Kristty:

though, i told my fiance about him and he believed me initially, but it's getting out of hand cos this guy keeps calling even when am wit my guy. There was a day my fiance came to our house and dis so called guy called but i wasnt there to answer the call so my fiance picked the call to tell the caller to call back, but unfortunately it was this guy and the first thing he said was "hello dear how are you?"all my fiance cud do was to bang the call and put off my fone.

it was not funny at all cos my fiance was so angry believing all i have told him about the guy were lies.

Some men can do anything to get a punny, even if to buy you rolls royce ride to dat thing, they can do it.

As a matter of fact, he wants to do chop & clean mouth then tell u bye bye.

D'banj - scapegoat

Keep quiet dude, pray that what you dont know, will not know you, were you there when these 2 people were porking or started the relationship

Guys like this are very stubborn and he wants just one thing. If you yield to him you are finished because he would ruin your life. He has money and feels he can always have his way. The simple truth is to ignore him. I mean do not say a word to him, if he comes to your office just act like he is not talking to you or something. I am sure he would get tired.

what i knw is dat d guy wl nt wake up 1 day nd say he luvs u blind without something underneath.u must hav dated d guy,deceivd him dat u wl marry each oda.nd nw u luv smbdy else afta he cared for u. People,dnt say i support d guy rather am giving d analysis of d situation. I developed skepticism bcoz i was a victim of such clever game frm my formal girl. It rendered me single til nw coz i mustn't fall again. She promised 2 marry me afta my proposal. So we continued unti she met a *cash guy*,dis was d start of d end of our relationship. I wl do evritin 4 her 2 be hapy.a lot of money went alng.as wel as my tym nd energy. Latr i discovrd dat she was deluding me.she came up wit a crass pretext. Thn i knew i was a fool! I didnt evn bleep her! It paind me,but i took heart. She nw came up wit story nearly similar 2 dis. My efforts are vieing 4 vengeance nd she cant escape it. So katty,go nd reconcile wit him tactfully. If u dnt,your marriage wl  suffer 4 it. Howeva,i dnt lyk d guy's approach. He is nt wit a big heart. D girl shld tel us d truth. *he dat covereth his sins,shal nt prosper*

Kristty:

i do not owe him anything cos i never promised to marry him and i did not collect gifts from him, we only dated for few months before i realized i had no feelings for him and i told him we had to quit, not becos i was dating someone else, he was the only one i was dating cos i dont play games till now. i had no b/f for about 8 months so that he wudnt think i left him because of another guy, that was 2005-2006. the whole thing started agian last year wen he called and said he wanted to see me, i told him i was not in Lagos as if i knew wot he wanted to discuss wit me but he actually came to our house and met me. and dat was how it started.

nairalandres, i no chop anything, just that i dont now wot the guy is up to

Basseti:

Me thinks that
1) You prolly enjoy the fact that he is giving u so much attention. Kinda like an insurance policy if your fiance f&^ks up.

2) Using him as leverage to put pressure on your fiance to do the "right thing".

3) Actually entertaining the thought of life with the man u dont love but with financial stability and prospects of leaving the country as opposed to a life with the man you love with all the uncertainties that comes along with it.

One thing a woman knows how to do so too well is to give the red card to a dude she does not care about. You posting this online suggests me that something is up.