Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by GIANTPLUSHUB: 11:34am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Nice read |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by smartr: 11:34am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chival: I couldn't have written it better. @OP, post this on as many social media platforms as you can. I had a talk with my daughter who is in Secondary school because of this Dowen issue. I completely support developing a relationship with your kids and wards that will encourage them to speak up when things aren't going well. It is safe to assume that these boys had been bothering Sylvester for a while before it snowballed into the beating. If he had spoken out earlier, he might still be alive. Ask your children questions about how their day went, as soon as they return. Watch closely for a change in attitude and demeanour. May God fortify Sylvester's parents and loved ones, and give them the courage to come to terms with this tragedy.
Some kids don't feel free discussing things to their parents. Maybe because the parents are strict or idk. |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by chatinent: 11:34am On Dec 04, 2021 |
TheGift:
Oh please. America that had over x number school shootings by students in the past years. Is it worth being a country. No. |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Asgard73: 11:35am On Dec 04, 2021 |
One Ejike asiegbu bleeped me way bac in uturu.. heard he’s a big man now.. revenge is best serve cold. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Be kind to humans ... table turns. Modify Ejike asiegbu not the popular Nigerian Actor.. the actor have been friend to the family. For more than 15 years now. Ejike asiegbu went to abia state university sec sch okigwe.left 99’ 1 Like |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Jinsic123: 11:36am On Dec 04, 2021 |
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Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Juanmike(m): 11:36am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Eriokanmi: Dem plenti oo. It's high time we profiled all the boarding schools nationwide. I still find it hard to believe that some seniors in my children's school were seen watching porn in their dormitory instead of the educating movies loaded on the external storage device connected to their VDU. Glad to know those involved had been expelled already.
I visited Day Waterman sometime ago. One of the teachers was complaining about a student who was toasting her, that he could pay her 2 times her salary, if only she could agree on dating each other. Just like that? |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Prenonjebose: 11:36am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Nice write up. The management and staff of the school failed woefully. This is criminal negligence. Many of these private schools need to be investigated, and if gross misconduct is established, then total closure or indefinite suspension of the school's license be recommended. They operate boarding house, and put young children at risk. Ministry of Education supervisory officials are also complicit in some cases. Finally, parents have different reasons for opting to put there wards in boarding house. I have a colleague of mine who has put two of her children in boarding house. She feels one of them is showing traits of stubbornness, which needs to be checked. I hope it turns out right. Parents must not offload their children because of tight schedules 2 Likes |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Harnny(m): 11:36am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chatinent: Nigeria is not worth being a country. This is not a local phenomenon 2 Likes |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by muller10144: 11:37am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Ghana Ghana |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Eriokanmi: 11:38am On Dec 04, 2021 |
KillIgbohoN0W: These barbaric acts are predominant in Afonja boarding schools. They are the Most Wicked Tribe in the World for a reason.
Any tribe that can do this to a baby is heartless. Your head must be paining you for trying to incite tribal discord this morning. Evil has no abode The deeper life school saga in the south south is still hot in the cooler. There are instances I can cite of boarding schools in the S/E and the North on similar vices. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by blackpanda: 11:38am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chatinent: Nigeria is not worth being a country. Pls leave nairaland with ur negativity. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Ventura1: 11:38am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Did you study at a Federal government college in a south-south state? Gangsterism have been part of secondary school education in Nigeria, it is unfortunate the society glorifies it. EmekaStanley: I watched with annoying disgust the video of a young boy who was wriggling in pains on a hospital bed due to the brutality meted out to him at school by his follow school mates. Story has it that he was tortured by a group of boys who were cultists. because he refused to join them.
The boy's dad said the cult boys came to his room and started beating him and stomping on him, after which they gave him a substance to drink. Eventually the boy died. This is too much to happen in a secondary school.
Bullying has been a hydra-headed beast from long ago. I also suffered while I was a boarder in a secondary school somewhere in Southern Part of Nigeria.
I had a couple of bad cases but the most painful of them all and that which has stuck in my memory was with the case of a senior student then, called Niyi Lasisi. That's his real name. I don't know if he is on this platform but if this goes viral whereby he sees it, I'd love it.
Niyi made me and a fellow roommate of mine engage ourselves in a marathon slap over a disagreement I had with the roommate. The worst of it all was that Niyi made sure that the slaps were heavy on the 'receiver' else the 'giver' will receive an extra slap as a penalty. It was brutal and arguably the most traumatic experience I had as a Junior student.
I almost quit school even though I was just a beginner but for some reason my Dad allowed me to choose if I wanted to quit or not and I chose to stay. If I see Niyi today, I'll look him straight in the eyes and tell him, "You know what Niyi, You really sucked, I don't know if you still suck now though".
My Dad visited and noticed my bad looking cheeks, he took me to my guardian who also doubled as my housemaster but that was the last I heard of anything about it.
There are many 'Niyis' in our boarding schools; Students who see nothing in deriding and brutalizing their fellow students. They go home and exhibit signs of this anti social behaviors and the parents see nothing of a big deal out of it, thereby releasing them to cause problems for others.
What manner of effrontery would warrant a set of secondary school students to damn repercussions and torture a fellow student up to the extent that the student has visible marks of torture and eventually dying as a result of it. You can imagine how deadly they'll become by the time they get to the University.
Their acts were dastardly and it speaks terribly about the culture in the school; the school might be breeding unwholesome kids for the society. It is good news that the Lagos State Government has shut down the school indefinitely.
Investigations should be carried out to determine the extent of this menace in that school and all those found culpable in the boy's death should be made to face the law squarely.
As a parent, what are you doing in order to introduce a wholesome human being in to the society? Please do not leave the moral upbringing of your child or ward in the hands of the school, you do not know what is going on in the school.
It is great to give your child the best in education but providing all their needs do not make up for their discipline and good upbringing. Your child is your primary gift to the nation; they either contribute positively to it or they drag it in the mud and it is your responsibility as a parent to put this right.
Paying heavily for school fees is not where the job ends, you might just be paying to have a terror disturb the peace of other kids in same school...literally.
The nation is where it is today because of the family values inculcated in those who have ruled this nation from the onset till now. There is no point pointing one finger at the government for them to do things right whereas the other 4 fingers of yours are pointing back at you saying, "Okay...yeah you are right but what about your own kids, what are doing to make them better"?
You can't be complaining of a bad nation yet you are putting little or no effort in training 'nationable' kids. Your biggest national responsibility is to hand over a roundly trained citizen to the government....that's all. And who are the government? It's you, me and everyone else.
Now you as a parent, don't send your kids to school only to have some ill-mannered untrained kid bully them for you. How can you do this? Encourage your kids to speak up and speak out no matter how threatened they may be. Ask them questions and demand answers. If you find anything suspicious, scream down the roof, shout, go to the school and make a hell of noise.
Become a lioness defending her cub.
Involve the social media, talk to the police, the lawyers or anyone that can hear you at that time. Don't go pursuing money while your child is being wrecked in school.
This nation has got to be better and it starts from the family circle. If more people put their families right, it will translate to a better nation.
ES
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Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by smartr: 11:38am On Dec 04, 2021 |
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Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by FireRain: 11:38am On Dec 04, 2021 |
This is the summary of why our society is in the mud. Family is the first agent of socialization and when the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do. I pity all young people who glorify baby Mamas/daddies syndrome...we are breeding trouble. God bless you Op. 5 Likes |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by kingthreat(m): 11:38am On Dec 04, 2021 |
One thing I realized is that all those who bullied me and my mates who bullied juniors are all failures. The ones who aren't are cultists. |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Yankee101: 11:39am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chival: I couldn't have written it better. @OP, post this on as many social media platforms as you can. I had a talk with my daughter who is in Secondary school because of this Dowen issue. I completely support developing a relationship with your kids and wards that will encourage them to speak up when things aren't going well. It is safe to assume that these boys had been bothering Sylvester for a while before it snowballed into the beating. If he had spoken out earlier, he might still be alive. Ask your children questions about how their day went, as soon as they return. Watch closely for a change in attitude and demeanour. May God fortify Sylvester's parents and loved ones, and give them the courage to come to terms with this tragedy.
Take your kids out of boarding school in naija. It is akin to wickedness. Whenever you visit and are about to leave, you see that hot cry? There are things they go through and can't tell you cos they'll still have to face the environment after you leave. What you send to a bording school is not what returns to you |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by jeph19(m): 11:39am On Dec 04, 2021 |
As a teacher, I've come to see the wide gap between parents and their wards/kids. Its alarming that most parents just birth children and provide necessities, not building friendship and relationship with their children.
During counselling session with kids, you could see in them a longing to be loved, valued and accepted even by their own parents and siblings.
I've counselled girls who told me what they couldn't tell "Mummy" likewise boys who told me what they couldn't tell "Daddy"
You see them dropping their kid's in the morning, and you'd think all is well, not knowing the sore is getting deeper into the marrows of the child/teens.
I made up my mind to be the best friend to my children when I get married. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Eriokanmi: 11:39am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Juanmike: Just like that? I'm telling you. I was shocked |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by kingthreat(m): 11:40am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Asgard73: One Ejike asiegbu bleeped me way bac in uturu.. heard he’s a big man now.. revenge is best serve cold. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Be kind to humans ... table turns.
That is a popular name. Kindly indicate it's not the renowned actor so not to dent his image. |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by kingthreat(m): 11:41am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chatinent: Nigeria is not worth being a country. Go to Somalia 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Zetty177x: 11:41am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Niyi Lasisi, e nor go better for u |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by KillIgbohoN0W: 11:41am On Dec 04, 2021 |
[s] Eriokanmi: Your head must be paining you for trying to incite tribal discord this morning. Evil has no abode The deeper life school saga in the south south is still hot in the cooler. There are instances I can cite of boarding schools in the S/E and the North on similar vices. [/s] Cite the SE ones let's see. Afonjavocate. |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Asgard73: 11:42am On Dec 04, 2021 |
kingthreat:
That is a popular name. Kindly indicate it's not the renowned actor so not to dent his image. Not the actor ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Not the popular one.. 1 Like |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by EmekaStanley: 11:42am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Ventura1: Did you study at a Federal government college in a south-south state? Gangsterism have been part of secondary school education in Nigeria, it is unfortunate the society glorifies it. Yes I did |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Isobug: 11:42am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Niyi Lasisi where are you? The old deeds has finally caught up with you. I hope you have changed the bad ways by now, if not...... 1 Like |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by victons(m): 11:44am On Dec 04, 2021 |
EmekaStanley: I watched with annoying disgust the video of a young boy who was wriggling in pains on a hospital bed due to the brutality meted out to him at school by his follow school mates. Story has it that he was tortured by a group of boys who were cultists. because he refused to join them.
The boy's dad said the cult boys came to his room and started beating him and stomping on him, after which they gave him a substance to drink. Eventually the boy died. This is too much to happen in a secondary school.
Bullying has been a hydra-headed beast from long ago. I also suffered while I was a boarder in a secondary school somewhere in Southern Part of Nigeria.
I had a couple of bad cases but the most painful of them all and that which has stuck in my memory was with the case of a senior student then, called Niyi Lasisi. That's his real name. I don't know if he is on this platform but if this goes viral whereby he sees it, I'd love it.
Niyi made me and a fellow roommate of mine engage ourselves in a marathon slap over a disagreement I had with the roommate. The worst of it all was that Niyi made sure that the slaps were heavy on the 'receiver' else the 'giver' will receive an extra slap as a penalty. It was brutal and arguably the most traumatic experience I had as a Junior student.
I almost quit school even though I was just a beginner but for some reason my Dad allowed me to choose if I wanted to quit or not and I chose to stay. If I see Niyi today, I'll look him straight in the eyes and tell him, "You know what Niyi, You really sucked, I don't know if you still suck now though".
My Dad visited and noticed my bad looking cheeks, he took me to my guardian who also doubled as my housemaster but that was the last I heard of anything about it.
There are many 'Niyis' in our boarding schools; Students who see nothing in deriding and brutalizing their fellow students. They go home and exhibit signs of this anti social behaviors and the parents see nothing of a big deal out of it, thereby releasing them to cause problems for others.
What manner of effrontery would warrant a set of secondary school students to damn repercussions and torture a fellow student up to the extent that the student has visible marks of torture and eventually dying as a result of it. You can imagine how deadly they'll become by the time they get to the University.
Their acts were dastardly and it speaks terribly about the culture in the school; the school might be breeding unwholesome kids for the society. It is good news that the Lagos State Government has shut down the school indefinitely.
Investigations should be carried out to determine the extent of this menace in that school and all those found culpable in the boy's death should be made to face the law squarely.
As a parent, what are you doing in order to introduce a wholesome human being in to the society? Please do not leave the moral upbringing of your child or ward in the hands of the school, you do not know what is going on in the school.
It is great to give your child the best in education but providing all their needs do not make up for their discipline and good upbringing. Your child is your primary gift to the nation; they either contribute positively to it or they drag it in the mud and it is your responsibility as a parent to put this right.
Paying heavily for school fees is not where the job ends, you might just be paying to have a terror disturb the peace of other kids in same school...literally.
The nation is where it is today because of the family values inculcated in those who have ruled this nation from the onset till now. There is no point pointing one finger at the government for them to do things right whereas the other 4 fingers of yours are pointing back at you saying, "Okay...yeah you are right but what about your own kids, what are doing to make them better"?
You can't be complaining of a bad nation yet you are putting little or no effort in training 'nationable' kids. Your biggest national responsibility is to hand over a roundly trained citizen to the government....that's all. And who are the government? It's you, me and everyone else.
Now you as a parent, don't send your kids to school only to have some ill-mannered untrained kid bully them for you. How can you do this? Encourage your kids to speak up and speak out no matter how threatened they may be. Ask them questions and demand answers. If you find anything suspicious, scream down the roof, shout, go to the school and make a hell of noise.
Become a lioness defending her cub.
Involve the social media, talk to the police, the lawyers or anyone that can hear you at that time. Don't go pursuing money while your child is being wrecked in school.
This nation has got to be better and it starts from the family circle. If more people put their families right, it will translate to a better nation.
ES
This is an post is exquisite. I can not forget my own experience as far back as my Primary 2. I heard the boy is late now. And then, the beast I had in secondary school, Marcel Onwuka, I heard he's still terrible till now. |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by NoToPile: 11:45am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Okay I didn't go to a boarding school practically most of the watsap groups I belong to are discussing this same matter.
On my secondary school watsap group , one of us who was a transfer student from a FGC (boarding school) was saying what they did to that boy was what people have been doing to juniors since in govt schools but since it's a private school it should never have happened and they should have been properly monitored he told us what his eyes saw as a junior student before he transfered to my school.
Told us stuffs like they were made to drink kerosene, Taken to the Bush to fetch water by 3 am, very strange stuffs.
He now said on the FGC watsap group people began to share their experiences, some made voice notes and were actually crying about the ordeal they passed through in the hands of their students.
We finished secondary school around 16 years back and the pain and memory seems so fresh for this people. The guy said his children will never go to a boarding school.
I now asked how far with all those wicked seniors, how far have they gone in life.
He said ironically when they began counting all those wicked ones both male and female seniors are dead, I just shock. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Naijayouth(m): 11:45am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chatinent: Nigeria is not worth being a country. Must you use every negative occurrence to scorn Nigeria all the time. ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) Evil happens everywhere ;that is why the change and good you so much want to see has to begin with you. 2 Likes |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by BABANGBALI: 11:46am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Exactly like Buhari, baba at home, beast in Nigeria. if I hear piiiiiiim |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Nobody: 11:48am On Dec 04, 2021 |
jeph19: As a teacher, I've come to see the wide gap between parents and their wards/kids. Its alarming that most parents just birth children and provide necessities, not building friendship and relationship with their children.
During counselling session with kids, you could see in them a longing to be loved, valued and accepted even by their own parents and siblings.
I've counselled girls who told me what they couldn't tell "Mummy" likewise boys who told me what they couldn't tell "Daddy"
You see them dropping their kid's in the morning, and you'd think all is well, not knowing the sore is getting deeper into the marrows of the child/teens.
I made up my mind to be the best friend to my children when I get married. 1 Like |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Onlinebar: 11:49am On Dec 04, 2021 |
Your own case is still child's play.
What of junior boys that were raped by their seniors as punishment. This happened in a federal government secondary school..... |
Re: Child At Home, Beast In School? by Nobody: 11:50am On Dec 04, 2021 |
chatinent: Nigeria is not worth being a country.
Everything just werey for Naija...Titus sardine is now ₦800. Everything in Nigeria just dey titus. It sardines me a whole lot.
Common hotel don dey give half bar soap and they wouldn't want you interrupt them while dishing out the puzzle. Don't even complain. Chances are, you’ll hear some crosswords
I stayed up all night to see where the sun went. Then it dawned on me that sometimes, parents would feel they are good defenders of their children to allow them reach their goal when they click the box 18. May God have Messi upon our sole.
Nigeria has a way of taking away your light ...de-lighted.
Nigeria is meant to live you at zero. To the man who invented zero, thanks for nothing.
I reminisce the past, present, and future walk into Nigeria. It is tense! 1.Sorry, but what you have written is just trash 2.Bullying is common in the USA, Canada, UK, many European nations, even Russia, China and Japan. So,a re those countries not 'worth it' 3.You guys should stop all this abuse for country. Because of a single case of bullying, Nigeria is trash? That means other countries are trash too. |