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Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Phillipsburg: 9:49am On Dec 30, 2021 |
alpamo6: All these are never because of a girl. And every family having it's ups and downs doesn't mean this is how I want my life to be. Stay safe 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Oluromantic: 9:49am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Midas01:You're calling a person who hasn't attacked you such a derogatory name. You have mind issues. Nothing else you say makes sense |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 9:56am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Phillipsburg:there's only a little difference between me and you right now. BTW how old are you |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Nobody: 9:58am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Phillipsburg: You're welcome ![]() See? Your father must have been abused just the way he is abusing you and your mother currently. I pray God will open his mind and his heart to see what his doing to his own flesh and blood and to the mother of his children. Like I said before try to move out when you can to avoid his attitude permanently rubbing off on you as every thought and action you take now will affect your future tommorow. Keep on praying for him at a distance..never curse or insult him just be a good man I hope you are, focus on working hard, treat your girlfriend right and most importantly treat yourself right. Anger is of no use, do what makes you happy, when you move out try to show your dad love from a distance and appreciate your mom she's risking her life being with yourn dad, sadly society paints women who leave their homes to escape abuse in a bad light crippling them to endure harsh situations in marriage. May God turn all your sorrows into laughter and your mourning into Joy. Please use your experience for good and never become like your dad by treating your children or wife on an inhumane manner. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Estherqueen50(f): 10:02am On Dec 30, 2021 |
I'm sorry to hear this but never regret being born in a family that birthed you. How they live their lives is entirely up to them and how you live your own is up to you. For the fact their marriage is a disaster to you does not mean yours will be. You can from the experience vow to have a loving and blissful home or become like them it's a thing of choice. So you must be delibrate and intentional about your achieving it. With your write-up I presumed you are staying with your parents, I don't know how old you are but for you to be worried about a relationship with the one you love and even marriage in the picture makes me believe you aint a kid or teenager so what are your plans of leaving your parents house. I don't know if I misunderstood but your dad have an issue of proximity. So why not leave your parents house, cater for yourself or are you planning on getting married and still leaving with them? If no, what are your plans. You need to start by being independent and responsible before you start considering marriage. If not just leave the idea and work on yourself. I believe in you and I know the cycle won't repeat itself if you decide to. So really think about this carefully and loom for a way out of the ugly situation. God bless. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Nobody: 10:03am On Dec 30, 2021 |
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Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Nobody: 10:08am On Dec 30, 2021 |
This is exactly like my family except my dad doesn't come home drunk. I'm very traumatised... I am scared of myself, why I can't even relate with ladies for too long cause I'm scared I'd eventually became like dad... I really do not want to... We don't deserve dad's like that. No kid does, maybe in the next life we wouldn't be so unlucky.. Trauma got me so fvcked up. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by MuteMute(m): 10:10am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Phillipsburg: Op u have solve it already come back home late but you can find a job doing that takes yur mind of yur parent issue |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 10:11am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Samakus:I am seriously praying for him too. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 10:18am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Karleb:Aswear these guy don't know anything i Dont even think they can endure like OP. this situation can disrupt your sainity. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 1boylikevhis(m): 10:19am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Na money go stop all these nonsense and you go need dey selfish for a while. Find yourself first and then set the others free from your alcoholic father. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Connected1: 10:20am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Upon all these dramas, you still have a girlfriend, Nawa. Don't tell me she doesn't give you stresses too. As a man that you are sit your father down and tell him your mind. Talk to him and make him tell you reason for his everyday drama and troubles so that you can solve it together as a family. Well If he doesn't agree to tell you or quarrels with you. Tell him you will butcher him and put his head on the streets if he displays any of his usual attitude again. Fear go catch am small, I am telling you because I once did it. You have the confidence and mind. If he doesn't want to go the easy way then the hard way is the way, I am not saying you should kill him oh. Just give him threats, I am the not so extrovertive type, so when I say some things,everyone knows I mean it and I most times do them. Never say your family is hell. Be grateful to God and be happy always, do things that make you happy. Don't let the pressure weigh you down. And that girlfriend of yours leave her for now as your dad doesn't like her family. Unless you don't want to him to change his attitude. The best thing you can do to yourself now is leave that girlfriend of yours, and don't ever insult your parents,else you will regret it for life. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Immarocks(f): 10:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Dear Op...my advice to you is ....work on your emotional intelligence and your psychological health whether you like it or not that toxic environment will affecting the way you train your own children and interpersonal relationship with others ,learn to find peace and joy away from the house because that is not a home.the society is dysfunctional because many home are in disarray and dysfunctional .remember the way you are feeling now and try not to allow your own family and children feel the same way .please break the circle. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 10:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
mechanics:Lol. He'll forgive him when he leaves the house. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by mutantninja: 10:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
HabaHaba:That mentality won’t take you far my guy, evil must not be tolerated in any form or shape. It’s good men like you that make evils like this thrive freely.. what if this psychological situation leads to his untimely demise? Lol... you think you know about life but you don’t ... if you don’t face your problems head on it’ll consume you sooner or later... I believe in the spiritual but the physical has more power than the spiritual... if you can’t conquer the physical you’re doomed! |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Guyman02: 10:23am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Phillipsburg: This girl is part of your problem now because you are wrongly feeling that you have found the love you are missing at home. From the tone of your voice, you are gradually imbibing toxicity, please my young brother calm down a bit. Poverty and failures can make a man without fear of God to become toxic, that's why a lot of people have advised you to focus on your future and let that girl be for now. What you need now is to move closer to God like Pastor Righteousness said above, you should find succour in Jesus and not that girl and keep on hold that relationship with the girl which is not approved by your father, he may be a drunkard but there's still something he is seeing as an elder that you don't know, prepare for your forthcoming NYSC deployment and use that period to define what you want in life and reduce your disobedience and toxicity to him over that girl, you have a future ahead of you. Secondly, you put all the blame for the crisis on your father without seeing the role being played by your mum too who presents herself to you all as a victim, wise women will always weigh their words and actions if they sense resentment and frustrations from their husbands, she probably makes him feel less of a man by reminding him of his failures rather than praising and celebrating him for little successes. Advice your mum to always question herself before responding or taking any action with regards to your father and to always see her husband as the head and representative of our Lord Jesus in that house as Christ is the head of the church, she should always ask herself, will Jesus be happy with what I am going to say or do? Bro, relax, calm down and believe that greater things lay ahead, try to talk more calmly with your dad, ask him how his day went, ask him if you should get him water to drink or take his bath, discuss how you look forward to doing things that will make him happy, how you have decided to focus on your future than girlfriend, if you have little change buy Suya and eat with him and you will see changes even though your mum may accuse you of suddenly taking sides with him but don't mind, everything will be okay for all of you. God bless! 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by don4real18(m): 10:24am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Rent an apartment and do well for yourself. |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by GetMeRight: 10:26am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Phillipsburg: It looks like you still depend on him. Otherwise, why couldn't you move out and secure your own apartment far away from them? |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by Weyrehmod: 10:28am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Although i no get clothes and foodstuff for this festive period that is not my major concern I need cash to repair this laptop that someone dash me(battery and keyboard needs to be changed) so i can join the virtual web development training that will commence by January I really wish I'll see help so i can aquire this web development skill.. Pls i need help |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 10:29am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u:seriously i don't use offensive words but you need to shut up |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by havigold(f): 10:30am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Phillipsburg: Hello writer , the long epistle written by you shows the following portrays your personality . I think you don't understand the aspect called LiFE I think you don't understand the term " WHO AM I" I think you are deeply interested in relationship when you don't have any KNOWLEDGE about relationships... I think you are still a YOUNG CHILD , who does not want to BREAK OUT from his environment , rather BLAMES his parents on things that are not LIFEs ' priorities.... I think you have not be hit by LIFE CHALLENGES , which reshape PEOPLES MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY, MORALLY etc... I think you need A GOOD FRIEND, MENTOR, LIFE COACH and BUSINESS TRAINER who will guide you all the way long... These are my humble thoughts , am not here to bash your parents, girlfriend and environment because these are what makes life twisted ... Do pardon me for not taking sides with you ..... |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by ogwuche4u(m): 10:34am On Dec 30, 2021 |
9182736455O1999: Bring it on wasted sperm |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 10:42am On Dec 30, 2021 |
havigold:i'm only happy you included i think before the whole trash |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by mastermaestro(m): 10:45am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Your father may be bad on the home front, but I can tell you confidently that he is trying to save you from making a marital mistake. From your story, his objection to your choice of relationship seems to be the crux of your frustration. You even mentioned that the girl’s mother is violent. ![]() Imagine moving from one troublesome family into another one. Think well! Leave that girl and face your forthcoming NYSC program. You will meet better choices there with whom you could build a decent family. Be wise, my friend. Don’t jump into marriage with anybody. Investigate the family setup thoroughly before taking serious steps. You don’t want to end up where you are running from. ![]() |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 10:45am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u:Lol. sorry i'm not offended |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 10:45am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u:Lol. sorry i'm not offended |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by schoolboymatt(m): 10:59am On Dec 30, 2021 |
nothing you can do to change this aside praying to God if you believe in that. for the sake of your sanity, I'll recommend you move to a further location if possible, move to where nobody knows you or know very little about you family. you can use school/work as an excuse for this. your house is full of bad negative energy and you can never think straight living there. you'd be lucky to make anything meaningful of your life leaving under that roof. should you choose to move out....loose the cell number you're known with. call home from time to time to get update and know how to assist them the way you can. if you die...dey no go burry you with family. no let family matter kill you. 1 Like |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by havigold(f): 11:01am On Dec 30, 2021 |
9182736455O1999: When you know say you sick , while you come NL for treatment ,... It shows say wetin dey worry you pass normal talk... # grow up # be responsible # love yourself more # get a little bit of moral ... |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by mechanics(m): 11:06am On Dec 30, 2021 |
9182736455O1999:hahhahah, that might be too late, what if he does not forgive him before he dies? |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by 9182736455O1999(m): 11:23am On Dec 30, 2021 |
havigold:but i love my self nd i'm grown up and responsible. i've got one of the best morals you'll ever find on planet earth ![]() |
Re: My Parents Are Using Their Lives To Ruin My Future!!! by benqo01(m): 11:33am On Dec 30, 2021 |
OP HAVE SEEN CASES LIKE THIS BEFORE,TRUST ME ITS HELL SUCH,ONE SHOULDNT PRAY TO BE IN SUCH A FAMILY COS ITS TOXIC...FIND A PLACE TO STAY INFACT FAR AWAY FROM THEM BUT DONT CUT COMMUNICATION COMPLETELY FROM YOUR SIBLINGS |
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