I don't keep a lot of friends because I detest unnecessary drama and can't handle the drama of too many people at the same time. However, there is this one male friend who is quite messy and disorganized in his things but whom I value because he has shown his loyalty and has come through for me a number of times.

There is this girl whom he started something of a FWB(Friends with benefits) situation with some time back which I am aware of. I knew he basically did things for this girl and was acting like a boyfriend even though he went in as a FWB. I have met the girl and it doesn't seem like she really likes him past what he has been doing for him but he has been convinced that they could be there for each other till they are both ready to settle down.

I advised him against that because I suspected the girl was toxic but I didn't know just how toxic until now. He opened up to me that since they have been together for almost 7months now, they have only ever had somewhat okay sex twice. Other times, he would not be aroused enough to sex her and she had all these rules about not touching her vajayjay and always using condoms and other stuff like that.

He has gone to doctors and taken meds and even when two different doctors said there was nothing wrong with him, he continued taking medication. He went as far as visiting a doctor with her.

Now this is the main issue, the other two doctors he earlier visited advised that if he and the girl were exclusive, they could have sex raw. He had gone along with it for long and he finally confronted her about it and after all the rigmaroling, she says she wants to maintain status quo. No condoms, same FWB situationship...

He was saying that he is confused as to what to do and that he wants "impersonal advice". I know exactly what to tell him but I may be harsh. I want to hear your opinions guys.

Nawa Oh! For this current Naija na him person wan de dive in raw?

She's not yet his wife okay. So he should be collecting the one he can collect till he has gathered enough money to pay her bride price.

Dude wants to feel entitled on top FWB pússsy.

Nairaland, sha

So your paddi want to turn fwd to
Serious relationship...

Was that the initial agreement from the start..

Or he's just catching feeling along the line..

@luwi

luwiizy:
So your paddi want to turn fwd to
Serious relationship...

Was that the initial agreement from the start..

Or he's just catching feeling along the line..

Ocholu:
Nawa Oh! For this current Naija na him person wan de dive in raw?

She's not yet his wife okay. So he should be collecting the one he can collect till he has gathered enough money to pay her bride price.

Dude wants to feel entitled on top FWB pússsy.

From what I know, he seems to have been "spoilt" from the very beginning because his girlfriends of then had always allowed him to hit raw and he's one of those guys that say they don't like condom.

Also, he confessed to me that he is freaked out at how he has not been able to "perform" with her and he has done a lot for her. Still don't know the extent other than what he has told me.

To be honest, I am secretly curious as to why he can't because it is strange to me as well.

prIVy7:
@luwi

From what I know, he seems to have been "spoilt" from the very beginning because his girlfriends of then had always allowed him to hit raw and he's one of those guys that say they don't like condom.

Also, he confessed to me that he is freaked out at how he has not been able to "perform" with her and he has done a lot for her. Still don't know the extent other than what he has told me.

To be honest, I am secretly curious as to why he can't because it is strange to me as well.

Bros, if you're the person come and say it. Let's know how to appropriately advice you. Stop hiding in the guise of your friend.

Ocholu:


Bros, if you're the person come and say it. Let's know how to appropriately advice you. Stop hiding in the guise of your friend.

Check very well. Do I seem to you like the type that wouldn't own my own shvt?

Dude, just give your advise. It's not hard.