a young 19 years old girl who doesn’t have any special training, skills or qualifications, there is a very likelihood that you have no better prospects for making money than using your body(prostitution).

Prostitution on the other hand is not entirely a bad profession if you understand what you are getting into, and you equip your mind to handle it but for the fact is that prostitution is largely illegal in most countries.

You being young, living in a foreign land and being in in an illegal profession makes you vulnerable and people can take advantage of that knowing that they are likely to get away with it.
You can end up as a forced sex worker.
Imagine having to have sex with random foreign men regardless of how you feel about them but because there is a quota you have to meet up in order to pay your madam or master.

The men who pays to have sex with you know you are a foreigner and you are engaging in an illegal business may likely end up abusing you and treating you like trash since they are paying to have your way with you.
Men don’t like parting with their money and they may get aggressive or try tricking you after sex when they “cum” to their senses and the alcohol/cigarettes illusion has worn off.

I understand your desire to change your economic status for yourself and your child,
The surest way out is for you to equip yourself with a a skill. You can learn tailoring.
You will have to self develop yourself less as a girl you have nothing else to offer except your body.

Good luck to you

Chizzy7890:


Waitress

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Do not be deceived, na olosho work you wan go do..

Chizzy7890:
I am 19 years I come from a very  poor family of 5children I am the fourth  position my dad doesn't do anything only my mum she sell bread by the roadside but it is been 4 months now she is not working because she march on poison and her leg is very big and suallen, I also have a 3 years old child she is my everything I feel sad for not providing for her the way I am supposed to , a friend of mine propose me to follow her to Togo for work but my parents has refused they said its very risky I might end up being killed  there but I don't care because they don't help me with anything , I depend on myself they don't provide anything for me not even a pant , I want to do it for myself and daughter to live a better life I don't want to be poor like my parents they were born in poverty also had children in poverty andI want to break the curse. We are leaving on the 18th of October I am getting worried I hope I have taken the right opportunity for me and my daughter. Your advise is needed please

You are not struggling for your daughter because she must survive, whether you are there or not

Going to Togo is like leaving your village to a more vibrant city

But bear in mind that you are going for prostitution

So be prepared

You think going to Togo is the best you can do? Hope you won't be leaving your child with your supposed poor parents? To think you blame your parents for being poor and you have already given birth at 19... If you know what is good for you, you will stay back and find something meaningful to do with your life.

Eseries:
Togo is a fellow but poorer West African country just like Nigeria. Your earnings as a waitress over there should be lower than what you can get from Nigeria here.

For a young 19 years old girl who doesn’t have any special training, skills or qualifications, there is a very likelihood that you have no better prospects for making money than using your body(prostitution).

Prostitution on the other hand is not entirely a bad profession if you understand what you are getting into, and you equip your mind to handle it but for the fact is that prostitution is largely illegal in most countries.

You being young, living in a foreign land and being in in an illegal profession makes you vulnerable and people can take advantage of that knowing that they are likely to get away with it.
You can end up as a forced sex worker.
Imagine having to have sex with random foreign men regardless of how you feel about them but because there is a quota you have to meet up in order to pay your madam or master.

The men who pays to have sex with you know you are a foreigner and you are engaging in an illegal business may likely end up abusing you and treating you like trash since they are paying to have your way with you.
Men don’t like parting with their money and they may get aggressive or try tricking you after sex when they “cum” to their senses and the alcohol/cigarettes illusion has worn off.

I understand your desire to change your economic status for yourself and your child,
The surest way out is for you to equip yourself with a a skill. You can learn tailoring.
You will have to self develop yourself less as a girl you have nothing else to offer except your body.

Good luck to you

Thank you sir

frozen70:


You are not struggling for your daughter because she must survive, whether you are there or not

Going to Togo is like leaving your village to a more vibrant city

But bear in mind that you are going for prostitution

So be prepared

OK thanks

Chizzy7890:


OK thanks

You are welcome

Togo people Dae our area for bayelsa here, very broke, do menial job to survive, aunty if it was greener over there they wouldn't have come here, na prostitution them one carry you do, you think say you Dae wise

If she one use you do prostitution for Togo, why you no do hookup for Nigeria, talking from the hustlers perspective

Chizzy7890:


Enugu

.....What kind of business can you do?

Check and let me know. I stay in Enugu too.
You don't need to meet with me. If you are honest. A lady from my office will see you to confirm your story and if it's true,then we shall give you some funds to start up a business and monitor you.

Let me know when you are ready.

Chizzy7890:


Yes that is what she said

My dear, na Ashawo u wan go do for that side bi that.
So just make up your mind so that u won't be disappointed when u get and start the Ashawo work.
If u are not ready to do Ashawo work, pls don't bother going their, I'm speaking from a experience and as a concern brother

Chizzy7890:


My plans are to get a better job to give my daughter a better life , I taught going to Togo will change my life because my friend she is doing so much better than when she was back here , her family and children are now doing so well and I want the same lifestyle like her

Chaiiiiiiii, you be really small pikin shaaa. Don't just go anywhere with that your friend, if at all you go hear. Look for something to do legitimately no matter how small it is in Enugu there. Obey your parents. God help you to listen...

Going to work as a 'waitress' in a poverty-stricken, French-speaking country when you can't even speak French to begin with? A trafficker wants to go sell you into prostitution, for your information.

She 'loves' you so much so that she is willing to cover your travelling expenses, feeding and accommodation because she is mother Christmas.

You made one mistake of having a baby in an unpleasant economic condition. Don't make a graver mistake by embarking on a suicidal trip that will damage your life beyond repair. That's if you don't get killed over there. Yes the life of a trafficked victim has zero worth in the hand of a trafficker.

No.

Just go and do housemaid or nanny in a major city like Abuja.
I'm sure there will be rich couples willing to take you on and perhaps even want you to speak your language to their children, so their kids can speak Igbo.
But you will have to leave your child with your parents and be sending money to them for her upkeep.
You can read and write, so you should be hotcake as a nanny.
There are nannies earning between 25 to 50K in major cities, so try your luck there. Some are even privileged to travel abroad on holidays with their bosses and the kids of their bosses.
That Togo no be am o. It sounds like a prostitution ring / trafficking.
Waitressing jobs haven't finished in Naija, so why go all the way to Togo under such dubious circumstances?
Don't go o

Don't try it unless you're ready to become an international Ashewo.


Your friend will turn you into a sex slave

Abort mission

First, your mom did not step on "poison". Like you said, you've finished all savings on her treatment. Question is what kind of treatment? Are you sure you and your family did not waste that money on scammers and traditionalists? The use of "poison" rather than a proper diagnostic term already tells me that you guys just wasted your money. Ignorance/illiteracy and financial recklessness are like 5&6. Ignorance could make one spend 50k on traditionalists and fake prophets without results for a common illness that doctors treat at government hospitals for less than 10k.

I'm mentioning this so you don't make the same mistakes your parents made and also have a rethink on how your mom can get back on her feet. Not a good thing for both of them to be out of job or incapacitated. Their conditions might render your efforts useless.

Meanwhile, defeating poverty in a sustainable way starts by learning. Knowledge deficit, not poverty, is why you're considering moving to Togo after all that has been said about trafficking in the media.

While your decision to not end up like your parents is great, please don't go about it the wrong way. Start by exploring the opportunities around you or other parts of Nigeria. If learning a skill is not possible at this time due to finance, have you considered some of the recommendations given so far on the thread??

Chizzy7890:
I am 19 years I come from a very  poor family of 5children I am the fourth  position my dad doesn't do anything only my mum she sell bread by the roadside but it is been 4 months now she is not working because she march on poison and her leg is very big and suallen, I also have a 3 years old child she is my everything I feel sad for not providing for her the way I am supposed to , a friend of mine propose me to follow her to Togo for work but my parents has refused they said its very risky I might end up being killed  there but I don't care because they don't help me with anything , I depend on myself they don't provide anything for me not even a pant , I want to do it for myself and daughter to live a better life I don't want to be poor like my parents they were born in poverty also had children in poverty andI want to break the curse. We are leaving on the 18th of October I am getting worried I hope I have taken the right opportunity for me and my daughter. Your advise is needed please

You are going to Togo to work as a waitress, is it difficult finding such work within your vicinity?. Don't let that your friend take you on a journey of no return!

thorpido:
This friend of yours, has she lived in Togo before?
Be careful so you don't end up a prostitute or worse a sex slave in Togo.

Check her new post. .she definitely went there for olosho..

Why go Togo

Lavisha:
Chaiii..
You must be Igbo..

SMH.

I think she is.. Check her post..she definitely went there for olosho.. Even girls from other tribe does it very well

mac04:

You are going to Togo to work as a waitress, is it difficult finding such work within your vicinity?. Don't let that your friend take you on a journey of no return!

Waitress àbi sextress?

DenreleDave:
■ Check her new post. .she definitely went there for olosho.. Why go Togo

Whatever she went there to do is none of your business or mine since it is her life and choice.

frozen70:


You are not struggling for your daughter because she must survive, whether you are there or not

Going to Togo is like leaving your village to a more vibrant city

But bear in mind that you are going for prostitution

So be prepared

Frozen.. She knows this already and she doesn't have issue with it... She has resigned herself to olosho as the only way to break out of poverty.

Frozen, how are you and yours kids?

Kobojunkie:
Whatever she went there to do is none of your business or mine since it is her life and choice.

I definitely don't have any issue with any lady that does anything with her body... Different people, different stories, different challenges

DenreleDave:


Frozen.. She knows this already and she doesn't have issue with it... She has resigned herself to olosho as the only way to break out of poverty.

Frozen, how are you and yours kids?

Am good dear.
Well if Olosho pays her, let her deal with it

frozen70:


Am good dear.
Well if Olosho pays her, let her deal with it

Check her recent post.. It made front page

She is back now but her parents won't release her daughter for her

DenreleDave:

Check her recent post.. It made front page

She is back now but her parents won't release her daughter for her

Yes I saw that
They must produce that child

Even if she was adopted out with out her consent

She is a rascal and she will go any length for her daughter to come out dead or alive

DenreleDave:
■I definitely don't have any issue with any lady that does anything with her body... Different people, different stories, different challenges

Let's also let people tell their own stories, not spin our own delusions as if their reality.

Kobojunkie:
Let's also let people tell their own stories, not spin our own delusions as if their reality.

Ok... Duly noted.. Kobo