thorpido:
Saying the truth is patronizing?

Mariangeles:


Not when you're not being straightforward.

CumOnHer:

I found your choice of " inegalitarian" as an inappropriate description. Let's broaden the argument a bit. If you substitute the " inegalitarian man" for a "woman" and make the conversation a " woman to woman" conversation, would the outcome/reaction have been the same?

ReneeNuttall:
That statement alone is like a racist comment.

It's just like saying because I'm a lady I don't count,or add up, or matter....its like I can't contribute anything meaningful to the society. A weak gender with no capability. It's demeaning. Y'all should desist from it. Unless u mean it in a different context. And always add an explanation so we know u ain't tripping!

RightToReject:



From all indications, you're a gender bigot, and the fact that you obviously have a very low IQ makes it worse, so I don't see the need to enter into a needless dialogue with you.

Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

CumOnHer:

"You are a woman, I can't sit down and talk with a woman". It's not offensive, he is only setting his priorities.
A woman would encounter you in a bus and say " You're a man, I can't sit beside a man".. That's her preference, her priority.

RightToReject:
It depends on the people involved and the situation where and how it happened:

It can be a complimentary remark - example, when a highly intuitive woman helps you dissect a person or extrapolate a concept quickly. From your demeanor and the connotation of your pronouncement, a reasonable woman in this regard will automatically understand that it comes from the place of justness and admiration from you, given that reasonable women tend to be highly intuitive.

Of course, it can be used to convey derision, as it's usually the case in most cases, rather than to compliment, just like smirking and smiling/laughing do, respectively - In this regard, the demeanor and connotation of the pronouncement, no matter how hard one might try to gloss their true intention, will definitely show that it was made to deride.

Tallesty1:
Telling a woman that she's a woman isn't what gets her angry. It is when it was said and how it was said that gets her angry.


If you're in a group of women, broke and in need of cash and someone suddenly starts giving them 100k each.


But when he gets to you he says, dude you're a man and leaves you with nothing, can you in all honesty say that you won't be sad?

Telling a woman that she's a woman most times means shut up, this is not your place or you don't deserve this etc.

Say the truth. E no hard

CumOnHer:

Some men are trying to patronize women on this thread but it's all good tho.
Have you considered that a broke man in the midst of a group of broke women would not get angry at being denied some wad of cash much as he would be when denied a 100k in the midst of a group of broke men.
I wouldn't be angry when I am being reminded that I am a man in the midst of women but would scatter the table when you denied me what's meant for me in the midst of my fellow men.

A clearer example is when a coat that is meant for a man, during cold season is passed on to a woman for warmth. During a cold season, when a boy or a man is told that "you're a man", give the coats to the women. No eyebrows is raised. The men suffer the cold to the chest just because they are men while the women hangs the coat around the chest just because they are women.

A man in the midst of women is already at a disadvantage, meanwhile in the midst of his fellow men, it is the survival of the fittest.

CumOnHer:

Some men are trying to patronize women on this thread but it's all good tho.

CumOnHer:

Have you considered that a broke man in the midst of a group of broke women would not get angry at being denied some wad of cash much as he would be when denied a 100k in the midst of a group of broke men.
I wouldn't be angry when I am being reminded that I am a man in the midst of women but would scatter the table when you denied me what's meant for me in the midst of my fellow men.

CumOnHer:

A clearer example is when a coat that is meant for a man, during cold season is passed on to a woman for warmth. During a cold season, when a boy or a man is told that "you're a man", give the coats to the women. No eyebrows is raised. The men suffer the cold to the chest just because they are men while the women hangs the coat around the chest just because they are women.

CumOnHer:

A man in the midst of women is already at a disadvantage, meanwhile in the midst of his fellow men, it is the survival of the fittest.

pocohantas:


Lol. It is actually very hard. One even had to say it is masculine women that hate it. The way these guys would lie through their teeth to defend/support trash sha.

Tallesty1:
The gender war will never end, I have made my peace with it but that doesn't mean that we should allow posts like this to replace the truth.

I saw how you dey hype yourself on your dairy that you're a good girl nye nye nye nye.
Abeg, nah who lie that lie give you?

Palema007:
"You are a woman" ehn ehn before nko? I be goat?

But heaven will help you sha if one day you need my input on a matter. Nah then you go explain your " you are a woman" sentence.



No stress at all.

Biglittlelois:
Op is actually trying to sound intelligent when he is actually daft, even little kids and teens of this generation knows and are being taught context and underlining meanings to conversations are important, surely context shouldn't be that hard to decipher when trying to deride or demean a person based on gender, or maybe, as usual, like most of his ilks on low IQ here, they live on unnecessary arguments just for the fun of it, sane peeps on here has called out his cluelessness and bigotry, still he insists on being slow, it's the confidence for me though

Biglittlelois:
Op is actually trying to sound intelligent when he is actually daft, even little kids and teens of this generation knows and are being taught context and underlining meanings to conversations are important, surely context shouldn't be that hard to decipher when trying to deride or demean a person based on gender, or maybe, as usual, like most of his ilks on low IQ here, they live on unnecessary arguments just for the fun of it, sane peeps on here has called out his cluelessness and bigotry, still he insists on being slow, it's the confidence for me though

jornwhite:



You are a woman, simple ! however you interprete or translate it to mean, remains solely your palava, some of us don't just give a fvck.
you can keep using the word "context" as cover up but the truth is women don't really like there place, so they are easily trigger.
if he says "you are a woman" why is it so difficult for women to reply "you are a man". why is it only when it comes to war & money matter women say " you are the man" tew.
All i can induce from this thread so far is that, women's digestive system is the problem not the food being served, cococandy no food is good for person wey dey purge.

jornwhite:




Any man confident to remind you 'you are a woman" won't possibly involve you in situations beyond ur feminine capacity i am thinkin the conversation will be, food, kitchen, market, sex & sex plus number of kids you will like to have so get mouka chair cos you go wait taya

CumOnHer:

This is a smart deflection. "Not" is often used to express the negative or opposite.
If you say "Are you not a man", you are implying that he acts as though he is not a man. In other words, you're implying that he acts like a woman. Therefore, advertently or inadvertently, you are projecting on him the opposite gender by virtue of his actions/behavior/decisions.

Let's bring logic to the table, If a woman refuses to cook and I said "why don't you want to cook, are you not a woman". I'm implying that she is not a man to avoid the kitchen, it is incumbent on her to cook as a woman.

CumOnHer:

Thanks for the honest input yet confusing, shocking and dumbfounding all the same.
You're a woman and that's your gender - fact!
Why should you get triggered?

When I say "you are a woman" ;
1. I'm reminding you of whom you are.

2. I'm emphasising the fact that you're a woman

3. I'm awakening your consciousness to your place as a woman - to be more aware of yourself being a woman.
There's nothing condescending or demeaning of a woman being reminded of who she is.

Pakute:

What dafuq did I just read. This gender is the most confused in the world.
I have heard women eulogize themselves saying' I am a woman; strong, powerful and intelligent. I am a woman; a goddess, beautiful, charming, inspiring greatness etc.. But when a man tells you that you are a woman, you then begin to dissect the intent and unravel the purpose of the statement with an already tainted mindset that it was riddled with a form of racism, connoting a weaker or lesser gender and all kinds of undesirable descriptions.
You would rather a woman say to you that 'you are a woman' which would come off to you as a compliment than a man would - which would otherwise be regarded as demeaning.
Women! women! women!

PrimadonnaO:


Why's that reminder necessary?

Is there a doctor's report that she suffers from amnesia?


Who sent you to awaken her consciousness? Whoever said she isn't self-aware?


Y'all better need to do away with these absurd projections, and expectations.

PrimadonnaO:


It is the exact meaning and implication, and projection when a person says "you're a woman."

CumOnHer:

Much of the sentiments I can deduce from most of the replies so far is the fact that "you are a woman" can emotionalized which mostly tend to twist the narratives and lower the bar but same sentiments would raise the bar and maintain the standard in all circumstances for " you are a man" . It's an unfair world, isn't it?

NoToPile:


Simple ooo.

Mariangeles:


Is that what it’s been all about?
Well, you are a man, lose the victim mentality and deal with it!

PrimadonnaO:



No, a woman can also say it in a way that's offensive.

"You're a woman" is a statement that's in itself not offensive.


It's usually the contexts, and manner in which the statement is uttered that make it offensive.