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HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by QuinModah(f): 12:51pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply startt lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to be met. May God help us. Good afternoon 51 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Truvelisback(m): 1:43pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
QuinModah:Husband no Scarce, na una make husband Scarce by being too Flashy and materialistic. 21 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by QuinModah(f): 1:48pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Truvelisback: 9 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Michelle70(m): 2:01pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Truvelisback:when they say husbands are scarce, it mean men to marry are scarce, all they see now are just boys that are obsessed with pencil mouth trouser jean and headset. Wives are also scarce too 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Truvelisback(m): 2:28pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Michelle70:Men wey wan marry dem dey, It's just that, their big, big eyelashes no go let see men wey wan marry dem. 22 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Double0h7(f): 2:39pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
You've made it seem like it's only girls who have changed and that's too simplistic. Boys have changed as well because they just want to be boys forever and jump from one skirt to another. Men of the past lived by a different ethics code, they found honour in not being seen as irresponsible while this generation lives for the shock factor. Both genders have missed their path and the result is scarcity of responsible people. 24 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 2:44pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
There's nothing like husband scarcity,I don't believe in that.Men are so cheap like sachet water 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 2:47pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Smell your vibrator and ask yourself if you really deserve a good man 38 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 2:49pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii:You know this best describe you and your girlfriend plus all the female members of your family, weed has destroyed you.Go and sleep. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 2:51pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Goan remarry!!! You killed your husband and all his brothers cos they couldn't satisfy your refinery sized pussy......goan remarry!!!! 12 Likes
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Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 2:53pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii:Your toyboy request have been cancelled, I don't do Biro covers. 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Kobojunkiee: 2:59pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
QuinModah:1. None of what you claim has to do with God though, this since His formula as far as marriage is concerned is simple. His Law defines Marriage as an agreement between a man and a woman. Following that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with those gals setting the bar as high as they have it for their potential mate. Instead, you are in the wrong by telling them they need to settle for less and invoking the name of God at that. 2. Unless you have an algorithm that can clearly predict this destiny of a man you speak of, i suggest you, and others such as yourself, stay the frell away from discussion issues you are clearly ill-equipped to. Look around you at 10 of millions of married Nigerians living in abject poverty, most of whom swallowed the many "Destiny Helper" sermons preached from pulpits across the destiny, and conside the fate that await the many children born in those homes, all of them waiting for magic to take place because that is the reason they got married.. It is not the job of these single women to alleviate what you call "husband scarcity" so stop seling them your half-baked attempts at resolving a problem you clearly don't understand yourself. 3. Again, leave God out of this hogwash abeg! 2 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Sonnobax15(m): 3:01pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:02pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
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Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:05pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii:pain ke?you no sabi me.I can feed you and your community. Run along with your Biro cover dick rubbish 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:10pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
This is the longest and most interesting post I've read here in a while... Thanks for sharing... ((Thumbs up)) 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:16pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Hungry madwoman, na only online wey una fit feed anybody 10 Likes
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Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:18pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii:lol go meet your crazy girlfriend and leave me alone,you nairaland boys are scum |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:25pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Keep my girlfriend off ur filthy mouth, you mentally deranged uncouth public toilet 9 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 3:26pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii:This is obviously weed typing, bye bye. |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by QuinModah(f): 3:55pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee: 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by QuinModah(f): 3:55pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Favfables1: 3 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Jeon(f): 4:12pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii: who told you to used that picture? 3 Likes
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Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 4:16pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Jeon:Are you a male or female? Answer so I'll give you 100k 1 Like |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Jeon(f): 4:18pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii: cigender male and female .. keep ur 100k wons. 5 Likes
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Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nonexisting: 4:18pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Snake gender people never see anything. Married men are throwing in the towel, single men are giving up on marriage and very soon, marriage will be history like most norms. Men can not do without sex but can definitely do without marriage but women can not do without both. 7 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by blinking001(m): 4:21pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Senomii:Choi |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Nobody: 4:33pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Post is long but there's a lot of sense in it.. OP na u be that soldier girl? 5 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by respect80(m): 4:57pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Iyaebe: You must have been with thousands of men to have arrived at this conclusion... Wedon o Mrs MC testing microphones 4 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Conner44: 6:15pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
It was written in the bible that one day 10 women will be dragging and begging one man saying "we will feed and clothe ourselves, only just give us your name and make us whole", but the man go dey do shakara lol it is like this generation is the precursor to that prophecy. Women be informed 6 Likes |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:26pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
QuinModah: FOOLISHNESS #1 the fact that these women are in prayer houses, makes us understand that these women are deluded, thus who cares what they want. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. FOOLISHNESS #2 comparing our mothers back in the days, with these deluded greedy women of today who want to find a donkey they can control. no wonder we cant see eye to eye on this issue. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. FOOLISHNESS #3 you cant try to reason with a deluded person. these women are deluded, and their views shouldnt matter ONE BIT! The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply startt lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". FOOLISHNESS #4 husband scarcity is in their deluded mind, if they lower their deluded standard to the reality they lived, it would be different, but sady they are deluded, thus will ask for nonsense under the moon. important question IS: why should anyone care what these deluded women want?! the good women out there dont care because they are probably living in the real world, being married to real men. Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. FOOLISHNESS #5 the reason why these women are deluded is also because there are men (like you) who just like these women only see value in a man, when he has money. the economy has absolutely NOTHING to do with finding a man in Nigeria... because believe me, as soon as a man gets money, these deluded women (that you talk about) wouldnt care about his height/looks/skin color. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. FOOLISHNESS #6 god is irrelevant to the issue at hand.... as i am sure, if god created poor/ugly/dark/midgets/crazy people, it certainly wasnt for shallow women to discriminate them on this marriage issue, is it?! For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or FOOLISHNESS #7 to each their own....these women who seek for made men DESERVE to be in bondage! Relax and go to God. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to be met. May God help us. Good afternoonULTIMATE FOOLISHNESS if the above religious mambo jambo was remotely true then these women in prayers house (you talked about earlier) wouldnt still be single, duh!!! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! "Husband Scarcity" Has Become One Of The Challenges by Oyindamolah: 6:29pm On Mar 14, 2022 |
Iyaebe: 1 Like 1 Share |
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