KimberlyWest:
Op, talk to your wife. Let her know that your mother put so much effort, resources and time into making you the man you are today. Not forgetting the daily prayers. Same way you care about her is the same way you care about your mother.

Try to find out why she's always sad when you send money to your mother. Does she have silent 'beef' with your mother? Maybe your mother wasn't 100% in support of the marriage or has said something that annoyed her. If she opens up, beg her to forgive and forget. If she doesn't, tell her you also love your mother and cannot abandon her simply because you're married.

Number 2 option: buy her something. When she's in jolly good mood, make the transfer. She 'might' not get angry.

Alternatively, you can hide this from her. Tell her that your salary was slashed by so and so percentage, then remove that percentage every month for your mother. (I don't know how long you'll do this, seeing that she's a wife and not a girlfriend. And you have to be transparent in your marriage . Again, if she's really smart, she will know what's up, which might become a bigger problem.)

Remember, it's your home and your wife and you understand her better.

Also, don't forget that some people who will give you advice today (like the one who's saying a GF cannot open his fridge without his consent) are kids who just finished WAEC and have access to smartphones. Take everything anyone says here with a pinch of salt.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

TheOnlyUyai:

You are toxic.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

tyup:


No I refuse to be a Simp, you guys excesses needs to be checked thoroughly

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

KimberlyWest:
Op, talk to your wife. Let her know that your mother put so much effort, resources and time into making you the man you are today. Not forgetting the daily prayers. Same way you care about her is the same way you care about your mother.

Try to find out why she's always sad when you send money to your mother. Does she have silent 'beef' with your mother? Maybe your mother wasn't 100% in support of the marriage or has said something that annoyed her. If she opens up, beg her to forgive and forget. If she doesn't, tell her you also love your mother and cannot abandon her simply because you're married.

Number 2 option: buy her something. When she's in jolly good mood, make the transfer. She 'might' not get angry.

Alternatively, you can hide this from her. Tell her that your salary was slashed by so and so percentage, then remove that percentage every month for your mother. (I don't know how long you'll do this, seeing that she's a wife and not a girlfriend. And you have to be transparent in your marriage . Again, if she's really smart, she will know what's up, which might become a bigger problem.)

Remember, it's your home and your wife and you understand her better.

Also, don't forget that some people who will give you advice today (like the one who's saying a GF cannot open his fridge without his consent) are kids who just finished WAEC and have access to smartphones. Take everything anyone says here with a pinch of salt.

tyup:


No, I refuse to be a Simp, you guys excesses need to be checked thoroughly

descarado:

You are indeed very superstitious
Seriously


As regards the poster's topic, read some of his posts, then decide if you will take him serious.

tyup:
Is she also telling/showing you her monthly expenses and how she forward money to her folks to or ur just being a fool here?? cuz I can't seem to understand when it becomes ur duty to send her parent money every month

The way so called married come on here and tell us their story like 10yr old kids get as e dey irritate my sex organ

Lollittaa:

Yada Yada. So by being toxic, you're an alpha huh? Berating your wife for shouting on your sister, whether or not your sister instigated the argument?
Thank God I'm not getting married

officialmario:


The issue is that I always give her money to send to her mum too, she is loyal to me, although she is not working right now, but she still save little that I give her, I can't really say if she has been sending money to her mom secretly.

officialmario:


The issue is that I always give her money to send to her mum too, she is loyal to me, although she is not working right now, but she still save little that I give her, I can't really say if she has been sending money to her mom secretly.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

tyup:


No I refuse to be a Simp, you guys excesses needs to be checked thoroughly

JustforMen:
The way to manage the situation (wisdom from my beloved father of blessed memory - may God continue to grant him eternal rest and send mercy and forgiveness to his grave - God bless your memory in our hearts, sir!):
Have your wife send gifts and money to YOUR own family because that will endear her to them.
And you send gifts and money to HER own family as that will also endear them to you.
it will also solve the problem of how much is sent to whose family and the usual selfishness that come from foolish women stopping you from helping your family members.
You give her money to send to your own family and You do the sending of money to her own family... that way everyone knows what is going on and witch will not see food devour.
women worry sha...

garriAndsugar:
Don't hide anything important.. but don't disclose everything sha..

So if you buy boxers and singlet you will now go and tell her too??

She's just naturally greedy.. you need to understand your wife and follow her the way she is to avoid getting issues with her..

tyup:


Sadly such mistakes happen when we men fail to make our GF or spouse know their place and boundaries. who on Earth is that girl that would question how my money is spent?? if i've paid bride price, I got no business anymore sending that family money. how dare my GF open my fridge without my consent?? or spouse shouting on my junior sis either she's right or wrong??

officialmario:


Something about her is that, if I buy a boxer I have to buy her a pant too, just to make it perfect, if I don't buy her own, it's going to be war.

officialmario:


She will know through the already prepared budget.

officialmario:


She will still know even if I don't tell her

officialmario:


She will still know even if I don't tell her

CSTR2:

Wickedness is a condition of the heart.

It's the holy spirit that can change it.

All this one you have written will not change a wicked and selfish wife.

She does not want to give.

garriAndsugar:
Don't hide anything important.. but don't disclose everything sha..

So if you buy boxers and singlet you will now go and tell her too??

She's just naturally greedy.. you need to understand your wife and follow her the way she is to avoid getting issues with her..

Timekeeper:
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Sorry you don't have any common sense with this stupid comment....

U didn't even address the issue.. [/s]