Thanks a lot bro, you have been more than helpful.

Khd95:
You passed thru school, you didn't allow school to pass thru you, all in the name of I want to make good grades..now you are lamenting

School is the best and surest way to socialize,connect, ,test your wooing skills, bleep, and what not.


It's not bad that you concentrated fully on making good grades, but it's bad that you neglected other aspects of school life.

What you need to do now is first of all, dress well, look cool, smell nice, if you have beards cool, from it well, if not nothing Spoil.

Once this is done, socialize with your fellow guys first, learn how to start conversation and keep it going with your guy man, there won't be any air of awkwardness, unlike when you converse with the opposite sex, I for advise smoke, but that thing isn't for everyone. Build your self confidence first, make your self feel you are the most handsome and coolest guy you have ever seen, no dull your self

Once you have learn how to keep up conversation with your fellow guy man, let am know your predicament, guys are always willing to help fellow guys in situations like this.

Now go out and have fun, learn to enjoy your own company first, you will definitely meet ladies where ever you go, try to maintain eye contact with anyone you fancy, ,flirt with your eyes, let her know you noticed her, if she's into you too, she go dey look your side once once, then cut her one wicked wink and grin.

Girls like men that are confident and bold, one sure way I start conversation with random girls for fun is merely walking up to her and telling her her hair is nice, her nails or cool, or her gown is fire, with a smile.

Except she be ogbanje, she will smile back and say thank you, the rest is history

If you don't mind, we go link up, I know bad places mostly around mainland

That won't happen, man. I'm extremely cautious and careful.

mardis:
This one you're mentioning exotic things, making you sound like a big boy. Sha don't go an fall into one ingbeke that will milk you dry.

Is not that you can't get a gf, the issue is that you are looking for decent girls who are intellectually sound and that my friend is hard.
They exist no doubt but they are locked up in their rooms after lectures or work, just pressing phone and minding their business.
The ones you see on the streets are something else

So try Facebook, especially any crush or romance group in your locality, you might be lucky (or wiser depending on who you got hooked)

Don't answer these women here shooting their shot, they see you as shy and naive plus you also earn good money, they are like sharks thirsty for blood. They'll milk you bro.

We no go drink poison because we de thirsty.

courage411:

Thank you, I am not active in church, I just take my bag and leave immediately after services, I am trying to avoid any inconveniences that comes with familiarizing oneself with church members, childhood trauma, if you know what I mean.

Start taking courses or watching videos on YouTube on social Interaction, Attraction, and Confidence and charisma. Practice what you learn.

You will see major improvement within a year

You can follow these channels and go through their playlists

FarFromAverage

Charisma on Command

Thank me later

courage411:
I am 27 years old, never had a girlfriend or sex (the ones that count, I was molested when I was six by two sisters and it lasted for about 4years.), I had been mainly fixated on trying to hustle my way into greatness, I was a bookworm as a student and didn't bother about relationships in school because I wanted this best results possible, which wasn't the case in the end, but wasn't bad at all. As a result I missed opportunities to learn a thing or two about women, I am extremely introverted and to cap it all up, I am in tech working remotely for a foreign company, as such I am indoors 24/ 7. I tried online dating, it's scammers and hookers all over, whenever I go swimming, the girls I mostly see seem like they sell their bodies for money. I don't have friends, I am extremely lonely despite earning some pretty good dough due to exchange rates and cost of living. I don't really know what to do, I just need a good lady, pretty in her own right, that works as hard as I do, with big aspirations. What can I do people? Is there a spot I can visit for more decent ladies? I stay on the island, lekki axis. I am shy too. �

Bro I can give you some sure audio books to help you out no problem... Please DM me I don't need money I just need job related info in exchange.

No guy is lonely nor single

@Op I am like you too..I'm a very shy and introverted guy.I'm 29 with no woman in my life and I'm not desperate about it as I have been also fixated my mind on becoming great...but one thing is that don't ever change yourself for anything, you will surely see a woman that will like you for who you are, women uses various means to be with the man they want. they can do this mostly by initiating conversations with you if this happens the first few times she's seeing you then I think she's yours 80% , you just applied the finish touches to it by also getting along with her.

Op i can help you build up ur confidence and beautiful hangout places ,you can message privately

I have a friend for u but she don't stay in Lagos

What tribe are u

Am in similar boat, mine is even worst am extremely jovial. Am the type that once I step into a place everywhere becomes lively but I have never had a gf in my life before.

I stayed in Nigeria for years no gf, after I moved out of Nigeria my social media is full of messages from girls I knew all those years but never dated me.

Am in a new country same, I am thinking maybe it’s because I am too jovial that’s y, I heard girls don’t like guys who are jovial or smile alot

Wow, I thought the funniest guys get the girls, I have been lied to. Maybe we should connect and do couple of challenges together. Let's see who escapes this sinking boat first.

Coldie:
Am in similar boat, mine is even worst am extremely jovial. Am the type that once I step into a place everywhere becomes lively but I have never had a gf in my life before.

I stayed in Nigeria for years no gf, after I moved out of Nigeria my social media is full of messages from girls I knew all those years but never dated me.

Am in a new country same, I am thinking maybe it’s because I am too jovial that’s y, I heard girls don’t like guys who are jovial or smile alot

I am Yoruba.

Pweetyccee:
I have a friend for u but she don't stay in Lagos

What tribe are u

Truth is, I have had some advances in the past, these advances have mainly come from opportunists. I didn't fall victim because, I wasn't desperate. I am not desperate now too, but I want to change my status for real this time. You might do that too, perhaps, actively trying to change one's status will create an atmosphere where, one will meet people who might fancy one.

Huracio:
@Op I am like you too..I'm a very shy and introverted guy.I'm 29 with no woman in my life and I'm not desperate about it as I have been also fixated my mind on becoming great...but one thing is that don't ever change yourself for anything, you will surely see a woman that will like you for who you are, women uses various means to be with the man they want. they can do this mostly by initiating conversations with you if this happens the first few times she's seeing you then I think she's yours 80% , you just applied the finish touches to it by also getting along with her.

Coldie:
Am in similar boat, mine is even worst am extremely jovial. Am the type that once I step into a place everywhere becomes lively but I have never had a gf in my life before.

I stayed in Nigeria for years no gf, after I moved out of Nigeria my social media is full of messages from girls I knew all those years but never dated me.

Am in a new country same, I am thinking maybe it’s because I am too jovial that’s y, I heard girls don’t like guys who are jovial or smile alot

Start acting what you used as moniker.

Coldie:
Am in similar boat, mine is even worst am extremely jovial. Am the type that once I step into a place everywhere becomes lively but I have never had a gf in my life before.

I stayed in Nigeria for years no gf, after I moved out of Nigeria my social media is full of messages from girls I knew all those years but never dated me.

Am in a new country same, I am thinking maybe it’s because I am too jovial that’s y, I heard girls don’t like guys who are jovial or smile alot

Girls love a man who can bring laughter to their soul but you don't have to mumu yourself to b funny

BTTS:


Firstly, I’m not in Lagos state.
Secondly, that’s the only thing I can do. Not with cases of girls killed from meeting up with strangers.

Next time, don’t channel your thoughts on only one route

Well, what you proposed is a good start. One step at a time

AutoChick4U:
Girls love a man who can bring laughter to their soul but you don't have to mumu yourself to b funny

There’s a difference between been jovial and being funny. Jovial I mean I can just come into a place and easily blend in not like I start cracking joke with people or sth. I am that kind of person that’s good in having a conversation cause am versatile in almost everything that’s what I mean

courage411:
I am Yoruba.

oh okay

Coldie:

There’s a difference between been jovial and being funny. Jovial I mean I can just come into a place and easily blend in not like I start cracking joke with people or sth. I am that kind of person that’s good in having a conversation cause am versatile in almost everything that’s what I mean

Well, you'll find someone when the time is right

arthurwillia:


I wonder when you guys say you don’t get babes or sex, it baffles me. You are still even looking for places to hangout when life has turn to digital world.. online dating apps dey there. Instagram Twitter Facebook dey there
Meet plenty people
Babes wey I don knack for tinder alone go don reach like 15.
Download tinder tagged and so on, bomb ig Facebook and so on
My 2 cents for op

You're advising him to bomb for girls instead of clients

Wait make slawomiir catch you

Nairaland single ladies where una dey? Our bro is finding love oooo.

Join a unit in church and build friendship, then progress from there.

Ogbeni...this ur approach is very wrong. U nor get male friends??.
U cannot be hanging out with girls alone.
You need male friends too to balance things, keep ur instincts sharp and also connect u.
..cos if u think u have seen it all with ladies, U never jam bdat.
U need to explore guy..enta freestyle mode.

courage411:
I am 27 years old, never had a girlfriend or sex (the ones that count, I was molested when I was six by two sisters and it lasted for about 4years.), I had been mainly fixated on trying to hustle my way into greatness, I was a bookworm as a student and didn't bother about relationships in school because I wanted this best results possible, which wasn't the case in the end, but wasn't bad at all. As a result I missed opportunities to learn a thing or two about women, I am extremely introverted and to cap it all up, I am in tech working remotely for a foreign company, as such I am indoors 24/ 7. I tried online dating, it's scammers and hookers all over, whenever I go swimming, the girls I mostly see seem like they sell their bodies for money. I don't have friends, I am extremely lonely despite earning some pretty good dough due to exchange rates and cost of living. I don't really know what to do, I just need a good lady, pretty in her own right, that works as hard as I do, with big aspirations. What can I do people? Is there a spot I can visit for more decent ladies? I stay on the island, lekki axis. I am shy too. �

Come make i give you one geh

citywal:
Use to be just like you, I also live around lekki axis working remotely also. Tho no gf for now but I do go out try to connect and socialize (mostly mind the kind of people I roll up to tho) I had to learn how to enjoy my own company. Try that.

Good concept here. Take a tip from this brief. You are not alone this way, until you grow out of it by discovering more of yourself. Goodluck.

kullozone:


You're advising him to bomb for girls instead of clients

Wait make slawomiir catch you

Lol money now be him problem na whine Dey e Dey find woman

courage411:
I am 27 years old, never had a girlfriend or sex (the ones that count, I was molested when I was six by two sisters and it lasted for about 4years.), I had been mainly fixated on trying to hustle my way into greatness, I was a bookworm as a student and didn't bother about relationships in school because I wanted this best results possible, which wasn't the case in the end, but wasn't bad at all. As a result I missed opportunities to learn a thing or two about women, I am extremely introverted and to cap it all up, I am in tech working remotely for a foreign company, as such I am indoors 24/ 7. I tried online dating, it's scammers and hookers all over, whenever I go swimming, the girls I mostly see seem like they sell their bodies for money. I don't have friends, I am extremely lonely despite earning some pretty good dough due to exchange rates and cost of living. I don't really know what to do, I just need a good lady, pretty in her own right, that works as hard as I do, with big aspirations. What can I do people? Is there a spot I can visit for more decent ladies? I stay on the island, lekki axis. I am shy too. �

please try as much as possible to talk to girls but most of them go shun you and you will feel discourage ,its part of the game. Most of them will just want to eat your money like I suspect that gift0123 because she want to prey on your naive and chop your money small because people like her have someone but looking for foo.l that will be spending on them. But if she accept NO MONEY NO SEX terms then you can date her. Just talk to girl ,maybe after church service and you spot a girl you like, just walk to her but meeting in church don't mean she is a good girl oooo , a good girl will not bill you unnecessary for 2months of dating, just basic thing will be done for her

Thanks a lot.

aktolly54:
please try as much as possible to talk to girls but most of them go shun you and you will feel discourage ,its part of the game. Most of them will just want to eat your money like I suspect that gift0123 because she want to prey on your naive and chop your money small because people like her have someone but looking for foo.l that will be spending on them. But if she accept NO MONEY NO SEX terms then you can date her. Just talk to girl ,maybe after church service and you spot a girl you like, just walk to her but meeting in church don't mean she is a good girl oooo , a good girl will not bill you unnecessary for 2months of dating, just basic thing will be done for her

[quote author=aktolly54 post=108356996]please try as much as possible to talk to girls but most of them go shun you and you will feel discourage ,its part of the game. Most of them will just want to eat your money like I suspect that gift0123 because she want to prey on your naive and chop your money small because people like her have someone but looking for foo.l that will be spending on them. But if she accept NO MONEY NO SEX terms then you can date her. Just talk to girl ,maybe after church service and you spot a girl you like, just walk to her but meeting in church don't mean she is a good girl oooo , a good girl will not bill you unnecessary for 2months of dating, just basic thing will be done for her[/qu

[quote author=gift0123 post=108358606][/quote]pele good lady , go and date him but on your first outing, pay for your meals while he pay for his own too since you are independent woman and can take care of yourself. You can even pay for both your meals and no money for TF for independent woman ooo

Ashawosboifrien:

Bro I can give you some sure audio books to help you out no problem... Please DM me I don't need money I just need job related info in exchange.

audio book to help him because you want to fish where op is making money too? I pity OP if he show you bakery where he made his bread because people like you will spoil the business for him that he(op) will find it difficult to strive in his line of business. Keep your audio thing please