Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

You have tried, although the story is one sided ie we haven't heard from her, she needs space abi, give her space, do your thing behave as if she doesn't exist, two can also play the game it's because you are begging and petting that's why she's behaving like this, just ghost her small and see her coming around.

Hassanmaye:

Lol we have so many SIMPle men

It's a pandemic at this point.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Be doing gentleman she finally kills you. She say she no wan do again, please let her go. If the baby is top young, let her go with her. Then remarry if you want, if you don't want to, get a banner mama (I believe you have the money shaa). Cos from what I see, she will plan with her people to poison you one day and take over your property.

Bro... take your people to her people and devolve the marriage. It is not working, you can't force a woman to live you

Rinoxy:

So he should now do beyond his present status abi? U guys talk as if a man has come to serve n satisfy a woman in life.

I AM NOT TALKING TO EVERYBODY!MY COMMENT IS FOR THE MATURED MINDS!!

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.

fact! Only if op will listen to this advice!

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

divorce her assss! So u won't get high blood pressure because of one yeye marriage

Nigeria is already too tough to add marriage wahala to it

Op there is absolutely nothing you can do, her mind is made up. Move on with your life.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

We need to hear her side of the story. You sound inconsiderate and stubborn.

Once men begin to post like saints, know that they are far from the truth.

Once men mention money, know that they want other men to hate their women. Once they involve children, just know that they want to assassinate her character.

Focus on your self don't bother her though God hate divorce. Forget her completely

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Lol I'm sure you're one of those mumu maga men who say dating a girl for 2 wks and marrying her is the best....if you had dated the witch you married long enuf, I'm sure you for no go ahead marrying such a bitter soul....but no, u had to be a real man and rush into marriage....lol getat

Why do these things happen?I mean I'm even scared of getting married hmmmmm

CharlotteFlair:
What was the nature of the problem you both had in the past that she continues to hang onto? I ask because, some sins cannot be forgiven. Once trust is broken, it never truly mends.

All sins can be forgiven. It all boils down to the one offended.

This is exactly what I wanted to say. 89% of nowadays ladies are very unreasonable and mentally stupid. They don't appreciate anything at all. No matter how hard you try, gosh they keep on frustrating your effort. Imagine she is not a working class and has nothing what so ever to contribute to the home and she is making your life a living hell. Na you get time bro. As the writer I am quoting said, ignore her and mute her completely. You will see the reverse will be the case. It works perfectly well. She will nolonger be able to predict you or what is in your mind.

Like the one I was dating few weeks ago, I knew she was flirting around but I pretended that I didn't know, she came and use her hand to confess and she was expecting me to feel worried or something, I just told her that I knew and her reply was, so why did u not confront me, I simply answered, stupidity has its level, that mine is not up to yours so why bother myself when I know u will still crumble. She was just shocked and never believed I had that kind of mind. Every now and then she wants to please me. I got my respect and the funny part of it, she is more loyal than a slave. If you can't show these ladies of nowadays that you are an alpha, they will keep on messing around with you.

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Let her go, she will come back to her senses.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

why worry ur self over sex abi you wan collect!

truth be told , marriage is overrated and its not favourable to man. she deny u sex because u are broke, work more on your finances. If body dey bite you self-service and if that one no belleful u, get a side chick... u can still keep the marriage for the sake of ur kids. but more importantly, make more money

damiloladuke:
Crazy things are happening.

Same thing happened recently to me, but mine is we ain't married yet.

My brother. It's only God that can save your marriage. The moment a woman doesn't care about how you feel about her anymore, that relationship is as good as dead.

I'll advise you summon courage to ignore her for weeks or leave home for days. If she doesn't call you, start preparing for divorce.

I pray God intervenes

True! The only Lady I dated that used that word for me that "she does not care" about me having another sexual partner was kicked out of my life for good... I'd never dialled her number since then once! And am HAPPILY married. Men should be men when the need arises!

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

I would advise you sir to ignore her. Don’t be blackmailed by the fact that you have a son with her. Just let her be. The earlier you love your own self first the better for you. Right now she doesn’t care about how you feel. Whether you die now she won’t border. So why kill yourself over her. Look away from her. Stop giving her any attention.

I’d even advise that she shouldn’t be seeing you all the time. Get up from bed. Take your bath and off to your work or business. If she’s sleeping in the room sleep in the parlor. Eat very well outside and come sleep at your house. Possibly your parlor. She’d get tired of the whole thing. Finally don’t think you can’t afford to loose her because you deserve more.

Put money on the table before leaving but don’t eat anything she prepares. Just do what you have to do to make sure there’s food for her to eat but there’s one thing you should take away from her. Your attention. She doesn’t deserve it. Please have an open mind. Don’t feel insecure in anyway. Call more of some nice female friends with no strings attached. She’d mellow. But if she doesn’t sir just move on. Let her go now that it’s early.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Sorry bro for this one chance situation. I was in a similar case like this when I was dating my ex. God helped me saw it fast and clear, then I ended the whole thing. Right now that you and are married, it's too early to start enduring because there's years ahead of guys... If you can't cope sir quit before you kill yourself... For what marriage is, there must be two willing party involved to make it work. If she doesn't want it, then quit. Pls learn to kill HBP growing old intentionally. Take heart sir!

Candidlady:



Was the bolded necessary

Pretty sure you would have rubbed this same sentence all over her face...


You are not complaining but yet you stated it in your post


Because of the bolded some won't even give you the advice you seek, they will end up insulting your wife


Good luck finding solution to your problem

Your comment is very dishonest.

You ignored every other thing he said and just highlighted something out of context.

If it was a lady that brought this complaint and made the above highlighted comment, would your comment have been the same?

Don’t take some of the advice given by this person I am quoting...it will further make you look weak. She has told you she doesn’t love you any more..you should also let her know that you have options. You are kinda like making her think you can’t do without her. Reciprocate her silent treatment too..trying so hard to make peace with this kind of the woman WILL not work based on the current dynamics of your relationship. Finally, Never make any attempt to help her in the kitchen,buy any gifts or do any yeye laundry as this would further make you appear weak to her. Someone has rightly said it that there is a breed of women that prefer or can only submit to very hard men. She seems to fall in that group. Begin to do the direct opposite of whatever you are doing right now and if you see no changes..press the divorce button.

wales4real:
My brother, be a man that you are to save your home. You got a son with her so you need to act the man at least for the sake of that boy, he is too young. Let me tell you most guys has gone through this phase or are going through it. The way women reason are different from men(with all due respect to the ladies). By being a man, I mean you should not report her to her parents or even your own parents, do not brag that you are the one taking responsibilities on her or the home(it's your duty, even if she has a job she can only assist), let her know that your going out to have sex with other women is a no no for you because you love her(an I expect you also truly love her), when you guys have issues, do more of listening and let her talk(most times men don't have to express their feelings instantly because women will always hold you for your word and most times mis-interprete them), if she says she need space, give her space but during this time give her some little little surprises(occasionally help her in the kitchen, help her with laundry, buy little little sensitive gifts for her, get more interested in her progress....etc. you are the husband you know what fits your wife best, don't expect your regular sex schedule in this period, you need to work on her mind before this comes back.
May God help you both.

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER .

Mehn, I like this advice. It is classic!

wales4real:
My brother, be a man that you are to save your home. You got a son with her so you need to act the man at least for the sake of that boy, he is too young. Let me tell you most guys has gone through this phase or are going through it. The way women reason are different from men(with all due respect to the ladies). By being a man, I mean you should not report her to her parents or even your own parents, do not brag that you are the one taking responsibilities on her or the home(it's your duty, even if she has a job she can only assist), let her know that your going out to have sex with other women is a no no for you because you love her(an I expect you also truly love her), [s] when you guys have issues, do more of listening and let her talk (most times men don't have to express their feelings instantly because women will always hold you for your word and most times mis-interprete them), if she says she need space, give her space but during this time give her some little little surprises(occasionally help her in the kitchen, help her with laundry, buy little little sensitive gifts for her, [/s] get more interested in her progress....etc. you are the husband you know what fits your wife best, don't expect your regular sex schedule in this period, you need to work on her mind before this comes back.
May God help you both.

Firstly, he said she's giving him silent treatment in the house. How do you listen to someone who is not talking to you?
Secondly, you said he should listen to her even when it is said she's not talking and he should give her space if she wants that. How do you give someone space and still listen to her at the same time?

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.

Good one bro but what I don't like is the aspect of telling couples not to involve their parents in a serious issues like this is what I don't like.
In this present world we are things have changed alot. You have to involve the parents to know things going on with your wife or husband before they accuse of something you know nothing about .

Don't joke with that affirmative statement your wife just made.

Don't ever underrate or underestimate what she can do as well.

I have read a lot of advice given to you.Mine will not be far from it as well.

That marriage is technically over my brother, from experience.

It may be hard for u to live with that fact. You cannot pamper or pet her at this stage again.That marriage is now at the stage they call AVOIDANCE.

After this stage is separation and then divorce.

Focus more on making more money.Do those things that make u happy.

Take care of your son and her needs too.If possible, start working on relocation to another state, either by tolling the path of a new career or transfer if your office has other branches.

That will save u from total mental health collapse. It is going to be hard especially the sex denial part of it if u are not the runs type.Curtailing your erection especially at night if u are still under same roof. It will raise you blood pressure over time.

You can also discuss with her if she needs some space, by so doing, she may opt to leave your house jeje without dirty fight or dragging u.

Don't throw her out forcefully.Tailor that discussion towards her leaving peacefully. If she says she wants her baby, let them go together.If she accepts to go peacefully, o boy, jump at it.

You will battle with that sudden separation at first, but u will have peace in the long run.

Again, she can never forgive u for whatever she claimed u did for her in the past.That is how their brain is wired.

Again, never underrate the threat she poses to u at the monent.Always remember, you are living with a wounded cobra from now on.

If na court wedding una do, always be conscious of the things u say or do.

Don't be surprised, she might be recording every conversation with u on phone.

I am speaking from experience which was similar to mine.Some women can be overly dangerous and heartless than u can imagine.

Good luck to u.

Candidlady:



Was the bolded necessary

Pretty sure you would have rubbed this same sentence all over her face...


You are not complaining but yet you stated it in your post


Because of the bolded some won't even give you the advice you seek, they will end up insulting your wife


Good luck finding solution to your problem

Yes, it is. Because people would have still asked him just to understand why she's behaving like that.

peedeeasobie:




Your comment is very dishonest.

You ignored every other thing he said and just highlighted something out of context.

If it was a lady that brought this complaint and made the above highlighted comment, would your comment have been the same?

No ididnt ignore whatever he wrote up there!

If it were to be a lady I'd write the same thing.. No partiality with candid! Can imention you on a thread and kindly tell me what you think

Klass99:


Richy I will box your ears o! I wasn't looking for male admirers or male validation. I have said it more than once on this forum that I don't like foolish women and we need to tell ourselves the truth as adults, whether male or female.

This is not a boast or show-off, but I do honest work for a living and I pay my bills myself, major bills like rent, the monthly service charge, I send a monthly allowance to my parents, etcetera. So, I understand that it is not easy to make money legitimately.

I don't imagine it is easier for responsible men who do right by their families, to make this money either. When you now have a decent man who is not slacking off and paying bills you benefit from as an adult, you still want to misbehave! I ask again, you dey ment?

Some weeks ago, I woke up to a credit alert of 20k from a male friend (money I didn't ask for) I called him to verify if it was an error, so I could send it back. He said no it wasn't an error, I should use the money and treat myself to something nice. I was so touched by his generosity because;

1. I understand the value of money and I respect anyone with a legit hustle.

2. For someone to gift you cash (even if it is 3k) they made a sacrifice to deny themselves of something, in order to give you that money. No one has free money lying around that they do not need.

As for the sister code, abeg ehn, the code does not apply to foolish women and you know I don't do herd mentality. Independent thinking is the secret sauce of my sweet life.

After reading your write-up, I felt relieved about marrying a Nigerian girl. Thumbs up!

Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.

Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.

Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.

BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.

op this the best idea for you and it works 100% and if fails bro tell you want a divorce and never you beg her again cause her type no like soft hearted men like you. She will regret later but time don go

Maybe you should convince her to book a session with a professional marriage counselor. Not your pastor oh, but a Professional marriage counselor.

dawnomike:
Post partum trauma... Deficiency of DHA

She will come around

Una don start

I can bet my last card that she's cheating already and probably with her ex or someone she knew before you guys married.

If a woman tells you she no longer loves you or feel connected to want sex with you, and doesn't care if you get sex elsewhere. She's trying to justify what she's doing already. bro it's over. It's a very big issue you shouldn't joke with coz you're closer to death from her than you are before that statement.

No woman ever wants to share her man, if she isn't bother, you're worthless to him. Your marriage happened out of you convincing her to be your wife and here is the result