Munzy14:

He blocked her mmeko moves towards her hubby abii?

Smh..umu nwaanyiiiiii

Thank God si na owu nwanne nwaanyi o.

A si owu nwunye nwanne ya ehn? Chinekenna! We for no rest!

So, the point is, whether sisters o or sisters in-law o, women are the same. Our behaviours are similar.
So, siblings should cut their married siblings some slack, especially married brothers.
They shouldn't put them in a tight position to have to choose between their wives and siblings. I mean, come on! Dude just got married and trying to figure out the marriage thing. Don't make things worse.
Make things easier for him by loving his wife and giving them their space. Visits once in a while is OK.

ImaIma1:


They want us to believe that the odds are always in their favour because they are men.

Most of these guys that "know" everything are usually small boys that don't even know anything about life, or naive and unexploded guys that live in the rural areas.

May God save them from themselves.

Is it not obvious, one look @ the likes of ubi franklin, churchhill or even FFk where else could the odd be

Pls whats wrong with being a "small boy" is that suppose to carry some nuclear effect, i know an evening newspaper here that knows everything & she never wrong, maybe its a unisex thing

Nonexisting:
This is my stand now aswear. No need advising simps again. They will grow sense when they collect.

Woto-woto collecting....

Dem go collect, wetin no good

Mariangeles:


Thank God si na owu nwanne nwaanyi o.

A si owu nwunye nwanne ya ehn? Chinekenna! We for no rest!

So, the point is, whether sisters o or sisters in-law o, women are the same. Our behaviours are similar.
So, siblings should cut their married siblings some slack, especially married brothers.
They shouldn't put them in a tight position to have to choose between their wives and siblings. I mean, come on! Dude just got married and trying to figure out the marriage thing. Don't make things worse.
Make things easier for him by loving his wife and giving them their space. Visits once in a while is OK.

Mgbe a luru ohuru ka o kacha ato uto...

Visitors will be blocking unscheduled moves..

Some families train there kids to be dependent on eachother knowingly or unknowingly..While some train their kids to be very independent.

My grandmas from both sides rarely visit my house nor anyone of my uncles....I believe my mom learnt one or two from them..

When a woman finds a good companion in her husband, she wouldn't want to stay anywhere else..Even when you take her far away, she will hurry to return home.

Women love their space/territory a lot....You are right with that narration.

Onye na alu, ya luta onye umu nne ya ga ahuta as nwanne..Nothing sweet pass your partner blending smoothly with your people.

Aka m na ekwu ya, m luo Nwaanyi, nwunye m first....Mma na mpa m are enjoying their companion, my siblings will enjoy theirs with who they fall in love with...So nwunye m wu onye nke m...The kids will grow to have their love life..

If people modify their mindset towards issues like this and accept realities, things will work fine.

All women are territorial...Even ma mma m

Mariangeles:


It is not that it is wrong giving your spouse money to give to your parents, at least, sometimes, but what was wrong was him sending his wife to do it, when he knew he didn't trust her enough to do the right thing.
That was why I asked him why he didn't do it himself.
On top of that, ya were bia na nairaland bia kuzuo ekwe. Di asiri.

I find it awkward...everything.


O si di asiri..

Nwoke anahu ezo onu..

Munzy14:

Mgbe a luru ohuru ka o kacha ato uto...

Visitors will be blocking unscheduled moves..

Some families train there kids to be dependent on eachother knowingly or unknowingly..While some train their kids to be very independent.

My grandmas from both sides rarely visit my house nor anyone of my uncles....I believe my mom learnt one or two from them..

When a woman finds a good companion in her husband, she wouldn't want to stay anywhere else..Even when you take her far away, she will hurry to return home.

Women love their space/territory a lot....You are right with that narration.

Onye na alu, ya luta onye umu nne ya ga ahuta as nwanne..Nothing sweet pass your partner blending smoothly with your people.

Aka m na ekwu ya, m luo Nwaanyi, nwunye m first.... Mma na mpa m are enjoying their companion, my siblings will enjoy theirs with who they fall in love with...So nwunye m wu onye nke m...The kids will grow to have their love life..

If people modify their mindset towards issues like this and accept realities, things will work fine.

All women are territorial...Even ma mma m

Yes, but try not to get carried away, otherwise, things might get out of hand. You wouldn't want to lose the affection of your siblings you know?
Your relationship with them matters as well.

You read here about some guys that are still very bitter/angry towards their elder brothers right?
It usually happens with the first son, so you must learn how to strike a balance when the time comes, to avoid animosity.

Munzy14:

I find it awkward...everything.

O dichahu awkward.
Mgbe I lutara nwaanyi, you will understand better.
Otu I no ugbu a, owuhu ihe nile I kwesiri I mere nne gi ka I ma, but when your wife comes, she'll help you know those things. That is, if she's a fair minded person who sees your parents as hers o.

What that man's wife did was simply wrong.

O si di asiri..

Nwoke anahu ezo onu..

Onye sigburu onwe ya....mana, agahu'm a tacha ya uta.

Eeeh? Ya wuru nwaanyi ya wuru asiri okwa ya?
'Ke nwoke wu na a o nahu e zo onu. Una try.

Mariangeles:


Yes, but try not to get carried away, otherwise, things might get out of hand. You wouldn't want to lose the affection of your siblings you know?
Your relationship with them matters as well.

You read here about some guys that are still very bitter/angry towards their elder brothers right?
It usually happens with the first son, so you must learn how to strike a balance when the time comes, to avoid animosity.

....The guy you are quoting is just a dreamer.Nwoke tochaa,ya echere ibe ya.I just dey laugh am.

Mariangeles:


Yes, but try not to get carried away, otherwise, things might get out of hand. You wouldn't want to lose the affection of your siblings you know?
Your relationship with them matters as well.

You read here about some guys that are still very bitter/angry towards their elder brothers right?
It usually happens with the first son, so you must learn how to strike a balance when the time comes, to avoid animosity.

Surely there must be a balance to avoid problems..

Mariangeles:


O dichahu awkward.
Mgbe I lutara nwaanyi, you will understand better.
Otu I no ugbu a, owuhu ihe nile I kwesiri I mere nne gi ka I ma, but when your wife comes, she'll help you know those things. That is, if she's a fair minded person who sees your parents as hers o.

What that man's wife did was simply wrong.




Onye sigburu onwe ya....mana, agahu'm a tacha ya uta.

Eeeh? Ya wuru nwaanyi ya wuru asiri okwa ya?
'Ke nwoke wu na a o nahu e zo onu. Una try.

Okwaya?

.

ImaIma1:


Inlaws should also accommodate us as family members and not let us feel like outsiders.

God bless you

pocohantas:


You are missing the fact that if you go to your sister’s house and she tells you she is tired to cook, you will go into the kitchen and cook for her sef.

If you go to your brother’s house and his wife tells you the same thing, you will enter night bus direct to Enugu. Once you get to Enugu, you'll call the whole umunna. They need to know the Owerri woman your brother married is starving him. Lil wonder his head is now bigger than his body.

Only 0.002% would act differently.

Sense no go kill you my sister. This is exactly what I'm facing in my home right now.

Munzy14:

Okwaya?

Yeah.

egojeny1:

Sense no go kill you my sister. This is exactly what I'm facing in my home right now.

You AR facing it bcox u r probably a hard person..... Initially u may be the kind of woman the Op is talking abt.. Wicked ń selfish .

A peaceful and kind woman shud find it easy to flow with her in laws... So. If u r having difficulty, check yourself too.. Don't just blame your in law.. Stop pushing blames má

Mariangeles:


Yeah.

Ngwanu ooo..

Timekeeper:


You AR facing it bcox u r probably a hard person..... Initially u may be the kind of woman the Op is talking abt.. Wicked ń selfish .

A peaceful and kind woman shud find it easy to flow with her in laws... So. If u r having difficulty, check yourself too.. Don't just blame your in law.. Stop pushing blames má

May I tell you that I am the last daughter in my family and only a senior to one boy who is also married. All my siblings are married.
May I also let you know that my in-laws have been with me for the past 12 years of my married life, not 1 not 2 not 3. So if I am wicked and selfish I don't think they would still be with me even till this moment.

Munzy14:

Ngwanu ooo..

You noticed that guy was already mad at you?
In his mind, onye na agabehu amahu.

Mariangeles:


You noticed that guy was already mad at you?
In his mind, onye na agabehu amahu.

O wu otele....

Ugbu a ka m huru ebe o quoturu gi...O kara I quote m na...o wu ujo ji ya

On nairaland some of these folks always think they are above and ahead of others, especially when they are married...

But small marital challenge comes, they pick up phone and begin lamentations on social media.

O na asi m ogodo ga eru nwoke ebe oruru ibe ya,o wu o mahu na nwoke kariri ibe ya...
Nga nwoke ha ibe ya wu na onu, ma owu na faceless forum a.

Some wu Man na Man..

egojeny1:

May I tell you that I am the last daughter in my family and only a senior to one boy who is also married. All my siblings are married.
May I also let you know that my in-laws have been with me for the past 12 years of my married life, not 1 not 2 not 3. So if I am wicked and selfish I don't think they would still be with me even till this moment.

Hmmmm!!! 12years.

Genuinely are you happy and comfortable with that?

Munzy14:

O wu otele....

Ugbu a ka m huru ebe o quoturu gi...O kara I quote m na...o wu ujo ji ya

On nairaland some of these folks always think they are above and ahead of others, especially when they are married...

But small marital challenge comes, they pick up phone and begin lamentations on social media.

O na asi m ogodo ga eru nwoke ebe oruru ibe ya,o wu o mahu na nwoke kariri ibe ya...
Nga nwoke ha ibe ya wu na onu, ma owu na faceless forum a.

Some wu Man na Man..

O nwere otu meme owu kwesiri komenti a, but I don't have it.

Mariangeles:


O nwere otu meme owu kwesiri komenti a, but I don't have it.

Ihuru gi eeh


Kedu ihe mere ya..

Munzy14:

Ihuru gi eeh


Kedu ihe mere ya..

Onwehu. Just blunt. Like you were ready for ogu.

Segkem2013:
I gave money to my wife to send to our parents. She gave mine 1/3 and hers 2/3. My money ooo.

How about you sending the money to your own people directly, she doesn't need to know how much you send to your family

Mariangeles:


Onwehu. Just blunt. Like you were ready for ogu.

Munzy14:

Hmmmm!!! 12years.

Genuinely are you happy and comfortable with that?

Honesty it's not easy, I am tired already. I take them as my younger ones cos I have only one younger sibling who is married. My husband is the first and they are seven so you can imagine what I'm talking about.
We dey quarell dey settle wetin man go do. I've told them if its reporting, they will get tired of it cos even our relatives from both sides know that I have really tried for them.

egojeny1:

Honesty it's not easy, I am tired already. I take them as my younger ones cos I don't have younger siblings. My only younger sibling is married. My husband is the first and they are seven so you can imagine what I'm talking about.
We dey quarell dey settle wetin man go do. I've told them if its reporting, they will get tired of reporting cos even our relatives from both sides know that I have really tried for them.

Wow! That is a huge sacrifice...Just treat them nice, your own kids officially have 6families to visit when all these your husband's siblings get married.

Seriously a big family.

The reward is usually huge...And mind you, the will reciprocate every treatment you give them now.