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Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by SanExpress: 11:22am On Oct 22, 2021 |
UncleKoboko: Gbam. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Blackdisciple(m): 11:23am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Hmmm marriage.. I refused to be scared of it... Over to the elders in the house.... |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by GentlePEACE: 11:24am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Afodot0022 Op your wife has something she is hiding. I got into an argument with my gf(now ex), she keeps boasting that no man has ever slept with her aside me. Till one day, i told her to swear with the Bible, she could not. I pressed on, she refused. It was later she opened up and told me all the number of men she had slept with, even married men. My ears wanted to burst. My advice to you is that you call her and tell her calmly that no matter what she tells you, you will still love her, and if she doesn't open up, her conscience will continue to eat her up. Trust me, she will tell you. You have to be matured about it 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by hansomb: 11:24am On Oct 22, 2021 |
080bjaked:not from that angle. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Bola146(f): 11:24am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Verysmart101: wasted sperm 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by ojasweb(m): 11:25am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Bola146: This is double standard and biased. If you say do unto others as you want. Does that not also apply to the woman who asked someone to swear with the Bible but refused to do the same? If you say trust. Does it not apply to the woman who could not trust the man with his own words? You people are the one asking for equality. Yet, you people always asking for unfair advantage. Would this be your submission if the OP was your son or brother? We should all learn to be fair in passing out our submission. As a married man, one thing i have noticed is that it is much easier for women to report issues to their family, but they hate it when their husband do the same. What do you call such. Ask most women, they always report their husbands to their sisters or mother. But if a man does the same, they will rant. Tueh! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by bentuzene(m): 11:26am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Afodot0022: 1. My Brother, you just played yourself. 2. If you want fire, then let me give you some, there's every tendency that your wife is hiding something. Now whether or not you chose to dig this further is your own problem as a Man. Also Brace for impact if you chose to chase this. 3. I feel you've taken your eyes off your wife for too long if not from your family as well. The onus falls on you to take your place as the Man in the House and fix this! 4. God Be with you! |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Karnice600: 11:26am On Oct 22, 2021 |
It’s okay. I understand you’re a Christian from what I read. Em.., you see I’m afraid I may sound religious to many, but I hope you’ll be among the few who’ll get my points clear. Staying married needs more than your willingness to do so. You need some kinda fortitude beyond your abilities, because there are countless time’s you’ll lose control, lose your mind or run short of ideas. That is why the decision of who to marry, isn’t yours alone to make. You didn’t chose the family you were born into, someone superior did. That is your Creator. That same person needs to help you choose a wife to match your origin and design , so you can call unto Him in times like this, with valid reasons, plus the confidence that He had your back from day one. This alone would help you avoid getting random advice from all angles when you face challenges. I’m simply saying you should make God your foundation first ; It’s obvious you didn’t because you wouldn’t have sworn with the Bible if you did. That move shows how shallow and distant your relationship with God is. Your wife probably declined to swear with the Bible because she understood it’s as ungodly as adultery itself. Don’t treat her like your girlfriend. Treat her like your flesh. She’s your wife. Let it slide. All she need is constant assurance that you still love her. It’s obvious she’s still madly in love with you. She was just scared of uncertainties. Bro, I’ll implore you to draw closer to the God whose Word you trusted enough to swear by. Let Him build your home with solid, unmovable trust. Pray with your wife. Tell her she was right about her decision not to swear with the Bible. Tell her you can all learn to trust God's Word in order to trust yourselves better. Study the Bible together. Pray together. Watch your home flourish beyond control. All the best. N/B: Please do well to Ignore comments here with the word ''simp'', from your kid brothers. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Tmcruise: Lol,,, something like this happened to me. She waited till I said the last word before asking me to stop, that it's not good swearing with God/Bible, knowing well that she's the next to do . Well, I knew she was a real cheat, just that she was so smart with cheating & left no concrete evidence. I now put her kpekus on destruction mode since I knew I can't wife her with such pretentious attitude. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by zedegit: 11:27am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Bola146: Double standards. Women are generally manipulative and I hate that aspect. See how she made you do what she couldn't do. She made you sin knowing fully well that swearing is a sin. Wicked species. Where's Mosdii? 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by udemzyudex(m): 11:27am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Even if I'm innocent, I'll never swear. Will swearing solve the problem? If you're not interested just tell her to pack out, simple. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by juwoonn(m): 11:27am On Oct 22, 2021 |
You get sense today ma Iyaebe: |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 22, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky:Lols you're intelligent 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Staccato001: 11:27am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Danjikanbauchi: Such a damning reality. I am surprised the kind of support some are actually giving her when its obvious her refusal to the Term she created, makes her a suspect already. So much for counsellors you'd say. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Kingsean(m): 11:28am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Afodot0022: your marriage would likely end soon. this is a big sign. you caused it when you started chatting with random girls in a questionable manner. she is not stupid na. if she starts chatting with random guys like that too, would you be happy about it? she might not have slept with any other guy so just calm down first. she is playing mind games with you. she just wants you to feel that as you have girls outside, she also has guys. you need to go and sit her down at night. apologize to her for chatting girls up in a questionable manner. delete those chats in front of her. assure her that no one would take her place no matter what and that she is the only one in ur life. "I'm sorry" in marriage is very important. once you do these, she would reconsider and later open up to you and you'd know what's happening. even if she doesn't accept your apology straight away, give her time and don't disturb her. she'll gradually start missing you and open up. women are very emotional. they act based on emotions and that's why sometimes when you notice they behave cranky, just give them space and they'll go back to factory settings because the more you bug them at that moment, the worse it becomes. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Nobody: 11:30am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Carry your pikin go do DNA test no stress yourself. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Rapture4real(m): 11:31am On Oct 22, 2021 |
It's a dicey situation. No matter the advice we give you here, until she swears your mind will not be settles and the devil can use it against you. If you have a pst, Pst wife or an elder she can respect, I will advise you take the matter to them. That's if you can't swallow her not swearing. Satan can make the thought to hunt you or make you misbehave. This is just to clear your doubts. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by weslay: 11:32am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Commercial lie detector test should be made available in Nigeria just like DNA test. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Tzar(m): 11:32am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Most women are evil. This is similar to what happened in my marriage before I divorced the witch! She accused me of cheating & gave me the Bible we used in our marriage to swear when I told her I had never cheated on her after I proposed marriage to her. After a few minutes of pondering on what she made me do, I decided to ask her to also swear that she had never cheated on me in our marriage, ALAS! the b*tch couldn’t! She claimed she couldn’t swear with the Bible & I was the one that didn’t know what I was doing when I swore! I learnt a bitter lesson about that gender that day. I never fall for their manipulation therafter… NEVER! 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Kajaard: 11:34am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Mom007: Please be quiet. I dislike women who support their gender blindly. You know in your mind that she is cheating and yet sputtering this rubbish from your mouth. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by DeipTruth(f): 11:36am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Afodot0022: Reading this made me give up on you. Mr. If you life buy petrol and light your home on fire. There are certain things you let slide. Imagine if you saw your wife chatting with other men and doing silly things online. Whether you have had physical sex or not does not matter. So many of you do sex chat and video sex. Your wife caught you with proof and you have no proof on her. The wise thing to do is to let it slide what do you mean by the house will not be normal again. That's your decision, in the next few years don't regret your actions and come here to wail. Your children will easily follow thier mum and not you and you'll end up breaking up your family. Be wise and don't let the devil creep into your home. As innocent i might be in a thing, i would never ever swear with anything like anything. Except if am in the court room. Be wise o and make peace in your home. I don talk my own. Am suspected you've already made up your mind on what to do what donuts need us for |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by SweetDipBenny(m): 11:36am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Afodot0022:Base on Okafors law ur wifes ex still fvckin her way better than u. Sorry bro 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Nobody: 11:37am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Rapture4real: You nailed it well. That man would likely start cheating unless the wife clears his doubt. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by DeipTruth(f): 11:38am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Tzar: You sound like a child, like a fxxlish child in an adult body. Just grow up and live your life. The person you divorced has moved on. Learn to move on too and stop allowing bitterness to hold you hostage. Forgive yourself and forgive the mistakes of the past. You'll be fine I promise you. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by rriiccaarrddoo(m): 11:39am On Oct 22, 2021 |
You as the head of the house don't need to swear before ur wife will believe u. Note, before she came up with that idea, she new or saw ur chat with ladies. Even if u are not sleeping with them, but u make her believe that u are cheating with ur attitude or conversation with ladies. Even if u are cheating, u don't need to swear with Bible to prove urself. As a man, learn how to stand by ur words. As for ur wife not to swear after making u to swear with the Bible show u are a gradually making her to be the head of the house which is not good. I will advise u just forget about this whole issue and never ever make a mistake of allowing ur wife to make or impose something for u. U should always let ur yes be yes. U don't need to suspect ur wife so long she did not give u any reason for u to suspect her. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Nobody: 11:40am On Oct 22, 2021 |
phemy36: Story, Soon you'll come on here to lament how someone else Is Chopping your sane and decent home wife RAW. Dey there make Owu dey wear you.... |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by yahmohy27: 11:41am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Biglittlelois:Yes ,you are right sir |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Imustnottalk: 11:41am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Afodot0022:if your wife can force you to swear to prove your innocence you must also force her to prove her own before peace can reign forget what others are saying that you should let the the matter go.women always believed they are smarter than men whereas they are not .sir you must firstly do DNA to those kids then you can know the next step this is your wife not your girlfriend you do everything to prove her innocent 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by ojasweb(m): 11:42am On Oct 22, 2021 |
DeipTruth: You sounds more childish than the person you quoted. Are you the wife? 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by Godfullsam(m): 11:43am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Your wife is definitely cheating on you. She probably started cheating on you the moment she started calling you a cheat. When women do something wrong, they end up a cussing their spouse of the same wrong doings just to console themselves. She has been cheating on you (as a revenge), because she felt you have been cheating on her. That is the reason why she did not swear. Naturally, women would swear with anything just to prove their innocence. Her failure to swear means there is something she is hiding. |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by sweetMichael(m): 11:44am On Oct 22, 2021 |
Pride is the Devil... getting hood in ur family..be a man and let it go���go with these ����� |
Re: My Wife Refused To Swear That She Does Not Cheat by sweetMichael(m): 11:46am On Oct 22, 2021 |
yahmohy27:pride is the devil..let it go |
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