In my own opinion, It basically ruined his life, more like it. But of course Jada Pinkett Smith is world champion “making something about me”. Imagine a young man whose father mercilessly abused his mother for years. Was unfaithful to her. His life was rough, his childhood brutal. And all he wants is to marry a woman, love her, devote himself to her and their children. Give them the childhood he never had.

He is wired for monogamy. He’s a one woman type of lad. But she isn’t… she is “free spirited” and wants to have an “open relationship”. Wants to be able to ‘see’ other men. He goes along with it. Even though it isn’t him. Isn’t his style. And it breaks his heart, every time she walks out the door to meet another “boyfriend”. But he doesn’t want to break his family. His marriage has to work. He’s desperate to make it all work out.

Some people are made to be with one person. Others simply aren’t. And when two people who are incompatible in such a massively fundamental way get together? It’s a tragedy. The Smith-Pinkett marriage is like a terrible car crash we have all been witnessesing for decades as it unfolds before our very eyes in tabloids and round tables discussions and interviews, one shady little detail at a time. Their partnership has become a punching bag, a meme, a joke for everyone but the people involved. Will Smith has out on a brave face, kept his head high but we all have our limits and he’s clearly reaches his, long ago, his strenght stretched thin.

You can just slap a nice little label on it. “Oh he’s spineless, a cuck, pussy-whipped, lol what a loser” and be done with it. But that’s an overly simplistic and rather cruel way of describing the tragedy that is Mr. and Mrs. Smith. It’s like one of those early-in-life relationships where you discover fairly early on that your partner is totally not “your person”. There are monumental differences you know you can’t overcome. Red flags galore. You may hang on for a while… but you know things are doomed. Now imagine such a relationship NOT ending, because one of the partners is desperate to not ‘fail’. That’s the sad situation we’re dealing with here. Decades of ‘sunk cost fallacy’ and childhood trauma keeping two souls tied together that have no business being together.

Marrying a man she was clearly not compatible with has been an absolute disaster for both Will Smith and his wife Jada. They both suffered. He endulged her. She enjoyed herself. While all it did for him was wear him down. Last March he reached his breaking point… it was a long time coming.

That you missed sleep last night does not mean you'll sleep both yesterday and today sleeps together this night.


In life, don't carryover whatever you think you missed....trying to correct them.....it doesn't work that way!


If that is his case....he should have asked his father what was the problem......

Same with this johnny Depp of a guy.....just because you assumed your father maltreated your mother.......you just decided/vowed to sacrifice your sanity to correct something beyond your comprehension......

Instead of engaging yourself on a fact finding mission to ascertain the reason behind whatever you witnessed.....but you however decided to draw a conclusion from one sided perspectively constructed storyline (women are victim of everything men did or didn't do)........now you're on fire and it is everybody's concern..... forgetting that as a man, you're as guilty as your father irrespective of your innocence even if you're still a toddler.

Good boys finishes last.......men are guilty.

What we are witnessing is childhood trauma. What he witnessed and went through in their home broke him. He should never have married till he healed from the wounds and baggages.

Now he is reliving the horror.

As was depositeth in his heart so is he. As he thinketh so is he.

DeeMain:
What we are witnessing is childhood trauma. What he witnessed and went through in their home broke him. He should never have married till he healed from the wounds and baggages.

Now he is reliving the horror.

As was depositeth in his heart so is he. As he thinketh so is he.

Well captured. Was actually discussing few hours ago, how some unresolved childhood traumas can cause problems in marriages.

Mindlog:


Well captured. Was actually discussing few hours ago, how some unresolved childhood traumas can cause problems in marriages.

It's the dysfunctional family but the genders are reversed in the next generation.

The narcissist dad who cannot love is Jada Pinkett, the serially abused mum who is the martyr of the family is Will Smith.

Little Will Smith(the child in Will Smith that witnessed all that horror) has a role here too, he has vowed to protect his mum(wife) and never ever divorce at all cost to heal his childhood wounds.

Unresolved traumas get passed to the next generation who relive the same dysfunction and horrors in some form.

Your answers are with Will Smith. Go ask am


If you ask us, who we go ask?

DeeMain:


It's the dysfunctional family but the genders are reversed in the next generation.

The narcissist dad who cannot love is Jada Pinkett, the serially abused mum who is the martyr of the family is Will Smith.

Little Will Smith(the child in Will Smith that witnessed all that horror) has a role here too, he has vowed to protect his mum(wife) and never ever divorce at all cost to heal his childhood wounds.

Unresolved traumas get passed to the next generation who relive the same dysfunction and horrors in some form.

You just enabled a flashback to my undergraduate Family Therapy lectures, clearly remembering my lecturer as she taught what you just shared.

Mindlog:


You just enabled a flashback to my undergraduate Family Therapy lectures, clearing remembering my lecturer as she taught what you just shared.

Really?

What course did you study?

DeeMain:


Really?

What course did you study?

Undergrad - Counselling Psychology.
Postgrad - Clinical Child Psychology.

Mindlog:


Undergrad - Counselling Psychology.
Postgrad - Clinical Child Psychology.

Oh, Okay. Cool