Get involved in the work of God. Make the Bible your daily companion.

But seriously, are you not interested in getting married again? I hope you were not divorced by your former husband. If you were, and you get married again, it is adultery.

Optimistic4life:


Okay I get you. So if I long for sex with my ex husband, that shouldn't be a sin then.

So let me ask you. Is selfplay/selflove/masturbation a sin?

The body desiring what it needs naturally just like we eat.

Not fantasies towards anyone in particular.

Don't mind that mad man,lol.
You should know he is trolling self,does Amy normal person bears kobojunkie

Go back to your husband.
If he cheated on you and that was the reason for the separation, just go back, forgive him and reconcile because you end up committing the same sin that you detest that made you to separate.

My sister, give marriage a try again. This time around it will work for you in Jesus name.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

I would have wanted to know the circumstances surrounding your separation... But considered it might not be any of my business...since you may not want to reminisce over it or share it with anyone.

Could you go back to the relationship...is it one you would want to go back to...Just pray.

Is never good for you to be alone...is a void that must be filled up.
Is easier to control sex when you have not known what it feels like; It is hard when you have had a taste of it.

You are a Christian, how regular is your Fasting-Life...how regular do you read your Bible and pray...Is just someway to subject your body and its craving.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Make yourself happy and free some �

Kobojunkie:
[s] 1. You are no longer married to him so it would be sin.
2. What is sin is the lust in your heart that usually comes before or during the acts themselves.

3. There is nothing natural about those desires or you would be born lusting from your very birth. You develop these desires over time and as such can also chose to control them rather than allow them control you. [/s]

I think we all know what is meant by sexual lust and that is what Jesus Christ said is sin.

Too much irritating rubbish

nike4love:
Madam go back n build ur home with your husband....
God hates divorce.....

The false belief that has put many married women and men six feet below.

God is yur strenght! Kip going there is light at the end of the tunnel

Optimistic4life:
Okay I get you. So if I long for sex with my ex husband, that shouldn't be a sin then.

So let me ask you. Is selfplay/selflove/masturbation a sin?

The body desiring what it needs naturally just like we eat.

Not fantasies towards anyone in particular.

Religious mediums/leaders generally make natural tendencies into sin, so as to HELP the "sinners" intercede with God.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are no longer married to him so it would be sin.
2. What is sin is the lust in your heart that usually comes before or during the acts themselves.

3. There is nothing natural about those desires or you would be born lusting from your very birth. You develop these desires over time and as such can also chose to control them rather than allow them control you.

I think we all know what is meant by sexual lust and that is what Jesus Christ said is sin.

Sexual urge is natural o, i will tell you this based on my experience. When I was much younger, i used to be very religious with a lot of things I did then, even sexual life. But there is one circumstance in which I was tested to the limits. There is this distant cousin of mine who often came to visit, being a lady that i have known since we were kids, i would do anything for her but not to the extent of engaging in an immoral act together. Her constant pestering for such and sexual advances towards me was the only sore point in our friendship. Even though our bloodlines are little separated (distant cousin, remember), i could not fathom myself sleeping with such a person.

One day, the temptation of her wanting us to have sex together came to its head when she intrusively and nakedly walked towards my bathroom while I was having a bath, she just had her own bath in the opposing bathroom, she could have covered herself with the rapper in her hand, but chose not to do so. Now, you have a fully grown and naked woman approaching towards you right inside a bathroom as if she wants to ask you something. Even though I could resist the temptation at that point, i couldn't resist the rush of hormones in my body, and that experience gave me an erection immediately.

So the point I am trying to prove with narrating my experience in this story is that, sexual urge is something that is natural. You could have no intention of having sex with somebody, but that person will still give you an erection if caught in a compromising circumstance, thanks to the hormonal effect in your body.

Optimistic4life:


This option is definitely not in the picture at all.

He said I am free to remarry if I want but we aren't divorced and also remarrying isn't a day's affair nor a joke.

I like your ex-husband. He is not one of those desperate men who end up dying earlier than their time because of trying to make things work at all cost while displeasing their souls.

For him to be this bold and confident, you have hurt his ego and disobeyed his principle. You took it for granted, hence he made his decision to let you know no one disobeys his rules because of love.

He is a man with abundance mentality. He will achieve greater things in life for not being too attached to marriage, love, and family. As long as he isn't wayward, his confidence is fine with me.

Hmmm, no matter how many times we call men scum,the reality I that we need them more than they need us

cococandy:

Well dominion is when you exercise control over the feelings you are feeling. But feeling it shouldn’t be a sin. You can’t control your feelings but you can control your actions.

Gbamsulotely, a Wiseman said and l quote >> You can't prevent the birds in the sky from flying over your head but you can stop them from laying a nest on your head, end of quote, you can't stop whatever feelings both the good, bad and ugly from coming to your thoughts but you have the responsibility of not allowing such feelings to lead you into SIN.

Calling your self a Christian but fining it difficult to obey the simple bible instruction makes you worst than an infidel. Suffering and burning after sex after leaving your husband for 18 months is not okay for you.
You know the solution to your problem but EGO will not let you. Go and reconcile with your husband. If he is wrong kindly forgive him and encourage to be involved in church activities and be praying with him, he will change very soon because Holy Spirit will work on it. Stop burning pls. If you dont do this? Are you gloing to continue like this forever?

Kobojunkie:
1. You are no longer married to him so it would be sin.
2. What is sin is the lust in your heart that usually comes before or during the acts themselves.

3. There is nothing natural about those desires or you would be born lusting from your very birth. You develop these desires over time and as such can also chose to control them rather than allow them control you.

I think we all know what is meant by sexual lust and that is what Jesus Christ said is sin.

Ogbeni stop twisting Scriptures!

In the eyes of God she's still legally married to that man until death separates them.

And it's no sin for one to lust after the one they're legally married to.

Op should try and resolve her differences with her husband, even if it means involving a third party.

If she remarries in this state she'll be an adultress, and she can't return to her husband again.

Sexual desire is natural, begins at puberty and continues to menopause or old age.

Sexual desire is not lust.

Lust is the objectification of any subject as an imagined entity upon which one subconsciously associates with the satisfaction of their sexual desires.
Lust between married partners is pure and undefiled.

So long as she's separated, she should either grin and bear her state, or seek reconciliation.

Op, some of us never had sex for decades.
Personally, I've never been intimate with a woman since '98.

Yet, I have a very fierce sex drive.

It's not totally impracticable.
The more you abstain, take your mind off fantasies, porn and situations that could trigger lust and sex, the easier it becomes.

I'm no born saint anyway.
Had my ordeal with porn and masturbation, that's how I got to understand my sex drive.

But by His grace I'm out of that web, so I'm speaking from experience.

Calling yourself a Christian but fiding it difficult to obey the simple bible instruction makes you worst than an infidel. Suffering and burning after sex after leaving your husband for 18 months.
You know the solution to your problem but EGO will not let you. EGO destroys marriage than satan himself. Go and reconcile with your husband. If he is wrong kindly forgive him and encourage him to be involved in church activities, be praying with him, he will soon change because Holy Spirit will complete His work on him. Stop burning pls. If you dont do this? Are you going to continue like this forever? Dont let burning take heaven from you. Listen more to the voice of the Holy Spirit and obey. Thanks

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

How old are you

BluntTheApostle:


Terrible advise.

Sex is not a sin, but how you use it can be sinful.

You can have sex with your spouse.

But sex outside marriage is a sin.

And you didn't see where I asked her to do it responsibly?
So as she's no more married now, what's she supposed to do? Jump into another marriage immediately just for the sake of sex?
Abeg stay out of my mention with your crude way of thinking.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Remarrying won't be a bad idea but the number of reasonable men outside there is very low. 95% of the single men are jobless and looking for women to take care of them. Just get a Love Machine and satisfy yourself when the urge arises. God bless you

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Please don't misquote the lady, and please stop misquoting the Bible. Masturbation, Fornication, homosexuality etc are all sin. And in Math 5:27 where you quoted, Jesus said that apart from physical actions that were proscribed as sin in old testament, that mere looking at someone lustfully is a sin. In other words, for it to be a sin you must have subjected your thoughts for sex to the body of a man/woman. It is called LUST when you subject the thought to the shape or physique of another person. God created us with sexual urges, so having such urges is NEVER a sin, such urges can also be controlled. An uncontrolled sexual urges is what leads to lust.

Get busy with the preaching commission and exercise alot when at home lonely. Watch and pray you will be better.

Mamijoh:
You're a comic

It works o. Just try it n let me know

Arizoner:
meaning fornication is not a sin

I don't even know how to respond to you cos most of you guys have a long way to go in unlearning the tales told to you by your foreign religious masters.
Meanwhile those people have left those teachings behind and have gone steps ahead of fornication and adultery, they now sleep with their fellow men.
Hope your mind can capture this.
If not, don't bother responding.
We don't need to argue.

Kobojunkie:
Think about it. When you were born, one of your primal needs wasn't for sex. Instead, that desire slowly crept in after you reached a certain age. Even after you realized it, you also realized that it comes and goes, meaning it can be controlled meaning it is indeed not as natural as assumed by many who don't understand that with discipline, one can turn those desires on and off.

So true.

godliman:

Don't infect others with your depravity simple.

African man..na them...lolz.
We know your type, you preach against stuff in public but engage in worse crimes secretly.
I don't know how you guys imagine God to be.
I know my own God isn't wicked neither is he an author of confusion, would created sex as a natural occurrence, (married or not you have the urge), then go ahead to throw you in hell for engaging in the same act, knowing fully well that everyone can't be married at every single time for different genuine reasons.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Why are you separated from your husband? If it is due to differences, then humility will solve 1/3 of your problem, apology will solve another 1/3 while tolerance will solve the remaining 1/3.

Lari03r:
Without boasting you are pretty wrong with all you say.
Concerning adultery when Jesus was teaching about "looking and lusting" from a real perspective no one can attack you from looking at a woman lustfully as a man.
However, take a step further and sleep with that woman and you have opened yourself up to severe spiritual attacks.

Sin is direct obedience of God's commandments and Law, in this case, in our case, as given us as individuals by Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ is God's agreement with individual man so it matters not what the next man knows or thinks as when you sin you sin against God and not man - Matthew 26 vs 28 - 30.

So when you lust in your heart, the one your sin is against is God who gave you specific instructs not to - He is the one who sees in your heart and knows your sin, not your fellow man.

As for spiritual attacks, that's a whole different topic, as all those whose father are the devil - those who believe but do not obey the commandments of Jesus Christ- they live in perpetual sin against God, are rightly controlled by the one they belong to - John 8 vs 31 - 32 & John 8 vs 42 - 47

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Wow!!! Based on my experience I'll try to counsel you. Please send me a message on WhatsApp 08100553547

Ishilove:

Don't mind Kobo. She turns things upside down. No where in the scriptures is it written that having sexual urges is a sin. Rather, Apostle Paul exhorted that is better to marry than burn with lust.

Have you ever read Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 because that is exactly what Jesus Christ says right there. So I am not certain what scripture you have been reading.

Hoodnigga123:
Una get wahala

Your wahala is yours not mine.