BABYharder:

This hurts i swear. Though my case was diff, the baby girl had my exact speck but she was only interested in our romance (No strings attached kinda smth). I became fed up and bounced.

Guys abeg always state your mission to her before she friend zones you impromptu.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

I got your mail..hope there ain't no problems?

Pilopher:

No not any problem your response caught my attention so I wanted to know if I could know the the person with such intelligent response..

SmartMen:

But why do girls insist on being friends when a guy says he will prefer to walk away and they don't want to date him? I will appreciate more experience guys to answer this one.

Truvelisback:
Stop complaining. Next time, learn to read ladies body language b4 approaching or shooting ur shot. I can see that ur feelings are hurt because she turned down ur proposal. Bro, let go of those feelings.

SmartMen:


You are funny.

If you are even talking about body language, a girl can still mess you up if she wants to and if you give room for it... there are no rules for them when it comes to these girls... their emotion is their brain...

What If I told you this same girl was worried at one time that I was withdrawn or wanted to withdraw? I asked her why and she because I don't reply to her chats on time. What does that tell you?

Listen, there are girls who just want you to feed their attention tank... they want you to just be there giving them attention and as someone stated above, she happens to be one of such. And when they do that, they make it look like you are the one needing them...

Even her last words were that we can still be friends (there is nothing wrong about that, is there?)... same friendship she does not even do anything to nurture? If I don't reach out I don't hear anything.

If I don't make it known by being direct as I have been with her, stating my reasons and her attitude, she is going to pick up her phone one day and call, acting like she didn't know what happened. It happens, it has happened and it will happen.
In fact, it was about to happen with this one based on her reply. I don't want such cos we are not kids.

Would you still want to be around such person, like your self-esteem is so low that you can't move on to someone else? You don't understand what I am talking about but your own conclusion is that because she turned me down?

Okay, she turned me down according to you... and I made it known that I don't want to be the one nurturing (by reaching out) a friendship/relationship that she had quietly exited from and if that means nobody hears from the other and things die, so be it... and she comes offering friendship? Do you see what she is doing there?

To give you an example, she said we can still gist... again, she wants me to still be feeding her attention tank. And my response when she said this was, no problem as long as she brings the gist and she never replied after that cos she knew I understood what she meant.

It is a subtle manipulation that makes her feel very important.

She even tried to make me feel miserable by saying good luck in your quest for a relationship. I quickly reminded her that I am in one already and in that instant, she requested I let it all slide cos it shook her. She didn't like how that reply made her feel.
A woman will not insult you directly...

and as you said, pay attention to her body language.

They do it subtly and they get mad when you find out their games.

What she means is that, you should be reaching out since your life depends on it lol, I will respond but don't expect me to reach out to you.

I left out one statement and if I mention it, it will give you a clear picture of what she thinks of me. You will see someone that overestimates her worth.

Dude, understand what is going on between the lines. This is a case of someone wanting to use a guy to while away time... NOTHING ELSE. A lot of girls do this and you should know it by now.

I don't want her coming to look for me months or years later and acting like she didn't know what made things die. That would be rubbish!

This reply is for others that might be reading to learn a thing or two. That is why it is this long.

Mercychen:
Maybe there's something they are gaining from the friendship. If not, they'll cut the guy off.

I remember during the lockdown, there was this man who was keeping me company via calls and chats. So he later started talking about relationship and marriage but I wasn't interested and I tried to make him understand we could be just friends and stick to the chats and calls only.

Now, I didn't like him for a relationship or marriage but I liked the fact that he kept me company that period ( lockdown) because the boredom was just too much plus I was enjoying the attention he was giving me.

Again, sometimes a girl can just be faking it that she wants to keep you as friends so you don't feel bad about the rejection or see her as heartless but in the real sense she doesn't want you around anymore for daring to ask her for a relationship. All that stunts is not to make you feel totally rejected. Been there, done that.

So guys. Don't go counting on it.

Truvelisback:
She likes u but treated u that way because u have been to nice and needy towards her. If u want her to start craving for u and crawling after u, Bullshit her, ignore her. It's good u ignored her. Start chatting with other beautiful and sex girls. Girls hates it when guys ignore them or refuse to give attention. Hurtful truth, If u want girls to love u and have regard for u, see them as shit and treat them like Shit until they make adjustment in their behaviour and prove to u that they aren't a shit.

GoodHardDick:
Simps will always be simps no Matter what!!

Oga She's only trying to control and manipulate you. that's how they behave towards Simps and weak men. She wants to make you a second or third option, should in case anything goes wrong with her current boyfriend, then she'll subscribe to you and keep cashing out

You better use your head, this is a new year and no guy is expected to simp around.

SmartMen:
I don't know why we don't have a thump up emoji here.

SmartMen:


Yes but at least, shouldn't one reach out once a while to check up on the other to know what's up?

Okay a guy sees that you don't even buzz if he does not do it. He comes to you and says since this is how you want things to be, if it will lead to everything dying, so be it...

And you go ahead saying..." we can still be friends" and added, "we can still be gisting" to which I responded, "no problem if you bring the gist" she didn't reply to that because she knows that I understood what she is trying to do.

where is the sense in that?

Anyway, I have deleted her number a minutes ago.

siofra:
She wants to study your character and see if you're the chop and run type.

Truvelisback:
To me, i don't take any girl too serious, no matter how beautiful or sexy u are except u are virgin, yes. I.e no man has ever dicked u b4. If u aren't a virgin and i am dating u, to me it's like i am dating a 2nd hand product, wey i wan just manage. So, no just do shakara for me. If u have this mindset girls won't toil with u. This why i like Wizkid, him no send u. U can see the way he handle ladies, even the ones older than him, so do the same. But love them when they later reduce their ego and Shakara.

He can learn by mistakes too,

bigcee:

We are waiting for you to open a thread about how you spent your salary on her and she still cheat on you. This one don't know anything.

SmartMen:


You are funny.

If you are even talking about body language, a girl can still mess you up if she wants to and if you give room for it... there are no rules for them when it comes to these girls... their emotion is their brain...

What If I told you this same girl was worried at one time that I was withdrawn or wanted to withdraw? I asked her why and she because I don't reply to her chats on time. What does that tell you?

Listen, there are girls who just want you to feed their attention tank... they want you to just be there giving them attention and as someone stated above, she happens to be one of such. And when they do that, they make it look like you are the one needing them...

Even her last words were that we can still be friends (there is nothing wrong about that, is there?)... same friendship she does not even do anything to nurture? If I don't reach out I don't hear anything.

If I don't make it known by being direct as I have been with her, stating my reasons and her attitude, she is going to pick up her phone one day and call, acting like she didn't know what happened. It happens, it has happened and it will happen.
In fact, it was about to happen with this one based on her reply. I don't want such cos we are not kids.

Would you still want to be around such person, like your self-esteem is so low that you can't move on to someone else? You don't understand what I am talking about but your own conclusion is that because she turned me down?

Okay, she turned me down according to you... and I made it known that I don't want to be the one nurturing (by reaching out) a friendship/relationship that she had quietly exited from and if that means nobody hears from the other and things die, so be it... and she comes offering friendship? Do you see what she is doing there?

To give you an example, she said we can still gist... again, she wants me to still be feeding her attention tank. And my response when she said this was, no problem as long as she brings the gist and she never replied after that cos she knew I understood what she meant.

It is a subtle manipulation that makes her feel very important.

She even tried to make me feel miserable by saying good luck in your quest for a relationship. I quickly reminded her that I am in one already and in that instant, she requested I let it all slide cos it shook her. She didn't like how that reply made her feel.
A woman will not insult you directly...

and as you said, pay attention to her body language.

They do it subtly and they get mad when you find out their games.

What she means is that, you should be reaching out since your life depends on it lol, I will respond but don't expect me to reach out to you.

I left out one statement and if I mention it, it will give you a clear picture of what she thinks of me. You will see someone that overestimates her worth.

Dude, understand what is going on between the lines. This is a case of someone wanting to use a guy to while away time... NOTHING ELSE. A lot of girls do this and you should know it by now.

I don't want her coming to look for me months or years later and acting like she didn't know what made things die. That would be rubbish!

This reply is for others that might be reading to learn a thing or two. That is why it is this long.

Mercychen:


Eiyaaa.. sowi o

BABYharder:

For what exactly?
For leaving my friend with benefit?