So there is this family that have been on the edge because of the inheritance left. The mother insist that she takes ratio 2-1, which means if she takes 2 plots the other children take 1 each. Is this supposed to be so? Is the mother supposed to have more rights than the children? Is this an acceptable ratio? Or it's unfair.

Pls I need voices on this.....FP if possible

hmm

before i say my mind,

do we have a mother or a murder in this case?

Emmanuel224:
So there is this family that have been on the edge because of the inheritance left. The mother insist that she takes ratio 2-1, which means if she takes 2 plots the other children take 1 each. Is this supposed to be so? Is the mother supposed to have more rights than the children? Is this an acceptable ratio? Or it's unfair.

Pls I need voices on this.....FP if possible

Who owns the property ab initio?
What's the custom of the people involved?

If u want an answer,then explain in details the position of everyone in the matter.

If I buy a property in my wife's name and may be I am no more,I don't expect anyone to drag it with her except she willingly gives it out herself.

That's fair enough.
Her share will still end up with the children when she passes anyway, unless they're not her children or they don't get along with their mother

McDuncan:



Who owns the property ab initio?
What's the custom of the people involved?

their father owns it, as for their custom I don't knw abt it

Let them buy their own lands and leave their father's own

According to the law, the surviving spouse takes 1/3 of the properties.

There should be no problem here considering the children are only two. They should be comfortable with one plot each. They or their grandchildren will also inherit the 2 plots from their mom.



My father passed away last year. And we are not keen on sharing anything. Every property remains under our mom's management.

anthonyuncle:
hmm

before i say my mind,

do we have a mother or a murder in this case?

I don't understand

ibechris:
If u want an answer,then explain in details the position of everyone in the matter.

If I buy a property in my wife's name and may be I am no more,I don't expect anyone to drag it with her except she willingly gives it out herself.

there's no will whatsoever, and he bought it mostly for the children's education.

eyinjuege:
That's fair enough.
Her share will still end up with the children when she passes anyway, unless they're not her children or they don't get along with their mother

alryt

Emmanuel224:
So there is this family that have been on the edge because of the inheritance left. The mother insist that she takes ratio 2-1, which means if she takes 2 plots the other children take 1 each. Is this supposed to be so? Is the mother supposed to have more rights than the children? Is this an acceptable ratio? Or it's unfair.

Pls I need voices on this.....FP if possible

Feminist will have a field day with you

Back to the story, it very funny how most african tradition only respect the wife(mother) when her husband is alive the moment he is dead she is treated as an outcast i mean some are sent back with nothing

Image they have been married for 20 years regardless that she was the housewife but she maintained the home from cooking to cleaning and when husband was working or whatever he did it wife and children, meaning wife is the 1st beneficiary the kids

Tell me the reason you think kids deserve more than the mother ? Do you think its just a thing that was embedded in us while we were growinng it and we think that the right way

Most men favour tradition inheritance system because it favours them (MEN) when one's brother dies the surving brothers rush to inherit becoz of greedyness

Lets put tradition away and lets reason sure you build your wealth with your wife and then someone just takes over simply becoz he is your brother ? why didnt you marry your brother and built with him, the wife should inherit the wealth automatically, kids under 18 inherit through the mother, then for grow up its up to the mother how she distribute it either by giving some direct or wait your time when mother dies wealth is passed on the kids.

Have you ever wonder why most african we dont own property or wealth from grandparents, its that greedyness where relatives of husband grap everything and the surviving wife and kids suffer and die poor, no wealth gets pass on eg from mother/father to son then son to his on kids becoz they have understood the passing on of wealth and creating a legancy

So let mum inherit what is due to her she worked for it and am sure if she treated fairly she pass on the wealth to her kids

Would you feel the same if it was your own sister being treated like that with her own kids? trying to get a bigger position of things they didnt work for ?

Emmanuel224:
their father owns it, as for their custom I don't knw abt it

The mother ought to be a custodian of the property while her sons grow up to attain full maturity and inheritance. Not she.

She can re-marry, or have a boyfriend as a result her children can be disinherited and a whole heritage be thus lost.

Emmanuel224:
So there is this family that have been on the edge because of the inheritance left. The mother insist that she takes ratio 2-1, which means if she takes 2 plots the other children take 1 each. Is this supposed to be so? Is the mother supposed to have more rights than the children? Is this an acceptable ratio? Or it's unfair.

Pls I need voices on this.....FP if possible

It’s all hers and she can will it to them when she dies

ZIMDRILL:


Feminist will have a field day with you

Back to the story, it very funny how most african tradition only respect the wife(mother) when her husband is alive the moment he is dead she is treated as an outcast i mean some are sent back with nothing

Image they have been married for 20 years regardless that she was the housewife but she maintained the home from cooking to cleaning and when husband was working or whatever he did it wife and children, meaning wife is the 1st beneficiary the kids

Tell me the reason you think kids deserve more than the mother ? Do you think its just a thing that was embedded in us while we were growinng it and we think that the right way

Most men favour tradition inheritance system because it favours them (MEN) when one's brother dies the surving brothers rush to inherit becoz of greedyness

Lets put tradition away and lets reason sure you build your wealth with your wife and then someone just takes over simply becoz he is your brother ? why didnt you marry your brother and built with him, the wife should inherit the wealth automatically, kids under 18 inherit through the mother, then for grow up its up to the mother how she distribute it either by giving some direct or wait your time when mother dies wealth is passed on the kids.

Have you ever wonder why most african we dont own property or wealth from grandparents, its that greedyness where relatives of husband grap everything and the surviving wife and kids suffer and die poor, no wealth gets pass on eg from mother/father to son then son to his on kids becoz they have understood the passing on of wealth and creating a legancy

So let mum inherit what is due to her she worked for it and am sure if she treated fairly she pass on the wealth to her kids

Would you feel the same if it was your own sister being treated like that with her own kids? trying to get a bigger position of things they didnt work for ?

personally I don't have a problem with that, but that ratio just doesn't seem ryt to me. It means she has more than half of everything in a family of 5

McDuncan:


The mother ought to be a custodian of the property while her sons grow up to attain full maturity and inheritance. Not she.

She can re-marry, or have a boyfriend as a result her children can be disinherited and a whole heritage be thus lost.

I just did my own digging, under sharia customary law if a woman marries she losses what ever she has, not vice versa

cococandy:

It’s all hers and she can will it to them when she dies

also under my digging she has only 1/3 of everything as some1 said up there, which seems a lil decent to some extent.

Emmanuel224:
there's no will whatsoever, and he bought it mostly for the children's education.

Is it written in the children's name. No wahala. But if it's written in her name there is nothing any of u can do but to play along her request. No court of law in Nigeria can take it away from her except she decides to relinquish her rights of ownership.

Just like i said earlier,don't u think it's good for u to explain this matter in details reason is because what applies in Yoruba land does not work in igbo land where I come from and the two above do not also rhyme with what is being practised in the North.

With detail explanation I may help u to render solution because this is my field of practice. No matter how the matter turns out,your mother is one person no one should toil with in this matter. Because her decision is final except otherwise rescinded.

ibechris:




Is it written in the children's name. No wahala. But if it's written in her name there is nothing any of u can do but to play along her request. No court of law in Nigeria can take it away from her except she decides to relinquish her rights of ownership.

there is no documentation of the property

Emmanuel224:
personally I don't have a problem with that, but that ratio just doesn't seem ryt to me. It means she has more than half of everything in a family of 5

ok cool but remember she is the one who worked for it as helping your daddy indirectly cooking for him making sure the home is comfortable for him to have a peace of mind etc

are your other siblings grown ups ? grown ups you deserve less becoz you can work your own money and buy your own

its the under 18 and mum who must have a bigger share then, for the grown ups you get a second chance when mom dies before she will redistribute her ownn share the way she see fit

ibechris:
Just like i said earlier,don't u think it's good for u to explain this matter in details reason is because what applies in Yoruba land does not work in igbo land where I come from and the two above do not also rhyme with what is being practised in the North.

With detail explanation I may help u to render solution because this is my field of practice. No matter how the matter turns out,your mother is one person no one should toil with in this matter. Because her decision is final except otherwise rescinded.

The law of the state is supreme. Customs of the community on how they share properties is irrelevant.

Lagos state and Anambra state have similar Administrative estate law. 1/3 goes to the surviving spouse while the rest of the children take 2/3.