Mariangeles:


No. It is who he's always been. His lifestyle.
She was just unfortunate to be scammed into it.
If she decides to stay with him, she might lose herself in trying to become what she's not, just to keep him. Which might still not happen because he might never change.
It is not up to her to change him. It is not in her power.

Munzy14:

Hahahaha oooh...yes one movie I watched nkem owo married from tribes..

Nke yoruba ji akpo ya Okor mi.. ya wunu my husband.

Just like iyawo mi is my wife okwaya?

A ghota ga m yoruba ntakiri ntakiri o

Ezigbo ndi di ndi akwuna..

Ufodu nwaanyi ji ahu nsogbu and flags, yet daba n'ime ya...Nwoke nor mba ofesi after oluchara gi, common sense kwesiri iju ajuju si how is he coping when he gets hor.ny as a married man..

Again, nwoke noro ya juo gi oji nwaanyi eme gini..smh just mara na owu patron ndi Ashawo ma o wu ndi ihe nwoke ibe ha na amasi.

Same goes with some ladies that feels men are shit, ndi nke ahu ejila Love Machine meruo onwe ha ahu.. or the indulge in same sex stuffs.

Law of nature created vacuum for attraction with opposite sex...And if their exists a vacuum, nature must fill up.

Laurene:
you are not even married.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

LyfeJennings:


divorce is the last resort in any marriage
their marriage is pretty young
U only gave an advice based on ur age and exposure
if U know what it means to be divorced
U wouldn't wish it on ur worst enemy
The meaning of marriage itself is the union of two imperfect people
U should be willing to tolerate and forgive ur partner a lot before they even commit the offence and U should always seek a way to assist them in over coming their challenges.
I have similar traits to this guy (I mean the OP husband)
it' doesn't make him a bad person
he only wants to explore but unfortunately he's not being careful enough
for him to change, the wife has to engage him
it's not a hard task
quite difficult but very possible

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Mariangeles:


Yes. Iyawo wu nwunye.
I gbaliga nnoo.




Eshiokwu nucha n'okwu ndi a.

@the last paragraph, a naghi a gbalaha ya a gbalaha.

Mariangeles:


Iya mi, she should stay with him till her child graduates from the university?
Se iyen o wa pe ju bayi?
By then, she'll probably have become bitter and hateful.

Kwinesther:
Age detector, so a simple question I asked which you have REFUSED to answer because of your hypocrisy made you feel you can be older than me when you don't even know me?

You don't even have to say it, obviously from your comment it shows you have the same bad character as the Op's husband if you could refer to sleeping with random prostitutes repeatedly, demanding anal s*x and other immoral nonsense
as a MARRIED man as being "a small issue."

Where in my post did I give advice or mention divorce or anything relating to it? Are your eyes functioning well at all? And if the Op decides to go for divorce it is fair for her emotional and sanity sake or can't you see from her posts that she's broken and depressed already? The bible supports divorce on the condition of adultery so Op is free to go ahead with it IF she want to. Along with my previous question that only requires a simple yes or know answer, according to your advise can you tolerate, forgive and be committed to a cheating wife? If you can't give a simple yes or no answer then don't bother mentioning me because I won't reply you.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

ShenTeh:


Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.

Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband.
Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.

He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.

Hypocrisy sucks.

Edit. For those quoting me with bitterness and angst, I have nothing against you. I do hope you hold the same views if it were the husband that came to the www to complain that his religious wife has been seeing gigolos in a country he and his father sponsored her to.

Sterope:
You are not a fucking sex psychologist!

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

pocohantas:
Any small thing, they will start telling the wife to take care of herself. How many of you Nigerian men look good? With your pot bellies like drum and nonexistent necks.

Suddenly prostitutes look and feel better than your virtuous wives ba? Yet we keep hearing talks of how high body count makes a woman look old, sexually unresponsive and unattractive.

I guess it all flies out through the window when y’all are ready to justify and defend your cheating ways.

Why not marry the lady with ashewo vibes? You claim men know the one to marry. Say you want peace of mind. You done marry peace of mind now, you come dey cheat on am with ashewo. Confused gender.

Gerrard59:


The hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance are nauseating. It would have been fair if these men and their supporters don't criticise sexually liberal single ladies but lampooning the ladies while frolicking with prostitutes says how hypocritical most Nigerians especially the males are.

And he's religious aka a responsible man of God

pocohantas:


I would never understand it. I saw this skit the other day, the guy advised ladies to have small ashewo vibes in 2022. He asked if we have ever seen Naija men buy Benz for the sister that goes for midweek service.

Ybaby:


STOP sleeping with him.... HIV is real

Begin to gather evidence and financial strength

Start billing him left right and center

Make sure to hire maids to clean the house (He pays)

Put your child in the best school money can buy (He pays)

Bill him the going rate for your time in his life ($220) you donot have to tell him you are billing him.

Invest his money in yourself..... when he has nothing to give prostitues he will sit at home.

He has extra that is why he is paying N120,000 for Ashy.

You are his wife : you deserve that money more than those ladies.

When your last child leaves university - divorce him! Such men should be dealt with coldly.

Finally close your legs and if you must open it for him .... he needs to be tested twice in 3 months at the begining and at the end

demanuel:
This an unfortunate story...

But madam, I thought it's always about the money!
As in, a man just have to be rich to be called a man.
Character, core values and moral conduct are less important.

Now una don see man with money but is badly behaved.

After all he has money to take care of the home front, but there are funds to share outside.

Una plenty wey dey share the provider man

It's in cases like this that women will understand that a man can have money and also be useless to you, not only when he's broke.
As long as a man is only assessed based on what he can provide, rather than also assessing his character and core values, such stories will never cease.

Ybaby:



I personally am not a fan of simpletons

Are you saying poverty, broke and laziness makes a man behave well and not cheat?

Look, you need to upgrade your OS.....

I cannot help you pls

demanuel:
I have told you what I have to tell you.

If you like miss my point and say whatever.

After all, it's better to cry in a Gwagon in lekki, than cry in a keke under ojuelegba bridge.

Ybaby:


Joker

So poor men dont cheat.

Upgrade your OS... I am your boss. Go and brainwash some one else or start making money.

That ideology that poor men love better is rubbish...

Women don't want poor men ! PERIOD

Go and work Nigka

demanuel:
In your daft response, you still choose to ignore the fact that I don't condone cheating nor broke men.
Money and character are not mutually exclusive.

But You shouldn't cry fowl when the provider man choose to do whatever he likes with his money.

Afterall he provides, so why complain when he also choose to play outside with his funds?
Since the husband knows that you'll be there to accept his apologies, and can't go anywhere because you don't have your own money.

Look at the daft advise you're giving the op, to deny sex, demand more bills, and divorce when the kids finish school.
Rather than quickly move out, if she has her own money.

Does she have to suffer this long because she just have to cling to the provider husband, who refused to be faithful?
If she has her own funds, will she have to condone all these?

I repeat for the last time to you; as long as women place premium on money, and less regard to character, stories like this won't cease.

Simran94:


Hope this same advice is valid if reverse was the case? Because we know men hardly forgive cheating wives