Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

Exactly my point,this is the battle I've been fighting with my family members since.

Magnoliaa:


You have still not repented, abi? Ehn. Ninu odun titun. O o ti ni ironupiwada na. Continue. It's that big yansh that will kee you las las.

Something must kee a man jare

AfroKnight:
Something must kee a man jare

Aye e.

Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

Your not stupid my sister your just suffering from the sins of your parents.
All those things you wrote my brothers and I experienced it all and 3 out of 4 are all happily married. One thing you need to understand is when a person accept Jesus Christ into his live and is sincere within himself about that decision by studying of the scripture your mind is renewed daily you begin to see some of those bitterness,hate, anger, all those negative energy being replaced.
I telling you from 1st hand experience not story I hated marriage because of what I saw in my parents own but today Jesus has taken over the wheel and I can tell you marriage is a beautiful thing when you marry your own partner.

BluntTheApostle:


I will never give any woman that opportunity.

But as a man who was once a church pastor, my ears are full. I have heard and seen things.

That is beside the literature on marriage that I have studied.

Marriage is a big scam.

Haha

simplesearch:



Is this what God instructed us about marriage or they are your personal fabrications.

1 Corinthians 2:14
But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

1 Corinthians 1:25
Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men.

Biko I didn't quote the Bible when I was given my advice and I don't do religion either, Marriage is honorable, but it is not by force. If it make you less a better person.

Mark 12:25 When they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage but are like angels in heaven.

Although what you should be asking her is why can she love her Children that she has not seen unconditionally and cannot do same for her husband abi is it baby daddy.

meobizy:
Not my concern and OP is less than 28. Let’s see if she will sing the same song at age 40.

ok so u r old cargo.how olds are u? 35yers old?
anyways i love old cargos like u coz u more beautifuller. i llove u a lots.
anyways helo. Nmezor a beautifull person said i shold ask u if u can join us for 3some becus u very beautiful & we can sell our sexxxx tape so u can make 7k (7000 naira) & can make only 25k(35000naira). deal? U WANT?

Abetterperson:


I'm Am I stupid for not wanting marriage?

That you don't want to get married? Of course you are not.

That you want kids but don't want marriage? Definitely you are.

Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

you aren't stupid for not wanting to marry. Alot of people feel same way too but afraid to come out due to the society. Just do you and Fuk what the world thinks.

By the way, do you mind telling me where you reside?

My Sister, if u no marry make sure u no fornicate!! Except u wan enter hell fire!!! Be wise oo their is life after death!! Be wise!!

Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

You are not my sis....I love your mentality. Marriage is not a must. It is better to remain single than be unhappy in marriage.

You are an impressive individual. Very impressive. Few of us know ourselves well. I applaud you.

My only suggestion is that you should be aware that our worldview change as we gain more and diverse experience of life. So we should try not to make long term decisions on the basis of short term/current experiences.

Have you considered the possibility of resolving the reasons you don't want to get married, which you so aptly laid out? They seem resolvable to me. Despite the preponderance of challenging circumstances, mismatched personalities and character flaws in marriages, there are still a sizable number of couples out there doing well. Also, you already have a significant advantage given that you know yourself very well. So it should not be a challenge to wait and find a man whose character traits suggests he will not enable an environment where the things you experienced before will occur.

Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with not getting married. A large number of individuals who have been forced into marriage by societal expectations have found to their own detriment that it is actually far better to be single than to have married.

I wish you the very best!

Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.



I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

Abetterperson:
I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?

You're not stupid dear. Just be sure it's what you want

AfroKnight:
Na this kind babe I dey find.

Magnoliaa take note.

Cc: Palem a007

I might change my mind later if I see godfearing big yansh babe.

Just talk true, na baby mama you want.

Your type no dey stay one place.

Palema007:
Just talk true, na baby mama you want.

Your type no dey stay one place.

Mummy G.O. This one that we see you on a Sunday.

Afro ti ya owo o. O ti di omokomo.

Palema007:
Just talk true, na baby mama you want.

Your type no dey stay one place.

If she get big yansh and she dey God fearing, omo, I will stay o.

Magnoliaa:


Mummy G.O. This one that we see you on a Sunday.

Afro ti ya owo o. O ti di omokomo.

Lol... You dey mind me?


He needs deliverance.

AfroKnight:




If she get big yansh and she dey God fearing, omo, I will stay o.

Until bigger yansh comes along?

Palema007:
Lol... You dey mind me?

He needs deliverance.

Abi etutu?

Palema007:
Until bigger yansh comes along?

I didn’t say that o. No comment

Hassanmaye:

For some us that don't want to marry how can we fight family pressure?

Two things you should never worry about are what you can change, and what you cannot change. If you don't want to get marry, then don't. It is not your headache if someone's else thinks otherwise. You hurt no one being unmarried. Living is an act of courage, and this is a good example of when you must be courageous to defend your position.

Marriage is surely not for you, please don't go into it, or else you will regret it.

That's how i see marriage stuffs too.

Just make money,more money and you'll be independent as you wished