BRATISLAVA:


What back up plan? Isn't the husband there? Isn't he a parent too? All these negligent men looking for sympathy when they refuse to be a part of their family aside bringing in money. Now you can see how money does nothing. Absolutely nothing. She doesn't need a back up plan if he's really the father of those children.

Given the hypothetical situation, this is a thread created by a slow lying man.

Hahaha. Wives who store cooked food in the fridge are stupid, ba? Or those who ask their friends and sisters to look after their kids while away are unwise? Please free me, the hungry kids in this case are not my children. I have mine to feed and take care of and I got no time to argue about how a mother should fend for her kids. Something that should come normally

BRATISLAVA:


Can't the man cook? What sort of mediocrity and stupidity would make a man unable to cook? Aren't the kids that he is starving his own kids too? Under the circumstances, the man doesn't have good sense. Even preparing a salad is rocket science to the man. What a spoiled troll.

This is a fake story. Especially after he claims to have a live-in maid.

So it's the woman that have the best sense right? A man will toil from morning to night to make sure the family is cool then a house wife who contributes nothing financially will still expect the. Man to do her work toooo baaaa? Na 2by 2 I dey knack women who reason like this

Respect. Merry Christmas brotherly

wirinet:

Compliments of the season you too. May you find happiness this season and beyond.


You do have the power to terminate the marriage. If it's a court wedding, employ a lawyer and file at the nearest magistrate court. If it's traditional marriage, get your people together to go to your wife's people to return the bride price.


It's most probably an emergency. You said further down that her mother is sick. It depends on the nature and seriousness of the sickness. She wanted to be there for her mother in case she dies.

You my friend is being unreasonable for getting angry and wanting a divorce because your wife went to see her sick mother during Christmas. Is this the last chrismas that will happen before Jesus comes? Besides are you a child? To most men Christmas is for children. Abi you expect your wife to take you to see father Christmas?


Family is supposed to be together every time (as situation demands) and not only at Christmas. Nothing stops you from taking the children out after she gets back. There is no law that says you can only take your children out on Christmas days.


You mean you can't prepare ordinary salad? And you are proud to say that? Well should out to Niger Delta guys - We dey cook pass our wives. My children alway look forward too days I take over the kitchen. They all tell my wife that I am a better cook.


It was an emergency. She didn't have time or state of mind to put her house in order before going to see her sick mother. Why can't you help her put the house in order? After all marriage is supposed to be a partnership and not a employer/ employee relationship.


Marriage is not about tribe or clan, but about love, understanding and respect. There are lots of marriages from the same clan failing, even couples from Enugu/Anambra.


Her mum is sick and all you care about is your own selfish interest? You are very cruel and selfish.
Your kids are crying all day even though they are in your custody? You must be a bad father then. I stayed alone with my kids for 1 week when their mother went to the village to bury her elder brother. There was no crying.


Women are closer and more emotionally attached to their parents than guys. Most women take care of their parents after marriage than men.



You need to look into yourself and make necessary adjustments. You don't seem to love your wife and it shows. That's why she probably don't show you love too. You want to her to sexually satisfy you but you are treating her like a house girl. It doesn't work that way.
My bother look into the mirror, and there you will find your problems.

Verysmart101:


So it's the woman that have the best sense right? A man will toil from morning to night to make sure the family is cool then a house wife who contributes nothing financially will still expect the. Man to do her work toooo baaaa? Na 2by 2 I dey knack women who reason like this

Toil by sitting in an office from morning till night? All these rumors of toil are just rumors to make it seem like men are on the farm laboring from day to day. Toil indeed. It's called 9-5 in the office. So the woman will toil from morning till morning following after the children and the man, cleaning up and all the things you think aren't toil; or isn't it physical toil where she sweats and gets burned in the kitchen? It's not toil cleaning puke and poo? He's only done it for a day and hear all the complaints and how he wants to divorce her. With all the toil taking care of the children for years did she threaten to divorce him?

Admit it, the man is stupid and mediocre if this isn't fiction. He should go and take care of his children. His money means nothing, and his toil means nothing if he can't do the basic things for them. When we say that getting money won't solve your deepseated irrational male entitled mentality issues, many of you don't listen. Get married and find out.

Montaque:


Hahaha. Wives who store cooked food in the fridge are stupid, ba? Or those who ask their friends and sisters to look after their kids while away are unwise? Please free me, the hungry kids in this case are not my children. I have mine to feed and take care of and I got no time to argue about how a mother should fend for her kids. Something that should come normally

If she didn't cook before traveling, you as a man can't cook and comfort your children? You'd rather watch them suffer because you don't know how to prepare a salad? What happened to your hands and body. The mediocrity and toxic masculinity in this story are pathetic to read.

I don't have time to argue how a father should fend for his kids.

theForth:


You're just being irrational.

So men should provide wholly for the family and still do house chores?

Such a joke.

You are the one being irrational. Let the woman work and you stay at home and see how difficult it is staying at home . I am sure you won’t even have energy to eat any food you made. You think you have women energy? Please try what we do.

Since the OP said he’s not gaining anything from the wife then he should take care of his home and let see how that works out.

He can as well marry another wife that won’t work too as he implied.
Merry Christmas ohh

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

oga she go nack, if you no believe call her people and tell them she's sick. mumu man

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

Despite what everyone is saying about you not being able to take care of your kinds et all, I think it was wrong for your wife to abandon you guys this season, and to do it without leaving food.

I can't imagine leaving my husband and kids and travelling, and not to talk of during the festive season. For me to on a trip without them, we would have agreed and put some plans in place.

So it's not about you not knowing how to take care of your kids alone or cook for them. It's important that she went to see her sick mum but she should have made plans before leaving n

Problem no dey finish for this life and people still dey manufacture join!

A gown ass man saying money to cook is not the problem but you don't know to cook oya put the money inside pot na and chant incantations.For your kids' sake, there's YouTube...use it!Take the kids to eat out,flex your muscle.
Which mother who could help the situation will leave her kids hurriedly on Christmas day?

If their mum isn't at home,think outside the box.No be two of una born them?Women actually put up with people like this?won ku iroju o.

Some women die at childbirth o,some don't live long enough to celebrate their kid's first Christmas with them and some of their men (God bless them) take the initiative.

For you to come and lament on Nairaland with disgusting undertone of threat to marry someone else,is proof that your wife won't be missing anything... in fact,God no go shame her.May she find her happiness because obviously she can't depend on you.