Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

Do you mean there are situation that warrant her been beaten? What is wrong with us this days?

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

Walk out of the marriage....you are not raising your kids the right way. The atmosphere is toxic. It's better to be single parent than being in an abusive marriage. I m sure you want to be around for long to witness the achievement of your kids

rolams:


I don't want to be sentimental. Women can provoke hell out of their husbands but I don't support domestic violence. I know what I am going through everyday. But, I have never in my life touch my wife in an hurtful manner.

I will never beat my wife!

Not true, there is no justification for the man's beastly attitude towards his wife and kids.



Before you say jerk, I am a happily married young man too and I cant imagine what my wife would do to warrant me raising my hands on her, ah, it is never possible even if they bewitch me, lailai.


Even my son, I cant raise my hands on him.


Growing up, I learnt that I had an annoying kiddie character and always selecting foods. Despite this, my parents didn't kill me cos of that, in fact only my dad used to flog me once in a while and it made me disliked him so much. Whereas my mother that hardly beat me but will give me one kind stern look, I feared and respected her even more than my dad that used to flog me.



Flogging or going physical against someone will never make the person respect you. The person might end up fearing and hating you for life

Siddon there like mumu make your husband dey flog you like small pikin o, you hear? After all the flogging, na this same you go part your thighs allow the yeye husband kolobi you. Nonsense & ingredients!

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

Do you have a solid job? Try to get one.
Your husband has seen you finish and is certain you have no choice than to stay with him no matter what he does.
He needs to understand that you will leave if pushed.
More importantly, get actual evidence of the abuse recorded on video.
It will come in handy when you decide to leave.

HenryThegreat1:

With what you wrote here, if I could see you physically, you deserve flogging. Do you hear from her husband.

Serious flogging my brother

Hahahaha....Flogging man

He like flog...He might even flog himself one day when no one is there to flog

hmm.

franchasng:
Not true, there is no justification for the man's beastly attitude towards his wife and kids.



Before you say jerk, I am a happily married young man too and I cant imagine what my wife would do to warrant me raising my hands on her, ah, it is never possible even if they bewitch me, lailai.


Even my son, I cant raise my hands on him.


Growing up, I learnt that I had an annoying kiddie character and always selecting foods. Despite this, my parents didn't kill me cos of that, in fact only my dad used to flog me once in a while and it made me disliked him so much. Whereas my mother that hardly beat me but will give me one kind stern look, I feared and respected her even more than my dad that used to flog me.



Flogging or going physical against someone will never make the person respect you. The person might end up fearing and hating you for life

This is sad who does that nawa oo

Datboredberry:
When you live in as third world country, this is the result- believing that misdemeanours should be corrected with 'beta koboko'...

Africans and their backwardness... After slavery, there's nothing we love more than we good whipping...

Shut up and face the topic.
In your forward society, millions of domestic violence are reported per year
with some even involved guns and deaths.

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

What kind of talk is this?

A man who does that in front of his children is mentally sick

No excuse whatsoever

Let those children grow up and you will see them repeat the same

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

I condemned in entirety the action of your husband, especially him flogging you in presence of your kids.
It's totally wrong and acceptable for him to do so.

He should have at least apologise for doing that.
But madam going from what u said here

"he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence"

There r some things that provoke man more than going physically on him, like hurting words. Since he complained about it, can you try work on this , i.e how u talk to him and see if there will be changes

TuFab:

As in..., maybe he's a retired headmaster.

Madam keep enduring the flogging o, pious wife.
At least you've not had a cause to visit the hospital yet.
Enjoy the beating pls, husband house is better than a few broken teeth and bones.

Na retired headmaster she married na

OP You better run for your dear life or you are enjoying the flogging?

phemmyfour:
Walk out of the marriage....you are not raising your kids the right way. The atmosphere is toxic. It's better to be single parent than being in an abusive marriage. I m sure you want to be around for long to witness the achievement of your kids

Most times financial handicap keep our ladies in toxic relationships and marriages like this.



That's why I always encourage every single lady out there to please equip herself financially via handwork, craft, business or career before saying I do.


And when you finally get married, dont listen to any yeye husband that want you to become a housewife in the name of he is rich or can provide all you need, don't listen to him.



If he doesn't want you to work under another man for reasons best known to him, let him establish a good business for you based on your passion, skill and strength.



Dear single ladies, never accept to be a housewife, that's the beginning of marital abuse. You deserve to earn your own money even if your husband is the President of the country, making money gives joy, so don't accept to be an idle housewife who does nothing to earn her own money but rather rely on her husband for all her financial need, this is suicidal!

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

You're not newly weds?
Are you saying it would've been OK for him to abuse you if you were newly weds, simply because you're yet to understand each other?
Have you reported him to your family?
For how long do you want to keep on suffering?

The concept of being a master of people, and beating them up and abusing them, does not work, only breeds more criminals, psychopaths', or broken people.

The last thing anyone would want is to increase psychopathy, or to break a person and for that person to become a robot.

Dont come here complaining. I only have 2 options:

1. Walk out of the marriage, which is your best option
2. Work on yourself and as much as possible do things he wants. THERE ARE THINGS HE IS NOT HAPPY WITH, NOT BECAUSE OF THE ARGUMENTS. FIND OUT WHAT HE IS NOT REALLY HAPPY WITH. ALL OF US GET ANGRY WITH OUR GFs or wives, its a thing that must happen in every relationship, what makes us react differently sometimes is the fact that the wife/gf doesnt make us feel unhappy outside the immediate cause of the argument.

If true then this wife is super dependant on the husband. Why he can easily vent his school teacher style frustration in life on who are eating his money.

SmileDance:
On a more serious note op, I ll give you this advice and it's up to you to take it. Wake your husband in the middle of the night and tell him that if he ever tries to flog you again he will sleep and not wake up the next day. Tell him you won't kill him, but accidents happen.
Nobody should quote me o or else I will flog you.

Mumu advice

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Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

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Don't be such a beast!

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

Even if there's altercation, even if it's an half baked story... there is no excuse under this sun whatsoever that will make one flog a grown up adult, let alone a woman with children. That's an error.

Datboredberry:
Are you daft our you couldn't comprehend the simple sentences I had written.. who's praising the white men?

Folks like you love to play the victim card, 'Africans are being exploited blah blah blah'... You forget that your argument makes it seem as though Africans are retārds who can't think for themselves and therefore, easily manipulated by those who you present as being 'smarter'...

Slavery and colonialism has ended... Yet the average black man thinks highly of a white man then his fellow black man... That's my point...

I'm not referring to domestic abuse... neither did I argue that it's an African thing...

But Africans are the group of people who believe more in jungle justice than others... Yet, we would never treat a foreigner harshly which means these severe punishments are for our countrymen only...

Would any Nigerian set a white man on fire for stealing? Or use a koboko on he/her?

I just want to quote you for the daft ones in the back to read.

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

No matters the altercation,it’s not a justifying reason to beat up a lady,how much more your wife and in front of the kids.

Beverlyjean:


When you say abusive, do you actually think being abusive is only when a man goes physical on a woman. verbal words are also an abuse which we women should stop. Why can't some women understand that men are mostly physical when angry, why provoke him with harsh words.

You will soon understand better.
It takes time but you will.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

some of you cannot keep quiet when ur husband is talking cos he's your mate, what do you expect?


Most of you are very bitter verbally.

Where are your male siblings?

Are you gainfully employed?

Do you contribute to the house financially ?

If you don’t try and get something doing too
Thats why he is seeing you as a kid too .
I have seen my neighbor flog his wife like this too till she got employed he started to treat her better .

Try know who you are marrying sha marriage is not boyfriend and girlfriend e get why

dacblogger:
Quick question... Is he from Abia state?
Meanwhile, do you have brothers? If you do, let them gather and give him joint beating that will reset his head.

quick question... Are you mad?

globalresource:


What kind of talk is this?

A man who does that in front of his children is mentally sick

No excuse whatsoever

Let those children grow up and you will see them repeat the same

They are raising damaged souls in that house. It will be a cycle. The children will either resent their mother for being weak, or hate their father fo being beast or worse stil imbibe the character of violence and thinks it's what makes one have authority and power.