Penguin2:
The problem is that you don’t have money

No Nigerian in-law supports his/her daughter against a rich in-law.

They thought you had prospects.

They thought things will turn out for good for you so you will be wiring them with money but it seems the reverse has been the case.

About your wife, she has divorced you psychologically and I suggest you do same physically by putting pen to papers and granting her the freedom she seeks.

Stop allowing her be in the driver’s seat in the whole fracas, she has occupied it for too long, take up the driver’s seat, go on offensive, sit her down and tell her that you have decided to grant her the divorce she’s looking for and if her attitude doesn’t change, sincerely, then go ahead with the divorce and let her go and focus on yourself and making money.

10 years from today she will look back and regret treating you like shit.

My 2 cents!

Best advice I have seen on nairaland.

I have been close to married women who tell me thier marital problems...And believe me op...if a woman tells you,things like your wife said,it's game over..She really means it and feels nothing for you..... Simply file for a Divorce, because since your under same roof with her,you would keep hurting....

I can tell you,why she's still with you is, probably because you provide..Cut it and provide for your children alone ..There is praer can't do.

Guy with all what she has said to you, one young bobo don dey Bleep your wife the way u no dey Bleep her.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Omo I feel for you o. I had an ex gf that had this attitude, and without looking back, I stopped that shit with the quickness, what you are dealing with was what I woulda been facing too. You just have to give her time honestly, let her miss you.

To the guys reading this, don't ever make the mistake of getting married to a quick-tempered lady.
The OP's wife is a quick-tempered lady. Quick tempered girls disgust me a lot. Na so one wan friend zone me for uni dat year. I jump & pass.

During courtship, she will show her true colors if you're observant enough.

Lastly, that marriage is gone! Once your wife Don tell you to have sex outside if you so desire, bros 4get it, she Don dey wipe outside too.

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Penguin2:


I guess your “little” way is not enough for your wife and [b][/b]her parents except they have something else against you.[b]

Another thing I’m seeing is that you married someone you love and not someone that loves you.

Possibly you were led by her beauty and you sadly ignored the absence of mental connection between the both of you which is what has gotten worse now.

I don’t know what happens between you and your wife from here, but when next you are looking for a wife to settle down with, make sure she’s your gist mate.

Make sure you guys have the same world view; same convictions about life.

Make sure the woman genuinely cares about you and not somebody you chased for years.

Beauty should come distant last.

Op doesn’t know owe her parent anything aside respect,since he has fully Married her

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

...I will add this to what others have said, learn to SPEND LESS time at home no matter...it brings respect..even after you close from work...you can get home, take your bath and go out... scarcity brings respect

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

I sent you a private message bro

Karleb:


The last line spoiled everything.

I don't know why you believe beautiful women are evil. Funny thing is, the woman in question might not be beautiful.

My brother I wonder oh.



Most times its the ugly ladies that give too much wahala oh. Beautiful ladies no get wahala, their most wahala na money, fashion and fried rice, abeg make them leave all the beautiful umu asa for us

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.

You're blessed brother.

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.

The best advice so far.

Don't listen to what most of them say here excerpt you want to destroy your home. I think your wife is battling post partum trauma, sometimes when women get angry we say things we don't actually mean. Find out what you doing that is making her angry sometimes you men do things that makes your women angry without knowing it.
Surprised the some men are busy saying divorce your wife even the ones that are taking shit from their wives at home are here telling you to divorce your wife sorry for any person that will take rubbish advice from social media on how to handle their marriage or relationship seek the face of God or you go see your pastor.

dawnomike:
Post partum trauma... Deficiency of DHA

She will come around

I thought as much,just ignore and leave the woman alone,if you are the sexy type get a side chick,she will reset herself

Believe me or not, your wife is tested and confirmed lesbian

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Na you do yourself you married a liability pusssssy as wife you said she is not working red flag one , she keeps malice red flag too , I can't even friend a girl that keeps malice she can kill you anything, you had quarrel she abuses you with words yet you settle to Marry her , what is wrong with you

ogododo:


Bro nothing do your woman. She just gave birth, na PTSD, trauma related to delivery. If I got you, na just 1 year your marriage be. Her body and marriage dey undergo change. Talk and dey more patience with her. Above all pray to God. Una go dey alright.

You people always making excuses for women's bad attitude.

My mum gave birth to 9 kids and was very hard working. Was there no ptsd then?

These ones these days are just lazy ill mannered phools and guys are making shittty excuses for them

Penguin2 your comment is making me laugh hysterically



Philip94, try and read Penguin2 comments over and over, he made sense lol



Guys stop begging ladies to marry you. Stop marrying ladies that you chased forever before they accepted you. Any lady that likes you wont even know when she will say yes, it is when a lady doesn't like you naturally that she will be telling you to give her time to think about it, think about what?


She is struggling to like you and searching for something within you to make her say yes to you. Or she has someone she truly likes who isn't taking her serious so she keeps posting you as backup in case the guy she likes dumps her.



Hard to get happens only when a girl doesn't fancy you naturally. Avoid any girl forming hard to get for you, especially for marriage.



As a man, your woman ought to love you more than you love her for the marriage to last long.



As the man, you have too many responsibilities to be having issues of your wife not giving you her all, it will cause you distractions and poor performance in your business, career or whatever you do.

She’s prying on your emotion, she knows you’re weak in that area. You want her happiness at the expense of yours. You need to strike a balance to show you matter as well in the relationship. What you need to do is to stop being emotional in her presence. Make sure all that’s required of you as the head of your home is available. Sometimes you need to allow her come request some things before you make provision for them. Sometimes, even basic things like foodstuffs in the house. Don’t just shower het with all she’s needs, let her come ask. People generally overprice themselves when you undervalue yourself.

Moreover, who know the sin you committed, it could be something that’s very hard to forgive, most especially betrayal of trust.
Even God doesn’t treat people with soft hands when you’re erring.

CAPSLOCKED:
YOU YESTERDAY.




YOU TODAY.





WHEN A MAN WANTED TO LET GO, YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT KARMA AND BLAMING THE MAN. TODAY A WOMAN WANTS TO LET GO AND YOU'RE STANDING FIRMLY IN YOUR RESOLUTE TO ENSURE THAT THE MAN LET'S HER BE.


MY FRIENDS. TRUST WOMEN TO MOVE AROUND WITH THE GOALPOST EVERY SECOND UNTIL THEY FIND A SPOT CONVENIENT FOR THEM ALONE. CONTINUE TO TAKE THEIR WORDS AS ABSOLUTE AT YOUR DETRIMENT, SIRS.

Do you mind those eediots?

Give her divorce papers to sign. She will beg you. No time to check time. Make she go

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Listening to your worries only without your wife's cannot give a perfect solution...
I will suggest that money without affirmation and respect among couples leads to problems in marriage ..

Lack of proper good communication in marital
issues such as children, sex, money, education , inlaws, business, personal hygiene etc breeds little crises in few marriages .

The ability to keep things cool in marriage without verbal abuses between each other,being proud of individual achievement rather than being defensive YET ensuring that the dispute is settle ..

I will suggest you talk with her once more with a SOFTER tone requesting for a private and quality time not SEX inclusive... If she agrees you could surprise her by decorating the room nicely ...
Arrange your points of discussion etc ,
Let her speak without interuption,observing the little mistakes both couple made in time past and resolving them immediately..

If she refuses then let her be ... But continue to perform your family responsibilities in no matter of time she will return back pleading ...

nonsense

illicit:
Bring ur girlfriend(s) home

Lol
This would be interesting

Penguin2:
The problem is that you don’t have money

No Nigerian in-law supports his/her daughter against a rich in-law.

They thought you had prospects.

They thought things will turn out for good for you so you will be wiring them with money but it seems the reverse has been the case.

About your wife, she has divorced you psychologically and I suggest you do same physically by putting pen to papers and granting her the freedom she seeks.

Stop allowing her be in the driver’s seat in the whole fracas, she has occupied it for too long, take up the driver’s seat, go on offensive, sit her down and tell her that you have decided to grant her the divorce she’s looking for and if her attitude doesn’t change, sincerely, then go ahead with the divorce and let her go and focus on yourself and making money.

10 years from today she will look back and regret treating you like shit.

My 2 cents!

10yrs kẹ,e no go reach 3 months before Dem begin dey send people to am.
he should just send the badly raised adult back to her parents

CharlotteFlair:



Let me tell you a little story.

When I was single, I was dating a guy who was married, but his family lived abroad and from the beginning, he made me understand he will never leave his wife no matter what. I never asked him to anyway, but because we were so close, he didn't want me to feel exploited. He told me anytime i meet a guy who wants to marry me, that I should let him know and he will shift base.

But mahn! We were so close to the extent that no man can come too close. Any time another guy starts taking interest in me, he will jump in and want to know everything going on. He kind of wanted to vet anyone who would marry me.

The problem here was that, a guy who's interested in marriage must want to courtship. You don't just meet today and get married tomorrow. But I didn't have that space because Biodun was all over the place. Infact, if someone likes me and I told him about it, after asking me a few questions about the guy, he will conclude for me that this one is not a serious person.

So I devised ways to cheat on him.

My job took me around the country, and I met a guy in Abuja and we started dating codedly.

One Christmas, Biodun's family were home for Xmas and so he had divided attention. Because they were around, he could no longer pass the night in my house. Because of the small small space between us, I thought it was a perfect time to invite the Abuja guy to my house.

One night, Abbey had left my house to go be with his family, after bidding him farewell for the night, I called the Abuja guy, who was also in town for an assignment.

He came around 9pm and we drove out for some fun. We came back before long and continued the fun in my house.

One thing led to another, and we bleeped! The guy was bleeping me like his life depended on it. But we were obviously compatible. It was awesome! We bleeped round after round and I never heard Biodun was calling my phone until he got to my door. We agreed to see next day, but lover boy was missing me and lied to his wife that he was attending a church vigil that night in order to be with me. When he tried to open the door with his spare, it was bolted from inside.

By now, he knew I was inside with someone. He knocked I didn't hear. The Gen was on.

So he went downstairs and put off the Gen. It was not long before me and my partner sauntered into the palor because of heat inthe bedroom, naked. I didn't know Abbey was standing at my window outside watching us. We went to the kitchen to drink water and returned to the room to continue and Abbey was outside my window hearing my moaning and the bang bang bang from the Abuja carpenter.

Abbey was heartbroken. He started calling my phone again and I answered this time. He told me he was outside my door and that I should come and open the door.

So I came out to the palor only to see my guy at the window in tears. I denied there's nobody inside with me and asked him to go home to his family, that we'd see the next day. This guy refused and asked me to just open the door which I declined.

Okoata, do you know this guy stood outside my window from 12 midnight to 7am next day? He refused to go and I refused to open the door. Occasionally I will leave him at the window to go talk with the guy in room who already knew there's trouble in paradise.

Long story short, Abbey left but after saying he had broke up with me.

Three days later, I received a bbm from him and it was his picture in the hospital.

I went there to see him. He said my infidelity landed him in the hospital. I pleaded and pleaded for forgiveness. When he left hospital, he continued to visit me like before. But his manhood never got up again for me. I continued pleading but he would not heal for months.

After 4 months of touturing me without forgiveness, I took a definite stand.

I told him he should either divorce his wife to marry me or marry me as a second wife or stop the relationship. He chose non!!

Two months later, I met my husband who lived in phc without his knowledge. Four months down the line we got married. Abbey had to go. But he never forgave me till date.

Do you understand? We are no longer dating, but he still has not forgiven me even after 11yrs. Some people are wired like that.

Hian.

LesbianBoy:
She is treating you like that because she knows you are a "good man" and you no too get money

Women will tell you they need a good man, but when you are a good man and treat them nice they would disrespect you

This is the very bitter truth.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

check very well to assertain you being the father of the child, give her space if need be or end the marriage. Marriage no be do or die affair....

jaxxy:


Hmmm I can understand ur wife is largely unforgiving or maybe she forgives bt doesn't forget. It who she is and u can only manage it untill she learns for herself it's not the best.

As for no sex after a 3months old baby I do t think u should be rushing a woman into intimacy or sex. To some women it makes u look emotionally weak when u beg for sex. U can induce sex without begging or forcing it.

I know as a Man and husband u are truly trying despite ur imperfections which u admit u do wrong ur wife, I advice u work more on ur self as u are the leader of the home not just In money bt in character.

U also seem to lack emotional intelligence cos how to win over ur wifes affection should be the easiest thing for u to do. U, toasted, dated and successfully married her, use some sense to know what she likes and start from there without making it look like ure overly begging. Too much begging isn't good.

Once she warms up abit talk about the good memories u had if At all u guys had any. And don't rush her too much she will come around when she feels like it or feels better about u.


Marriage is a journey and alot of work to sustain that's why commitment and love is important.

The mistake people make is thinking once u are married u stop working on urself and trying to be the best u can be for urself and ur partner.

Happiness in marriage is not automatic u have to invest and create the type of marriage u want.

There is no justfication for the type of bad treatment this good man gets.

None whatsoever. Even if a woman has a reason to deny the husband sex, be it ill health, tiredness etc, it should be properly communicated with remorse.

This will calm the man down.


I can't be working hard to foot bills in my house and still be unhappy..

Stop pampering her. Stop giving her money. Anything your child needs buy it don't monetize it. It seems she's too comfortable. A jobless woman that is till an ingrate. Sorry I can't tolerate that.
I give you at most 2 months you will see her begging.

There is anoda man Oga. And your wife never loved you to start with. Love forgives. U better confirm the paternity of d child wen u can.

Simply send her out of d house and remarry. Cos trust me u will eventually die of depression. I'm sure u even look older than you age now. U deserve to be happy. Shalom

Let her go !