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Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

I ve gone through ur entire thread and I must say mummy get correct choko. But please give her another chance. She is doing all of those things because of the love she has for you. Please dont disown your mother because of your wife

She is definitely coming for something evil and once she left everything will turn upside down.


Don't let her come close to your family for at least 10 years.

You can always support her from afar.

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

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Francis609:

Thank you

You are thanking someone that is against your mother?Are you jazed or what is wrong with you? How did you bathed this World ? Is it only your father alone?
Don't allow your mother to curse you, young man!- if your mother is that wicked,how did you survive up till now, even call her a witch, or is it now that she would kill you!
- You are the problem not your mother because it's not the first time a man's mother will always have quarrel with the daughter in-law,which you should have calmed down your wife but you have taken side, thereby given you wife an uncontrollable access to see you own mother as enemy! Children of today,na wao!
Remember- what an elderly see while sitting,a young man of your age wouldn't see it while on a ten- story building!
Also remember that,you too will be old and this your wife you are now making innocent will stage a comeback as the children begins to turns adult.
My friend,let your Mummy stayed for number of months she wants with your children and appeal to your wife to accept your mother like her own mother.
Please,grow up young man,no debate!
My mother in law is bad! Very nonsensical!

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

Who still visits this days...?

Let her do Whatsapp video call... And greet her grandchildren and wife from wherever she is..

jesmond3945:
too wicked that she cannot be forgiven?

Why didn't she forgive her daughter in law? FOH!

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

Yes you did the wrong thing. You're a man and should Air your grievances to your mom. You should tell her you aren't happy with the fact that she wished your wife death and you don't want her around your family. Then see what she has to say, if she's sorry or not

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

man, did you hear your mom say she wished your wife death or your wife told you! man up before your wife or stepmother poison your mind against your own mother.

Francis609:


She hates her because she is from the same tribe as my dad. She wanted me to marry a lady from her tribe.
she also thinks she is ugly and will give birth to ugly kids.

Oga keep quiet and allow your mother visit her grand children, na your wife she no like not you and the kids and I believe if you had taken necessary steps you would have won your mothers love over.....

You disown your mum because she said statements out of anger which I believe she did out of love and protection for you but in a wrong way wishing your wife death......
Better reconcile your family with your mum and allow peace reign otherwise the vacuum will surface in the future....Shalom

deavicky:
I usually don't think like this but right now I'm under the impression that ur step mother has bewitched you. How on earth will speak of ur mother in this despicable manner. What ever she had said about ur wife don't u think it was because of the circumstances at that moment. Now u want to deny her the joy of staying with her grand children. I just hope u can handle the aftermath if she finds out.

Circumstances of that moment

Why did the mother curse her because she lost her child??

pretydiva:
Simply tell her the truth that your step mom is around for the omugu and that her coming is not needed

There is something called "Diplomacy".

Even if my mama na witch I will never in this life disown her......
If she cannot kill me or disown me till I get to this level I don't see what will make me disown my precious jewel....May God keep my mum for me

Please try and keep her away for now until your babies are strong.
Do not make it obvious that you don't want her around; keep coming up with stories.

Maybe time will change her attitude (it usually does).

I made this post before I saw your mum's reason for hating your wife. And I want to conclusively say; time will alter her feelings towards you wife. Just try and keep them apart for now. She will definitely relate better with her over time; I never see Granma wey hate twins!!!
Let your wife send her gifts once in a while.

U can have 3 or more wife's, so with children but you can never have more than 1 mother...

My mom was a living hell, I took her the way she was cos when u look at her behaviour from her own angle u will see her reasons...

But if you keep looking at her actions from only your own angle, u will always be at loggerheads and will never settle...

Your mom is your mom... Accept her for who she is and make progress...

She had your life, this same life you are bragging with, she carried it for 9 months, brest- fed u for over a year till u grew to have your say... Then u feel you can change her views now... Embrace what you have with love my dear.. And know peace...

I pity your wife. I wonder why she married into that family.

Achaachiko:

man, did you hear your mom say she wished your wife death or your wife told you! man up before your wife or stepmother poison your mind against your own mother.

Here is the answers to your questions.

https://www.nairaland.com/6444478/disowned-mother/10#99674934

West2019:
can you read you put pepper in your eyes .must him bring out him mum issue here can him solve the problem by himself. or are you amonge the type maltreating own mother

Hmmmm!

Mama wey no get sense, dem go drag her outside. My own mama na diamond. All her daughter inlaws are ok with her. She no dey cross her boundary. If anything dey wrong, na on her knees she dey solve am. She no be demon wey go dey wish daughllter inlaws death.

My mama no even send anyone. She gat investments all round Lagos. She no dey wait for her kids to feed herself. So, no pikin fit use money do her anything. Na her daughter unleashed dey go knee to collect sef from her in her palace.

Mama wey be witch will be used as example of witchcraft. And mama wey be prayer warrior will be used as examples too. It is not a matter of maltreating anyone. Her mama is a demon period. And my mama na prayer warrior. That's the difference.

And for your information, my mama was used for examples in public. I have talked about her in public too. The only issue is that this one mama na demon.

So, na for your own eyes dem put chewing gum. Mama wey no wan respect herself, dem go drag am outside.

Kid, if you mama na demon too, we go use am as sample ooo. Na normal stuff. If you dey scared, make you let us know. We go drag am so that her head go reformat and change. Else, you go just dey suffer in silence. We go protect the innocent girl.

You never marry na. So, which one this one dey talk? I wan see how you go treat your mama when she wan kill your wife. See, make you just give her the knife to slìce her throat na. Dont go expose her fast to leave your family alone. Dey protect one witch wey we suppose to remove from planet earth so we can celebrate say... one is down.

Anyway, my mama is not your mama mate. That I am sure of....and I am not your mama mate too. So, just park one side. On a serious note...kid, shift to one side.

Be careful around her. Don't even give her the chance to "mark" your kids and use them to hurt you and your wife. She knows the power your wife over you are in the kids she bore for you. Sorry to say, some mothers can be harmful even to their own children especially if such child is not yielding to their wish.

My brother, please it's advisable not to allow your mum to come around. It won't help your marriage and if care is not taken it might start the beginning of bigger marriage issues between you and your wife.

Meanwhile, I want to encourage you to sit your mum down and talk the reason out, why she wishes your wife dead... With prayers I believe God will touch her heart for good.

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

don’t scatter ur family with ur hand, go with your wife and kids to visit her whenever u guys got spare time.

See ehn, don't use your hand to bring problem to yourself. Just let her be as she has been. Don't encourage her to visit

Francis609:


Thank you. She and my siblings didn't attend to my wedding but her elder sister came and she has stopped talking to her.

And you need to lie to keep her away from your home?
Tell her the truth. It will make her to think about how badly she has behaved.
Your step mom is there and you do t need her. When the babies have grown a little pay her a brief visit. Don't let her decide you into allowing your wife around her o.
She avoided the wedding, wished the lady dead and yet want to come for Omugwo, and you are thinking twice a to dismiss her.

This ur story is incomplete.
You are hiding somethings, your mom can't hate ur wife just like that but remember that you will be old in the near future and would want to spend more time with some of ur children and ur wife maybe the one to enjoy them.

I will suggest that you should first of all reconcile your mum and your wife. You can't throw away your mum because of your wife and you also have to keep your family safe. Try and find peace between the two women. May God help you

jesmond3945:
i beg to differ. This is your biological mother. The only person she hates is your wife and not your kids. This is not new. Mother in laws and daughter in laws na cat and dog. The issue is this, if your wife knows that your mum wished her death, she would never forgive your mother. That means if she comes over, they would not get along. So it behoves on your mother to ask for forgiveness and truly repent before your wife. As for your step mum she is just playing to the gallery. That she is helping out doesn't mean she loves your kids more than your mum. She might be exploiting the situation since she knows your mum has been barred. What I will tell you, work on your mum to reconcile with your wife and take up her leading role as granny. Dont lie to her, let her come. If she misbehaves you can always tell her to stop or go back home to her husband.

Apt.

Achaachiko:

man, did you hear your mom say she wished your wife death or your wife told you! man up before your wife or stepmother poison your mind against your own mother.

His wife was in the hospital when the mom said it. The wife couldn't have heard it cos she wasn't even there when she said it. The wife knows the woman hates her but I don't think Op ever told her that his mother wished her dead. When op calles the Mom to confirm is what the younger brother told him about her wishing his wife dead, she still repeated it and didn't even try to die.
Said she wished the wife had died in place of the baby they lost she would have been happier.
You didnt read the first story...

Did she say she has changed and apologize to your wife n yourself?

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

All your posts are always based on your mother's toxicity and you still here asking if you should allow her into your home??

Ain't surprised

You're just another spineless boy without boundaries—that's actually why your mother continues to misbehave the way she likes.

Why are spineless boys getting married upandan like this?

And to be asking silly questions like this shows you can be very indecisive and flaky.

Allow her to visit na. Infact allow her to be living with you guys sef, na that one go make sense pass sef

Francis609:
My mum have never liked my wife to the extend of wishing her death when she lost our first baby and I had disowned her for saying that. So far we haven't had any contact since the incident and we are finally proud parents of twins boy and girl born in February. My stepmother have been here for us since day 1 she is in my house taking care of my wife and babies , my mum called saying that she want to come over and take care of my wife and kids and will be spending a month . I lied to her that my wife is with her sister and will let her know when she is back to the house so she can come over. To be Frank I don't want her near my wife because she doesn't likes her and I don't think she have any good plan for us. Did I do the right thing for lying to her my wife is not around or should I give her the chance to come over and see if she have truly change?

Please If you want to understand the full story go through my old threads

@Op, don't allow the sentimentalists sway you.

Keep your mum far away from your family.

If it was your wife's nun who wishes you Dead, will you be asking the question you're asking?

Bond is stronger than blood o. Na who do you well and wish you well be blood.

If my mum ever wished my husband dead, she will never see me or grand kids ever again. This is coming from me whose husband calls a "mummy's girl".

You're the first line of defence of your family, protect them.

Send her money for upkeep, give her surprise visits but don't give her room to harm your child.

I no dey give advice wey know fit take.

Don't let her come near your house.

She is a wicked woman