AutoChick4U:
Yes I don't but red flags shouldn't be ignored

Right!

A nigga with no stain can still make life miserable after marriage.

MufasaLion:


It seems your brother has always been disrespecting you from way back.

way back brother ... the frustration came due to the admission taking time ... I was so into it been successful then . But I took a u turn when at a time I was trying to advise him taking a certain course and reading up for the post utme ... he was trying to get into the school i finished from ... his statement was “don’t i think he has head to think of the right thing to do” ... since then I comot hands from any thing about him ... I never even asked him this year why he never took Jamb form, three year after

Kolasola:
way back brother ... the frustration came due to the admission taking time ... I was so into it been successful then . But I took a u turn when at a time I was trying to advise him taking a certain course and reading up for the post utme ... he was trying to get into the school i finished from ... his statement was “don’t i think he has head to think of the right thing to do” ... since then I comot hands from any thing about him ... I never even asked him this year why he never took Jamb form, three year after

So sad. Well, getting formal education might not if interest to him. Sit him down and ask him what are the things he would like to go into. The world is evolving and not many people are interested in education as before since skill acquisition is getting more important. Let him acquire skills of his choice and try to help him financially while learning.

MufasaLion:


So sad. Well, getting formal education might not if interest to him. Sit him down and ask him what are the things he would like to go into. The world is evolving and not many people are interested in education as before since skill acquisition is getting more important. Let him acquire skills of his choice and try to help him financially while learning.

ive made my mind ... so as to have a peaceful mind and not lose focus .. for now won’t raise any dust on the issue ... I will strike when it’s time ... but I want to do that with a clear mind state... for now I’ll make peace

No family member should stay in a fresh marriage. It will always end in tears...all these mummy's boys sef!

OP, regarding your wife's issue try talking with her and understand things from her point of view and make her see reasons why she shouldn't encourage your brother to insult you or interfere in your affairs as he's too young and inexperienced for that...If she doesn't change or listen,lock up and give her 100% silent treatment...no even reason her at all

Then for your idiot younger brother... Since you don't want to chase him out,just lock your wife for una room,hide the key,then call your bro and ask him what gave him the guts to dare disrespect you in front of your wife??...If the idiot jam talk(which I bet you he will),just carefully and slowly walk to the main door,jam am then do better deliverance for the mumu.....trust me after this Dem no born am well to put mouth for your marriage matter....

Do this and see the magic

NB: if after doing this,you still see the same results as at other times,then know say ur bro dey Nack your wife FULLSTOP

MufasaLion:


Right!

A nigga with no stain can still make life miserable after marriage.

Only God go help person

You need to find the right one. like how to login to shopify

I don't understand why people don't get that 3rd parties should not stay with a new couple.

Kolasola:
i attempted dealing with him yesterday .. wife stood in my way and slapped me telling me I dare not touch him ... I must say I returned the slap this morning (cause I woke up with swollen eye)

Your wife interfered when you were resolving issues with your brother and more so, she sided with your brother and slapped you on top....
Hah!!!

Lemme not talk....
Before someone will say "I won't understand because I'm not married" ...

You are too weak for a man. Handle your home and put everyone in their place

Something is fishy

Kolasola:
i attempted dealing with him yesterday .. wife stood in my way and slapped me telling me I dare not touch him ... I must say I returned the slap this morning (cause I woke up with swollen eye)

Kolasola:
I can’t find else where to turn to as I’m loosing my mind currently
I live in a flat apartment with my wife (conceived) and brother( younger) ... but of recent it’s been one fight or the other in my so called union .. the matter is always escalating due to my younger sibling (guy) interferences, I am quite busy and wife due to her condition has stopped working so she is always at home with my brother ( he’s yet to gain admission)
Guess this made me the stranger .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

You both need to work on your communication

The fact that your younger brother has the audacity to insult you in your own house shows that you're not assertive - you allow people to walk over you and disrespect you

Start by setting boundaries with consequences

For example, tell your younger brother that if he should insult you again, he will have to pack his bags and move out of your house

Another example, tell your wife that if she should insult you again, you will cut down the allowance you give to her

These are just examples. Be assertive and don't tolerate disrespect

Kolasola:
I can’t find else where to turn to as I’m loosing my mind currently
I live in a flat apartment with my wife (conceived) and brother( younger) ... but of recent it’s been one fight or the other in my so called union .. the matter is always escalating due to my younger sibling (guy) interferences, I am quite busy and wife due to her condition has stopped working so she is always at home with my brother ( he’s yet to gain admission)
Guess this made me the stranger .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

...it’s spells all shades of wrong for your younger sibling to haul curses at you in the presence of your wife to the extent of gaining her support in your own house. There’s something you’re not saying bro.

Kolasola:
I can’t find else where to turn to as I’m loosing my mind currently
I live in a flat apartment with my wife (conceived) and brother( younger) ... but of recent it’s been one fight or the other in my so called union .. the matter is always escalating due to my younger sibling (guy) interferences, I am quite busy and wife due to her condition has stopped working so she is always at home with my brother ( he’s yet to gain admission)
Guess this made me the stranger .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

OP who is this brother, yours or hers? can an employee be stronger and assertive than his employer? firstly, repudiate the wings of the third party and settle your marital issues? He who throws stones at a King should make sure he is more powerful in order not to get the wrath of the King.

Be patient till your house rent is due, when is due tell your wife to pay or his younger brother to pay, if they cannot, let them no who is the boss.
And if they still prove stubborn, move out and pay for a small apartment just for yourself, peace of mind over anything.

Kolasola:
I can’t find else where to turn to as I’m loosing my mind currently
I live in a flat apartment with my wife (conceived) and brother( younger) ... but of recent it’s been one fight or the other in my so called union .. the matter is always escalating due to my younger sibling (guy) interferences, I am quite busy and wife due to her condition has stopped working so she is always at home with my brother ( he’s yet to gain admission)
Guess this made me the stranger .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

The Younger Brother
With My Brother.

Who is really related to "this brother" becos I can't understand how "this brother" will be cursing you in your own house?

Kolasola:
I can’t find else where to turn to as I’m loosing my mind currently
I live in a flat apartment with my wife (conceived) and brother( younger) ... but of recent it’s been one fight or the other in my so called union .. the matter is always escalating due to my younger sibling (guy) interferences, I am quite busy and wife due to her condition has stopped working so she is always at home with my brother ( he’s yet to gain admission)
Guess this made me the stranger .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

What action is rat? Oga, go resolve whatever issue u av with ur wife or brother and continue ur marriage.

Kolasola:
. .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

Why are you taking action against your wife and not your brother if both of them team up against you in this?.

I am curious about what it is you and your wife argue about that would cause your brother to take your wife's side over yours. What exactly are these fights over?

Kolasola:
Not wife’s younger brother ... he Is my younger brother

What are you and your wife fighting about that your own brother will think to take her side over yours? Your story does not add up so more detail is necessary.

Kolasola:
hmmn ... but will I stop working so I can watch over my wife ?

Why would you need to even consider doing this to begin with? What is the real story here?

Kolasola:
Not wife’s younger brother ... he Is my younger brother

Hmmm younger brother insulting you. I have never experienced that with my younger brothers since we were born. You have really lost your respect man.

It is possible your younger brother is fucking your wife...

Go for DNA after the child is delivered that's if he was around before she conceived....

Naturally your blood brother is supposed to support you in such heated arguments or stay neutral and calm things down, it's only when you are beating her that he will not side you, but if you are not beating her....

Brotherly, your wife legs are getting sprawled by him..

Kolasola:
i attempted dealing with him yesterday .. wife stood in my way and slapped me telling me I dare not touch him ... I must say I returned the slap this morning (cause I woke up with swollen eye)

Why is your wife and brother against you? What is the true story here?

Did you come here sincerely seeking advice or are you here seeking others to take your side simply because you claim say you be man?

Kolasola:
way back brother ... the frustration came due to the admission taking time ... I was so into it been successful then . But I took a u turn when at a time I was trying to advise him taking a certain course and reading up for the post utme ... he was trying to get into the school i finished from ... his statement was “don’t i think he has head to think of the right thing to do” ... since then I comot hands from any thing about him ... I never even asked him this year why he never took Jamb form, three year after

I don't see what is wrong with what you claim he said though. No be him life and plan e suppose be?

Boogyman557:
. Holly Gram OP na people like una de make me BLAST pesin left leg wit my old KALA 4 free..

WAITING DE WORRY U..

U NO 1 GET SENSE..

SMALL boy de ur house de JINJER U, u de put d matter 4 ur wife HEAD..

SO u no fit SLAP dat boi or look 4 KALA take BLAST em left leg to CORRECT em brain...

OP I go like COME ur house, Make I COME SETTLE SOMETHING..

WTF MAN

This your kala go good to blast buhari left leg, make him add that one to him ear infection...

Marriage is just mystery. Marriage is hardwork.
Need God in it to ride through till the end.

Concerning you stopping work to possibly catch them in some sweet positions..no need..

Just install a hidden camera that connects to your phone in the living room and your matrimonial room and viola u might just find yourself watching live porn..

If the above is true, don't confront them without being with a friend if not you will be killed and they will say it emanated from self defense from domestic abuse...

Send both away then when she delivers do DNA test, if yours take ur child and life goes on....

Your brother if guilty by now would have already gotten multiple jamb forms because the admissions he was enjoying for free before is now no more.....

Its a simple sturvs

They are fucking your wife

What sort of weak men do we have these days? For my house wey I rent one small disrespectful boy will be giving me attitudes because he is my brother. That will be the last day he steps into my house and he must leave my house instantly until he has sense. The age difference here should be over 10 years or so if not 15years. Someone I am feeding, clothing and giving pocket money. Men have lost respect. Weaklings everywhere.

Story of a simp, a weak man, and a failure. I have no advice for you, except to slap some sense into your empty skull.

Not in this lifetime will my younger brother disrespect me without immediate consequences.

And worst is your wife slapping you and you being chill about it.

She will continue slapping you, and your younger brother will keep insulting you until you stand up and put a stop to it.

For there to be peace, there has to be violence. I'm sad to say you've lost your right as the man of the house.

If care isn't taken, your brother might even be dicking your wife.