IyaTola:
This is coming on the back drop of the woman who committed suicide as a result of the above subject matter.

So, I ask is not having not having a wife/husband & a child(ren) a disability, necessity, problem or crime in Nigeria context

Acidosis:


We don't have enough information to draw any conclusion but committing suicide on Children's Day points to only one thing - social pressure.

Social pressure is the combined pressures that are around you during everyday life. Unfortunately, you don't have control over these pressures. The best you can do is to manage them.

If people around you prioritize marriage, having children, academic success, employment, etc., chances are that your desires will be shaped by and around these pressures.

Only few people have a desire or mind of their own. More often than not, your desires, your ambitions, your cravings, and goals are designed for you by others. Even that food you crave for lunch is not your making. It is a result of social pressure and business algorithms.

Tell the average Nigerian that you don't like songs from Wizkid, Davido, or Burna and expect the most ridiculous perception about you. They expect your favourite musician to be either Wizkid or Davido when over 100 new songs are being released by other Nigerian artistes on Apple Music every week.

What we have to do is de-emphasize this "zombie" way of thinking and "cancel culture" and start emphasizing critical thinking. When someone is not married at a certain age or without a child, a critical mind won't start thinking rubbish.

Pojomojo:
1. Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment.

2. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children.

3. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union. This union mirrors the one between God and His Church

Kobojunkie:
This claim that marriage is the beginning of family is fairy tale in a world where many are born outside of marriage.
Also of fairytale status is the assumption that a family can be formed when strangers choose to come together to live together as such.

2. Marriage is the opposite of what you describe there. It is a makorly selfish union where individuals dedicate their very lives to building up that only that which pertains to them and theirs - your wife/husband, your children etc., - as opposed to that which belongs to others - other people's children, spoiled, etc.

3. Marriage has nothing to do with God who cursed it in Genesis 3 vs 16 , nor His Church of which Jesus Christ informed you of 2000 years ago that your marriages have no part in - Luke 20 vs 34- 36. That which is unholy can't be said to mirror that which is holy in any way or form..

Pojomojo:
Are you married?

IyaTola:

Ferkaholic:

H'antie, yur pretty sha.. chai! + I'm in luh with yur thickerbody

ibechris:
Marriage is like the highest achievement for some women in Nigeria.

Honestly,if u see how they go about searching for men,then u will know that marriage is more than a necessity but a golden achievement.

Peebaby93:
No.. just that society has a way of putting people under pressure.. nothing is complusory in life..but the older you get,that's when you will realize that you need some of this things.