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| What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by duyox2004: 3:05am On Oct 24, 2021 |
I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids. I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating. I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! �� When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you. Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. � I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. � Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! �� 493 Likes 39 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Kobojunkie: 3:08am On Oct 24, 2021 |
duyox2004:So what do you intend to do now?  173 Likes 11 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Lawlab249: 3:13am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Somebody's son go love you one day, believe. While at it, you may want to contact me for EFCC SCUML Cert, CAC Company, NGO, Business Name, Foundation, call/Whatsapp 09127 724742 10 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Nobody: 3:17am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Regrets! You will be alone! Trust me, it ends in regrets You just be on social media forming artificial happiness 245 Likes 13 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Ow0eg0kudi: 3:21am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Hmmmm @duyox2004 You asked a question and answered it yourself. You are old (though not too old) and you're already feeling like this, so just imagine what you'll be like in 10/20/30 years from now. Perspectives: some give advice based on evil intent, some based on their personal circumstances, and some will give you advice that thy feel will be the best for you BUT the ultimate decision is ALWAYS yours to make. Àmọ̀ràn: You can choose to marry before this year runs out because there are men waiting to marry your type - full yankee babe spec with better fonee - and will worship at your nether altar for the rest of their lives BUT are you willing and ready to marry such? The ball is in someone's court... A kú ojúmọ́...ẹ dẹ̀ kú ìsinmi, ẹ̀mí a ṣe ọ̀pọ rẹ̀ 356 Likes 18 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Hezzyluv: 3:31am On Oct 24, 2021 |
. Feminist load...... 64 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by izzou(m): 4:31am On Oct 24, 2021 |
You are the first lady I'm seeing that's blaming everyone around her for her predicament, except herself. 460 Likes 21 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Empiree: 4:35am On Oct 24, 2021 |
And you are not even sure if you can get pregnant. It is tough at your age especially being a woman. I think men tend to go for younger ladies, save few. You will be single forever if care is not taken. Some men I don't blame them due to disappointments they've gone through. They be like "let me just live my life to the fullest". 82 Likes 10 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Anyahuruagu: 5:24am On Oct 24, 2021 |
I actually discussed this with my folks the other time. The single lifestyle of our generation affects the female gender more than the male gender. When you age you will understand that the most important aspect of marriage is actually companionship, sex is while you are younger but as you age. You need a confidant, a partner no matter how hard it is you need someone. To our single women out there, please use the opportunity now. I have met plenty aged single women, i must confess that 85% of them aren't happy with their life. 493 Likes 26 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Kobojunkie: 5:34am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Anyahuruagu:How can they be happy when they were raised by parents like yours to believe they need to have a man in their lives to complete them in some way? Jesus Christ taught us that God Almighty made created some - male and female alike - Eunuchs from birth, some become Eunuchs in life and others chose to become Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God - Matthew 19 vs 5 - 15 Sadly, some of those who were created Eunuchs are indoctrinated by ignorant parents into believing they are meant to marry and reproduce, setting their life into confusion from their very beginning. It is not mandatory to marry or have companions. This choice ought to be left to individuals to make on their own and in their own time. God made marital companionship a choice.... no one needs it to be happy,not even in old age. Those who don't have it can still be happy if they desire to be. And those who have it and are not happy can also choose to be happy regardless. 79 Likes 18 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by chiommy123(f): 5:36am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Just lower your 'standard expectations' a little bit while still being careful. God will help us 70 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by icecool12(m): 7:22am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Standards, parents expectations. There’s nothing wrong in being a single mother, so I’d suggest it. I know an aunt who never got married. When she hit 4th floor, my grandma advised her to have one or two children but she refused. Today she’s about 76, lonely, ashamed, miserable and hardly visits home. So please, have a child or two. 252 Likes 17 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by AntiChristian: 8:30am On Oct 24, 2021 |
It doesn't matter whether you get married or not. The ball is in your court. When you die, the government of cos won't let you stink! And of cos someone will take over all you've earned. Life goes on. Your geneology just got truncated! Make hay while the shines! But you made life while you lose viable eggs! You'll now waste your earnings on assisted reproductive technology. 56 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Kemight15: 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Really complicated I have an older cousin whose then fiancee cheated on, the lady was hell bent on ending the relationship, the guy apologize but my cousin was having none of that All of a sudden, the guy met with my parents and the ladies parents, they intervened and advise my cousin to proceed with the marriage v   my younger self was furious how can they not support ending things with a cheaterThen an elderly family woman told me something that forever shaped my view of things, she said and I quote " even the so called good ones, majority of them still cheat " if you judge male by cheating alone you will hate them all, including your brothers, nephews and I'll just exclude your father out of respect, haa big madam that's is too much, that's what my mum calls words that can scatter house infact this one can scatter the whole wide world, but this woman insist she said it and will say it again and againBack to my cousin and her fiancee, they got married and as far as I know things have been going on very well between them, my aunt seems generally happy and accomplished and they've been leaving their life and moving on with their kids, the fiance turn husband is very caring to both wife and kid, doesn't smoke and not a troublesome flair Up till now me myself I'm still confused, since then I don't usually trust popular/general opinion anymore but will rather look each and individual case And what one person did and it went well another may try it and it will go bad and vice versa 243 Likes 16 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by pocohantas(f): 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
izzou: Isn’t that the standard? Blame everyone but yourself? That is why I will continue to commend Linda Ikeji for having that boy. She did what a right thinking woman should do. Not taking postinor 2 at 38. If you want a child and you can cater for that child, by all means have that child. Even small girls of 21 are having their babies. Then a grown financially independent woman in her late 30s is somewhere asking “hope you didn’t cum inside”. People must talk. When they are done talking, they will move on. With time they’ll appreciate the decision you took years ago. HIGHESTPOPORI: I am 43. Not me. HIGHESTPOPORI: No need for that. Menopause came early. 138 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by ShadowWalker00(m): 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
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| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by jericco1(m): 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Well you are well learned and the fact that you're 41 or almost without a kid or partner sends the wrong message. Which do you want more, a kid or a husband? Since the main points is your eggs running low. There are solutions though 32 Likes |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by MyExpression(m): 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
A companion doesn't complete anyone. If you are not completely comfortable in yourself, you don't have business with companionship. It would be very travail to place your completeness in the hands of a frail mortal. However, the OP is 41 and well read. She knows what suits her personality. She wouldn't be lamenting bout childbearing if it is not her personal desire to get a child. She's just lamenting the process that had her at a disadvantage. Marriage is beyond just beauty, intelligence, or character. You have to have a combination of all of these in various degrees. 37 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Conlmaw: 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
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| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Nobody: 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
duyox2004:Put up your profile for MARRIAGE. I'm serious. Your TRIBE may matter.. Mind you, hope you have got something doing because I don't match LEECHES. I have some Men in California for you. IF Houston is not Favourable try California. 68 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by abobote: 9:14am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Why complaining, when you can easily get a sperm donor and hold one baby first 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by OLDESTWARRIBOY: 9:15am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Those Men throwing parties. Talk to one of 'em so they can give you a kid. Are you not In Yankee...you might not even do the do, Artificial insemination. But if you want to do, no problem Too much sense no go kill me!! 40 Likes 2 Shares
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| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by potent5(m): 9:15am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Ow0eg0kudi:Op, you better listen to this man/woman. For your own good. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Handsum64: 9:15am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Borrow yourself brain like Linda Ikeji 28 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by mysticgal(f): 9:16am On Oct 24, 2021 |
It’s so sad that a lot of people are going to fall into this thread advising and trolling women in a demeaning way, due to your story. It’s pathetic you are doing Mr Peter Ade…., Most likely from ifetedo, oyo state or ekiti state, whichever of this profile is banked on the internet. I mean with your most likely failed blogging career….. Going through your profile, you are man assuming to be a woman in order to stir the workings of all these sore woman haters, churning out vile and ugly comments. First off, you are not a woman, you are male COWard, a coward at that with no balls. 2. if you are a woman and you are single at over 30, own that shitt, Life continues, adopt kids. They are humans, find love in your place of religion, supermarket, dating sites and live the life out of your life. You are pathetic op and go find a job or something, trolling even makes you more distasteful *spits* 47 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 9:16am On Oct 24, 2021 |
duyox2004:Pocohantas? 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Tayosteve(m): 9:16am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Bros, you are not running out of eggs. All will be well for you as long as you are not a simp Have a stable income and get a nice girl. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by osuofia2(m): 9:16am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Red pillers how far. See food 8 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by OBIGS(m): 9:16am On Oct 24, 2021 |
I really feel your pain. You grew up to be a very obedient girl and its good, Just that the right man did not come for you. Hey guess what, it's not too late. I trust your not looking bad and you still have some eggs. 15 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by revived: 9:16am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Ohk Dm Me I Go Fertilize You With Two And I Will Take Responsibility For Them But No Marriage If Agreed Dm 23 Likes 4 Shares |
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