There's nothing wrong with the question

doggedfighter:


We're very inquisitive as a people.
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add insentitive to it.

Nothing wrong with the question

Most especially a family that's been wanting to have a male child or had history of stillbirth.

I've read all the replies above and I'm very disappointed.

So, if those asking want to bring gifts for your baby, how would they when they don't know the sex of the baby.

Come on, stop the myopic reasoning.

WiszyFraud:
Did you know??



Giving birth is the second most painful thing a human can experience – The first is being burned alive.

been steamed alive is worse than been burnt alive and there are many more pain than giving birth

The question isnt off limits now. Chai!

Americans ask this too. Some even tell ahead. Why is the Nigerian own now causing wahala? its a global thing actually.

ahnie:
It's a Nigerian thing, we're all guilty of it.
It's a question being asked all over the world,but the way we asked ours as Nigerians come be like say,we be monitoring spirits.

We?!!!... Please, speak for yourself. I and those in my circle don't ask such a question, or the ones below:

You don born?!!

You never still marry?!!! Wetin you dey wait for?!!

When you go marry?!! Wetin you dey wait for to marry?!!

How many children you get?!! (Like wtf?!!)

...to mention a few!

Angelfrost:


We?!!!... I don't ask such a question, or the ones below:

You don born?!!

You never still marry?!!! Wetin you dey wait for?!!

When you go marry?!! Wetin you dey wait for to marry?!!

How many children you get?!! (Like wtf?!!)

When you go ask those questions,you nor go know.lolxxx

Nigeria, we Nigerians know. How to ask complicated questions..

Omakraid:
Some are asked this question even by their husbands ooo especially if they want a male child

But I thought they do scan to know the gender at some point during pregnancy

You no no

obembet:
Having a baby is hard work and people need to appreciate the Labor pain woman passthrough. Labor is one of the most severe pains which has ever evaluated and its fear is one of the reasons ladies does not want to marry.

Now, what I have observed so far whenever woman give birth, the next questions will be weitin u born? Na boy or girl? . To me, I think this is most annoying question. Why not congratulate the woman first instead of asking unnecessary questions.

Why some Nigerians like asking this question?

It makes complete sense to ask for the baby's gender, just to show you're interested in the baby and the news. I bet if you told someone you just gave birth and the person just said "nice one" you'd feel bad...

Nobody is concerned about your child's gender, it's just a normal, social question... Don't overthink.

It depends though. .
To an African traditional man
If you say girl, na wahala

ahnie:

When you go ask those questions,you nor go know.lolxxx

Lol... You don't know me. I nor dey ask those kind questions. Never!!!

They might cross my mind, but that's where they remain... Such never spills from my lips!

Same reason why SEX is asked in all the forms you fill online and offline.

Sekoni003:
It's actually no big deal and before you compare with the western countries, over there, they aren't vague when breaking news of their baby's birth. They aren't unnecessarily superstitious to conceal their newborn's sex so you wouldn't even need to ask about the sex in the first place

Exactly. Some of them even organize a sex/gender reveal party BEFORE birth, just to announce the sex of the unborn baby.

Na our muchi muchi (being secretive) dey bring such curiosity from well wishers.

Stupid question to ask!!!
My junior sister put to bed late January and I come to know the baby gender on this week Wednesday.
If not for the pix of the baby Posted on family WhatsApp, I wouldn't have known till now.
God is a giver of children
Accept this precious gift.

Angelfrost:


Lol... You don't know me. I nor dey ask those kind questions. Never!!!

It might cross my mind, but it that's where it remains... It never spills from my lips!

Got yaa!

obembet:
Having a baby is hard work and people need to appreciate the Labor pain woman passthrough. Labor is one of the most severe pains which has ever evaluated and its fear is one of the reasons ladies does not want to marry.

Now, what I have observed so far whenever woman give birth, the next questions will be weitin u born? Na boy or girl? . To me, I think this is most annoying question. Why not congratulate the woman first instead of asking unnecessary questions.

Why some Nigerians like asking this question?

It's the next most intelligent question after knowing a woman has given birth to a child and they want to know is it a male or female child?

This question comes usually only then they know it's a safe delivery for both the mother and child!

12345baba:
There's nothing wrong with question

I wonder o. This woke generation believes in getting triggered over every little thing and that's a huge problem.

Imagine telling someone you just gave birth and they didn't even bother asking any further question... Same lady would feel bad about it and complain again. This life, you can't satisfy humans.

obembet:
Having a baby is hard work and people need to appreciate the Labor pain woman passthrough. Labor is one of the most severe pains which has ever evaluated and its fear is one of the reasons ladies does not want to marry.

Now, what I have observed so far whenever woman give birth, the next questions will be weitin u born? Na boy or girl? . To me, I think this is most annoying question. Why not congratulate the woman first instead of asking unnecessary questions.

Why some Nigerians like asking this question?

Not asking is hypocritical, synthetic and cosmetic.

Men and women are different- sex organ, voice, mannerisms, physical strengths etc

Gender equality does not imply denial of such difference. It rather means that
men and women, albeit different, should enjoy equal humanity and be fairly placed in their world.

It is only when this difference is recognized and even celebrated that a genuine conversation on gender can be realized.

In fact, it's this difference that gave rise to gender consciousness in the first place.

We had better not play the ostrich about it.

Kokaine:

But I thought they do scan to know the gender at some point during pregnancy

How many Nigerians can afford scan?!!

Why won't they ask?

pussyAvenger:
not asking is hypocritical, synthetic and cosmetic

Nope... Not asking is respecting boundaries especially when you are not very close to the person.

Person wey read wetin you write now go feel say that's what happens.

Usually, whenever a woman is delivered of a baby, what you'll hear even if it's pretentious is : thank God o!! Before the wetin she born?

The people who usually ask "wetin u born" first are either the husbands or very close family members who have been expecting a specific gender after having a particular gender overtime.

Make una take am easy dey twist tori na.

And who told you one of the reasons girls don't marry is because of childbearing?I understand it may be an issue if the girl is aware of somethings that may prevent her from conception.Hence, she'd not want to be under any pressure after some years in marriage.
Aside that, most if not all sane women marry to have children.
Forget, those who have a warped understanding about marriage claiming civilization.

obembet:
Having a baby is hard work and people need to appreciate the Labor pain woman passthrough. Labor is one of the most severe pains which has ever evaluated and its fear is one of the reasons ladies does not want to marry.

Now, what I have observed so far whenever woman give birth, the next questions will be weitin u born? Na boy or girl? . To me, I think this is most annoying question. Why not congratulate the woman first instead of asking unnecessary questions.

Why some Nigerians like asking this question?

Because many people think one gender is superior to the other. I don't ask such questions and if you don't tell me, I don't care.

Interestingly, if you don't personally tell me you are expecting or you had a baby, I act like I don't know.

Because there are two human gender that exist and you must have been given birth to either one of them or both the two gender.. simple