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Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by jojo2023: 5:57am On Mar 02, 2022 |
Good day, Please I have these issues bothering me and feel if its enough to cause a bother, I should seek help. Its about my husband. He got into a building project that has gotten him into a lot of debts. We presently stay in a house bequeathed to me by my Father (late) , I am so grateful that my Father did that for me and also got me a good job before he departed this world. I try to see to the maintenance of the building and also encourage him to but after sometime we both agreed we would leave (I understand its not easy for a man to do this and I am sincerely grateful he agreed we live there for these 6 years, at least we don't bother about house rent in this expensive rent city we live) , we agreed to find a land and build a house of our own in our names. It has been a prayer point and I went as far as...... https://livelystones.ng/2022/03/01/true-life-story-where-did-i-go-wrong-to-receive-such-abuse-in-my-marriage/ 1 Share
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Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by ItsGoodToBeGood: 6:00am On Mar 02, 2022 |
More Data please!!!!!!! |
Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by Dawn91(m): 6:07am On Mar 02, 2022 |
Fake story. Seems alot of young men are jobless these days.. You see so many fake relationship stories and marriage stories on nairaland front page. Most of them are wrttien by guys who live in one room and haven't changed their boxers in weeks.. As a man I wonder what these young lads a turning to. That's why you see so many freelancer writer adverts In job vacancies section 7 Likes |
Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by Skyfornia(m): 6:39am On Mar 02, 2022 |
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Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by Shokoloko(f): 6:53am On Mar 02, 2022 |
STORY CONTINUED............ True Life Story: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? Good day Lively Stones, Please I have these issues bothering me and feel if its enough to cause a bother, I should seek help. Its about my husband. He got into a building project that has gotten him into a lot of debts. We presently stay in a house bequeathed to me by my Father (late) , I am so grateful that my Father did that for me and also got me a good job before he departed this world. I try to see to the maintenance of the building and also encourage him to but after sometime we both agreed we would leave (I understand its not easy for a man to do this and I am sincerely grateful he agreed we live there for these 6 years, at least we don’t bother about house rent in this expensive rent city we live) , we agreed to find a land and build a house of our own in our names. It has been a prayer point and I went as far as physically following him to get the present Land now being built. However, during the documentation, I discovered he changed the title document to just his name only ,and not to the two of us as we both agreed. When I asked him about this, I got the shock of my life! My Husband told me its his first evidence as a man that provides shelter for his family so, I should not disturb him. However, he didn’t stop there and this was when I became hurt: He went about it in an abusive and arrogant manner with me. He was so defiant and unremorseful about his breaking our agreement and I was psychologically abused over it and even other matters I never knew he resented me about.. He laid all sort of false allegations against me as to why he decided not to include my name. many other events happen that family members had to intervene. I even totally abandoned the Land matter and we had to thrash out other allegations he raised.. I remembered weeping bitterly when the matter was being resolved .and I was told that according to African tradition, I have to apologize whether right or wrong. I knelt down and did . Two years going, I decided I would keep anything to my chest ,so as not to be having family members gather over our matter again. However, its been ups and downs for my husband. I engaged in several prayers and intercessions for him. God has been helping us but he still think the problems are too many for him, particularly, the debts. I tried to encourage him but he began to resent my acts ,saying I should do more than I am doing and put funds down to help offset some of the debts he incurred on the building project. I truly don’t know who to turn to to help us again. However, he transfers aggression on me with all kinds of insults and to worsen it, he has withdrawn from home upkeep , but I thank God he’s able to pay the children’s school fees in all. However, I am worried because , recently in one of his sessions of being upset and verbal insulting me, he said I am the source of his woes and I should stop praying for him! I was shocked and upset he could say such and I replied I would only be asking God for mercy for him for that and so many wrong insinuations against me. I honestly try to avoid responding when he’s verbally insulting me , but this last time, I felt I was being manipulated and bullied so I decided to respond back. He was almost getting physical. But I felt better I spoke. Just worried if he hit me, what would have happen especially with the children witnessing such and family members getting to know.. Honestly, I began thinking of talking to one of my friends in his office if she can help me transfer him out of this city , maybe he needs that breathe. . but presently, I am talking to God about it and waiting for HIS leading if I should do that. But why I am bothered is that, the children are witnessing these things and they complain of their dad’s anger issue. I try to explain to them that the debts issue is what he’s getting to him , but I know they understand more and can read in between the lines.. Family prayers have stopped, a lot of things we do together have stopped because he’s always upset about everything. My husband does not know where and when to stop if he begins insulting me in anger. presently, he calls me selfish wife as I cannot help out with his debts and sincerely, I keep wondering how he’s thinking? Does he expect at this point I do bizarre things to get him out of them! I told him I cant and he withdrew from family upkeep. I have spoken to him about his anger episodes, he promises to change but, here we go again! I am most shocked that he has tied his woes to me. How ![]() I truly don’t know what to think, please I just need to let it out here. I would appreciate advise on what to do . Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by otokpamike(m): 7:05am On Mar 02, 2022 |
This is your own part of the story and you could say anything just to make us belief you are the victim here. You could have allow him experience the expensive house rent from the beginning as the husband rather you prefer your father provide shelter for you guys and I want to belief it didn't just stop, there are things you still didn't mention. If claims ownership of the incompleted house it's because of word been thrown at him simply because he stayed in your father's house. And now because of his claims you have also stop the things you also do to keep the family happy and now do you expect a man that is in the comfort of you and your father to not change. Well since he is encuring debt to complete his house, it's to move his family out. I was waiting to hear the complete olosho part but it seems it's mere a suspicion nothing to hold. Madam I want to belief if your husband would come here and say his part, all what you have told us will just be intro. Please go back and continue the things you do from the beginning when you guys got married and all your complain will stop. |
Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by qekng40(f): 7:19am On Mar 02, 2022 |
okay o |
Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by Felimax(m): 7:23am On Mar 02, 2022 |
otokpamike: Oh my God! I just love your response! What a reply! I feel so happy how you could see in between. Other people will come and start raining abuses on the man without an iota of benefit of doubt. Sometimes, when it gets so intensed all a man need is just a break. Just as you have said she should join hands with him to see they are free from indebtedness. |
Re: Where Did I Go Wrong To Receive Such Abuse In My Marriage? by Felimax(m): 7:30am On Mar 02, 2022 |
Dawn91: No, even if it's a fake story, so? So all the movies you watch are what? Perhaps they were written by some jobless youth who has not changed their boxers for seven days? No, hear yourself! Oga, just listen to yourself! I will not insult you. Do you think I will do that? For what? |
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