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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 8:52pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
2 questions for “ love of my life “ ?
1.Will she be with me if I’m impotent ?
2. What’s the cause of her not conceiving and bearing a child ?
If you love someone, you don't mind doing for them even if they won't see do the same for you. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by jeff1607(m): 8:53pm On Mar 30, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

Why would one break up because of something that isn't life threatening?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Magnoliaa(f): 8:54pm On Mar 30, 2022
ablejesus26:
Oga you be African man no dey form all this yeye oyinbo woke levels abegii undecided

Ermmmm, sorry, sir. But you're selling sharwamas and pizzas and waist trainers and -- what else? cheesy Are those African foods and products?

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 8:54pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
If you love someone, you don't mind doing for them even if they won't see do the same for you. undecided

There’s nothing like love .
It’s interest ( sex involved ) and kindness ( no sex involved ) .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 8:57pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
There’s nothing like love .
It’s interest ( sex involved ) and kindness ( no sex involved ) .
What you describe there in bold is instead the chemical and hormone driven attraction that many of you confuse with love. undecided

Love is more mental than all that illogical nonsense that drives moves of you. It does exist, only it is less animal than many are used to. undecided

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 8:58pm On Mar 30, 2022
Magnoliaa:
Ermmmm, sorry, sir. But you're selling sharwamas and pizzas and waist trainers and -- what else? cheesy Are those African foods and products?
ROFLMAO
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy wink wink cheesy wink wink wink grin wink cheesy

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Cutehector(m): 9:00pm On Mar 30, 2022
Nuttella:
God will give us children.

What God cannot do does not exist.

Coming to the natural, love can fade o, and if it fades, the both parties face reality, and a family without kids is really boring, kids spice up marriage.
you understand.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by koyyess: 9:03pm On Mar 30, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

IVF is my answer.
Let me not talk about adoption.

Let me add that people marry for different reasons other than love. It doesn't exist in many marriages.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Mar 30, 2022
koyyess:
IVF is my answer.
Let me not talk about adoption.
IVF does not apply for all women. So in the case it is not an option, you are saying you will give up on love, right?? undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Nobody: 9:07pm On Mar 30, 2022
illicit:
I will have children for us
Wawu grin grin
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by erico2k2(m): 9:07pm On Mar 30, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?
2022?? wow , life has moved 4ward, there is loads of ways of having kids
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by koyyess: 9:08pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
IVF does not apply for all women. So in the case it is not an option, you are saying you will give up on love, right?? undecided

I have answered this with my edited original post.

Usually, it is when problems like this occur, couples realize they never loved each other in the first place. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by rickpat(m): 9:10pm On Mar 30, 2022
Elmander1983:
Nna meen! Got me here too.. guess God has answers to everything.. will pass before tears drop
just pass bro,instead spilling emotions

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 9:10pm On Mar 30, 2022
erico2k2:

2022?? wow , life has moved 4ward, there is loads of ways of having kids
In Njgeria alone,there are an estimated 8.4 Million orphans in need of a home. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 9:11pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
What you describe there in bold is instead the chemical and hormone driven attraction that many of you confuse with love. undecided

Love is more mental than all that illogical nonsense that drives moves of you. It does exist, only it is less animal than many are used to. undecided

We all know humans are moved sight , words and actions .
Something ( interest ), must bring people together .
It maybe physical appearance, status,vibes, desire , money , etc .
And yes , humans can be humane ( kindness ). They way they can care for animals , plants etc.
That’s why , I tell people instead of wailing for love , know how and where to position for love .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 9:15pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
1. We all know humans are moved sight , words and actions . Something ( interest ), must bring people together .It maybe physical appearance, status,vibes, desire , money , etc .
And yes , humans can be humane ( kindness ). They way they can care for animals , plants etc.

2. That’s why , I tell people instead of wailing for love , know how and where to position for love .
1. All you listed there, even animals are moved by. Have you ever, maybe, observed the mating call of birds like the peacock or other animals? undecided
Materialism has absolutely nothing to do with love... undecided

2. When people say, "love transcends all...", understand what means and you realize you have yet to infact address the subject itself. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Panda7: 9:15pm On Mar 30, 2022
why u no use the emotion adopt child. that will make una move on.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by TheRealestGuy(m): 9:19pm On Mar 30, 2022
This situation happened with my cousin.

She got married about 10 years ago and couldn't conceive.

The husband patiently waited on God and was at the point where frustration made him start considering having a child outside wedlock when God came through and she finally conceived. She had a baby boy at the end.

Moral.of my story? Sometimes these things happen and in the world of today medical intervention can solve such challenges. Also it could be a spiritual trial for the couple which if overcome will make them an even stronger unit.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 9:25pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. All you listed there, even animals are moved by. Have you ever, maybe, observed the mating call of birds like the peacock or other animals? undecided
Materialism has absolutely nothing to do with love... undecided

2. When people say, "love transcends all...", understand what means and you realize you have yet to infact address the subject itself. undecided

Love is a feeling of affection . It maybe intense or not . You can’t see someone at first and immediately develop such intense feeling of affection.
There must be a reason before it develop.
That reason is the interest .
Barring the love that exist between mothers and babies , others are built on interest .
Especially when the chief beneficiary sees how his/her interest is protected , we confuse it for love .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Bamzyriches451: 9:26pm On Mar 30, 2022
Damn!
Hell NO, am Gon dump her sorry ass ASAP. Can't settle for less undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Bbbw: 9:28pm On Mar 30, 2022
Hmmm
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 9:31pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
1.Love is a feeling of affection . It maybe intense or not . You can’t see someone at first and immediately develop such intense feeling of affection.

2. There must be a reason before it develop. That reason is the interest . Barring the love that exist between mothers and babies , others are built on interest . Especially when the chief beneficiary sees how his/her interest is protected , we confuse it for love .
1. Love is not a feeling.... instead it is more or less a decision. What you call feeling is a high you experience as a result of a rush of brain chemicals and hormones through your body. undecided

2. There is no such thing as unconditional love. Even the love between a mother and her baby is not an exception. This love is based on a decision/agreement that is not ruled by chemicals but more by a mental contract of sorts. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 9:41pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. Love is not a feeling.... instead it is more or less a decision. What you call feeling is a high you experience as a result of a rush of brain chemicals and hormones through your body. undecided

2. There is no such thing as unconditional love. Even the love between a mother and her baby is not an exception. This love is based on a decision/agreement that is not ruled by chemicals but more by a mental contract of
sorts. undecided

What you described above is like unwritten law of nature .
What is love ?
Love is an agreement ? That means love is a contract ?
Based on mutual acceptance and respect ?
Love is interest and kindness .
And you’ve not answered my first questions ?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 9:45pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
If you love someone, you don't mind doing for them even if they won't see do the same for you. undecided

Really ? Even Jesus died because of his interest in mankind. To save our souls and bring us back to God .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 9:47pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
1. What you described above is like unwritten law of nature .

2. What is love ? Love is an agreement ? That means love is a contract ? Based on mutual acceptance and respect ? Love is interest and kindness .
And you’ve not answered my first questions ?
1. Unwritten law of nature? undecided

2. Love is that which transcends the chemicals and hormones. Love is not always based on what you call mutual acceptance, and it goes beyond interest and kindness but is a commitment to serving another, selflessly even. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 9:50pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
Really ? Even Jesus died because of his interest in mankind. To save our souls and bring us back to God .
Jesus Christ died because of His interest in mankind? undecided

When you dig into the details of that "interest" of His in what you call mankind, and you consider the conditions He in turn laid down for those who will come to Him, you will see clearly what I mean by love being conditional. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 9:54pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. Unwritten law of nature? undecided

2. Love is that which transcends the chemicals and hormones. Love is not always based on what you call mutual acceptance, and it goes beyond interest and kindness but is a commitment to serving another, selflessly even. undecided


Serving another , selflessly even ? Lol
To what end ?
What happen when the served , errs ?
What’s the end or by product of your love ( serving another , selflessly even ) ?
There’s interest.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 9:55pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ died because of His interest in mankind? undecided

When you dig into the details of that "interest" of His in what you call mankind, and you consider the conditions He in turn laid down for those who will come to Him, you will see clearly what I mean by love being conditional. undecided

Why did Jesus died for mankind ?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by holicupp(m): 9:56pm On Mar 30, 2022
Labadi69:


Is that why you are almost fifty and single? Yamayama nack your head there angry

Marriage is not an achievement mbok
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 9:58pm On Mar 30, 2022
For me, God has answered my prayer. I'd be open to meeting a good woman who can't have children. I don't want children. I can't add another layer of complexity to an already complex situation.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Munzy14(m): 10:03pm On Mar 30, 2022
ArmaniUhuru:
Nigerians can form! grin grin grin


Everyone is now forming children is not important on the internet. While in real life, they want to have like 10 children. grin grin grin
As in eeeh grin grin

Hypocrisy.

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