This is my first time I'll be bringing an issue like this here
I'll be straight forward. I'm 25 years and I'm dating an 18 year old girl.. her last relationship didn't ended well.. I met her afterwards.. in her last relationship the last meeting with her ex was in the hotel and they had sex and she gave him a bj unknowingly to her she was being recorded by the guy... The guy has being blackmailing her with this threatening he will post it online.. she told me about this but lied that it's only bj she gave him not sex.. now the guy has sent the video to his friends in the hood.. the guy sister managed to see the video and told my girl about it and also saying the video has cast in their area... Now my girl told me all this yesterday night cuz she heard about it last week.. now she's begging me not to leave her and all that.. truth be told she's supportive and good when I met her and never regret knowing her but this is happening now.. I don't know what to do maybe to end the relationship and leave her or just continue with her and help her in this moment.. all advices and views are welcomed.. what can I do

Her parents failed her,imagine going through such dirty torture at her age.

Iyaebe:
Her parents failed her,imagine going through such dirty torture at her age.

What do you think I can do sir/ma

It's not what you can do? she is responsible for her actions too.

Abeg no blame these girls jarre,

When their role model are the likes of tiwa savage and co.com.

Oh no....
At that age...them don dey carry am go hotel...

A girl of 18 years old don dey give bj? . What a world we now live in . I wonder why she hasn't been signed by Xvideos yet

Well,op, there's nothing you can do about it.......No matter how much and how hard you may try to be of help to her,you must first of all put it at the back of your mind that--"You can't unblow the job that she has already blown"

As for that her ex,I think he's still immature . But I don't think any guy who's sensible and street-wise would do such thing......He should watch his back because if that your Banny na the rugged type,she fit no mind to go to any extent just to get the idiot down

Wahala be like motor way no get brake
Imagine, 18 years old girl don dey give bj for hotel room. Okay ooo
I don finish talk

This is really hard, but I'll implore you to talk to the guy, that's the only way towards damage limitation, but dude be childish Sha.

OP you be mumu

Ask me why.

If there was no video will you still want to be with her? If yes, then there’s no need to leave. Moreover if you really care about her then you wouldn’t want to break up cos that will break her also.

That being said, try to watch the video and hold her to the standard of whatever styles she was giving the guy. Don’t accept less.

I'm still finding it hard to believe this story.

18

Does she have parent

Foodqueen:
18

Does she have parent

Yes she does but they're not aware of it

Truvelisback:
I'm still finding it hard to believe this story.

Believe me it's real

Hed0nist:
If there was no video will you still want to be with her? If yes, then there’s no need to leave. Moreover if you really care about her then you wouldn’t want to break up cos that will break her also.

That being said, try to watch the video and hold her to the standard of whatever styles she was giving the guy. Don’t accept less.

Thank you for this

Sonnobax15:

A girl of 18 years old don dey give bj? . What a world we now live in . I wonder why she hasn't been signed by Xvideos yet

Well,op, there's nothing you can do about it.......No matter how much and how hard you may try to be of help to her,you must first of all put it at the back of your mind that--"You can't unblow the job that she has already blown"

As for that her ex,I think he's still an immature . But I don't think any guy who's sensible and street-wise would do such thing......He should watch his back because if that your Banny na the rugged type,she fit no mind to go to any extent just to get the idiot down

Thanks so much , I no know guys like that still dey for this life and for the girl the blame is on her totally

For her to lie that its only bj she gave, there is more to it than meets d eye. i suggest u watch d vid, e fit be say na she dey nack d nigga akpako and jst trying to save face.
Anyway, if u can proudly stand with her in d hood, no qualms, bt if not, just let some else paddle this canoe.

Things are really happening.

Holly Gram real matters. WTF MAN

Op don't be a foo.l report it to police station and she will be fine with the results because the guy will pay heavily for his action

Two things are involved.

1. It's either he recorded it without her consent or 2. She knew she was being recorded.

If it happened without her consent then she should go to the police, of she is reluctant, it's either she still cares about the guy or she agreed to the recording.

Either way if I were you I'll japa, reputation is everything, imagine your reputation in the streets when guys start to dey laff you say your babe na osho free, even other girls go even dey avoid you as fuckup man wey love done blind.

And if you want to somehow prove to her that you got her back in this trying times, just know women are not built to appreciate this kind of gesture of solidarity, in the back of their mind they'll conclude that you are weak and she is the best that you can do that's why you don't have the balls to leave.

If you stay she'll respect you less, and I no go lie you, she fit still go sleep with that guy again....

czarr:
Two things are involved.

1. It's either he recorded it without her consent or 2. She knew she was being recorded.

If it happened without her consent then she should go to the police, of she is reluctant, it's either she still cares about the guy or she agreed to the recording.

Either way if I were you I'll japa, reputation is everything, imagine your reputation in the streets when guys start to dey laff you say your babe na osho free, even other girls go even dey avoid you as fuckup man wey love done blind.

And if you want to somehow prove to her that you got her back in this trying times, just know women are not built to appreciate this kind of gesture of solidarity, in the back of their mind they'll conclude that you are weak and she is the best that you can do that's why you don't have the balls to leave.

If you stay she'll respect you less, and I no go lie you, she fit still go sleep with that guy again....

Hmm deep ..

Ayoayoayo:
This is my first time I'll be bringing an issue like this here
I'll be straight forward. I'm 25 years and I'm dating an 18 year old girl.. her last relationship didn't ended well.. I met her afterwards.. in her last relationship the last meeting with her ex was in the hotel and they had sex and she gave him a bj unknowingly to her she was being recorded by the guy... The guy has being blackmailing her with this threatening he will post it online.. she told me about this but lied that it's only bj she gave him not sex.. now the guy has sent the video to his friends in the hood.. the guy sister managed to see the video and told my girl about it and also saying the video has cast in their area... Now my girl told me all this yesterday night cuz she heard about it last week.. now she's begging me not to leave her and all that.. truth be told she's supportive and good when I met her and never regret knowing her but this is happening now.. I don't know what to do maybe to end the relationship and leave her or just continue with her and help her in this moment.. all advices and views are welcomed.. what can I do

Continue with her. What have you got to lose? At least, all that happened before you guys started dating. She needs you now more than ever so you have to try and be there for her. More consolation, less criticism. Help her heal from the trauma, hopefully she has learnt her lesson. But understand that I didn't say you should fall deeper in love or something o, just play it cool and use your head. That's what real nighas do.

PS. Did you watch the video?

waywardpikin:


Continue with her. What have you got to lose? At least, all that happened before you guys started dating. She needs you now more than ever so you have to try and be there for her. More consolation, less criticism. Help her heal from the trauma, hopefully she has learnt her lesson. But understand that I didn't say you should fall deeper in love or something o, just play it cool and use your head. That's what real nighas do.

PS. Did you watch the video?

Yes I watched the video already.. she was giving the guy bj while naked

Ayoayoayo:


Yes I watched the video already.. she was giving the guy bj while naked

1. Did they have sex in the video or was it just the BJ?

2. How long was the recording?

3. How intense was the whole thing?

4. How did watching it make you feel?

waywardpikin:


1. Did they have sex in the video or was it just the BJ?

2. How long was the recording?

3. How intense was the whole thing?

4. How did watching it make you feel?

Just bj,lasted a minutes and some seconds, wasn't intense but look like forced and I felt bad.. now she's hopeless and regretful.. been begging me all day crying

Ayoayoayo:



Just bj,lasted a minutes and some seconds, wasn't intense but look like forced and I felt bad.. now she's hopeless and regretful.. been begging me all day crying

Forgive her and continue with the relationship. But don't forgive her too quickly, let her beg you a little more, small. She is in a position where she will want to please you now, use it as leverage and enjoy your time with her. Don't worry too much about tomorrow.

Remember, don't let her off the hook too easily.

Sometimes you can appear lost and deep in thought like say you dey reason the matter, but all na cruise make she dey dey worried once in a while. Also, make sure say you dey collect beta BJ steady. It's part of your benefits.

As it stands now you hold all the aces. Don't mess it up by throwing tantrums like a belligerent child. Use your head. I feel like you have a good thing going and since the lady is very remorseful, I consider it a win-win. My opinion.