You: Things have been going on well between us for long

Inner voice: I agree

You: I enjoy what we share

Inner voice: who wouldn’t?

You: thing is, I want to take it up a notch

Inner voice: excuse me?

You: I want us to be lovers. We have the chemistry

Inner voice: is it just about the chemistry?

You: what are you talking about?

Inner voice: I am saying I understand how you feel but does he/she feel the same way?

You: there’s only one way to find out

Inner voice: there’s also only way to spoil everything you two have built over the years

You: so what are you suggesting? That I sit and die in silence?

Inner voice: no, I am saying it’s better to hold on to what one has than attempt to get more only to lose it all.

You: I’ll tell him/her that I love him/her. We need to become lovers. We have to

Inner voice: wrong move. He/she might see you as a pervert trying to take advantage of a vulnerability.

And so on…

And so on…

And so on…

Does the dialogue above sound familiar? No need to be ashamed. Almost every one of us has been in that situation where we share something magical with someone; in that situation where we believe we have tarried on this mountain long enough and should launch out for the promised land; in that situation where everything seems perfect to everyone else but deep down, you are an Oliver Twist -wanting more. The shitty thing is that sometimes, you are too ashamed to tell people about your plight and you are left to deal with this alone because for some reasons, people think of dating a bestie to be a weird, horrible thing. Some even liken it to turning your beloved pet dog into steak, it isn’t.

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