AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

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doctor306:
The only compulsory pay is the bride price the rest depends on your level of craze “list inclusive “

Funny dude

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

Why u dey mumu yourself like this? Prego the chick once the family find out take her straight to court and wed her. Then grandstand they will be the one to cut the list and pled with you to do what you can afford before the pregnancy becomes public.

Bros it is time young men smart up and stop allowing archaic traditions destroy your life before it even starts.

AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

You said your uncles and not your dad?

Ekeeyhandsome:
Lol this is ridiculous..
First, u need to tell us which part in igboland, hopefully someone from there will give us an insight about the traditions there.

I am igbo from Anambra nd this is my first time hearing about this whole nonsense..

This is the first time you are hearing an Igbo family is exploiting the man that wants to marry their daughter?? Na so!!

My brother married an Igbo woman ...

After collecting 1million naira bride price, and all the usual yam, oil, holandis and the so on..
they told my brother to paint their house, buy new sowing machine for the tailor mum, give the brothers and sisters money in envelop.

That ddnt even pain us.. what was irritating was they came to their own daughters wedding like an invited outsider....

They didn't cook anything or arrange drinks for their guest, yet they nearly invited the whole village, including Catholic Church members in that area...see crowd like judgement day....

They asked for everything, I mean everything...

.from water to coke, to toothpick, and serviette paper ...and still add the effrontery to complain that my mum could not transfer cooler of food to them to serve themselves

On the traditional wedding day, one guy came to stop the wedding saying he took care of the girl when the father was sick and incapacitated ... that he will collect a whole goat before the ceremony will continue...we begged him to collect the cash equivalent and he demanded for 18k....

I have never seen anything like that before.. it was horrible..

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

... Lies. Which state and town ?

You have entered into a family of hungry golddiggers. I will advise you to forget the girl and look for someone from a more noble family. You got yourself entangled with a family of hungry peasants. Forget the girl and look for someone else!

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

dettolgel:


You said your uncles and not your dad?

He wasn't lucky enough to make it before balling out.

Deicide:
Traditional wedding in Nigeria is just a way for people to milk you dry. Legally it stands no ground.

Traditional is only own authentic marriage ceremony just that some greedy cultures or families are abusing it to exploit grooms.

frakdon:


if you are serious, reply this with yes and I'll take it further.

good thing you are in abuja too, we would meet up this weekend and reason.

Im serious but me don't have money sha but my uncles get so e go reach us somehow.

do4luv14:



Are you serious, bride price #50, it's show me your picture, before ah apply within

Even if ugly, shey less attractive people don't deserve spouses? 9ja

ibechris:
If I were u,I will call my would be wife and tell her that after this marriage ceremony,that u don't want to see her family near your house let alone come closer.

Then wait and watch her talk to them to behave.

No be for where Imo babes dey ooo...dem go finish you kpatakpata

providencia:



I hear you. Is there any millionionare who doesn't want to be a billionaires

Shey u wan put millions for envelop ni?

Highman56:

Where is ur pic? To get suitors u need ur pic to be out there.

Thought we in d era of blind dates

skywalker240:

Thanks

But

If you see the way i always feel irritated anytime i see their call's enh

Clearly a deliberate rip-off and they didn't even hide it, telling me since I want to marry a princess from Royal family, i must be equal to the task ahead.

My Wife Uncle was even telling me to go and borrow to add to the requirements,

If not for my maternal uncle's, who had to put heads together to raise over 135k that day, I for no carry my wife go house

Nothing was ommited from the list, despite how much we pleaded for considerations

Now I always view them with enormous disdain

I understand but you sef go carry princess. So does that make you a prince?

NOBILITY22:


I guess he is getting married to either to the only girl of the house or the last baby of the house.


I am the last baby of the house...
I remembered during my own time, I had little or no say during my marriage rite preparation.
If I wanted to talk or complain, they will shut me down... That it seems like I want to appear cheap in front of my husband to be.

Guess what I did....
I have to back everything up in prayers together with my husband...

We didn't spend up to half a million in doing everything in the list and also our traditional marriage was also on a low key...

You were lucky to have a way out.


Grown ups needs to start acting like grown-ups.


There are things my parents can't speak to my ears because I draw that line.


People need to start having a mind of their own.


Can't be controlled by your parents. Or families.

Personally, I don't give a rat about traditions and customs.

Privatepart00:


Na wash
Your uncles are millionaires yet none of them could help , sort yourself in Abuja
Fake fake

But none knew what I was going through. Simply hid myself from everyone, hope u get it. Don't worry I'm sure you've got many of my relative's brands in ur house, too bad I'm from d poor side. Its well o

Phock2sweet:
I sabi d thing and I go do you well well. I wan settle down with you

Na that one we go chop?

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

yes, the person must be from my part of Anambra. That is exactly the requirement in my place too. It is normal in that part.

[quote author=AutoChick4U post=109868152]Im serious but me don't have money sha but my uncles get so e go reach us somehow.[/quote.

I'm not from south east but my list is a bit long too. I just told my husband everything in that list, you must get them. I don't want extended family wahala. My own parents have no problem but the extended, hmmn! Moreso I don't want it in my history that I ever begged them to be lenient. It's a thing of pride for me that my husband is man enough. The only thing we removed was the dog they asked for, they said something like as 'idile ogun' they must collect dogs. My husband and I said we don't want to aid fetishness in anyway so we monetized it instead.

The man in question, if he can afford it, should just give them whatever they ask for. It's just a one time event, they won't ask twice.

awa:


Bros if you are not ready for marriage better continue living your Bachelor life. If you want to marry the lady, why not go ahead and marry her instead of coming online to talk about these childish talk. It doesn't show you are matured. It's childish please. You are asking us without mentioning the community so that people from the exact Community will advise.

Sometimes you guys online to write whatever you want to write to trend.... Na 2022 we dey. Stop am

Op,na one of your in-laws be this.

AutoChick4U:
Im serious but me don't have money sha but my uncles get so e go reach us somehow.

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frakdon:


nothing to do with money really.

how do i reach you?

dm

frakdon:


or you can give me your number, I'll call you now?

Dont worry I'll call you. Hope you fine o so it can compliment my not too fine self?

AutoChick4U:
dm

alright.

do check your mail box.

AutoChick4U:
Dont worry I'll call you. Hope you fine o so it can compliment my not too fine self?

lol.

well, you may want to check that out yourself.

i dropped my number, let me know if you got it, so I can delete.

AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

lol

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Sis advertise yours aswell as time no dey.

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Am an Igbo person and from what I heard
U can bargain around it,but its not u they will listen to,u have to go with ur kingsmen,they will quarrel but later settle


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Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

Dem wan scam you, nothing like that in igbo culture.