"Being a fulfilled Woman does not come from pleasing your husband. It does not come from having the best behaved kids on the block. It does not come from keeping an immaculate house, being a goumet look or the best dressed or most well read woman in our crowd. This is only one way genuine fulfilment comes. Fulfilment comes from doing what God wants us to do; from following His plans for our lives."
- Lon Beardsley and Toni Spry.

Wisdom Keys For a happy & Successful Marriage.
[list][li]As a husband you can make your wife the most loving, admirable and beautiful woman on earth. Spend money to beautify her.(but according to your financial strength.[/li]
[li]Understand there is no perfect man/woman. Marriage is simply accommodating one another's shortcomings.
[li]Learn to trust your partner. Trust is the foundation for a good marriage.[/li]
[li]The tongue is powerful, through it a marriage is initiated and consummated. Note that a statement can destroy a 25 years marriage relationship overnight, therefore mind your tongue.[/li]
[li]Make it a duty each day to tell your partner "I love you"[/li]
[li]Find occasions such as Birthdays, Anniversaries, Christmas, New year or Valentine day celebrations to express your love towards partner in form of gifts, cards or special favours.[/li]
[li] Love is a function of intimacy, find time to stay together everyday.[/li]
[li]Once in a while, tell your partner "You are beautiful or You are handsome"[/li]
[li]Except love is not the foundation for a particular marriage relationship, there is no misunderstanding that can not be resolved by the partners involved. Resist inviting third party.[/li]
[li]Learn to be content with what you have.[/li]
[li]The relationship between the Lord and the Church is the only standard of comparism to your marriage as recorded in Ephesians 5:21-30. Therefore don't ever compare your marriage with that of any other couple. It is absolutely wrong.[/li]
[li]Try to avoid saying or doing what your spouse hates.[/li]
[li]Behind every great man is a great woman, loving him and meeting his needs.[/li]
[li]Some husbands or wives may get to the point where they see nothing good in thier partner. Learning to say "I am sorry" and Please forgive me" should be common in the relationship. Keeping track of wrongs is not a Christ - like approach to marriage. Acceptance and unconditional love are the hallmarks of a good marriage.[/li]
[li]Be always patient to listen to your partner even when you have divergent views.[/li][/list]

... to be continued someday.

101 Ways to Give Rest to Your Family

Becoming good at the things that build inner confidence and calm takes
practice — and a dash of creativity! The following list might provide
some cloud-seeding for a brainstorm or two of your own. Have some fun
with your family . . . and get ready for a good rest.

1. Pay off your credit cards.

2. Take off ten pounds or accept where you are without any more complaints.

3. Eat dinner together as a family for seven days in a row.

4. Take your wife on a dialogue date (no movie, guys).

5. Read your kids a classic book (Twain’s a good start).

6. Memorize the Twenty-third Psalm as a family.

7. Give each family member a hug for twenty-one days in a row (that’s how
long the experts say it takes to develop a habit).

8. Pick a night of the week in which the television will remain unplugged.

9. Go out for a non-fast-food dinner as a family.

10. Pray for your spouse and children every day.

11. Plan a vacation together.

12. Take a vacation together.

13. Read a chapter from the Bible every day until it becomes a habit.

14. Sit together as a family in church.

15. Surprise your teenager. Wash his car and fill up his gas tank.

16. Take an afternoon off from work; surprise your child by excusing him
from school and taking him to a ball game.

17. Take a few hours one afternoon and go to the library as a family.

18. Take a walk as a family.

19. Write each member of your family a letter sharing why you value them.

20. Give your spouse a weekend getaway with a friend (same gender!) to a
place of their choice.

21. Go camping as a family.

22. Go to bed early (one hour before your normal bedtime) every day for
a week.

23. Take each of your children out to breakfast (individually) at least
once a month for a year.

24. Turn down a promotion that would demand more time from your family
than you can afford to give.

25. Religiously wear your seat belts.

26. Get a complete physical.

27. Exercise a little every day for a month.

28. Make sure you have adequate life insurance on both you and your spouse.

29. Write out information about finances, wills and important business
information that your spouse can use to keep things under control
in the event of your death.

30. Make sure your family car is safe (tires, brakes, etc.) and get it
tuned up.

31. Replace the batteries in your smoke alarm.

32. Put a security system in your house.

33. Attend the parent/teacher meetings of each child as a couple.

34. Help your kids with their homework.

35. Watch the kids on Saturday while your wife goes shopping (but if a
friend calls, don’t say that you are "babysitting".

36. Explain to your spouse exactly what you do for a living.

37. Put together a picture puzzle. (One thousand pieces or more).

38. Take time during the week to read a Bible story to your children
and then discuss it with them.

39. Encourage each child to submit to you his most perplexing question,
and promise him that you’ll either answer it or discuss it with him.

40. Finish fixing something around the house.

41. Tell your kids how you and your spouse met.

42. Tell your kids about your first date.

43. Sit down and write your parents a letter thanking them for a specific
thing they did for you. (Don’t forget to sent it!)

44. Go on a shopping spree where you are absolutely committed to buying
nothing.

45. Keep a prayer journal for a month. Keep track of the specific ways
that God answered your needs.

46. Do some stargazing away from the city with your family. Help your
children identify constellations and conclude the evening with prayer
to the majestic God who created the heavens.

47. Treat your wife to a beauty makeover (facial, manicure, haircut, etc.).
I hear they really like this.

48. Give the kids an alternative to watching Saturday morning cartoons
(breakfast at McDonald’s, garage sales, the park, chores, etc.)

49. Ask your children each day what they did at school (what they learned,
who they ate lunch with, etc.).

50. After you make your next major family decision, take your child back
through the process and teach him how you arrived at your decision.

51. Start saying to yourself "My car doesn’t look so bad."

52. Call your wife or husband from work just to see how they’re doing.

53. Compile a family tree and teach your children the history of their
ancestors.

54. Walk through an old graveyard with your children.

55. Say no to at least one thing a day — even if it’s only a second
piece of pie.

56. Write that letter to the network that broadcast the show you felt
was inappropriate for prime-time viewing.

57. Turn off the lights and listen to a "praise" tape as you focus your
thoughts on the Lord.

58. Write a note to your pastor praising him for something.

59. Take back all the books in your library that actually belong in someone
else’s library.

60. Give irritating drivers the right to pull in front of you without
signaling and yelling at them.

61. Make every effort to not let the sun go down on your anger.

62. Accept legitimate criticism from your wife or a friend without
reacting or defending yourself.

63. If your car has a Christian bumper sticker on it — drive like it.

64. Do a Bible study on the "wise man" and the "fool" in Proverbs . . .
and then apply what it takes to be wise to your life.

65. Make a list of people who have hurt your feelings over the past year
. . . then check your list to see if you’ve forgiven them.

66. Make a decision to honor your parents, even if they made a career
out of dishonoring you.

67. Take your children to the dentist and doctor for your wife.

68. Play charades with your family, but limit subjects to memories
from the past.

69. Do the dishes for your wife.

70. Schedule yourself a free day to stay home with your family.

71. Get involved in a family project that services or helps someone
less fortunate.

72. As a family, get involved in a recreational activity.

73. Send your wife flowers.

74. Spend an evening going through old pictures from family vacations.

75. Take a weekend once a year for you and your spouse to get away
and renew your relationship.

76. Praise your spouse and children — in their presence — to someone else.

77. Discuss a world or national problem, and ask your children for their
opinion on it.

78. Wait up for your teenagers when they are out on dates.

79. Have a "quiet Saturday" (no television, no radio, . . . no kidding).

80. If your children are little, spend an hour playing with them — but
let them determine the game.

81. Have your parents tell your children about life when they were young.

82. Give up soap operas.

83. De-clutter your house.

84. If you have a habit of watching late night television, but have to be
to work early every morning, change your habit.

85. Don’t accept unnecessary business breakfast appointments.

86. Write missionaries regularly.

87. Go through your closets and give everything that you haven’t worn in
a year to a clothing relief organization.

88. Become a faithful and frequent visitor of your church’s library.

89. Become a monthly supporter of a Third World child.

90. Keep mementos, school projects, awards, etc. of each child in separate
files. You’ll appreciate these when they’ve left the nest.

91. Read the biography of a missionary.

92. Give regularly and faithfully to conscientious church endeavors.

93. Place with your will a letter to each family member telling why you were
glad you got to share life with him or her.

94. Go through your old records and tapes and discard any of them that
might be a bad testimony to your children.

95. Furnish a room (or a corner of a room) with comfortable chairs and
declare it the "disagreement corner." When conflicts arise, go to this
corner and don’t leave until it’s resolved.

96. Give each child the freedom to pick his favorite dinner menu at least
once a week.

97. Go over to a shut-in’s house as a family and completely clean it and
get the lawn work done.

98. Call an old friend from your past, just to see how he or she is getting
along.

99. Get a good friend to hold you accountable for a specific important need
(Bible reading, prayer, spending time with your family, losing a few
pounds, etc.).

100. Establish a budget.

101. Go to a Christian marriage enrichment seminar.

Those are great! Peter will you do those? If so, i wanna be in your family!!!

Great Hot angel. You're welcome to a happy family.

I learnt some from my parents and I read more from internet, hoping to make use of it when the need arises.
I wish the love I have for my family to surpass that which my father had with my mun.
You won't believe they of old age yet they were like new couples.
My father loves my mum despite she's no more.
re-marry he won't, i promised her I won't had any person except her but she is late and he's free from such promise but he said no more marriage for him. "I will always see her in my dream" says my dad.
Who will appeal to this man?
I can't be going to the village every two-two months, can't even stay more than 3hrs there, no mum to take care of you so why go home?

I going to make my wife's head swell with love and romance.
Watch out!!!

Wow...Peter.

How do you know they ensure Happy Marriage, when you are not even married yet

Gp u are great.

kazey:

How do you know they ensure Happy Marriage, when you are not even married yet

Oh you don't understand.
Morning shows the day as the boyhood shows the manhood.
It worked for people that utilized it, so why not work for me?

HELL no wisdom is not the key to happy marriage. Happy marriage rely on respect for one another, good communication, and devotion and prayers for guidance. and last you can not change people, you have yo have your space.

Anything done out of wisdom is tantamount to foolishness.

It takes wisdom for anyone to seek God.

"Even wise men seek Jesus"

coz jesus is the truth and the life.

Sounds boring to me. Loving God is not enough and that's a fact..

wow Greatpeter
so u're not married

Oracle:

wow Greatpeter
so u're not married

bad

Greatpeter,
Quite a Nice Write Up.I Love your Style,Can you Paste your Sources or Links Plz?

Nice !Nothing is left out.

hello guys, i am a nigerian abroad who lives in the uk, wud be getting married to my fiance who is a uk national. i lived in nigeria a long time ago as my relatives all live in the uk. i would like to get married in nigeria because i love the country. we wud like to get married in a registry. can anyone tell me how long it takes once we arrive and does my partner need any documents to show as he isnt nigerian

yasmin1

Great Tips, thanks a lot.