oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

Oga don’t allow fear to consume you. Commit everything unto God’s hands and believe he will grant you journey mercies.

You can’t say you won’t visit other cities na. Is it no other Nigerians that are using the road? I understand your concerns but I don’t think it’s enough reason to break up with your girlfriend. Good people are hard to find these days. If you feel she is worth it, then don’t allow your fears to hold you back.

iamdapsyj:



To be honest, I feel his parents doesn't like the girl. Unfortunately, as a man, he is not ready yet for marriage if he can't make his own decisions.

That's it
But I see him regretting dropping her at the end of this manipulation

blazingblender:
don't bring anything on the internet and expect to be praised ..
And you are to immature for thinking of leaving a girl cus she wanna visit her home base ..

Immature for placing his life and those of his loved ones above relationship? Is it not somebody who is alive that will do relationship and marry? Please free the guy if you don't have value for your own life.
Personally I recently got shortlisted for PTDF scholarship interview and I am seriously contemplating ditching it because of the same phobia so just speak for yourself.

For the poster, I will advice you have a heart to heart discussion with your babe so she can understand your worries. There may be another way around it.

No love enough my dearie if you do, you will go all out, distance can never be a barrier.

Slimdan360:

Aunty shut up and simply say you hate traveling. Which one is "I hate travelling on Nigeria roads" what makes the road in Nigeria so different from the ones in other countries.
Mtcheew

My dear, learn to b polite.u mustn't tell an adult to shut up bfr u oppose his/ her opinion.
Everyone knows d rate of insecurities on Nigeria roads.
U don't need to show hw disrespectful u ar everywhere. I wonder d kind of home u were brought wt dis kind of comment.

oldienavie:

Ondo State.

Ondo isn't that bad na. I have a friend that ply that road every week another one must get to Ekiti weekly. Just move in the morning.

oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

If you were told to travel long distance to execute a contract in millions, am sure you won't think twice.

Truth is YOU DON'T LOVE WELL ENOUGH TO GO ALL OUT FOR HER.

Gold is never found on the surface of the Earth, rather it's deep down, hidden far below human reach.

I rest my case.

blazingblender:
My friend go and sit down
Your girlfriend is the one who doesn't deserve you sef
You are having phobia travelling on Nigeria road
Asif the country you live in you guys fly around..
Secondly I believe the abroad you are even talking about may be one of this closeby African countries like Cotonou
Si if you don't come back home where do u wanna retire??
Or you think we living here are asshol*$?

Loool

God bless you for the reply. Too many mentally unstable people on this forum.

oldienavie:

Reading your post, it appears the Nigerian educational system is worse than I thought it was.
Your response is not just disjointed but fails to convey any meaningful message.
The fact that something does not bother you does not mean it doesn't bother other people, learn to think outside of your own mindset and understand that people are different.

Also, learn to respond to people in a more decent and respectful way, don't just type anything because you are on the internet.

Ishilove:

Well done. So those of us living and thriving in Nigeria are what? Aliens from another solar system? You stay in the west and confidently declare a whole country an active war zone because of misrepresentation from the media.

You know what you are? You are what the white people call a coon.

Ishilove, You don't have to call me names for my candid observations except you want to regale to the Nairaland community how safe and beautiful Nigerian roads are for interstate commute.

For a reasonable minds like myself the risk far outweighs the benefits.

I understand your reasons but theyre honestly not enough to leave a "great woman" (as you've described her).

If you're ready to do the traditional rites, go to the police or civil defence and pay for armed escort to her place. You'll spend more, true. But you'll get it over with.