How open can you be in a relationship knowing that your partner does not like secrets and also at the same time gets jealous easily. Is it advisable to always share experiences with ur partner or keep them to yourself?

I'll really appreciate your contributions.

well it depends on the kind of relationship am in and how committed I am in that relationship. I and my ex had this thing where we promised each other no secrets and that made it the best relationship that I have eva had. Even at times when it seemed like it was going to break the relationship,, at the end of it all it was worth the telling.

So yes I would, in a committed relationship, bare all to my partner. It is the only way forward to a successful relationship. its the most beautiful thing. You become morphed into each other and that makes the partnership strong and you can stand against the world together head on!!!!!

u no wat i mean?

I'm a very open and honest person. But the truth is that I don't talk too much because I'm never sure when honesty stops and where gossip begins.

It's that thin line that keeps me cautious. But if I believe am not overstepping that boundary, then I can be totally open.

There are different kinds of secretes.

1 Personal secretes: Theses involve delicate issues that concerns you as a person. It might be something about your past that if you decide to reveal it – it might affect your relationship. Such secrets are meant to be buried deep down in your heart regardless of how much you love and trust your partner.

2. Open secrets: These involve minor secrets that can be easily forgiven. They are not so serious and are easily forgiven if you open up to your partner and share with him/her.

So what am trying to bring out is that if you know deep down in you that your secret is capable of wrecking your relationship, then keep it to yourself.

ok according to @crazykid definition some personal secrets are buried soo deep in my heart/mind its never going to see the light


some i will definitely reveal its no biggie so @topic if you ain't comfy with revealling some of your issues to your partner , then [b]mum [/b]is the word and keep it moving

just let out as much as u're able 2 witout startin a fire and if ur partner's more broadminded, let it all out

crazykid:

There are different kinds of secretes.

1 Personal secretes: Theses involve delicate issues that concerns you as a person. It might be something about your past that if you decide to reveal it – it might affect your relationship. Such secrets are meant to be buried deep down in your heart regardless of how much you love and trust your partner.

2. Open secrets: These involve minor secrets that can be easily forgiven. They are not so serious and are easily forgiven if you open up to your partner and share with him/her.

So what am trying to bring out is that if you know deep down in you that your secret is capable of wrecking your relationship, then keep it to yourself.

well said!!

ikamefa:

ok according to @crazykid definition some personal secrets are buried soo deep in my heart/mind its never going to see the light

They must be really bad secrets then

hummmmmmmmmm!

@crazy stop seeing smoke where there is no fire

bad secrets koo, rotten secrets ni!

Am not seeing smoke o!

You said it yourself that some personal secrets are buried so deep in your heart/mind and its never going to see the light. So what else do you want me to suggest after hearing your statement?

my dear that is the beauty of the net!

suggest anything you like! read in btwn , under, above the lines and draw your own conclusions

a good exercise for your mind abi? " "

which secrets? i have heard all of Ika's secrets during our pammy induced stupors, and I have it on tape

well u necesarily dont have to tell him secrets that has nothing 2 do with ur relationship, i mean, u know wont hurt or benefit ur relationship.

ikamefa:

my dear that is the beauty of the net!

suggest anything you like! read in btwn , under, above the lines and draw your own conclusions

a good exercise for your mind abi? " "

Yes my dear.

At least I now know you have some uqly stuff hidded 37 steps down. All I have to do is to get a shovel and start digging. Maybe you might just open up to me.  

debosky:

which secrets? i have heard all of Ika's secrets during our pammy induced stupors, and I have it on tape

_{shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! make sure you don't sell that tape oh!} ^{or my lawyers will contacting you asap}

crazykid:

Yes my dear.

At least I now know you have some uqly stuff hidded 37 steps down. All I have to do is to get a shovel and start digging. Maybe you might just open up to me.

dig away! make sure you use a power-drill too

It's your heart I wnt to dig are you sure you want me to use power on it?

i know you have a tape of mine too, so your secrets are safe

watz with all these blackamils

acidrop:

watz with all these blackamils

Looks like you don't know whatz going on

We're in a shrine

and what am i doing in the shrine. c thats wat i get 4 trying 2 follow u crazykid, well datz d last tym

Hey sorryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

I didn't mean to offend you please don't leave me ok?

sorry, but its too late am already under my mom's bed

What are you doing under the bed, I hope you aren’t hiding some of your secrets there o!

hw did u discover my safe, all my secrets since 2yrs old is under my mom's bed

Good I shall go and uncover all of 'em I hope they are heart breaking secrets?

ooo, know u wont, i get bodyguard

Bodyguard


I don't think they woud be able to stand my Juju

huuuuuuuuuuuuuhh, u are so scary, n supersticious

Well let's change the topic and leave this supersticious talk what do you think?

think about what? where is free anyway?

Why all the talk about free?

why not concentrate on our discussion