This is why I've switched to chyking only women CEOs and top Executives now.

This dream of being someone's house husband must be achieved oo, who no like enjoyment and work-free life.

On a serious note, what doesn't work for family A may work perfectly well for family B.

Some things you may wanna look out for are;

1. Is your husband the type that says my car, my house, my money etc? If no, good. If yes, you may wanna think the issue over again.

2. What's his inner purpose of coming up with such decision? Is it because of his insecurity, complex issues, to dominate and be in charge? If no, good. If yes, think it again.

3. Does he want this to be permanent? If yes, think it again and if no, good. You can always go back to work after the kids get to a certain age.

Shalom.

thesicilian:


It's not about self esteem or trying to subjugate women, it's about what's best for the family. If the husband is capable and willing to take care of the family alone while the wife stays home to make sure the kids are well brought up, isn't that much better than having both father and mother hardly around while the children rot way under societal and social media influence?

Even if he is capable of taking care of 100% of the bills, it isn't easy for a woman to let go of all her dreams and aspirations. Someone like me can't and won't do it because I did not go to all these school for nothing. Lailai. Society always expects women to sacrifice and sacrifice and sacrifice. Haba

JovialJune:



Believe it or not, there is a war going on against women, not physical, but in words, thoughts, and deeds, they are trying to limit us, push us to the side as inconsequential, unimportant, and worthless, especially in Africa/Nigeria

When it all started, we didn't take them serious because we felt it is just online shenanigans and it ends there, but now, it is full blown, and we should not ignore it, I can't ignore their nonsense anymore, these sets of useless men are not just on this forum, they are on every platform, even offline, and they need to be put in their place, and at the same time we need to preach about the capabilities of women and what we can achieve so that upcoming little ones will not grow up with the negative mentalities these men are trying to push forward as the norm and expectations of women, it is annoying and belittling,

Klass, look at the husband Op is talking about, why would anyone want a full time house wife in this 21st century?

Look at the mindset of the other person I quoted, is that a normal human being?

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Ishilove:

Even if he is capable of taking care of 100% of the bills, it isn't easy for a woman to let go of all her dreams and aspirations. Someone like me can't and won't do it because I did not go to all these school for nothing. Lailai. Society always expects women to sacrifice and sacrifice and sacrifice. Haba

Get that phat arse into the kitchen and make me another samwich

Also my tea is getting cold

itsweet:
What will be your reaction if your newly wedded husband ask you to resign from your 80k job and become a full time house wife?

Not enough context.

First question is why?

GloriousGbola:


Get that phat arse into the kitchen and make me another samwich

Also my tea is getting cold

Do it yourself. You're not handicapped

Ishilove:

Do it yourself. You're not handicapped

Did they not tell you I am the HEAD
All of a sudden you no longer understand English

See disrespect of these modern women

She go say I be lady oooo.

GloriousGbola:


Did they not tell you I am the HEAD
All of a sudden you no longer understand English

See disrespect of these modern women

She go say I be lady oooo.

I'm a lady, thank you for noting that

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JovialJune:
All these insecure men with -0 self esteem trying to subjugate women by all means, always against a grown adult from being useful to herself and the society,

If that is what you are facing right now madam Op, and it was not agreed upon before marriage, and you don't want to loose your job, tell him straight up that it is never gonna happen, if he insists and threatens you, leave the house and be on your own, marriage is not a do or die affair.

For you to easily advise the Op and any other hypothetical wives seeing this your comment on this platform whose happen to be in such situation. This advise of you just reflect a closer hint of your marital status. How could you advise leaving marriage because of stipend 80k job.

Your advise ought to be rational and applicable but the best piece of advice you can give is to be sentimental about it and your opinion is a pitfall.

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Sukkyy2010:
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For you to easily advise the Op and any other hypothetical wives seeing this your comment on this platform whose happen to be in such situation. This advise of you just reflect a closer hint of your marital status. How could you advise leaving marriage because of stipend 80k job.

Your advise ought to be rational and applicable but the best piece of advice you can give is to be sentimental about it and your opinion is a pitfall.

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I said what I said, deal with it.

My dear I will advice base on experience, you see that your job, that is your sure security and dignity as a woman. Never let go of it no matter the love sharking you now for nothing. If he wants you to resign your job, let him create an alternative source of income for you, like opening a business or paying some money into your account for personal upkeep. It is a terrible thing for a woman to depend on her husband wholeheartedly for financial sustainance. You are always at his mercy and God helping you, you have a terrible misunderstanding with him, huhhh, of course you know, no money for you for that period. Don't quit your job for nothing my dear, encourage him to open a business for you cause, it wouldn't be funny when you stay for a month without any alert into your account as it used to. Wisdow is profitable to direct. Your job is your strength and protection as a married woman. And you know we human, we are unpredictable especially men of these days with their adulterous lifestyle. Be wise!

JovialJune:
^{All these insecure men with -0 self esteem trying to subjugate women by all means, always against a grown adult from being useful to herself and the society,}

Acidosis:

^{If staying at home makes economic sense, why not?}

Telling a modern Nigerian woman to quit her job is as simple as telling her to be a "WIFE". Which means it will be harder to fvck; Eric her jobless boyfriend. Yeah, he's the guy she gave a Mouth Gig after your wedding reception. . I am looking at you Mrs. Independent

The things women with slave roles (regular jobs) do at work can only shock a naive man.

A big difference between a married woman and a wife. JovialJune can be married to Acidosis but Salome the househelp is his wife.

Nigerian girls want to be married, but not ready to be wives. However, they demand you become a "husband". My advice to Acidosis; let JovialJune play "I am Mrs." while Salome plays "WIFE".

Salome's pics below .

Elporo:



Telling a modern Nigerian woman to quit her job is as simple as telling her to be a "WIFE". Which means it will be harder to fvck; Eric her jobless boyfriend. Yeah, he's the guy she gave a Mouth Gig after your wedding reception. . I am looking at you Mrs. Independent

The things women with slave roles (regular jobs) do at work can only shock a naive man.

A big difference between a married woman and a wife. Jov*alJune can be married to Acidosis but Salome the househelp is his wife.

Nigerian girls want to be married, but not ready to be wives. However, they demand you become a "husband". My advice to Acidosis; let Jov*alJune play "I am Mrs." while Salome plays "WIFE".

Salome's pics below .

LMAO


Wetin you smoke, guy?!

Elporo:



Telling a modern Nigerian woman to quit her job is as simple as telling her to be a "WIFE". Which means it will be harder to fvck; Eric her jobless boyfriend. Yeah, he's the guy she gave a Mouth Gig after your wedding reception. . I am looking at you Mrs. Independent

The things women with slave roles (regular jobs) do at work can only shock a naive man.

A big difference between a married woman and a wife. JovialJune can be married to Acidosis but Salome the househelp is his wife.

Nigerian girls want to be married, but not ready to be wives. However, they demand you become a "husband". My advice to Acidosis; let JovialJune play "I am Mrs." while Salome plays "WIFE".

Salome's pics below .

Is this guy for real

You're going psycho, you just don't know it yet

JovialJune:
All these insecure men with -0 self esteem trying to subjugate women by all means, always against a grown adult from being useful to herself and the society,

If that is what you are facing right now madam Op, and it was not agreed upon before marriage, and you don't want to loose your job, tell him straight up that it is never gonna happen, if he insists and threatens you, leave the house and be on your own, marriage is not a do or die affair.

Not me pls but someone complain to me so I decided to seek for others opinion.

Who knows??

itsweet:
What will be your reaction if your newly wedded husband ask you to resign from your 80k job and become a full time house wife?

I would have accessed him and be sure that my salary doesn't make sense to the family

Then I would be very sure that my depending on him doesn't make me a slave in my marriage, home and his family

Thirdly, I will make sure his atm card has been within my reach while courting

Then having been satisfied, I will accept with a monthly pay

Mariangeles:


The issue is much more than domestic economy.
It is also about being productive and feeling fulfilled.
Those are too much of a sacrifice to ask of a person against their will.

Apt! A woman shouldn't be compelled to sacrifice. In fact ladies should stop be swayed by the emotions of marriage proposals and discuss these things pre-marriage so as not to get into it and receive the shock of their life. If a woman choose to work, her husband must give her 100 percent support all round. But if she opt not to, her services at home must be honored and appreciated, and not considered any less of a responsibilty.