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Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 12:30pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please... 2 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by thorpido(m): 12:59pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Lol,welcome to fatherhood and parenthood. You can't change his sleeping pattern.He will do that as he gets older which is much later. Babies are more nocturnal when born. Since you go to work and I believe your wife is on maternity leave and you also spoke about your MIL(is she with you),leave the night nursing for them. Start sleeping in another room or the sitting room. 11 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by Esthered: 1:20pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Just as advised above, you can also try and send them to your MIL or your mum whoever is nearer. I left Benin to be with my mum in Lagos on the 12th day after delivery so that I wouldn't be alone as my husband was already falling sick due to the stress. 3 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 1:21pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
thorpido: Lol....Yea wifey is on mat leave and MIL is around...The issue is that he cries whenever he wakes up to feed and once I hear that cry I won't sleep again till morning...Nawa o ... please at what age will he revert back to normal sleep cycle? It's really not easy being a father.... 1 Like |
Re: Advice A New Father by Richy4(m): 1:22pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Congratulations ![]() Read this... Hope it helps ![]() https://www.paperheartfamily.com/newborn-baby-sleep/#:~:text=During%20the%20first%20few%20weeks%2C%20you%20should%20expect,during%20the%20day%2C%20and%20shorter%20stretches%20at%20night. |
Re: Advice A New Father by thorpido(m): 1:25pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar:You should ignore the cry,your wife will deal with it. When will he revert to normal sleep cycle?................mooooonths. ![]() |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 1:27pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Esthered: MIL is around... most times wifey and baby are in her room but once I wake up that's the end of sleeping that night...I don't really blame your hubby o...the headache I feel during the day now is crazy... |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 1:29pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
thorpido: Okay Sir... Thanks... ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Advice A New Father by Esthered: 1:35pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar: I think you should sleep in the settee in the parlour. You would be far from the cries to an extent but you must ensure that that you check up on them when you wake up to use the restroom or find it difficult to fall asleep after waking up and lending a helping hand where necessary. My son still wakes up at night to feed but it used to be like 3 times before daybreak till 7 weeks but it has reduced to once or twice. Just be patient. 1 Like |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ifyjos(f): 1:35pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Its normal ooo jux be calming down. |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 1:40pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Richy4: Quite helpful... Thanks |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 1:41pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Esthered: Thank you very much... |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 1:41pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ifyjos: Okay Ma'am... |
Re: Advice A New Father by ibechris(m): 2:14pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Very normal. |
Re: Advice A New Father by zubimete(f): 2:30pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Welcome to the band, more grace |
Re: Advice A New Father by baby124: 2:41pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Baby is too little to try to control their sleep pattern . It will change and when he or she is older, you can actually try to control how they sleep based on their sleeping habit. So enjoy this time. The best is to bring in a retired parent to help you through this time. Baby can sleep with them at night if you need to go to work. 1 Like |
Re: Advice A New Father by Gift96: 2:42pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
The baby is still trying to adapt to its new environment . Let him enjoy his welcome |
Re: Advice A New Father by baby124: 2:44pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar:Don’t send your wife and baby anywhere abeg. It’s not normal for couples to stay separately like that, especially at this time. What’s that sef? Your wife needs you just as much as baby needs her. Also try your best to help out with what you can during the day. Your MIL is there, just put your baby in her room at night with breast milk prepared and you and your wife get rest. So your wife will do day shift, while mama does night. If you have fan or AC. Blast it so it reduces the cries. 4 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by NoToPile: 3:36pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar: No way to change the sleep cycle, you have to endure. Sorry ehn welcome to parenthood |
Re: Advice A New Father by Mariangeles(f): 3:57pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar: Don’t worry too much about it. It will not always be that way. It is a phase that will pass in no time. Babies always go through phases, including change in sleep pattern. |
Re: Advice A New Father by Mariangeles(f): 4:01pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Gift96: Imagine the discomfort the baby is going through adapting to being. 1 Like |
Re: Advice A New Father by Jennyclay(f): 4:01pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar:1. Train up a child in the way of the lord; even when he is old he will not depart from it. proverbs 22:6 2. Don't give him the redpill to swallow except you want him to be constituting nuisance on every social media platform like GooodHardDick, Smellysperm, TheGidRedpiller and co, But rather give him the blue pill so that he can be romantic and wise. 3. Give him quality and moral education, also focus on his talent and help him build his talents. 4. Build a cordial relationship between you and your son. Don't instill fear in him. Congratulations to you! I pray God provide for you to take good care of your family. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 4:29pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Thanks to everyone I really appreciate your inputs...God bless you all...@jennyclay, mariangeles, NoToPile, baby124, Gift96, zubimete, ibechris |
Re: Advice A New Father by Whois(m): 5:04pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
I will repeat the same thing someone above suggested, sleep in a different room since your MIL is there to assist your wife and new born and please insist on exclusive breastfeeding, she MUST give breast milk maximum of 3hrs intervals, and tell her to have eyes contact with the baby so the baby can quickly become sharp to the new environment so the cries will reduce. Check the chat I uploaded about babies from 0 to 12 months. The knowledge I learnt from youtube as a New dad like you is what I summarized to you. We'll survive.
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Re: Advice A New Father by Nobody: 5:12pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Don't send them to anywhere. Those people you're sending them to are not woods. They also deserve a peaceful sleep. If you take them there, how will you know the joy of fatherhood? You need to experience fatherhood so you can appreciate your wife ( and women in general) better. Like your MIL rightly said, it's only for a little time. That stage will soon pass as the baby gets older and everything will get back to normal. For now, learn to endure and manage the situation. It's your baby Congratulations.. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by Hathor5(f): 5:14pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
It takes a while for newborn babies to adjust to the day and night rhythm but even if you're lucky and your baby adjusts as early as around 6 weeks, you or your wife will still need to feed the baby every 2-3 hours. There is nothing you can do about it. You and the mother need to support each other now more than ever. Maybe you can sleep in a different room every few days and on free days have your wife take naps so that you two compensate somehow. Fatigue is part of the deal but there are different degrees to it. You don't have to feel like a sleepwalking zombie all the time. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by Nigga44: 6:42pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Ephetar:Congrats ![]() ![]() It won't be easy man. When I had my first baby, I didn't have a sound sleep for atleast the next 4 months. Reason being that, we were all alone (me and wife) and I always had to chip in the little I could whenever the baby was crying cos of hunger/stomach ache It's not gonna be easy for you......but that's the joy of fatherhood. Even up till now, with two kids, I still wake up like 3 times before dawn everyday just to check up on them. 3 Likes |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 7:42pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Whois: Thanks so much for the chat... it's very insightful... |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 7:42pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Mercychen: Thanks 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 7:47pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Hathor5: Lol... thank you... it's not easy though...the stress of Lagos alone is enough headache for me...I drive about an hour to work and another one hour back coupled with the crazy traffic only to come back and not sleep well...But I'm proud to be a father nonetheless...I love my boy so much and I'll always be there for him and wifey |
Re: Advice A New Father by Ephetar: 7:48pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
[quote author=Nigga44 post=111124640] Congrats ![]() ![]() It won't be easy man. When I had my first baby, I didn't have a sound sleep for atleast the next 4 months. Reason being that, we were all alone (me and wife) and I always had to chip in the little I could whenever the baby was crying cos of hunger/stomach ache It's not gonna be easy for you......but that's the joy of fatherhood. Even up till now, with two kids, I still wake up like 3 times before dawn everyday just to check up on them.[/quote Wow... That's great |
Re: Advice A New Father by Kennyprince: 7:48pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Bro get used to it. That's children for u. I have 2 already and I know what it means. |
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