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I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 5:17pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
I am not a "cheat" etc. I believe everything is a negotiated agreement. I dont want to be locked down to only one woman my whole life. I plan on telling the prospective wife that im going to get married to her but that I am still free (this doesnt mean sleeping around oh); it just means im free to talk to anyone else I see and like.... 1. Why do women demand exclusivity from men? 2. What if she agrees I will be married to her but still free? I heard traditional marriage does not tie a man down to only one woman - can i only do traditional marriage? 3. What is the benefit of exclusivity to a man? Rational thinkers only! Religious nut jobs please stay out. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Bola146(f): 5:19pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by endsarrrs(f): 5:19pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Youngwiz71(m): 5:21pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
what about if she wants freedom as well, I mean the same condition to apply to her as well. I hope you'll feel okay with that? 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Nobody: 5:23pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Ehnnnn what you are asking for is not out of place in African settings but it comes with a price,you must be very rich(billionaire),you must have properties everywhere that'll reach everyone (including) your concubines when you die,when you are sick be free to invite your concubines to come take care of you as well as we will be doing shifting in taking good care of you,as father Abraham that you aspire to be please never demand DNA for any of your kids because a father is not only a father to the seeds of his groins,he's a father to all.With all these you are good to go. 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 5:24pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Youngwiz71: Yes I am completely fine with it.... but an agreement will be signed that no party shall transmit an STD to the other party in case she decides to have sex with someone else..... everyone uses protection. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 5:26pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Iyaebe: this is good news! Because in truth, exclusivity is unnatural to me.... well i dont think I have to be a billionnaire but I think I have to be at least middle class. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Nobody: 5:31pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru:Middle class? no oooo it can't work that way else something will happen ooo,your wife can not be reasoning with you while your prick will be reasoning other women,its unfair. Its either you are billionaire or you dead those thoughts else you'll carry penis go market and e no go work. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 5:34pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Iyaebe: il be rich then... so I can afford them.... 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Odoogu(m): 5:36pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Bro, no one go hold you to ransome this includes your reasonable wife if you talk ( if na just talk) to anyone wey you like other than her. Wetin dey needed na commitment... show commitment to her wellbeing, things important to her etc, that exclusivity claim na just subtle slavery. So like wise your wife sef go fit follow anyone we she like talk(if na just talk) sef, nothing wrong. But e sure me say Sooner, one of una go weep |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Nobody: 5:38pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru:OK then but you'll have to show a sample of your will because it has to be assured that your wife's sacrifice and endurance weren't in vain. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Polynek(m): 5:38pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Do u mean all the married people are freedom restricted? |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Kobojunkie: 5:41pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru:If a polygamous situation is what you want, then you should endeavor to engage only those women who are open to such a marital setting, simple! If what you seek is instead an open marriage, then find for yourself a woman who agrees with the idea .... case closed. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 5:42pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Odoogu: no be just talk na other things excluding sekks fit follow na..... |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by budaatum: 5:54pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Same reason you'd demand exclusivity from your woman, I suppose. But if you don't mind her doing what you do, I'm sure there's a woman out there for you. Just be mindful of what you both might bring home to share with one another, like a child that's not your's and Hiv/Aids. 1 Like
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Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Odoogu(m): 5:56pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Excluding sekks, like extramarital affairs right? It's no bad now. The bigger work is on you bro. Other than the quality of a good woman from her, you need to let her know that You( husband) can be trusted. cos, Some of those *talking* situations can sometimes be confusing ( shey you understand). |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Ishilove: 5:56pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Hian. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by chumaZ(m): 6:33pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
No need to even get married bro instead have baby mamas, it pays off |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 6:38pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
chumaZ: I've been hearing this baby mama of a thing for a while now but not clear exactly what it means...I heard it's when you agree with a woman to just bear you children and then she leaves afterwards...is that what a baby mama means? Will you still be seeing her after the child birth? |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by chumaZ(m): 6:45pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Depends on your arrangement, you can even get a surrogate mother and pays her off after delivery.. surrogate mother is way better but kind of expensive. It cost my friend who did 2 million naira. Mind you the mother will never come back because both signed an agreement |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 6:50pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
chumaZ: Haba so the child will now grow up without a mum and without breast milk...not good na.... |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by chumaZ(m): 6:51pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Lol, they're many children who grew up without breastfeeding and they are doing amazingly well |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Blessing0305(f): 7:45pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
Iyaebe:nice report 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 8:37pm On Nov 04, 2021 |
chumaZ: But the motherly care na. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by budaatum: 2:05am On Nov 05, 2021 |
chumaZ: While I agree, some most definitely would have benefited from breast and motherly care. https://www.nairaland.com/6833717/why-boys-suddenly-not-doing/1#107327824 |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Jeon(f): 7:50am On Nov 05, 2021 |
BigBashiru: If you can't commit, don't get put urself into marriage. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Nobody: 10:03am On Nov 05, 2021 |
Then you don't go into marriage. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by Ushman333: 2:37pm On Nov 05, 2021 |
If you are rich, you will have your way with women. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by bepositive11: 9:42pm On Nov 05, 2021 |
BigBashiru: Monogamy is for people who want and are capable of forming a deep emotional connection. It for some people not for everyone It's good that you're honest with yourself and that you plan on being honest with your wife. Just find a woman who's on the same page with you but don't expect genuine love because love comes with being possessive. No woman who truly loves you can stand seeing you with other women. It'll tear her apart |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 9:53pm On Nov 05, 2021 |
bepositive11: A woman's love to a large extent is dependent on what she's benefitting from you... |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by bepositive11: 9:57pm On Nov 05, 2021 |
BigBashiru: That's not love If she only treats you well when she can get something from you, it's not love. She's just using you and manipulating you |
Re: I Want To Get Married But I Dont Want Only My Future Wife by BigBashiru: 10:01pm On Nov 05, 2021 |
bepositive11: We are in the animal kingdom. True love only comes from God and can't come from a woman unless divinely inspired. Trust me on this... |
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