I was having a discussion with my friend when he said his father in law hates him, so I asked why? His reply was my wife took a loan from her place of work to buy a car and she's expected to pay back within a year and am like how does that translate to your father in law hating you? His response shocked me; he said the man thought he is the one instigating his daughter against her whenever he asks for money not knowing that she borrowed money to buy a car and a chunk of the money is been deducted from her salary every month making her to cut her expenses.

So it got me asking is she the one fending for the family and he said yes.

So my question is this? How do female bread winners handle this?

Female breadwinners I’m waiting to read ooo make una kom gist us as e dy be

Interesting

Iyaebe:
Female breadwinners I’m waiting to read ooo make una kom gist us as e dy be

it's something that has been bothering me coz my girlfriend also happens to be a breadwinner

YINKS89:
it's something that has been bothering me coz my girlfriend also happens to be a breadwinner

lol can’t you support her?

YINKS89:
it's something that has been bothering me coz my girlfriend also happens to be a breadwinner

Is there anything wrong with your finances as a couple? If not then no issues to see here.
There's nothing wrong here, the father in-law is just being manipulative and petty.

YINKS89:
ISo it got me asking is she the one fending for the family and he said yes.

So my question is this? How do female bread winners handle this?

Well, just as you have male breadwinners, you should also expect to have female breadwinners. I don't understand why this is a topic at all.

YINKS89:
it's something that has been bothering me coz my girlfriend also happens to be a breadwinner

Why importing reality that has not existed in your relationship from one to yours? Be mature and stop looking for what isn't missing. You're a man,act like one

DoctorOlasDesk:


Why importing reality that has not existed in your relationship from one to yours? Be mature and stop looking for what isn't missing. You're a man,act like one

that of my friend is so real I can assure you that and am not importing anything just asking to see how they balance this without having any issue

My girlfriend is the baby of their house. No pressure at all because all her elder siblings are living comfortably.

YINKS89:
that of my friend is so real I can assure you that and am not importing anything just asking to see how they balance this without having any issue

Your behavior is wrong. I'm busy bro. I hope you figure it out yourself

Kobojunkie:
Well, just as you have male breadwinners, you should also expect to have female breadwinners. I don't understand why this is a topic at all.

the world we live in sees female just to assist so in a case where she is now carrying that burden which we feel should be carried by men then it calls for debate

YINKS89:
the world we live in sees female just to assist so in a case where she is now carrying that burden which we feel should be carried by men then it calls for debate

The world who lives in? Women have carried the same exact burden that man have since the very beginning.. .. that some chose over time to live ignorant of this does not change the truth of what is reality.

Olasyke:

Is there anything wrong with your finances as a couple? If not then no issues to see here.
There's nothing wrong here, the father in-law is just being manipulative and petty.

not me per say but if you read what I just said, I never in anyway said there are having financial problem but the man feels the wife is not doing enough because of the husband and he's not in the position to tell the father in law the wife collected loan

Men whose wife are bread winners needs to cover their faces in shame, for fvcks sake why should that be.
What happened to their life Purpose?

Maxxim:
Men whose wife are bread winners needs to cover their faces in shame, for fvcks sake why should that be.
What happened to their life Purpose?

Why isn't a woman allowed to be a breadwinner if that works best for her marriage and maybe her personality? Why must rules for living be dictated by your traditions when life is instead meant to be lived freely?

I have observed females who are happy and proud to be breadwinners to what is their family. Why should it all be about the man's ego?

Kobojunkie:
Why isn't a woman allowed to be a breadwinner if that works best for her marriage and maybe her personality? Why must rules for living be dictated by your traditions when life is instead meant to be lived freely?

I have observed females who are happy and proud to be breadwinners to what is their family. Why should it all be about the man's ego?

Never did I mention about women becoming bread winners, idk who you wrote these epistle to, my post was targeted to men, gtf

Men should take care of their old age.

YINKS89:
I was having a discussion with my friend when he said his father in law hates him, so I asked why? His reply was my wife took a loan from her place of work to buy a car and she's expected to pay back within a year and am like how does that translate to your father in law hating you? His response shocked me; he said the man thought he is the one instigating his daughter against her whenever he asks for money not knowing that she borrowed money to buy a car and a chunk of the money is been deducted from her salary every month making her to cut her expenses.

So it got me asking is she the one fending for the family and he said yes.

So my question is this? How do female bread winners handle this?

Female Bread winners are few. Infact, very few compared to male.

Truvelisback:
Female Bread winners are few. Infact, very few compared to male.

the fact that they don't come out doesn't mean they are few, it might be their husband is the one taking up the responsibility

it doesn't work in the long run especially for african men and women. There will be problems in the house.

A woman should NOT be the sole provider in an African household. Trust me, there is no benefit to it at all for her.

olabrinks:
it doesn't work in the long run especially for african men and women. There will be problems in the house.

exactly my point

Ekwutox:
A woman should NOT be the sole provider in an African household. Trust me, there is no benefit to it at all for her.

is it about the benefit or doing it for your family