I’m in a dilemma and wish someone here would help with a good counsel. I presently live in the Netherlands, and hopefully planning to have a home as I’m not married. I’m fortunate to have 2 beauties within my radar as suitors I’ll like to build a home with one of them. Both of them are models to behold. They’re both in their early and mid twenties.

I worship in a church, and there’s a lady who is the vocal lead, not only in the church but throughout major churches in the Netherlands. She’s so good and talented that she’s often invited to different churches to minister, and she’s one of my crushes. With a good investment and mentorship, I’m sure she’d just a stone throw from ranking with the celebrities in the gospel genre. This lady is lovely and beautiful, and i found out she’s a virgin at 25 years. The downside is that she’s short of being my spec in physical appearance. She’s 5 feet 4 inches tall, not a blond. This has been a thought for consideration because I’ve never dated a lady that’s not taller than I’m. I’m 5 feet 6 inches. I wish i could make her grow taller

Here comes the second lady, she’s a perfect model in appearance as I’d always wanted. Blue eyes, 5 feet 8 inches, friendly. Sometimes we caught ourselves stealing looks at each other. She’s a virgin also. We’ve had a few chitchat but not as deep as the First Lady that we’ve been building bonds. Her dad has visited me several times. This lady is also talented in singing, but not as the first one. If the First Lady is rated as an A-list artist, the second will be a C-list.

Now, I’m planning a cross carpet move to this model that meets my taste in a woman, I’m bit skeptical it might spark a wrong attention in the church. Now, I’m thinking, am i not imprisoned in my own imagination of how to measure beauty? If i go with the First Lady, would i be able to overcome my passion for this gorgeous blond? I’m a Christian, and I’ve never cheated in any relationship. It’s easier when it’s just relationship, but when it’s marriage, the faith is sealed and I’m glued with my decision for life.

My question for the experienced married people who’d been caught in such crossroad, which did you finally decided to go with between a talent and beauty? Did you regret your decisions or proud of it? What would you advise i should do in this case? Mind you, both of them are specialists and good in their domains.

How did you know both are virgins?

Take it to God in prayers.

PerfectStranger:
How did you know both are virgins?

Out of all what the op wrote up there, Is this what your dead brain could ask? Abi do you wanna still advice him to dump the ladies because they aren't virgins?
Village man like you!! Mtchhheeewww.

If they're not virgins nko? Is that your business! Can't you just advice op and move ahead

Many at times we dont get what we always want. Marriage is beyond physical appearance and specs, but follow your heart.

Hmmm, All diz 'Please advice me on my woman' post!.
Hope you will turn around to castigate those u re seeking advice from like dat Alaigbo dude.

When people describe people or a partner they want using their sexuality I feel they have poor sense of reasoning, from the look of things you want a virgin and it's very very possible that none of them is a virgin, in a nutshell, from your write up, I can't really tell what you want or prefer the most, either virginity or height, no mention of character (the content of everyone's character matters the most), no mention of personality and how it aligns with yours, you most probably want a model who has never been fu..k.d her whole life, risky game in my opinion.
Well...
Sit down within yourself, set out what you want the most and go for the one that has them.

PerfectStranger:
How did you know both are virgins?

He fingered them.

How do you know that they are both V?

PerfectStranger:
How did you know both are virgins?

I’ve been a friend to the dad for 5 months. He’s asked about my sexuality, and we’ve discussed a lot. Dutch society is conservative, very protective of their kids. If they noticed you take interest in their kids, the mom or dad wouldn’t mind befriending you to purge your intention.
In fact, I’m hanging out with the dad again today by 7:00PM.

Follow your heart o.

Bro. Is not necessary.
Go and get a baby mama.

Marriage will cage you. This man is writing from experience.
Most women are only good when you haven't get committed to them in marriage. Just as soon as you do, hmmm, you will realize what I mean.
Watch and see some of them come up to rain insult on me here because of this comment

stunning324:

I’ve been a friend to the dad for 5 months. He’s asked about my sexuality, and we’ve discussed a lot. Dutch society is conservative, very protective of their kids. If they noticed you take interest in their kids, the mom or dad wouldn’t mind befriending you to purge your intention.
In fact, I’m hanging out with the dad again today by 7:00PM.

You hanging out with the dad doesn't mean anything. You believing she's a V is pure assumption.

stunning324:

I’ve been a friend to the dad for 5 months. He’s asked about my sexuality, and we’ve discussed a lot. Dutch society is conservative, very protective of their kids. If they noticed you take interest in their kids, the mom or dad wouldn’t mind befriending you to purge your intention.
In fact, I’m hanging out with the dad again today by 7:00PM.

Is netherland an english speaking country?

Don't ever ever marry in the West. You'll lose, always lose.

So in Nertherland, we have virgins littering the streets like Emefiele's presidential posters?

Well, you are so concerned about the physique and never mentioned anything about the character. Please don't give any of them false hope in order not to clash when you finally got over your imagination.

I am not married so I have nothing to say.