Kobojunkie:
Anyone who fears God will know that option 1 is always self-controls and self-discipline. Jesus Christ did it, Moses did it... Ezekiel, Hosea, John the Baptist, Jeremiah etc., they all did it and some lived that way for many decades. So don't just assume a person fears God simply because the person has not chosen what you consider Optlon 2.

It was Paul that supposedly wrote it is better to marry than to burn, but guess what? God teaches us that self-control and self-discipline is His will for us whether married or not.

You are correct bros

But the guy is in pains and the bible recommends that husband and wife shouldnt deny each other, the champions league experience except if it's for a while to give themselves to fasting and prayers ...and they should come again and continue the match.
that the devil shouldn't take advantage of them.

Self discipline is a good suggestions for a single man but for a married man, though a good decision but it's a hard one.

Besides the bible also says the body of the man belongs to the woman and vice versa.

Bagehot:


Dude, accept that you need a side-chic. You cannot think clearly if deprived of sex for too long, and would over time start to slowly lose your self-esteem and unconsciously do stupid things around women. Your wife's biological impulses of having a child have been fulfilled, hence she is no longer so motivated to sleep with you.

I used to be like you before I realized I was subscribing to a stupid western construct propagated by a media pandering to women they can sell stuff to. Get a side babe(s), and know peace.

Leave him. He wants to be chivalrous to a woman who uses sex as a tool for manipulation and bargaining.

What his wife is doing to him is extremely wicked. And she’s doing it because she knows he loves her. And she thinks he loves her much more than she loves him.

It’s quite shameful but not surprising to see men confess that they still engage in transactional sex within their marriage. They pay their wives for sex that both of them will enjoy. They pay her for a boring sex where she lies still like a sex doll, while the man does all the work. Their self esteem is dependent on their wife’s reaction to the gifts and money they use to purchase her body for the night. A big disgusting shame.

Superstriker, if you’re not careful you will join this league of married men whose happiness is tied to how much they can pay for sex in their own homes.

This kind of wicked character will put strains on the love in any home. As a Christian, your wife’s body belongs to you and yours to her. The moment she begins to hoard it like palliative, just know that she has used her hand to invite discord.

Guys who use money to buy a woman’s love during dating should brace themselves for the possibility of ending up like OP and eventually, like the other men on this thread who have to act like sugar daddies to their own wives in their own homes.

Kobojunkie:
You think meeting marriage counselors before marriage helps resolve all marriage issues include sec issues? Who gave you that idea?

It's obvious the man clueless as to how to make his woman to keep wanting him...

They would have exposed him to such...

INCREDIBLE007:
You are correct bros

But the guy is in pains and the bible recommends that husband and wife shouldnt deny each other, the champions league experience except if it's for a while to give themselves to fasting and prayers ...and they should come again and continue the match.
that the devil shouldn't take advantage of them.

Self discipline is a good suggestions for a single man but for a married man, though a good decision but it's a hard one.

Besides the bible also says the body of the man belongs to the woman and vice versa.

1. Again, Paul is the one who supposedly wrote that in his letters, and he is the same one who suggests bodied belonging to someone.

But God did not make separate laws for married people and separate laws for the unmarried. No, the same law God gave singles, He gave to married folk. . And in all self-control and self-discipline is the rule, no matter your marital status and this in Jesus Christ.

So, anyone who is a follower of Jesus Christ will know to do as Jesus Christ commands and not as Paul supposedly opined in his letters.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

your wife is a narcissist she's trying to make you feel bad for wanting to have sex. Don't control yourself it is not a crime to have high libido, she should give in to your demands as your wife. If she doesn't go and get satisfaction elsewhere.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

How long have you been married?
Is she currently nursing a baby?
Was she like this from the first day of your marriage?
Is she working or into business?
The answer to the above questions will help in offering you an advice.

Well if you are a Muslim just marry another wife to avoid adultery otherwise bargain/negotiate your bedroom activities with her i.e 3x per week. (Not necessarily sex, oral etc may help)

Alternatively engange yourself in a periodic fasting it may quench your dist.

Friend of my used to take loan of sex from his wife.
I.e multiple rounds on saturdat then on monday he will only have 1 or 2 rounds.

Hahaha

Easy make female friends and make her see your friends once in a while things will change if she’s wise

Since na one wife you get and you nor wan cheat, I beg control ya sef.
I dey with my wives.
Na dem dey beg for their turn.

INCREDIBLE007:


You are correct bros

But the guy is in pains and the bible recommends that husband and wife shouldnt deny each other, the champions league experience except if it's for a while to give themselves to fasting and prayers ...and they should come again and continue the match.
that the devil shouldn't take advantage of them.

Self discipline is a good suggestions for a single man but for a married man, though a good decision but it's a hard one.

Besides the bible also says the body of the man belongs to the woman and vice versa.

Mr kobo is not a fan of pauls i have observed. Paul most have recieved complaints from his followers similar to this. Its better if both should not starve themselves and also shouldn't stress themselves.
Will power is not as powerful as many think.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control

myself?

File for divorce. Her brain go reset

My brother in the lord.

I message you. Kindly reply. I Dey Lagos. We gats drink and chill. Life too short for crap.

Team live and enjoy time

pappilo:
I used to be married and suffered from the same issue.

We lived together for like 2 years before marriage and we had a fantastic sex life. Almost immediately after we got married, sex life stopped being great but it wasn't bad. After the first baby, it deteriorated a bit more. It was like going to work when we tried for a second baby i.e. wake me up from sleep to have sex with the sole purpose of conceiving having calculated her fertile days.

After 2nd baby, sex dried up. I tried to reason with her on a few occasions but all to no avail so I eventually looked outside and never looked back. I lost interest in her totally and the outcome was divorce.

I honestly think this refusal of sex thing has something to do with how comfortable a woman gets. When you get married, they know you are stuck with them and either consciously or subconsciously, start to withdraw their sexual services.

Now I have like 6 girls I am running concurrently (God forgive me) and the one that came closest to refusing me sex is the one I let live with me for a bit. The rest wey na come and go, dey gimme steady sungbàlaja. Even when dem dry, we go use lube. I quick wake up from my slumber pursue the one wey wan turn landlady for house.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. At my big age? Never Again will I let any woman run format on my head!

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

seem we all learning here.see counselor help.but I need ask u some questions.am nt a marriage expert o
.was she cool Nd excited with sex.wen u guys married
,When did she start to feel dis way
,When u having sex with her do u think about ur satisfaction Nd nt her satisfaction
'Hw is Ur sex communication with her
The two last questions are important because wat have notice is DT wen women no longer get satisfied or nt satisfied in bed they like hmm ok or let me jux allow him.so DT I can have my peace.but wen a lady is satisfied or beta gain orgasm ( nt DT easy if ur small but takes alot of knowledge about it)lady tends to want it more alittle Nd as a man is good to make a lady demand for sex frm u sometimes.

kkins25:
Mr kobo is not a fan of pauls i have observed. Paul most have recieved complaints from his followers similar to this. Its better if both should not starve themselves and also shouldn't stress themselves.
Will power is not as powerful as many think.

I simply am not a follower of Paul but of Jesus Christ, the one who is the New Covenant Law and Gospel in the Kingdom of God.

Paul is just another servant of Jesus Christ, just like me, and I answer to my Master and not the words of His servant.

Kobojunkie:
simply am not a follower of Paul but of Jesus Christ, the one who is the New Covenant Law and Gospel in the Kingdom of God.

In order words, i was right.
And how do you know what jesus said? Do you converse directly with jesus? Or you are like paul who never set eyes on jesus yet claims to be a devoted follower? hmmm?

File for divorce. Her brain go reset

Kobojunkie:
1. Again, Paul is the one who supposedly wrote that in his letters, and he is the same one who suggests bodied belonging to someone.

But God did not make separate laws for married people and separate laws for the unmarried. No, the same law God gave singles, He gave to married folk. . And in all self-control and self-discipline is the rule, no matter your marital status and this in Jesus Christ.

So, anyone who is a follower of Jesus Christ will know to do as Jesus Christ commands and not as Paul supposedly opined in his letters.

all scripture is given by the inspiration of God....
So it's not about Paul.

God wants us to be self discipline, he also want us to prosper and be on health..3john2

The gentleman should not apply brucelee or Jackie Chan on his wife neither should be go outside to satisfy his libido but should
Ask for grace for his wife

...He giveth more grace, ...James 4:6,

The wife might not like sex that much like the man has said but the grace of God can turn things around

kkins25:
In order words, i was right.
And how do you know what jesus said? Do you converse directly with jesus? Or you are like paul who never set eyes on jesus yet claims to be a devoted follower? hmmm?

One doesn't have to first see Jesus Christ to become a follower of His. His teachings and commandments are as recorded in the 4 books of the Gospel - Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, and according to what is written, those who trust and Obey will receive from Him.

I took to trusting and obeying Him and that is how, in truth of what He said in Matthew 13 vs 12, among our places, He has opened my eyes to seeing who He truly is and learning so much more of the Kingdom of God than I have ever learnt from reading the lies of men.

ify01:


Can it be found in pharmacies?

Some but rare, are you in Lagos, if you need it,I can send it to you

SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

Just make more money and marry a second wife... Make sure the second wife is machine on za oza room, case closed

Imagine! Did you guys date before marrying? If yes, did you people had sex? If no, then you have yourself to blame. If you people had sex when dating, was she like that before? If yes, then why act as if you didn't know about her low libido? Why marry her when you are not sexually compatible with her? If she didn't show her low libido to you in pretence, then she deceived you into marrying her. That marriage by deceit has no standing foundation. You may never enjoy it.

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Nilx:
She said spiritual, lol.

Team virgin or nothing should take note.

Tell her, you ain’t her spirit husband and she should stop expecting you to be spiritual.

Why don’t you consider Spanish goldfly stuff on her or make her desire for it bu other means.

But if na me be you, I go give an excuse whenever she’s in the mood too

You haff mind ghen....
He should try spanish fly on his wife, so she would go gaga and super Hot
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I like the way you think *thumbs up

Brother ,i have nothing to advice you because everyone has his or her own family issue ,this is family is no third party is permited. ..
Meet a marriage counselor for more informations...

iomoge2:
buy a masturbating toy or get her aphrodisiac

Put it in her drink n watch her beg you.

Please o
This advise is for only poster or married men alike
B4 smallies will start using it in school. Ehn hen

You shouldn't have said it. Can you kindly erase that as most of the posters here are kids.
Most of these topics are created for traffic. You know that. Just that they depict everyday problems

teacherbim:


Some but rare, are you in Lagos, if you need it,I can send it to you

I need it, just that I'm not in Lagos

Newbielearner:


It's obvious the man clueless as to how to make his woman to keep wanting him...

They would have exposed him to such...

If a man don't know what ticks his wife, let the wife tell him and viceversa
Let your partner know your soft spot if they can't locate that sooner so all these stories will end.

By partner I mean man and woman.
Penetration isn't a man's soft spot. All men penetrates and hump. Some men don't know theirs too and think their problem is their partners. That's why we see so many cases of infidelity everywhere cos they keep on sampling to see if they can get what they are looking for. They call it men being polygamous in nature but no, it's men trying to find themselves sexually.

Lol the contents here are funny.

If the guy went through marriage course (mostly Catholic) the wife should know she is being criminal about the whole thing.

If you are doing things in your house(like heck you have been doing this things before marriage) just do them because you can or want to relieve stress from people at home not for sex,thats manipulative.

During marriage course couples will learn the importance of sex in their marriage and couples adviced to always give in to each other and take breaks on health grounds or according to how both parties agree.

On libido issues,i have seen wives with high libido,some don't get satisfaction and seek for aid outside(one is still on my WhatsApp begging attention and I no gree),some get satisfaction from their husbands with addition of gadgets.

Now,if your wife or husband is horney and for one good reason you cannot perform their are other ways to attend to him or her (make una go watch different porn together abeg).learn forplay together,look good for each other
too. Also,mother fail to teach their daughters and fathers their sons in this regard before settling down.

Finally,some women go through psychological stress after child birth that they feel dirty always(get her professional help or do so your self by constantly adoring her,find a way that works till it wears off)other jump on their partner b4 you can say "Paul".

Summary,.their are responsibilities that comes with a lady taking the title wife and must fulfill them or relinquish the title except on health grounds same as husband.

The Op should have a sitdown with her and if it yield no fruit talk with their marriage counselor(like priest etc)..If your thing(man/woman) is not functioning and you lie go marry court or church can dissolve your marriage straight if the other person decide to take it up..lol

Kobojunkie:
One doesn't have to first see Jesus Christ to become a follower of His. His teachings and commandments are as recorded in the 4 books of the Gospel - Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, and according to what is written, those who trust and Obey will receive from Him.

I took to trusting and obeying Him and that is how, in truth of what He said in Matthew 13 vs 12, among our places, He has opened my eyes to seeing who He truly is and learning so much more of the Kingdom of God than I have ever learnt from reading the lies of men.

my muslim friends say same about Mohammad.

''Go and make more money this is Nigeria and stop asking for sex'' thats what she is telling you but you dont want to fathom...when she is ready now you will start singing simi song ''whala dey'' (kidin bro) just give her sometime and try been more sexy and romantic when you are on bed with her

after4:
Unfortunately this is what marriage has being reduced to.
When you marry a selfish girl. Bros I sympathise with you

You will not understand

Na your wife hold the key to sex in your marriage

And when she wants and in the mood you will do it

And na that kind of wife you will not worry that she is sleeping around

But all those ones that are always Hot, you may not satisfy them, next thing na to begin screw someone outside

Sex no be food jare

slimjohn2k5:


You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it

This is an experienced Married man talking.

Many of them think that sex all the time
A woman must be in the mood

Na so with my madam too