Rukkie2:
U need deliverance

Jman06:
Op, I can understand your plight.
The reason is that an average Nigerian girl is not interesting to be with and to make matters worse, they don't even make attempts to improve on themselves since they believe that only the guy has the responsibility to bring everything into the relationship---the fun, the funds, etc. Many of them can't even hold conversations.

So, after enduring a few months of boredom, it is only natural for you to lose interest.

missimelda01:

No, it goes both ways.

missimelda01:
Try not to have sex with the next girl you meet, find other non-sexual ways to build intimacy and you'll continue to find her interesting.

joyandfaith:


It is not true. Women feel they have been used after premarital sex and they would like the relationship to work out. Based on psychological research.
killmods

bepositive11:


If it's just lust for the guy, then yes

joyandfaith:

Love and affection depreciate after premarital sex for both men and women.

Cleanworld:


SHUT UP YOUR TRASH TRAPPED MOUTH, THIS DAYS MEN AND WOMEN EQUALLY TAKE UP THEIR RESPONSILITIES. ITS NO LONGER THE WAY IT USE TO BE UNLESS YOU MARRY A LADY THAT DOESN'T GO TO SCHOOL OR OWN HER BUSINESSTHOSE ONES ARE NOTTING BUT LIABILITIES . YOU MIGHT CATER FOR SOMETHINGS IN THE INITIAL TIME WHEN WOMAN REALISED THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE SHE WILL BUCKLE UP AND BE EVEN MORE RESPONSILBE THAN YOU.

Them go just they talk trash as if no be their mother they pay school fees.

Jman06:
Op, I can understand your plight.
The reason is that an average Nigerian girl is not interesting to be with and to make matters worse, they don't even make attempts to improve on themselves since they believe that only the guy has the responsibility to bring everything into the relationship---the fun, the funds, etc. Many of them can't even hold conversations.

So, after enduring a few months of boredom, it is only natural for you to lose interest.

dauntless15:
Exactly what's happening to me rn, currently I have a text from her asking babe are we good? And I can't say yes because I know that's a big lie, I've been trying to breakup with her but I don't have a tangible reason, she's been good and everything there's really nothing I can use to breakup with her, then my conscience is acting funny because she predicted last week that I would break up with her when I texted her that we need to talk and it'll feel like I'm now discarding her because I used her( that's what they think sex is right? Using?) but that's not the case, I am the problem I know, but she won't understand, right now I just want to be single, and free, the calls and care is too overwhelming even though I loved her from the start and the relationship is barely two months old, I literally need space even though the poor girl doesn't deserve such bullshit treatment from me.

Natasha2:

Lwkmd no be small kind suck on this

Nigerian girls all over the world are shivering after reading this post

dauntless15:
Exactly what's happening to me rn, currently I have a text from her asking babe are we good? And I can't say yes because I know that's a big lie, I've been trying to breakup with her but I don't have a tangible reason, she's been good and everything there's really nothing I can use to breakup with her, then my conscience is acting funny because she predicted last week that I would break up with her when I texted her that we need to talk and it'll feel like I'm now discarding her because I used her( that's what they think sex is right? Using?) but that's not the case, I am the problem I know, but she won't understand, right now I just want to be single, and free, the calls and care is too overwhelming even though I loved her from the start and the relationship is barely two months old, I literally need space even though the poor girl doesn't deserve such bullshit treatment from me.

Onyiiobi7735:

Nawa oo! More reasons girls should learn to stop offering sex in a relationship. At least if the man breaks up with her,she has absolutely nothing to lose and she can easily forget all and move on.

Durabest:
As a married man which i am.i always see my wife as the best amoung the rest,whatever single girls wore and i like if i have i always buy 4 her.My heart is always on her and i don't have any sidechick thats the secret.

toujurs:
forget lust, women tend to show commitment in a relationship after sex. That is when you begin to hear questions like,so what are we now? ... She didn't ask that question when she was eating sharwarma and ice cream ontop your head, or drinking wine and sipping chicken pepper soup oh

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

Babyboyforeal:
is a lie because have been dating my girlfriend since 2016 till now our love he still stronger than ever

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

Mcslize:


You are not alone. If you want to still be with the girl, then both of you should take some time off to miss each other. A clingy relationship is quite suffocating. If you try this, it will work for you.

Take out time to miss each other. Let a full day pass by without both of you talking to each other. But first, discuss it with her.

Why people get fed up so quick in a relationship is because they are not taking out time to miss each other. They talk every day which is not healthy for a long term relationship. Take out 1 to 2 days to miss each other. You will be surprised how this will create more passion based on the theory of scarcity.

Scarcity creates stronger desires and demands. For someone like you, this is going to help alot. When you both stay off each other for like 1 full day or 2, this will increase your desire more for her to want to see her again.

This is how it works: Monday to Tuesday, dine, give each other attention, talk and do all the normal relationship things. Then both of you should not talk to each other all throughout Wednesday. Watch out how your desire to see each other will skyrocket again.

1 day in, 1 day off (no talking to each other). 3 days in, 2 days off( no talking to each other). This will help you both miss each other so much which will in turn helps renew your passion for each other.

bepositive11:


I know. It's different for men and women

Men can detach emotions from sex but most women cannot

The man easily loses interest if it was lust not love. But the woman develops stronger emotions either way. If the man loved the woman, he won't lose interest after sex

uthlaw:
what value one can place on a woman apart from sex?

dauntless15:
Exactly what's happening to me rn, currently I have a text from her asking babe are we good? And I can't say yes because I know that's a big lie, I've been trying to breakup with her but I don't have a tangible reason, she's been good and everything there's really nothing I can use to breakup with her, then my conscience is acting funny because she predicted last week that I would break up with her when I texted her that we need to talk and it'll feel like I'm now discarding her because I used her( that's what they think sex is right? Using?) but that's not the case, I am the problem I know, but she won't understand, right now I just want to be single, and free, the calls and care is too overwhelming even though I loved her from the start and the relationship is barely two months old, I literally need space even though the poor girl doesn't deserve such bullshit treatment from me.