I am sharing this here because....I don't know why I am sharing this here but ,here we go.
My parents like going to burials and events way too much. we are a lower middle class family,struggling to make ends meet and pay our bills. Always managing and scrounging.
Despite all of this my parents have built an illusion of well being around themselves whenever they travel home to the village. we live in Enugu and my home town is in imo ,not a very far distance but not a close one either. Every month my parents are usually traveling home either separately or together for one event or the other,burial , traditional wedding or meeting. Every time , they end up coming back almost completely broke to start again.
They have made themselves too available for all these events and it pisses me off very much. How can you be going for a burial and you are carrying three chickens"in case visitors come" they said and yet in your fucking home there is nothing. You travel and start dashing out money you don't have!! , Every time they come back something always goes wrong, one of them usually falls sick or gets injured,and KEEP GOING BACK! , showing the"village people" that they are not dead yet!

I don't know how to say this to them without sounding rude and disrespectful. How to tell them to give it a rest and build their home ,to stop setting themselves up for pain . If you don't show up,the dead will still be buried,the engaged will marry so stay home and fix it.
PS: this is just me ranting expressing my anger ,I'm not asking for validation.

U won't understand until u grow up.sometimes,the people may have attended ur parents event also.or they may share some bond that u don't know.people are seeing them.u will be shocked when u parents organise a simple event and there is no space for people!they reciprocate.

The people your parents go to everytime are their "support system".
You kids will grow up and leave them.
They need to be engaged in activities in order to keep loneliness away and stay strong.
Please stop discouraging them from going out and attending events. It makes them happy. It keeps them active. And they will have people they can turn to if they have issues in life.

Ultraviolet5:
I don't know how to say this to them without sounding rude and disrespectful. How to tell them to give it a rest and build their home ,to stop setting themselves up for pain . If you don't show up,the dead will still be buried,the engaged will marry so stay home and fix it.
PS: this is just me ranting expressing my anger ,I'm not asking for validation.

Unless you are willing to pay for mental Health counseling for your parents, I recommend you leave them to what is there delusion, and instead learn "what not to do" from their experience.

It is in no way disrespectful to voice your opinion on what seems like foolishness on their part but if they haven't gotten around to figuring out the issue with their behavior as a couple, I don't know if you can give them that jolt either.

At least make certain they don't leave you kids starving whenever they travel for these burials and what not. Work hard so you can gain your independence and make better choices in your own life abeg!

this is just another case of "people buying things they don't need, with money they don't have, to impress people they don't like"

Ultraviolet5:
I don't know how to say this to them without sounding rude and disrespectful. How to tell them to give it a rest and build their home ,to stop setting themselves up for pain . If you don't show up,the dead will still be buried,the engaged will marry so stay home and fix it.
PS: this is just me ranting expressing my anger ,I'm not asking for validation.

get a boyfriend that would distract you from all these..you worry too much.

Cutehector:
get a boyfriend that would distract you from all these..you worry too much.

And this is the best advice you could come up with

Dummy

Okay

I don't think there's anything you could do than to learn from their err and do better for yourself and help them (parents and siblings) so everyone remains happy.

I can relate with your experience but your parents are already set in their ways and there is nothing much you can do.

I have a cousin who also lives in Enugu (Asata mine road) almost every weekend he and his wife are attending one function or the other in the village (also in Imo state)!

Cutehector:
get a boyfriend that would distract you from all these..you worry too much.

eww nooooo! ,Bleep no!

Nawa.

Killmaster1:
U won't understand until u grow up.sometimes,the people may have attended ur parents event also.or they may share some bond that u don't know.people are seeing them.u will be shocked when u parents organise a simple event and there is no space for people!they reciprocate.

Not while there's no food to eat at home. We don't have to attend all parties. There are people that can use their children's school fees to attend parties. I don't attend every event but my event is always full. We have to choose which to attend.

have you tried talking to them?

Your family is not middle class. That part is wrong.

Your parents are among the community of VILLAGE PEOPLE. They have to be in attendance.