Take study leave n use that time there to study and also access that way.Dont resign outrightly.

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

what level are you on? i will say take a paid leave. when u get there find ur feet and once u do you can resign otherwise come back home for sometime then take another leave and go back there until u find a decent job there

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

You're having cold feet cus of the bad news people post everytime. For every bad family, there are 20 happy family bit they don't come out to post pictures and celebrate.

My sister met her husband in the same UK, she was a new nurse like your wife when she met him, she trained him in school, provided shelter food and today they have 4 kids in the UK and he's gainfully employed as an engineer. They have never had a quarrel that lasted more than 2hrs and are going strong.

You and wifey already discussed this before she applied, pray and commit your goings into God's hands and go join your wife with your kids and reunite your family (as soon as possible). Konji doesn't respect anyone.

Ever thought that you could lose your job and farm here ?
Ever thought that you could get a blue collar job within a month of entering the UK while you school?

Abroad plan: Get to the UK, enrol in a program to boost your credentials, apply for a remote job or any job you can find... Make sure you earn something no matter how little. while doing that, make sure you're studying cus dem no rate naija credentials for there.

Don't forget to get your transcripts from your university before going .

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

nwanna o gi gbara akwukwo na ghana ebe izu uka na bu gaara aga

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

What a good news sir!!! Wishing you and your entire family more ground breaking news sir. Sir, if at the end you decide to move, can you please for CHRIST sake give me that your FARM BUSINESS to manage for you wholeheartedly? I promise never to fail you sir, and as well deliver in a great way!!! Wishing you all the very best in your life endeavour sir. Thanks in advance!!!

uthlaw:
thank you...pls which visa you used to travel!

Jondelng:

Any skill.m
Barbing is good though.

is barbing skill enough to survive in abroad??

na2016:


So many things are involved here which as an outsider you may not know. The woman must be extremely good and maybe the man was also good. I have seen women build houses in Nigerian while their husband is suffering in this country. Never depend on a woman, ensure you have your destiny in your hands.

you are right. It all boils down to the parties in the marriage. How much they understand each other and how they have treated each other in the past. What works for couple A may not work for couple B.

Do not me leave until you are very sure what you are going to do. I repeat, do not leave! Try visiting and see things for yourself first before leaving your work.

Overview

Very likely you will turn to house wife. As your wife provisions you, your house wife duties must increase simultaneously. Any failure to comply may lead to homelessness.

60 percent chance to divorce. The family you're trying to keep will leave you alone in the UK, if you don't deliver financially. You'd have lost everything you built in Nigeria and would most likely fall into depression.


Implementation

Get a plan before you go or don't.

Your plan is the barrier between you staying or leaving not your wife, so make one before you leave.

Something like how to survive the first 2 year's (care work, cabbie, factory jobs, customer service, retail), then build ontop(acquire skills in high demand) of that to sustain the family( high income job).

Awareness
Either way, it'll take time for you to settle and you must be willing to humble yourself before madam as you quickly work hard to level up.

Bring in a competent hands to handle ur farm,apply for study leave and go with ur wife

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

Youll regret it. Better don't give up ur source of income.

BiggyB242:


Una they like this comment, this guy is clearly a muslim/Hausa. They hardly leave the country.

You're one of the problems of this country.
Why not give your advise instead of worrying about mine?
Mind you, I am married for almost 20 years don't you think I'm a bit experienced to issue marital advise?

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

Never too late to develop a game plan. But above everything, leave that hell-hole called Nigeria. When you get there U.K you will see how things work according to plan

AutoChick4U:
Youll regret it. Better don't give up ur source of income.

Comment like this dey always make me boil in ANGER!!! You be GOD ni, abi you be SEER? make una dey try happy wit person once in life time na!!!

Take a leave of absence from Yr work place for a year and go to UK and see for Yr self and yu are sure you can get a decent job before finally relocating

ednut1:
Is your madam comfortable being the bread winner As she will earn more than you due to her job, before you can catch up he go take time and upgrading of skills. Discuss all these o make dem no turn you to house boy or send you packing.

I like your comment...it makes a lot of sense

Take it from me, he can't prevent her from mixing with those people you mentioned. It is left to the woman to balance things out or go the way of those who just found new 'freedon' and think they don't need a man.

tuboi:
Bro, pls move and you will not regret it….the world is on default mood cos of the pandemic…Don’t let people deceive you….Go with the mindset of making it over there and not depending on your wife…Also prevent her from associating with feminist, divorcée and people who would want to westernize her…God bless you…..

uthlaw:
please, which skills someone can learn before coming to UK!

It’s very important to note that it will take you not less than 10 yrs to settle down to life in the UK as you have to get trained on new skill to navigate the system.
Your Nigerian certificate is useless in UK and you have to face the start reality of getting a new skills(Nursing Degree or other health related courses) and as a result settle for something that will pay your bills and rent to support your wife.
The only jobs available for a new immigrant is security and menial jobs for the guys and health assistants for the ladies, however your wife will be the bread winner until you’re able to fit in to the system.
All will be well if you have a diamond of a woman in your wife.
The choice is yours but I wish you the very best as you’re welcome to the United Kingdom.

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

You can leave to the UK. Never tell anyone that you are traveling abroad. Put someone in charge of your farm business. Take leave from your office. If after 2 months, God helps you and you get your feet, then you can resign from your work. But please don’t resign cos a bird in hand is worth 1 million in the bush

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

Why not be going there on visits to understand their life style, if you can cope relocating or not

Well even if you finally relocate there, just cooperate with your wife and don't go there to boss her

Be a good loving husband and father
Assist her where needed and happiness will be yours

Why the emoji
Sometin on your mind?

Waakanda:
Please do

Truvelisback:
Think very well b4 making ur decision. A bird at hand is worth 2 in the bush.

FOR THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW HOW TO CATCH BIRDS

Ahmed0336:
People varies sha. Me I no go fit quit my job, leave country just to go depend on my wife.

If you must quit your job and leave this country, better know what you're getting yourself into.

Lol he’s not depending on her

He can work unlimited too

TempleHouse:


It’s very important to note that it will take you not less than 10 yrs to settle down to life in the UK as you have to get trained on new skill to navigate the system.
Your Nigerian certificate is useless in UK and you have to face the start reality of getting a new skills(Nursing Degree or other health related courses) and as a result settle for something that will pay your bills and rent to support your wife.
The only jobs available for a new immigrant is security and menial jobs for the guys and health assistants for the ladies, however your wife will be the bread winner until you’re able to fit in to the system.
All will be well if you have a diamond of a woman in your wife.
The choice is yours but I wish you the very best as you’re welcome to the United Kingdom.

LOL

Nigerian cert is not useless, don’t talk out of your ass

People do company transfers from NG to UK with issues

Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

don’t quit yet, just take a little break. Use the time to observe

My advise for you is that you take study leave for 2 years to stay with your wife while your salary is on going at home and if things are not palatable in uk.. you will return home to your beautiful civil service work... little word is for the wise...

That’s why you need to marry the right woman….I know of Nigerians happily married in USA and Canada

You'll be fine. You have your wifey (who has a good job), and you can enjoy a bunch of new experiences together.

Go see some castles, take a lake cruise, enjoy the coast, or take a scenic train ride. London has great music. Go out and get your wife's wig sweaty.

If you're concerned about what you'll do, train in some random trade, and do that until you find the position you really want. You also have farming business experience, there's no reason why you couldn't do that in UK.

And remember that you're not that far from home. It's fast and inexpensive to visit. You (and your kids) can be there every summer and major holiday.

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Ficient:
I'm a federal civil servant, wife just got a job in the UK as a nurse. This has been our plan, although she initiated the idea which I supported especially bcuz of our kids. As the time is getting closer I'm developing some cold feet, but eventually I'm sure I will move. Don't really know if leaving my civil service job and farming business is a good idea, I don't really have an Abroad game plan yet.

What if she goes with the kids and settle, while you join them later. She is lucky that she got a job and you people wont have to struggle or start from the scratch. But be rest assured that you will have to work hard for your self first to be . Its a good thing