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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Escobar7(m): 3:04pm On Mar 23, 2022
On a cool day call him aside and tell him never to throw such jokes at you again, you don't 'act around' an issue like that, confront him maturedly and a with straight face
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by muheeb01(m): 3:06pm On Mar 23, 2022
You can follow nwaamaikpe advise I can't stop laughing that guy ehnnn
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Ademoore07(m): 3:12pm On Mar 23, 2022
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you really want to address it, next time he askes why you always wash your car,

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.
My niggar is back
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Lampass(m): 3:33pm On Mar 23, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.
Ask him if your car had reported you to him as the commander general of dirty cars,
Or if he is the IPO of the police station your reported a case of over washing. I promise he will never as you silly question again

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by guychidile: 3:34pm On Mar 23, 2022
I wish tell him,bros I always maintain neatness, therefore anything I have ,I always wash to maintain my standard ...gba gam ,we move.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by deebrain(m): 3:40pm On Mar 23, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

Have a budget.

Go to the national stadium and purchase gym equipment.

Go to national stadium and buy sets of punching bags and gloves.

Join any boxing club in thy neighbourhood.

It will soon be known in your community.

Thank me later.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Czario: 3:44pm On Mar 23, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

Avoid him...doesn't matter if he feels you are avoiding him or not

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by VirileNelly2420: 3:52pm On Mar 23, 2022
Richy4:
Actually, there are some people that doesn't know how to relate with others especially while talking... And majority of them were introverts.. Most of them are good guys but when they opened their mouth u feel disgusted...If u settle down to observe, u will find out that they were trying so hard to relate...

It's just in their DNA.. and they don't even know that they were offending someone that they were speaking with...If u throw an insult at him, he might be really surprised thinking where and when he has offended you... Some will go back to their shell never to return..

They are many like that here in Nairaland... Those ones that Will insult someone seeking for an advice first before dishing out whatever they wanna say... Making one wonder if the insults thrown makes the recipient understand the advice better....

Only respond to his greetings and ignore whatever he has to say by concentrating on your car.. Do not.. I repeat do not insult him please smiley

Indeed u've said it all. Most times introverts relate unknowingly in impulsive manner.
I had a lady like dat back den, weneva she sees me, she would b like "if I catch u there I would give u slice'down..."(using local parlance). I mean, she barely made sense wen she speaks. But I got her struggle, I had to indulge n get along wit her d very best I could. Talk really hard o.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Czario: 4:09pm On Mar 23, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

The problem is you're too predictable in that your community... that's why he has the gall..
Me, where I live nobody can predict my next move... sometimes I seem like a nice guy other times I'm considered a mad man.. potential killer..lol.
Certain ppl like to keep a healthy distance from me...I'm fine with that

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Bobxin(m): 4:10pm On Mar 23, 2022
faithfull18:
Don't reply him, keep a straight face. If he is sensible or has any self- respect left, he either reduces the interaction or mind his business.


I've been there before, I don't think people like this can ever have any of those qualities.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by ballydankkf: 4:17pm On Mar 23, 2022
Tell him to try and buy his car and leave it dirty now
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Judd007: 4:48pm On Mar 23, 2022
You no sabi bone person?
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Kavod: 5:23pm On Mar 23, 2022
faithfull18:
Don't reply him, keep a straight face. If he is sensible or has any self- respect left, he either reduces the interaction or mind his business.


OGA.... Naija men too like strong things... Person de owe money, to pay na problem but e status e de ball... Na punch I punch one of e teeth comot. E transfer am instantly. Debt of just 20k and e get pass me. So next time e see you de wash your car and e talk Waka go meet am punch e nose.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by chyzoo4u(m): 5:31pm On Mar 23, 2022
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you really want to address it, next time he askes why you always wash your car,

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.

It's high time we get a "tufiakwa" button undecided undecided undecided
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Backlaw406(m): 5:34pm On Mar 23, 2022
Richy4:
Actually, there are some people that doesn't know how to relate with others especially while talking... And majority of them were introverts.. Most of them are good guys but when they opened their mouth u feel disgusted...If u settle down to observe, u will find out that they were trying so hard to relate...

It's just in their DNA.. and they don't even know that they were offending someone that they were speaking with...If u throw an insult at him, he might be really surprised thinking where and when he has offended you... Some will go back to their shell never to return..

They are many like that here in Nairaland... Those ones that Will insult someone seeking for an advice first before dishing out whatever they wanna say... Making one wonder if the insults thrown makes the recipient understand the advice better....

Only respond to his greetings and ignore whatever he has to say by concentrating on your car.. Do not.. I repeat do not insult him please smiley

May be you misused the word "introvert"

May be you wanted to say extrovert.

Introvert doesn't talk too much, they even find it difficult to crack a joke with the people except from those circumstance it very important, such as;

Boyfriend want to make the communication between him and his girlfriend lively and vice-versa


Introvert don't just open their mouth whaa,whaa and be talking trash because their nature short of word. The little that would come out of their mouth had already passed through assessment in their brain before coming out. They do thinking more than talking, even though they are busy with something they would still get that conscious mind.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by oneMalik: 5:41pm On Mar 23, 2022
If na me I go just go police station and borrow one Ak47....
anytime he talk that kind nonsense I go fire am one bullet for leg... I no go kill am o
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Backlaw406(m): 5:59pm On Mar 23, 2022
bukatyne:


@bold:

How did you deduce his mind was not good from the bold?

Isn't it a compliment like 'babe you are a killer'; 'dude you are hot' bla bla bla

A few months ago 'press us, we are your neck' for a hot person was reigning online.

Not everything is fight or 'people's mind are not clean towards me'.
Exactly jare
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Aaay: 7:42pm On Mar 23, 2022
Mind your business I don’t laugh with neighbors

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by smiliyB(f): 9:02pm On Mar 23, 2022
LifestyleTonite:

Perhaps you hate the bitter truth he told you, which is that you spend too much time washing your car.
is that his business undecided undecided he can wash it as long as he wants as far as he is not asking him for water or helping hands tongue
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Musafatuuuu: 10:23pm On Mar 23, 2022
From your previous post it shows you’re still sucking your mother breast, you want people to advise you on everything, ain’t you man enough? From can Peugeot Ac compressor on Corola to I have a house they’re paying 150k rent, I want my wife to be relocated to where I am and no light in my area for 9days. Grow up kid and be a man, is not everything you bring online. Very soon you will still come here and seek advise whether to choose between your mother and your wife
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Musafatuuuu: 10:42pm On Mar 23, 2022
The said guy might have pure mind towards you cos you said he helped you to conveyed drink with his car to your wedding reception and you even said on a good day he can’t look at you with straight eyes. How? Just imagine your ego and evil mentality. Somebody you pay the same bills and rent with can’t look at you with straight eyes, who are you, do you feed him, pay his bills? You all will come to social media with fake life and be posting rubbish cos data is cheap. Don’t be surprise this guy u claimed that can’t look at you with straight eyes might be doing better than you in the real life. From your post, for someone to say you always wash your car and even said you value your car than your life means you guys always jokes with each other. Just grow up and live in harmony with your neighbors na your type dey eventually bring marital issues come social media

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by WantsandMore: 12:21am On Mar 24, 2022
derecho:
Did the Op say he doesn't own a car?Insults may give you a temporary "win" but you'll regret it if you are responsible.
Did you also not the see the part I wrote he should turn the other cheek? If he isn’t gonna turn the other cheek why not make it count? Since people can’t learn to mind their business, dem suppose Dey collect wotowoto sometimes .
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by WantsandMore: 12:22am On Mar 24, 2022
Olatlaccon:

Haaaa..... that's too much o
You are mean as fvck
Either that or I’m just gonna turn the other cheek. Might probably just depend on my mood.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by MILLERMannn: 5:07am On Mar 24, 2022
Richy4:
Actually, there are some people that doesn't know how to relate with others especially while talking... And majority of them were introverts.. Most of them are good guys but when they opened their mouth u feel disgusted...If u settle down to observe, u will find out that they were trying so hard to relate...

It's just in their DNA.. and they don't even know that they were offending someone that they were speaking with...If u throw an insult at him, he might be really surprised thinking where and when he has offended you... Some will go back to their shell never to return..

They are many like that here in Nairaland... Those ones that Will insult someone seeking for an advice first before dishing out whatever they wanna say... Making one wonder if the insults thrown makes the recipient understand the advice better....

Only respond to his greetings and ignore whatever he has to say by concentrating on your car.. Do not.. I repeat do not insult him please smiley
Introvert don't do that. Don't misjudge people.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by MILLERMannn: 5:08am On Mar 24, 2022
Backlaw406:


May be you misused the word "introvert"

May be you wanted to say extrovert.

Introvert doesn't talk too much, they even find it difficult to crack a joke with the people except from those circumstance it very important, such as;

Boyfriend want to make the communication between him and his girlfriend lively and vice-versa


Introvert don't just open their mouth whaa,whaa and be talking trash because their nature short of word. The little that would come out of their mouth had already passed through assessment in their brain before coming out. They do thinking more than talking, even though they are busy with something they would still get that conscious mind.
Don't mind him.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Richy4(m): 5:14am On Mar 24, 2022
MILLERMannn:

Introvert don't do that. Don't misjudge people.

Some do actually....While trying to come out of their comfort zone and relate, some say inappropriate things...
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Richy4(m): 5:23am On Mar 24, 2022
Backlaw406:


May be you misused the word "introvert"

May be you wanted to say extrovert.

Introvert doesn't talk too much, they even find it difficult to crack a joke with the people except from those circumstance it very important, such as;

Boyfriend want to make the communication between him and his girlfriend lively and vice-versa


Introvert don't just open their mouth whaa,whaa and be talking trash because their nature short of word. The little that would come out of their mouth had already passed through assessment in their brain before coming out. They do thinking more than talking, even though they are busy with something they would still get that conscious mind.

Majority tends to talk too much when they were in the mist of people they feel they were comfortable with... In the course of that, many makes unflattering remarks...Maybe you should carry out a research about it.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Backlaw406(m): 12:02pm On Mar 24, 2022
Richy4:


Majority tends to talk too much when they were in the mist of people they feel they were comfortable with... In the course of that, many makes unflattering remarks...Maybe you should carry out a research about it.
I will still stand my ground on this. Real introvert doesn't talk too much before he/she got tired of your long interaction that they would want to keep to themselves or find something else to be done rather than your yeye gist that will be making them talk thrash.

There is no need of any further research on introvert because I can relate. I'm also an introvert and I had come across many introvert including lady and guy, the lady's own got worse, that even you tried to be friendly with them and you initiated an interaction with a jokes, they would just laugh it off and respond normally. Is not that they don't love to be jovial, even any time I seen people cracking jokes to make people laugh, I always wish if I could be such like the person but I can't because of the nature of not good with the use of words. You know that every times the extrovert open their mouth, the words comes out automatically, freely and fluently due to their gift of talkactive unlike the introvert that always think of the suitable words to use when they want to talk due to short of words and majorly their conscious mind that always active every times. When introvert is talking, the thinking is going on simultaneously. That's why at times they fumble with words, and you know, you can't do two things at the same time conveniently and freely with both.

That's the reason you can't expect introvert to be fast and fluent in talking with you due to their short of words. You will have to be patient with them. even at the start of their speech, it might not gotten sound well but at the middle becomes more fluently, reasonably and wisely.

Those you mentioned that got loose of their calmness when they were in the midst of the people they are comfortably and freely with couldn't be real introvert. They might be inbetween introvert and extrovert (ambivert) or omnivert (who has that ability to switch between the two at any required situation).


I'm not saying introvert doesn't exhibit a rude and mannerless attitude but if they do, they do it knownly and consciously may be to achieve something. Beforehand they aware of the consequence and effect of their words before it comes out of mouth.
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by franksam2009: 8:56am On Mar 26, 2022
Richy4:
Actually, there are some people that doesn't know how to relate with others especially while talking... And majority of them were introverts.. Most of them are good guys but when they opened their mouth u feel disgusted...If u settle down to observe, u will find out that they were trying so hard to relate...

It's just in their DNA.. and they don't even know that they were offending someone that they were speaking with...If u throw an insult at him, he might be really surprised thinking where and when he has offended you... Some will go back to their shell never to return..

They are many like that here in Nairaland... Those ones that Will insult someone seeking for an advice first before dishing out whatever they wanna say... Making one wonder if the insults thrown makes the recipient understand the advice better....

Only respond to his greetings and ignore whatever he has to say by concentrating on your car.. Do not.. I repeat do not insult him please smiley
if you want to speak to me please do it directly, it seems you studied human behavior lolz grin,
But how do one stop this? how do one improve?
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by franksam2009: 9:06am On Mar 26, 2022
Backlaw406:

I will still stand my ground on this. Real introvert doesn't talk too much before he/she got tired of your long interaction that they would want to keep to themselves or find something else to be done rather than your yeye gist that will be making them talk thrash.
.
Bro you are right but the other guy is also right depending on the scenario,
Have you ever tried so hard coming out of your shell and talk freely or crack jokes like an extrovert does? Try it and you will sound exactly how he described it
Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by BluntCrazeMan: 3:50pm On Mar 26, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?
This last line shows that you're not ready yet

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