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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Tzar(m): 6:38am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Madam, you are an arrogant, lazy and careless woman. You derserve what you got! 1. Just thank God it is not your husband that is responsible for the pregnancy. You didn't pay attention to your home. Instead you needed a nanny who was smart enough to see a great opportunity. 2. Is she not a human being? Does being a nanny initially make her undeserving of a better life? 3. You better call her aunty o. Regardless of her previous status, she is now your senior in that family! As your husband's step mum, you must give her the respect you give your father-in-law! 4. Don't forget that her husband is the owner of the house you live, so she can kick your arrogant as* out of the house. I am sure it is the way you treated her as your nanny that is haunting you now. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Odingo1: 6:38am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Bolu45:Scammers and hackers, your days are numbered. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by ignis: 6:38am On Nov 08, 2021 |
It's the Lords doing |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Babastrong(m): 6:38am On Nov 08, 2021 |
[quote author=Biglittlelois post=107401145][s][/s] How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him[i will be happy under the same conditions in the op's case. 1. If it is not a rape case. 2. My father has died for long, making her lonely. 3. If the driver is an elderly man. Remember in op case, the woman is younger than the father-in-law. 4. If my mother willingly do it and knows it brings happiness to her. if it happens under this conditions. We are going to celebrate it in jamboree.] |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by rolams(m): 6:38am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: This case is different biko! Besides, are drivers not humans? |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Oludara202: 6:38am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Papa and his wife can now stay together. Your husband should make an arrangement for a new home . 1 Like |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Forgodsgrace: 6:39am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: Read well before you jump to conclusion.He is her father in law and his son also supported his father”s action. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by MorningStar233: 6:40am On Nov 08, 2021 |
neonly:Haba, at this point you are the one sounding like a child of hate o 1 Like |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by DMCY: 6:40am On Nov 08, 2021 |
MrPresent:Firstly, are you married to the riches or your husband? If you’re married to your husband then I’ll strongly advice you to leave the young madam in question alone and live your life!!? Like an adage says, the sky is big enough for all birds to fly without having issues with each other. Secondly, I think you would have put up a fight if the lonely old man did the same thing to another woman and not your nanny, wanna know why? Because most women would do so too. Women generally don’t like each other and see each other as competitors. Lastly, live your life, love your kids and husband and you won’t have to deal with spiritual stuffs from the incoming madam. With all that said, I believe a word is enough for the wise!!! Many will come at me because of my choice of words but I’ll speak in plain truth |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by SRAROFDAVID: 6:41am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Well its a Yoruba tradition, but that's not how it is in Igbo culture, you are a madam to other wive's if you were married to the family first, it doesn't matter the status of the husband of the new wife |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by hope4nigeria(m): 6:41am On Nov 08, 2021 |
MrPresent:why are you angry when God uplifted your nanny, is she not woman like you? If you refused to rejoice with her, you will just become a single mother. You be witch? |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by chextlife(m): 6:42am On Nov 08, 2021 |
All of you should think twice before talking. 1. The maid is too secretive 2. The father in-law is too secretive 3. Sleeping with your son's maid is an invasion of privacy. 4. The father in-law feels he can do and undo 5. The son/husband was just too careful of everything. 6. The woman is just acting that surprise script. 7. Feel the heat of the woman. Thinks about it more. I just feel the maid made use of the opportunity but she would have been transparent enough. What will be will be. All of you try sha for responding quickly....but all are too judgemental. Only one reason. Let's stop this desperate judgement.....�� 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Odingo1: 6:42am On Nov 08, 2021 |
The woman brought the coal of fire on his head, how can a woman bring a 32 year old woman as a maid, she can even sleep with the husband. The woman is lazy and didn’t use his sense well. Why not take care of your family by yourself or bring a small girl. The problem of most women is that they are lazy and don’t want to do any work work at home as a married woman. They want a matured nanny that will do all the work in the house. Selfishness and pride, he got served because of her laziness. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by marcopollo(m): 6:42am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Foundational mistake is, why employ such a nanny that's not a blood relative of your husband? You got a mature one for that matter. Why? Right now there's little to nothing you can do about the situation as the house belongs to your father in-law. Your husband too is not handling the matter well to protect you. Probably his hands are tied. This is a lesson to women to build their homes together with the man. Anyways, there are two options: it's either you also resign to what hand fate played you or you seek for divorce. 1 Like |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by mrlarry: 6:42am On Nov 08, 2021 |
MrPresent: My piece of advice, it's good you are a Yoruba woman, The adage says ' bi Ase bi eru la bi omo' It's very certain that you didn't come from wealthy home. Your luck was that you married into that family. Staying in the Duplex built by your father in law says it all. If you allow pride and jealous ruin your marriage you are OYO. Shouldn't the lady be happy it was predestined that's how her narrative would be change in life. Change your attitude about her. She is now a bona-fide member of the family and your step mother in law. Tutor your children to treat her very special. If you are not ready to take this advice, the best option for you is to quit the marriage over what is not tenable. As you are happy in your marriage enjoying the wealth built by your father in law, Let the new 'MADAM' your step mother inlaw enjoys her husband. Her unborn children has the same stake and rights to her husband wealth. Accept your fate. Peradventure this type of luck happens to your sibling.Your mom would have been the happiest mother in law now. Bye |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Truvelisback(m): 6:43am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Allow them to marry. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Babastrong(m): 6:43am On Nov 08, 2021 |
[quote author=Biglittlelois post=107401646] A logical response, and @bolded, I'm glad you see my point that selfish traits has nothing to do with a particular gender but humans generally, no man or woman will be happy seeing his father getting married to their maid, no man or woman will be happy seeing his/her mother get pregnant and marry their driver, All these idiots coming online, opening their dirty mouth/typing with their hands, making it seem as if being unconformable or going against what is not the norm is a woman thing of hating each other, are fools I have to say, fools too stupid and ignorant to accept reality to know that it is okay to hate what you hate.[so you want us to go and kill her father-in-law or to be begging your anty not to commit suicide. Ori yhin ti yhi.] |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Godbless3(m): 6:43am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Nothing to advice here... I thought the maid was having affair with her husband or marrying her husband not knowing its her father inlaw. Now the man has another wife and they can move out of her husband house. Cook up story sha, if the man was that rich and lost her wife for 12years and he is 65yr, why didn't him remarry since? But wait o, that madam be dey Bleep her father inlaw o o, if not, why saying over her deadbody when the said man ain't her father or husband? Old man dickson sweet die. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Daboomb: 6:43am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: Its her Life, her vagina and her problem. I might feel unhappy initially, l am human but then, as long as my Driver and my Mother can provide for their own space and let me also control my own space, the Sky is big enough for all Birds to fly. But the story is a bit different from your analogy. In this case, the father of her husband has lost his wife, so he has a right to re-marry and be happy (not that he is cheating on anyone). Secondly, Women generally need to understand that it is their responsibility to their Home and Husband, that makes them a Wife, not Sex as most Women think. If you shirk you responsibility to your Husband and Home and allow a Nanny to do it, the affection of the beneficiaries, including your Children, will shift to the Nanny who provides those Services and before long, you will be wailing "Over my dead body". Nnaa, die naa, Life will continue. This is the reality of Life Finally, Nannies, HouseMaids, House Boys, Drivers, Cleaners, Cooks, etc are all Humanbeings too though, of lower Social Standing but if by your own actions or in-actions, you elevate them above their Social Standing, they can and will compete with you or even out-compete you with your Spouse. As a Husband, l wont let my Driver or even my "best Friend" dolt over my Wife, in the name of "helping Mummy" or do certain things a Husband should do to his Wife, because l know the long term implications. E get as e be. BTW: Wife's Father in-law and his new wife should not live together with his son and wife. Father in-law is no longer lonely, his Son should go and buy another House and live with his "over my dead body" wife. Too much familiarity breeds Contempt. Each Wife shoudl respect the other. 2 Likes |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by specialbobby(m): 6:44am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Na this people tekno sing allow me to enjoy myself for ooo |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Sunsets: 6:45am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Apart from other things, I see inheritance war. MrPresent: 1 Like |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Jhayeahsam01(m): 6:45am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Pls,I don't want to be a useless father I want to make kids and immediate family happy. Pls assist 0049785303 gtb |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Easylifelomo(m): 6:45am On Nov 08, 2021 |
The Lady commit no crime, that next level |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Nobody: 6:45am On Nov 08, 2021 |
Biglittlelois:If the man was her father wont she be happy for him...so Because na his father inlaw now the old man should not be happy. Its clear she is after their money |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Toks2008(m): 6:46am On Nov 08, 2021 |
This reminds me of my very first thread to grace Nairaland front-page six years ago. Titled ''WHEN THE MAID BECOMES THE MADAM'' How time flies. https://www.nairaland.com/2521393/when-maid-becomes-madam In this case the lady is lucky that it was not her husband that the maid took so she should just accept the situation. But wait o... why do ladies always use that stupid word ''stoop so low'' abeg is the nanny not a woman? Infact se is more woman than most arrogant useless so called high class ladies out there who think sophistication is what matters when it comes to settling with a man. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Nobody: 6:47am On Nov 08, 2021 |
cooooooks:Hahahha. From your own ibo-tic book of law. Right? Lol. A beg shift to one side. So, if the man leaves a will behind you think the woman is not the who will be in charge. Do you think it will be the son? And as educated as the said man is, he wont leave a will? Just pray the woman doesnt change his mind. A nanny who is said to be his companion. A friend who relieved him of a deep sorrow. You dont understand that the man had to live with the son so as not to fall into depression. But the woman brought him out. You dont know anything. Your own is first son rubbish thing. Did you read there that they are ibo? Ibos are nasty with the madness that first son inherits all. You are all very nasty in that regard. Very cra.zy culture. Your audacity to even write it is beyond me. You need to have your brain checked. I hate that mentality. If you are based in Lagos, from the wrote up, you can guess the family is yoruba. So, get your crappy and nauseating first son culture out of my mention. Very nas.ty culture. First son my foot. In law, the wife comes first if there is no will. Go and ask any lawyer who understands the law. You think it ibo-tic law that will be used. He has brought up first son issue. Your head dey pain you. Get the crap out my mention. You are the one whose write up is with rubbish noun - conjecture. |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Bouncin(m): 6:47am On Nov 08, 2021 |
You are just a very selfish bitter woman. That family should be mindful of you because with your hate and anger, you can do the unthinkable. God picked you from nothing to greatness. You were happy for yourself but now that God has done same to another woman you are bitter. You better tread with caution that's if you still have some left over sense, else you loose everything, arrogant bitter woman, Spits! |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Yakubue1(m): 6:47am On Nov 08, 2021 |
You are wicked, why not be happy for her. You mean that she will be nanny forever |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by DWJOBScom(m): 6:48am On Nov 08, 2021 |
This situation is not funny at all Strictly for the matured mind and adults It's easy to hail the maid but blame the woman for lack of understanding. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by DrFunmisticGlow: 6:48am On Nov 08, 2021 |
litigator:she is justified to have those feelings. Don't be lying here 2 Likes |
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by danot1030: 6:49am On Nov 08, 2021 |
You will soon lose your marriage for your selfishness and lack of sensitivity. If she came in to the house as a maid and so what? God has destined the lady to be married to a wealthy family and there is no how can you can stop her with your witchcraft, the deal is done and sealed. |
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