Op that is so disrespectful of u...how could you ask her such...I'm disappointed In you..

Na wa oooo
Problem everywhere

This is exactly the reason I had a quarrel with my girlfriend yesterday night.

Your story is same as mine.

I have been dating this girl for over 3yrs now and she gained admission. Our initial plan was for her to go and learning nursing because she is a caring and a kind hearted girl but the mother who wants to impress friends forced her to go-to school hoping that her uncles will assist.

She is in school now heading to 300Level and from day one I have been the one catering for her ranging from what she eats to what she wears and textbooks.... The parents literally abandoned her and the uncles don't even care.

The most annoying part now is the mother calling me all the time to seek for one monetary assistance or the other , occassionally the father calls when he is choked.

I feel so burdened and want to quit the relationship because it is parasitic and dragging me back but the only reason I am still with her is because she was with me all through when I was jobless.

That is the reason I am still pushing through with the relationship....

I have begged this girl to think of what side business she can do so I can assist her with the money to start so she can get money for feeding from it while I can focus on other things but she always gives excuses that school doesn't give her time and activities are choked.

I want to quit this relationship, I can cope with her but the mother always calling my line for assistance is pissing me off.

This same woman threw it an my face that I am a distraction to her daughter and her daughter will not marry a poor man, I was just a secondary school teacher then earning 50k, those words hurt me till today and I took the challenge to quit my job and start some petty business which by the grace of God is doing fine, table has changed and this distraction is the one she is seeking help from all the time.

I only give to her because of my girlfriend, her daughter who believed in me and stood against her mother for me if not....

Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you? there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

And she has not been having sex with him right? Now tell me how much has she paid for all the sex with the poor guy. I pity the guy for dating an individual who isn't capable of taking care of herself

one of the worst mistakes you can make in marriage is to date and marry a lady whose family is broke. They will always be in your affairs.

advanceDNA:


Wife who??
The girl is just deceiving him...
A girl the Op is doing that much for like he’s the father would have been known by her poor parents....because there’s no how the parents won’t ask who’s bankrolling all are fees in school...

The fact they don’t know the guy means two things..
1. she’s lying to her parents how she’s surviving in school and the guy is not worth anything to her....

2. Her parents pays her fees and she’s just lying to the OP to get extra money guy...which still means the guy means nothing but an ATM.

You have a valid point. But you cannot draw conclusion as we all know in bits.
But it's obvious the OP loves her and is not complaining. Should we encourage him to leave her when he's obviously not willing to? Probably there's something the OP is not sharing with us. There's definitely an explanation to why the OP still see value in a girl who only milk his finance without contributing anything. He must be madly inlove!

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

Make sure you marry her without paying her bride price.cos training her alone covers her bride price and the rest

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joe4christ:


You have a valid point. But you cannot draw conclusion as we all know in bits.
But it's obvious the OP loves her and is not complaining. Should we encourage him to leave her when he's obviously not willing to? Probably there's something the OP is not sharing with us. There's definitely an explanation to why the OP still see value in a girl who only milk his finance without contributing anything. He must be madly inlove!

Perhaps, youmissed a part of his comment..
He is complaining... and that’s becos his eyes have started opening....

The girl is so used to milking him that she even wants him to pay for food while she’s at her parents home...he’s starting to see her for who she is..

Dude, you have been doing it. You raised and trained her in school and you know what her family background is like. So why spoil every good you have done so far with such a question?

I know that it can be frustrating, but you shouldn't have asked such, considering that you know already.

God has blessed you to help and you weren't forced to help.

Nowhere did you say she doesn't appreciate or she is cheating.

Keep doing whatever good acts you can do, Mark my words, no good acts you do ever leave your life, they go to your future to wait for you.

Some men have done more than these for the women they love.


I ask you, what do you see in her and with her? Don't focus on her family background alone as a frustrating and draining one. God help you.


Help with a cheerful heart and not grumbling. God bless you

You're making it seems women do not desire sex. Not every woman is frigid like you!

Iyaebe:
Useless men everywhere, I pity ladies that give you people free sex all in the name of expression of feelings, even Adam couldn't touch Eve till God asked him to do something which serves as the bride price before he was allowed to touch her but some ladies wey nack head for ground will begin parting their legs over nonsense expression of feelings. Its unbibilical to have free sex,go and find out.So Oga Op if you can't feed her then leave her for her parents and go your way,you did not complain when you were winning your pelenge waist on top of her.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

You HV tried bro, but asking such question can be frustrating, things can be tough atimes, try n establish her, so that some of this petty billing can be subsize

KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

A very big Amen to this prayer

KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

Hahahahahaha!! Can't stop laughing

All I can say is that you don't have sense. How will you be spending your money like that on another man's wife

Hmmmmmm. What's stopping you from getting married to this lady already?

You are a disgrace to mankind

Why spending on a girl in the first place

You are a simp of the year

yinkaOdutuyo:


But she's in her parent house now, why will be feeding her when she's with me and be feeding her again in her father's house.

don't be surprised you may yet be feeding her in her husband's house,some ladies don't even have shame to demand for such,maybe the op has been doing such for some years now that's why she saw nothing wrong in feeding her and her family,just believe you are doing a humanitarian work and feeding the poor like red cross,help them if you can

yinkaOdutuyo:



Is not a problem, but I don't think is proper for me to be feeding her, even when she's in her parent house bro.

Please don't feed her in her father's house. You would be insulting her father by doing that. Please let the man have some dignity - his daughter may not understand the ego of a man.

Since she isn't you wife and might decide not to marry you later, I believe you have helped her financially enough. Look for someone in your family and assist.

Iyaebe:
please shut up,but it's Normal to be opening legs for him when he's not yet marred to her but abnormal to spend and feed her abi?you think sex is free?even in marriage its not free.stop encouraging fornication and since he wants to fornicate then he should be ready to cough out some hell of money

. But these iyaebe no get brain at all

Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

Are women no longer equal with men?
What a man can do, a woman can do better??

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

No matter how poor her parents are, asking you to provide all her basic needs simply means she took u for a fool. She's using you and will later Bleep you up.

Take it or leave it but copy my message somewhere you can read it even in the next 5 yrs.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

Some one wey supposed don born like 4 kids for you. You don dull.if you pull out now you lose.She knows and would use it against you.You cant win this bro

This is "Money miss road". The Funny and unfortunate part is that You might not have done all that for your sister.

Anyway, the question is late! You should have asked her that before adopting her from her parents. So just finish what you started. At least you are almost done.

But Hope you are not having the intention of she compulsorily becoming your wife? I'm just asking o, it's none of my business.

yinkaOdutuyo:


I help everyone around me bro

Can you send me 5k please? Let me benefit from ur charity scheme abeg. Help me

SURElee:
Dude, you have been doing it. You raised and trained her in school and you know what her family background is like. So why spoil every good you have done so far with such a question?

I know that it can be frustrating, but you shouldn't have asked such, considering that you know already.

God has blessed you to help and you weren't forced to help.

Nowhere did you say she doesn't appreciate or she is cheating.

Keep doing whatever good acts you can do, Mark my words, no good acts you do ever leave your life, they go to your future to wait for you.

Some men have done more than these for the women they love.


I ask you, what do you see in her and with her? Don't focus on her family background alone as a frustrating and draining one. God help you.


Help with a cheerful heart and not grumbling. God bless you

He Mark your words??
Are you God??

If it’s a man leeching your fellow woman now... we won’t hear all this your sermon

KiNg0G:
Oh lord , any sîmp in my bloodline like this op that will cause me future grievance, let it miscarriage.

Hahahhahahaha please

Guy,there’s nothing bad in that question.I think this will make her conscious on what she’s doing to you.
What if you loose your source of income,(God forbid).
Do you think the relationship will still work for you two☹️

Iyaebe:
As per how much I charge, it will cost you your life,deal?

I don't deal with ebina like you ..... Get a life motherfucker!

Oga you are a true philanthropist, continue the good work!!!
By the way It's will be very bad of me to leave without giving you something to think about.
Bruh to be honest this journey you have embark on won't profit you at all but if you care about your well being and future just kukuma finish the charity work u started by completing her registration for the catering school so that from the handwork she can support her family
Then you wash your hands off her and look for another woman that is not a liability cuz if you marry her type,
she will leech your pocket until you go broke and heart attack will finally finish you off

yinkaOdutuyo:


She is ambitious though, but her parent can't help.

She is ambitious with your money.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

Just know that when you marry her, you will be the one feeding her family their 3 square meals.