Good day all

pls pardon my write up. i hava been dating this lady now for over a year now and i plan to wife her anytime from now, we both stayed together for awhile till she got her present job in an hotel in the eyebrow area of lagos state. we both in same state. the problem on hand started when a family member drew my attention to the fact that she was smoking shisha at work and she posted it but she rushed to delete it before i could view it. i was full of rage i called her immediately and she started giving some flimsy excuse of its her first time, she has not done it before and all that shit. i talked to her in a very harsh voice for her to feel my hanger.

but since that incidence i have been looking back, she just love posting any slight exciting move she makes, if i move to a new apartment for example she starts to snap next thing its uploaded on whatapp, i am a very conservatives person, i dont like either me or anything associated with me displayed in the show glass of social media.

i have talked to her over time about this but its seems not to be effective, no matter how much i scolded her she will still come back begging.

and i will like to ask this question is it advisable to marry someone that works in a hotel, mind you we both matured am 34 and shes is 27

working in a hotel is nothing, there are serious and decent ladies working in a hotel, that is your girl characters which might be very difficult to change set awon slay mamas age is just a number, she is not matured at all no doubting that she likes paparazzi and flashy materials. It's now left for you to think twice if she is the type of someone you really want Slay queen smoking shisha besides, that is what most men are looking for now, awon slay mamas that will help them spend their money in a wayward ways

Bros ,are you prepared to suffer in silence ? If no, then you cannot marry someone who runs contrary to your own principles of happiness.

Secondly, she has indirectly told you that she is the type to show off on social media . This is an automatic red flag , and it is a warning to you to know that she will willingly display any kind of social immaturity at the expense of your relationship with her.

So my advice right now, is that you do yourself a big favor and start looking for her replacement. After all, it is far better to be single and happy, than to be married to a rebellious woman.

You're about to wife a slay queen.

Wahala no fit finish for this life A guy on the other thread said he can't wife a 32yrs old lady that ticks all his boxes,because she's an evening newspaper.He should come and read what morning newspaper is doing o!

She works in an hotel
Nairalanders should we tell him?

waistbead:
Wahala no fit finish for this life A guy on the other thread said he can't wife a 32yrs old lady that ticks all his boxes,because she's an evening newspaper.He should come and read what morning newspaper is doing o!

The fact that she works in a hotel alone should always serve as a POINT and a reason for you to know that your Banny is already into coded runs . Op, I'm speaking from experience....... Dismantled that relationship now that you still have your brains intact .

OP @ owlcity88 encourage her to start an IG channel, that's where people smoke and post it on social media

On a serious note, it looks like your values are not aligned. You may have complementary personalities but you have significant incompatibilities that you should seriously explore. You're not going to stop her forever, that's what she likes doing, putting herself out there to get the attention, and if it's a major problem for you, then you have to know whether it will really work longterm or not, or whether it's something you can find a way around. If I were you I will meet with a relationship counselor who is very knowledgeable about values, personalities, and love language, and discuss these issues and see where we stand.

U won marry sango put for house... If ur house catch fire no blame anybody oo blame urself.. There is more disadvantages than advantages in this ur talk oo.. If I were you I go run.. If u know u know

waistbead:
Wahala no fit finish for this life A guy on the other thread said he can't wife a 32yrs old lady that ticks all his boxes,because she's an evening newspaper.He should come and read what morning newspaper is doing o!

Age has nothing to do with maturity....

We the single men of nigeria say no to evening newspaper,we can't wife evening newspaper..

owlcity88:
i have talked to her over time about this but its seems not to be effective, no matter how much i scolded her she will still come back begging, and i will like to ask this question is it advisable to marry someone that works in an hotel, mind you we both matured am 34 and shes is 27

ROFLMAO


So working in a hotel, a job which she got while dating you, is a no-no? Look, if you are not serious about this woman, kindly let her go so she can find herself a better man to accept her abeg.

Stop wasting her time!

Kobojunkie:
ROFLMAO


So working in a hotel, a job which she got while dating you, is a no-no? Look, if you are not serious about this woman, kindly let her go so she can find herself a better man to accept her abeg.

Stop wasting her time!

brother i strongly advised against taking the offer but she when ahead since i have not married her i could do lil in stopping her

owlcity88:
brother i strongly advised against taking the offer but she when ahead since i have not married her i could do lil in stopping her

It is obvious from your OP that your idea of a wife is someone who will do as you say, and this gal is instead an individual in her own right. So, i suggest you stop wasting her time since you are not that into her..... you are instead into yourself.

Please call her and let her know that she deserves someone who will not continually try to impinge on her freedoms as an individual. You are not that person for her at all. Ofcourse she will be hurt and she will try to fight the truth but my hope is she will find for herself a man able to allow her live and flourish even in a relationship. .

VEXT:


Age has nothing to do with maturity....

We the single men of nigeria say no to evening newspaper,we can't wife evening newspaper..

Okay o single men of Nigeria ,wife the morning Newspaper and deal with the wahala and leave the evening newspaper to Matured men that appreciate/values them.

owlcity88:
Good day all

pls pardon my write up. i hava been dating this lady now for over a year now and i plan to wife her anytime from now, we both stayed together for awhile till she got her present job in an hotel in the eyebrow area of lagos state. we both in same state. the problem on hand started when a family member drew my attention to the fact that she was smoking shisha at work and she posted it but she rushed to delete it before i could view it. i was full of rage i called her immediately and she started giving some flimsy excuse of its her first time, she has not done it before and all that shit. i talked to her in a very harsh voice for her to feel my hanger.

but since that incidence i have been looking back, she just love posting any slight exciting move she makes, if i move to a new apartment for example she starts to snap next thing its uploaded on whatapp, i am a very conservatives person, i dont like either me or anything associated with me displayed in the show glass of social media.

i have talked to her over time about this but its seems not to be effective, no matter how much i scolded her she will still come back begging.

and i will like to ask this question is it advisable to marry someone that works in a hotel, mind you we both matured am 34 and shes is 27

Break up now.

You're not compatible and your family stalks her on social media.

you guys are not compatible...let her go. you want someone that is the way YOU desire them to be, while she can never be that person.

working in a hotel is just a job like any other... there is nothing wrong with it, it all depend on the CHARACTER of a person! if you are dating a low down dirty good for nothing slut then even working in church, will make her do unimaginable nonsense.

your babe na typical CODED-RUNS babe

waistbead:
Wahala no fit finish for this life A guy on the other thread said he can't wife a 32yrs old lady that ticks all his boxes,because she's an evening newspaper.He should come and read what morning newspaper is doing o!

Keep quiet young man.

A girl smoked shisha and it's getting you worked up?

Because you want to wife her, you will now detect what she will do and not do?

What sort of a man are you?

You either like her, or you move on to the next.

You don't try to change or detect how someone lives their life.

Change that attitude cause it's archaic.

You were full of rage because you be Jesus Christ.

Get out of here mehn.

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Age has nothing to do with maturity....

We the single men of nigeria say no to evening newspaper,we can't wife evening newspaper..

But you can wife oyinbo in her 60s!

Bumped into a Nigerian guy in a shopping mall, who should be in his late 20s with his Caucasian grandma wife who was tattooed all over with a gangster vibe, I know say my brother don enter one chance in exchange of coming to Europe...if the guy try anyhow....na offing!

If her values don't align with yours, you very much know what to do rather than creating a thread!

There are men whose orientation are okay with a woman smoking shisha despite the health implications on both men and women, I believe she will fit better with such men.

owlcity88:


brother i strongly advised against taking the offer but she when ahead since i have not married her i could do lil in stopping her

The signs are clear that you both are not compatible, but you've chosen to ignore them.

No be say when tomorrow reach na, una marry, you no go let people rest for nairaland with threads upon threads of your marital woes.

Dis one wey she dey even manage beg you sef na sake of say una never marry.
Wait until una marry, na then you go know say khaki no be leather.

You two are on opposite ends of the spectrum as far as compatibility and personality are concerned.

Smoking a shisha is not my problem, but posting it online? That's a no-no.

If you don't marry her, you won't die. If you marry, her you could die. Will not explain

Your girl is a mêmber of Road transport workers

Ashy

should we tell him?