NOETHNICITY:
Better be careful. Mother's curse are as potent as anything. Secondly, yoruba women are some how. I pity you if you trust any yoruba person.
Third, you must at all cost make peace with ur mum. They are like ur god on earth

Africa.. Mother bla bla . This is why Africa is backwards. Don’t put your mouth in what you don’t know . E pass African Magic . MY Story

MrHenryFord:
I've been out of NYSC for almost 6 years now and to be honest, I am still struggling to make ends meet. I work where the pay is nothing to write home about and I have a small apartment I'm managing. It hasn't been easy at all. One of the problems being my mother who I see as a selfish and greedy person. She's this person that I can't discuss financial constraints with let's say an uncle or even my father in her presence. She'll tell them not to assist me that they're spoiling me, that those who are surviving on 20k monthly with wives and children don't have 2 heads.

As in I no get, I brought a business plan to my father. He's on the verge of assisting me and she convinced him not to help me and the man listened (he's a kind of person that even takes decisions from the woman. Sometimes I believe she must have jazzed him or something because honestly, that man doesn't know what he's doing again.

Funniest thing is that if she's the one the man wants to assist with even a million naira, she will be smiling happy. She no go talk say dem dey spoil her o.

I remember when my uncle sent money from abroad through her, she only gave me a tiny percentage . The man sent #500k to her to give me . She only gave me 30k and lied to the man she has given me the whole #500k. It was when I called the man to thank him I got to know. I just played along like I've received the whole sum inorder not to cause another problem between him and her.

Secondly, she always wants to rip where she didn't sow. I can use a pin to count how many favor she has done for me and my younger ones in this life but yet, she wants to make it an obligation to be taking care of her with the little I'm earning despite the fact that she's working and even earning x8 of what I earn.

Fine I'll give you when I have but no she no dey hear that one. Even wen I was doing NYSC in 2016. She called my grandma on phone and was crying that I refused to send her money.. I was dumbfounded. Me wey dey struggle in the streets of Kano with 19k alawee while she is working in Lagos earning more than 100k yet she still wants me to be sending money to her . It's not even that she contributes her salary to the house. It's my father that does everything. Even ordinary filling of gas cylinder na the man dey drop money.. It was so bad she started reporting me to all my uncles. Most of them who understood what I'm going through tried to talk to her but she wasn't having any of it

Thirdly, as I said in the first point above about my father being her puppet. My mother has a car she bought around 2014 and I can tell you she has never spent a dime on that car. Ordinary to use her money buy fuel na war. It's the man that fuels the car for her. If the car is faulty , she can abandon it for months until the man fixes it with is own money. When it spoils again, she abandons it again and the cycle continues. Meanwhile like I said, she works and earn above 100k monthly o. Sometimes I just keep wandering what she uses her money for because there's really nothing tangible she does to the house. (I have 3 siblings behind).

Lastly, this woman has been disturbing me to marry even as far back as when I was serving in 2016. Even till date, I keep telling her I'll settle when I am financially comfortable but she's always never ready to have any of that. Always using people like teachers and fuel attendants who earn less that 20k monthly and have wife and kids. Fine them get wife and born children but their wives are the type you see fighting with their neighbors and tearing their wrappers everyday. Their kids are the type you see on the streets driving tire naked , blowing banger up and down the streets and moving with bad boys.

Dan Borno......
Thank God u have a mother bro.but for me,my Mom die when I was only 4 month.bro pls respect ur mother in any condition

okine4real:
this is my respnse to the other thread where the guy said his girl friend ran away when he wanted to share marriage responsibilities

https://www.nairaland.com/6922097/girlfriend-ran-away-because-proposed/4

i swear, you are the best guy on Nairaland. lots of married men for Naija go die before there time. i always tell guys, that pussy go tire you once marriage enter, in marriage there are bills to pay, real bills ohh, children go chop, them go waste food, them go spoil your chairs, table, my second Daughter done put hole beneath my room door, if i like make i lock the door dey cuddle madam, this 2 and half year old pikin go just enter my room via the hole when she create for my door. sometimes she go enter my room, lock the door and pass the hole come outside, if i won enter my room, i nor go fit enter, i go got to go call them to pass under the door to take open the door. This Dec festive period, i was sick because too much of bills. Most naija girls, 90 percent of them are wired to be lazy, even in relationship, they cant even help a guy, person when nor fit help guy, na she won help for marriage? OP i swear you be the best guy ever. If you won marry any woman, let her know, you have to bring something good into this marriage, not just PUSSY. She needs to understand that if your problem is pussy, there are fucking pussy everywhere. OP i salute your courage. from Dec 20th to to 3rd Jan i done spend more than 200k, watin I even chop self? Nothing, na wife and children. OP if I were as smart as you during my time, I swear I for get BETTER REST OF MIND NOW.Do you know what it means when you need even 500k, and you know your wife GOT your back without any shaking? OP you are blessed.


All i can say here is your papa dey form hard man to take care of him wife and children, yet your mother dey flex her money. someone also said in the thread that her father caters for all there needs in the house and her father doesn't share money responsibility with her mum. One question for you... Your father choose to suffer because he wants to be an HYPER MALE. When him die, your mama go still come claim all watin the man work for, yet the man know enjoy life, to me, your father just came to suffer... Well i nor get must to talk sha. But she woman when get car, she nor fit repair her car herself na your old man go do everything for her, but while are men so stupid? i swear, i can come and die for my children, not to talk of my wife. Am trying all my best to take care of them, but if he hard, i go tell my wife and kids, SORRY PEOPLE I CANT COME AND KILL MYSELF. This life hard, this life hard, i prefer to dey drink garri than make i die.

I think your mother is just the example of the kind of Nairaland babes when we get, they dont want to work, but wan to eat fat, even when they work, they choose not to spend there money and keep waiting for a foolish man to fall for there trap.

SHA NOR RESEMBLE YOUR MAMA WHEN YOU MARRY.


op so you be man.... men na wa ohh. your mama nor try at all.

maybe the father is one of those young men in the olden times whom the mother went diabolical to trap n control the mind of the man. Who knows

MrHenryFord:
I've been out of NYSC for almost 6 years now and to be honest, I am still struggling to make ends meet. I work where the pay is nothing to write home about and I have a small apartment I'm managing. It hasn't been easy at all. One of the problems being my mother who I see as a selfish and greedy person. She's this person that I can't discuss financial constraints with let's say an uncle or even my father in her presence. She'll tell them not to assist me that they're spoiling me, that those who are surviving on 20k monthly with wives and children don't have 2 heads.

As in I no get, I brought a business plan to my father. He's on the verge of assisting me and she convinced him not to help me and the man listened (he's a kind of person that even takes decisions from the woman. Sometimes I believe she must have jazzed him or something because honestly, that man doesn't know what he's doing again.

Funniest thing is that if she's the one the man wants to assist with even a million naira, she will be smiling happy. She no go talk say dem dey spoil her o.

I remember when my uncle sent money from abroad through her, she only gave me a tiny percentage . The man sent #500k to her to give me . She only gave me 30k and lied to the man she has given me the whole #500k. It was when I called the man to thank him I got to know. I just played along like I've received the whole sum inorder not to cause another problem between him and her.

Secondly, she always wants to rip where she didn't sow. I can use a pin to count how many favor she has done for me and my younger ones in this life but yet, she wants to make it an obligation to be taking care of her with the little I'm earning despite the fact that she's working and even earning x8 of what I earn.

Fine I'll give you when I have but no she no dey hear that one. Even wen I was doing NYSC in 2016. She called my grandma on phone and was crying that I refused to send her money.. I was dumbfounded. Me wey dey struggle in the streets of Kano with 19k alawee while she is working in Lagos earning more than 100k yet she still wants me to be sending money to her . It's not even that she contributes her salary to the house. It's my father that does everything. Even ordinary filling of gas cylinder na the man dey drop money.. It was so bad she started reporting me to all my uncles. Most of them who understood what I'm going through tried to talk to her but she wasn't having any of it

Thirdly, as I said in the first point above about my father being her puppet. My mother has a car she bought around 2014 and I can tell you she has never spent a dime on that car. Ordinary to use her money buy fuel na war. It's the man that fuels the car for her. If the car is faulty , she can abandon it for months until the man fixes it with is own money. When it spoils again, she abandons it again and the cycle continues. Meanwhile like I said, she works and earn above 100k monthly o. Sometimes I just keep wandering what she uses her money for because there's really nothing tangible she does to the house. (I have 3 siblings behind).

Lastly, this woman has been disturbing me to marry even as far back as when I was serving in 2016. Even till date, I keep telling her I'll settle when I am financially comfortable but she's always never ready to have any of that. Always using people like teachers and fuel attendants who earn less that 20k monthly and have wife and kids. Fine them get wife and born children but their wives are the type you see fighting with their neighbors and tearing their wrappers everyday. Their kids are the type you see on the streets driving tire naked , blowing banger up and down the streets and moving with bad boys.

Many young guys are in your shoes today

Aflix:
Read the topic again madam/oga. It’s “my mother” not my female mother or females. The OP is complaining about his mother same way any other person can complain about his/her father. No be gender issue, na parenting issue. And if you took time to read the topic, you would see that the main issue is not the mom refusing him money.

If you read it, you would realize that the whole thing has to do with her denying him money in one way or the other. He begins his story from his compulsory military year. How he had 19000 and his mother wanted money but wouldn't give him any. On and on till present. If it were his father he would say he's a man and trying to toughen him up.

It's a submission on his mother and money associated with her. That's what his hate is all about.

The forum is full of complaints about wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends, fiancees, females, etc, so it's not surprise this is another thread about such. It's clear where it is headed to.

He's gotten what he wanted. Angry boys are insulting his mother.

DispatcherLagos:
No perfect family. If I open mouth talk my own now you will thank God for having a mother like yours. However to get her thoughts out of my mind I had to travel and stay very far away from her. No calls or sms, we're both good, this is the fourth year of no communication

Omo, you get mind o!
I totally agree with you, when you talk your own another person weh dey complain go thank God.
A lot of us come from families like that.
I had to move far away from home and stop taking my parents' calls because I know it's complain. One wants to complain about the other. And yes, from my years with them, same, my mum is just not easy. Wants my dad to give her every single dim he makes so she can spend. No sense of savings, likes a luxury life she cannot afford, hence pressuring the poor man. To the point she dragged this man to court, went to his work place telling them to sack him that he is not providing for his family whereas, the contrary is the case. The man is trying with the little he earn. She wants him to give her all the money without considering he will eat and transport to work everyday.
Again, she try to tell her kids how the man is a bad person for them to hate the man, who does that?
The last time I asked her "will it give you joy that your kids hate your husband?". Omo, let me rest abeg, so many thing man don see, but man is not a story teller.
I still love her so much regardless, I pray for blessings daily and long life for her, when I blow she go still chill. I know say na poverty dey cause all that nonesense.

Acidosis:


Good but don't force or blackmail others to show (fake) love to undeserving mothers.

A lot of people come out today to celebrate mother's Day just cos everybody is doing it. Many of them with no real connection whatsoever with their mothers, not even a memory of a great time. Many of these people have been blackmailed by the publics and this has further heightened the rascality and entitlement of some African mothers.

We are know that's not true abt african mothers instead the opposite is the case.

How many children celebrate their fathers first before their mothers? How many adults children buys houses, cars etc for their dads first before their mum? How many people out there we tell u they want to make money so they can care for father?

We all know that african mothers are great compared to the male counterparts, this is not abt gender war.

Op should tell us the truth. Is he a liability? Is he an ingrate? Lazy? Has entitlement spirit because he is the first son? How does she treat his younger siblings? Natural stingy Even when he can support?

Women-hatters on this forum will always look for ways to bash women. I keep telling every single lady out there to strive never to marry a Nigerian-bred-man if they don't want to die young.

*Out of this thread*

MrHenryFord:
I've been out of NYSC for almost 6 years now and to be honest, I am still struggling to make ends meet. I work where the pay is nothing to write home about and I have a small apartment I'm managing. It hasn't been easy at all. One of the problems being my mother who I see as a selfish and greedy person. She's this person that I can't discuss financial constraints with let's say an uncle or even my father in her presence. She'll tell them not to assist me that they're spoiling me, that those who are surviving on 20k monthly with wives and children don't have 2 heads.

As in I no get, I brought a business plan to my father. He's on the verge of assisting me and she convinced him not to help me and the man listened (he's a kind of person that even takes decisions from the woman. Sometimes I believe she must have jazzed him or something because honestly, that man doesn't know what he's doing again.

Funniest thing is that if she's the one the man wants to assist with even a million naira, she will be smiling happy. She no go talk say dem dey spoil her o.

I remember when my uncle sent money from abroad through her, she only gave me a tiny percentage . The man sent #500k to her to give me . She only gave me 30k and lied to the man she has given me the whole #500k. It was when I called the man to thank him I got to know. I just played along like I've received the whole sum inorder not to cause another problem between him and her.

Secondly, she always wants to rip where she didn't sow. I can use a pin to count how many favor she has done for me and my younger ones in this life but yet, she wants to make it an obligation to be taking care of her with the little I'm earning despite the fact that she's working and even earning x8 of what I earn.

Fine I'll give you when I have but no she no dey hear that one. Even wen I was doing NYSC in 2016. She called my grandma on phone and was crying that I refused to send her money.. I was dumbfounded. Me wey dey struggle in the streets of Kano with 19k alawee while she is working in Lagos earning more than 100k yet she still wants me to be sending money to her . It's not even that she contributes her salary to the house. It's my father that does everything. Even ordinary filling of gas cylinder na the man dey drop money.. It was so bad she started reporting me to all my uncles. Most of them who understood what I'm going through tried to talk to her but she wasn't having any of it

Thirdly, as I said in the first point above about my father being her puppet. My mother has a car she bought around 2014 and I can tell you she has never spent a dime on that car. Ordinary to use her money buy fuel na war. It's the man that fuels the car for her. If the car is faulty , she can abandon it for months until the man fixes it with is own money. When it spoils again, she abandons it again and the cycle continues. Meanwhile like I said, she works and earn above 100k monthly o. Sometimes I just keep wandering what she uses her money for because there's really nothing tangible she does to the house. (I have 3 siblings behind).

Lastly, this woman has been disturbing me to marry even as far back as when I was serving in 2016. Even till date, I keep telling her I'll settle when I am financially comfortable but she's always never ready to have any of that. Always using people like teachers and fuel attendants who earn less that 20k monthly and have wife and kids. Fine them get wife and born children but their wives are the type you see fighting with their neighbors and tearing their wrappers everyday. Their kids are the type you see on the streets driving tire naked , blowing banger up and down the streets and moving with bad boys.

Oboy you are in serious danger. My case is somehow similar to yours.

DispatcherLagos:
No perfect family. If I open mouth talk my own now you will thank God for having a mother like yours. However to get her thoughts out of my mind I had to travel and stay very far away from her. No calls or sms, we're both good, this is the fourth year of no communication

How come. Kindly consider making a thread on this to let it all out.

promiseland245:
Hmmmm a son who refers to his father as "The man".
May the peace of the Lord locate its way to your abode.

Nigerians and their awkward mentality tho. Is his father not a man? Why do you people just reason like animals like this. Person called his father a man, that one too na crime.. No wonder this country is not moving forward.

God has hidden your progress in your ability to honor your mother.

When you are done ranting, pray to God for grace to do the needful. All the best.

apostle96:
OP, you sure say na ur real mother b dat woman...I mean ur biological mother?
You need to make your findings and get your fact right
Something is telling me they are your foster/adopted parents.

Seconded.Its very important.

siofra:
Some women have no business being mothers. Sorry OP.

And for the first time in history, you made a sensible comment
I love that

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

Wicked people are not called wicked because they have never done good, it is because their evil far outstrips their good that they are called wicked.

I love you for this. I have somebody in my life that insult you all day, make you work like a slave, degrade and make you feel worthless about yourself but if she gives you one plate of food, she will say she had done heaven and earth for you. The wickedness is like 10000000 while the good is like just 1

laiperi:
Try to understand where she is coming from, could be tough love.

She may even want you or trying too hard to make you more responsible.

It boils down to how you see it and the difference it makes to your existence without expecting any support.

Sorry.. this is not tough love but being callous... Rough love is applied when such an individual is irresponsible or seem not to be loving in the right direction.. Op's mum is just too greedy , oloju kokoro.. she has nt out grown her entitled mentality. Same as nowadays ladies... She has now extended such to her children.

bepositive11:


I thought tough love at first too but she's too extreme

It seems like she doesn't really care. If it was tough love, at least she'll guide him to a better path while letting him do the hard work

That isnt tough love. That woman is simply greedy. She has carried same entitlement attitude she displayed on her husband towards her kids.. Same self entitled attitude of nowadays ladies naa him dey worry that woman. I can imagine what her husband has been through. Make Op talk true, his mum has always been the one milking the home. I mean most of expenses made on family members have been on her...


For the same of his sanity he shld cut off from her

maxkia:



Africa.. Mother bla bla . This is why Africa is backwards. Don’t put your mouth in what you don’t know . E pass African Magic . MY Story

This isn't about Africa rather it's about Islam wherein it's compulsory to take care of ones parents especially ones mother

Don't worry when you become a parent your children will feed you what you are feeding ur parents

Your mum is very greedy. You see same attitude guys complain about ladies of these days, that's exactly your mum's character.. Her greed and selfishness has so overwhelmed and eaten into her that she has exte6it to her children and sees nothing wrong in it.. I just pity your dad cos his wld be worse shld he run short of cash any day.. The truth is that your mum has been and is still the COST CENTRE of your home. Go check the amount spent or invested on individuals in your house monthly. You ll find out she is the first on that list... my advice to you is just cut off from her for now for the sake of your sanity cos she WONT and CAN'T stop cos it has eaten deep into here. No be today .. okay? . SHE LL NEVER BE SATISFIED.. OLOJU KOKORO( GREEDY WOMAN)

And of you dare marry and bring her close, she ll scatter your home cos she ll transfer same attitude and lifestyle she has made your dad go through on you when and if she isnt having all she used to for her upkeep

That's more reason you will have to celebrate your dad for taking her excesses all these while without divorcing her or taking another wife.

Jamest162:
Are u sure she's ur biological mother.
Coz every mum want wat's best 4 their children.

Trust me not all mothers

If all mothers want the best for their kids do u think some will dump their new born inside soak away , toilet,bush or big bins ?

MrHenryFord:
I've been out of NYSC for almost 6 years now and to be honest, I am still struggling to make ends meet. I work where the pay is nothing to write home about and I have a small apartment I'm managing. It hasn't been easy at all. One of the problems being my mother who I see as a selfish and greedy person. She's this person that I can't discuss financial constraints with let's say an uncle or even my father in her presence. She'll tell them not to assist me that they're spoiling me, that those who are surviving on 20k monthly with wives and children don't have 2 heads.

As in I no get, I brought a business plan to my father. He's on the verge of assisting me and she convinced him not to help me and the man listened (he's a kind of person that even takes decisions from the woman. Sometimes I believe she must have jazzed him or something because honestly, that man doesn't know what he's doing again.

Funniest thing is that if she's the one the man wants to assist with even a million naira, she will be smiling happy. She no go talk say dem dey spoil her o.

I remember when my uncle sent money from abroad through her, she only gave me a tiny percentage . The man sent #500k to her to give me . She only gave me 30k and lied to the man she has given me the whole #500k. It was when I called the man to thank him I got to know. I just played along like I've received the whole sum inorder not to cause another problem between him and her.

Secondly, she always wants to rip where she didn't sow. I can use a pin to count how many favor she has done for me and my younger ones in this life but yet, she wants to make it an obligation to be taking care of her with the little I'm earning despite the fact that she's working and even earning x8 of what I earn.

Fine I'll give you when I have but no she no dey hear that one. Even wen I was doing NYSC in 2016. She called my grandma on phone and was crying that I refused to send her money.. I was dumbfounded. Me wey dey struggle in the streets of Kano with 19k alawee while she is working in Lagos earning more than 100k yet she still wants me to be sending money to her . It's not even that she contributes her salary to the house. It's my father that does everything. Even ordinary filling of gas cylinder na the man dey drop money.. It was so bad she started reporting me to all my uncles. Most of them who understood what I'm going through tried to talk to her but she wasn't having any of it

Thirdly, as I said in the first point above about my father being her puppet. My mother has a car she bought around 2014 and I can tell you she has never spent a dime on that car. Ordinary to use her money buy fuel na war. It's the man that fuels the car for her. If the car is faulty , she can abandon it for months until the man fixes it with is own money. When it spoils again, she abandons it again and the cycle continues. Meanwhile like I said, she works and earn above 100k monthly o. Sometimes I just keep wandering what she uses her money for because there's really nothing tangible she does to the house. (I have 3 siblings behind).

Lastly, this woman has been disturbing me to marry even as far back as when I was serving in 2016. Even till date, I keep telling her I'll settle when I am financially comfortable but she's always never ready to have any of that. Always using people like teachers and fuel attendants who earn less that 20k monthly and have wife and kids. Fine them get wife and born children but their wives are the type you see fighting with their neighbors and tearing their wrappers everyday. Their kids are the type you see on the streets driving tire naked , blowing banger up and down the streets and moving with bad boys.

Your mum is very greedy,selfish and self centred. You see same attitude guys complain about ladies of these days, that's exactly your mum's character.. Her greed and selfishness has so overwhelmed and eaten into her that she has extended it to her children and sees nothing wrong in it.. I just pity your dad cos his wld be worse shld he run short of cash any day.. The truth is that your mum has been and is still the COST CENTRE of your home. Go check the amount spent or invested on individuals in your house monthly. You ll find out she is the first on that list... my advice to you is just cut off from her for now for the sake of your sanity cos she WONT and CAN'T stop cos it has eaten deep into here. No be today .. okay? . SHE LL NEVER BE SATISFIED.. OLOJU KOKORO( GREEDY WOMAN)

And if you dare marry and bring her close, she ll scatter your home cos she ll transfer same attitude and lifestyle she has made your dad go through on you when and if she isnt having all she used to for her upkeep.. She doesn't mean well.for you . Ask your dad to be sincere with you. He is dying silently and has been overwhelmed over the years with her excesses

Martinez39s:
SMH. Low IQ is rampant.

What is the yardstick for a low IQ? You must be a demented fool... I'm not available for nitwits today...Go and meet people in your circle.

shawante:

And where is he today.. Now that he needs them most they are frustrating him.
Is not better to not have parents at all than to have parents that can help you but wont

Some parents believe that a Kid is born into the world to run their own race..I've seen worst things from my parent but I just don't let that get into my head. Rather than hating or believing that they are responsible for my lagging, I just face my problems squarely...Even though I love my parents, I've left them and being on the street as early as 16. I don't let anything get in the way of my independent life.

iamL:


We are know that's not true abt african mothers instead the opposite is the case.

How many children celebrate their fathers first before their mothers? How many adults children buys houses, cars etc for their dads first before their mum? How many people out there we tell u they want to make money so they can care for father?

We all know that african mothers are great compared to the male counterparts, this is not abt gender war.

Op should tell us the truth. Is he a liability? Is he an ingrate? Lazy? Has entitlement spirit because he is the first son? How does she treat his younger siblings? Natural stingy Even when he can support?

Women-hatters on this forum will always look for ways to bash women. I keep telling every single lady out there to strive never to marry a Nigerian-bred-man if they don't want to die young.

*Out of this thread*

The essence of the post you quoted is unrelated to gender war, dear.

"We all know African mothers are great"? That's exactly how you guys blackmail people and make excuses for terrific and entitled mothers.

African mothers are "great", so who are the wicked female principals, the wicked landladies, the wicked mother in laws? and headmistress you all talk about?

They're wicked when we encounter them personally but great when we need to preserve the tag "African mothers".

A guy has convincingly told his side of the story but all you could do in return is find fault. Really? Because he's ungrateful, he now deserves a perpetually stingy and self-centred woman? What happened to the usual selfless mothers' love you all talk about? Lol.

You all better start exposing the bad eggs amongst yourselves so the new generation mothers can grow to become better mothers. How can a mother with a six figure salary demands that his son sends monthly stipends from NPower (30k) money? Isn't that witchcraft? The typical African mothers will be running from one prayer mountain to another asking God for breakthrough, making connections, sending food stuff, etc. to the young man.

Nobody deserves what that man is going through. In an ideal nation, that woman could be sued. Giving birth to anyone in Nigeria today is bad enough, failing to take care or preserve the sanctity of a Nigerian born kid today is a sin that deserves no forgiveness from man and God.

Munzy14:

You see...Ndi ebe anyi na di kariri somehow towards mba ndi ozo...

Mba anyi wu ni mba ndi okomoko!
O wu ihe mere ndi ozo ji a kpo ha asi.

My friend, one of his elder brothers luru onye yoruba kwa...Mana o gwara na obi adighi his parents nma maka ya...But, that yoruba lady wu the best of their DILs...O like chara mmadu ibe ya eeh..

Even mgbe anyi no skul, mgbe ufodu enyi m nwoke ji aga na ulo nwanne ya ga noro...Buru kwa ugbo ala aha na a chughari umu nwa ma nwanne ya na nwunye ya gawa ala bekee for holidays.

And she won't complain ma ya lota o..

You know some ladies will pull that the roof in such case...especially umu nwaanyi Igbo anyi.

In their culture, they are raised to know that once a daughter marries, her husband's family becomes her family. In other words, she puts her husband's family first.
For example, when a wife gives birth, it is her mother in-law's duty/right to go for omugwo, instead of her mother, thereby strengthening the ties/relationship.
So, they're not as possessive and territorial as an Igbo wife would be.
Even in their core culture, the wives don't call their husband's brothers by name.
They add brother to their names.
They also see their husband's uncles as baba oko mi which means my husband's fathers.
They're very humble and respectful too.

Ajo nwaanyi, ga ekewa ezi na ulo...Mebie otutu ihe maka iwe na selfish interest...veryy terrible

As in!
O wu ihe m ji a gwa gi si gi mehekwa anya ma na a lubata nwaanyi o. Onye a e jikota gi na umunne gi. O di mkpa.
Once you get it right, the rest are likely to get it right.
O wuhu onye ga a hu umunne di ya, ahu na a fugbu ya ka ose.

O wu mgbe OP gburu onwe ya ka mma ya ga ezuruike


Things are tough for ndi nwere bigger things doing, ya fodukwa onye ka na a manage onwe ya a manage..

She is even pressuring him to go and carry someone's daughter on top his struggling life...Okwa ka bia frustrate yia the babe..

The worst thing about this kind of mother is that they'll always want you around for some sick reasons.
So that they can continue to control the person's life.
The best thing would be for him to leave, and start his own life somewhere else.

As in!

Pacesetter2021:
God has hidden your progress in your ability to honor your mother.

When you are done ranting, pray to God for grace to do the needful. All the best.

Funny enough I might be to think towards this. Personally I dont really be a beautiful relationship with my mum cos of my experiences with her while growing up.. Her attitude was my motivation for living the house earlier than expected via common entrance to boarding school. I made sure I took as much entrance exams as possible. Infact I used to come home telling my dad of the latest forma that were out for sales back then just to make sure I leave the house. I even had to take Jamb while I was in form 5 but my dad objected that I get to the university at such tender age. However I still left for university the next year immediately after my SSCE. Did same for nysc and never came back home after then but I realised that whenever she is happy with me, I ll be prosperous . However she makes it very difficult for me to please her. She keeps giving me every reason to dislike her and reminds me of the past .. It's well..

NOETHNICITY:
Better be careful. Mother's curse are as potent as anything. Secondly, yoruba women are some how. I pity you if you trust any yoruba person.
Third, you must at all cost make peace with ur mum. They are like ur god on earth

A pile of bullcrap.

BRATISLAVA:


If you read it, you would realize that the whole thing has to do with her denying him money in one way or the other. He begins his story from his compulsory military year. How he had 19000 and his mother wanted money but wouldn't give him any. On and on till present. If it were his father he would say he's a man and trying to toughen him up.

It's a submission on his mother and money associated with her. That's what his hate is all about.

The forum is full of complaints about wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends, fiancees, females, etc, so it's not surprise this is another thread about such. It's clear where it is headed to.

He's gotten what he wanted. Angry boys are insulting his mother.

You are just like his mother in terms of character. That's why you are defending his mothers and turning the table on the OP. Vile and toxic lady you are.

Pacesetter2021:
God has hidden your progress in your ability to honor your mother.

When you are done ranting, pray to God for grace to do the needful. All the best.

Bullcrap.

Since na ur mum . It’s ok to hate her very well. Good luck

Until I hear from your mother