zionstaar75:
I think you've been hanging around wretched women. Women are never like that. What you're describing is a runs girl believe me. U need to change the circle of women u move with. Before I married I dragged babies with several rich guys and lost only once, ironically the I lost too is 10x worse than me financially

There are many things I would have explained to u.. but leme just stop here...

jogsman01:
Your motive

I really do not believe bride price should be expensive before a man would truly appreciate his wife. Well, that's me sha.

HopeNeverDies:


1. Damnnnn!!! That's definitely not a demonic position. Well I can say, that depends on the type of Relationship you guy's have had.

2. So wait, your u can't make sacrifices for your man or something?

1. I can't be in such a relationship. I am very intolerant of bullshit.

2. That is not a sacrifice; that is massaging his fragile ego & pandering to his insecurities/low self esteem.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

YOU MAY NOT LIE MY DR. But Check very Well before Conclusion, Pls. Is it d Process to getting the Job or d Cost of d Job Demands itself or ur ATTITUDE since the JOB? ... ... if U truly Love him...Keep Ur Heart Closed and Observe him after U have fully Assumed ur New Roles at d new Company...And if he doesn't Change his Position, PLS MOVE ON...URS IS AT ARM'S LENGTH...GOD WILL SURELY SHOW UP AND ON TIME TOO.

deytoongee:
As much as I get the idea of this but how practicable is this? Can you totally exhaust all the possible future events and cover all of them especially within a limited time frame? Would you inform all three parties that they're in a love "rectangle" in this case? What if you don't find up to three people who have taken interest in you? How do you set boundaries with three people? How do you give all three people an equal playing ground when they are clearly different individuals with different realities?

I'm really curious to understand this model of dating.

Set timelines. Within weeks with some people during discussions one can know this one would not work. Others will not follow this rule. While it has it flaws and deficits,it will help avoid time wasters

I love the guy he is a sharp guy .don't give a woman power she is going to misuse it we know what our nigeria men are facing abroad from our Nigeria women. there

womenareapez:
you said the purest truth and not everyone will believe this truth!

The fellow men criticising this man are the reall low self-esteem poverty sinking men to that particular y tribe who will go so far to married their white grandmother as wife just for visa

That op will never date anyman below her pay income and will probably dumb him in the future!

This the man has seen and worked on it

We all got dumped by our secondary skl sweethearts because theey saw guyz with bigger money.. I alsso got dumped by one. Of my exes wen I was doing diploma with her , because a final year regular student wanted. Her,.. u might call it co incidence..

But the love. Of. My life dumped me again.. when I was in 300hundred cuz her new toaster is an accessbank worker.. now after graduation, and huzling small small.. my fellow low income same level gf who got blessed and sh elevated heavily to very high income... Dumped me , because sh doesn't want to marry a guy with good money...

See, it goes. On and on and one.. ask every guy, we all have experienced ladies dump u up nd down and going for a richer guy, (mind u, not for a. Better guy) just a richer guy...

That does not mean there are no exceptions, so if. The. Ladies is seriosuu about them and knows it maybe cuz of her new income.. why don't she find a very heart to heart discuss and make the. Guy veryy much understand that sh will b humble despite her new income...

You can't blamme the guy, I repeat , cuz he didn't create women's character nor blaame the. Girl cuz sh is not all the other women who doors same... All sh need. Is to talk to convince and. Don't to mk him. Look like he is jealous or insecure like sh is currently doing...

I am very sure., Sh will jump into bed again with her new high earning supervisors at her. New place of work..

cococandy:


This man is her life?
And what makes him high value please?

To start with that's a man of her choice and she deeply likes the man.

How many percentage of men will she meet that are managers in a company.

Sometimes less is more.

First, congratulations on your new job. Second, it is very good for you to be ambitious. It appears that he is very short-sighted and is very insecure. Why would somebody want to curtail his woman's potential for his selfish interests? My advice, move on with the job, sever contact, don't try to reason with him, don't plead, don't explain, just cut him off and move on. He will come back but I'm not sure you want to be with someone like that.

Khoielvis:




Dating is whoredorm Abi. When your generation doesn't save intimacy for marriage that's how you define it. Go back and rediscover what dating means really

This generation has gone astray......agreed.

Nevertheless, it isn't a justification to have many dating partners. It's a recipe for disaster one way or another.

DaveDGreat:


This generation has gone astray......agreed.

Nevertheless, it isn't a justification to have many dating partners. It's a recipe for disaster one way or another.

We don't know what dating is then. Dating is inexclusive of committments to begin with. So by this definition,what does it imply ?

Khoielvis:



Wish. And I have 30 people working under me. Never been employed. Manga e ten digit per annum company. Fool

E Pain am..i won't reply to a low life like you again..so dnt bother..no be only digit na number

Eprincess:
It is because of men like you that the world is still the way it is. This is the 21st century and a man is still bragging, " I can't marry a woman who is more ambitious".

It is men like you that will end up getting married to women with no ambition and when irritated, you get a divorce and start looking for an ambitious woman to marry.

What's wrong in getting married to a woman who is more ambitious, as long as you she respects you and fulfills her responsibilities as your wife.

Your mindset is weak... sorry

This part is a clause anyway, because there would always be friction. It is just what comes with it. So there is really no point trying to sugarcoat the obvious. In life, different choices come with different problems. It is part of the choice that a man would make.

There are two options:

1. It is either you marry a non-ambitious woman that will respect you always, but you will carry all the financial burden like a Christmas goat.

OR

2. You marry an ambitious lady and she reduces your financial burden, she will definitely disrespect you once in a while. You can't escape it, unescapable situation.

Standard of living:
- If she earns much higher and she insist that she wants a better standard of living that she can obviously afford, It means you have to level up as a man even if it is not comfortable for you. It can cause friction in decision making as well.

So ultimately, there is nothing wrong in breaking up with someone if you know you cannot handle the pressure that comes with a woman earning higher. let every body make their choice & be happy with it.

bigpicture001:


We all got dumped by our secondary skl sweethearts because theey saw guyz with bigger money.. I alsso got dumped by one. Of my exes wen I was doing diploma with her , because a final year regular student wanted. Her,.. u might call it co incidence..

But the love. Of. My life dumped me again.. when I was in 300hundred cuz her new toaster is an accessbank worker.. now after graduation, and huzling small small.. my fellow low income same level gf who got blessed and sh elevated heavily to very high income... Dumped me , because sh doesn't want to marry a guy with good money...

See, it goes. On and on and one.. ask every guy, we all have experienced ladies dump u up nd down and going for a richer guy, (mind u, not for a. Better guy) just a richer guy...

That does not mean there are no exceptions, so if. The. Ladies is seriosuu about them and knows it maybe cuz of her new income.. why don't she find a very heart to heart discuss and make the. Guy veryy much understand that sh will b humble despite her new income...

You can't blamme the guy, I repeat , cuz he didn't create women's character nor blaame the. Girl cuz sh is not all the other women who doors same... All sh need. Is to talk to convince and. Don't to mk him. Look like he is jealous or insecure like sh is currently doing...

I am very sure., Sh will jump into bed again with her new high earning supervisors at her. New place of work..

it only takes a mature and experience man to understand this!

This is just the harsh truth of reality which she herself know and will possibly do in the near future

The fellow guys criticizing this guy are mostly kids with no life expectancy or experience

Connected1:

Where in my statement did I tell you marriage is a priority in life.

When too many persons say they need shelter to avoid rain/heat from falling on their heads, then we assume it's a necessity in life.

Too many unmarried women complain about husband's scarcity, now tell me what we have to say?

From my experience with my family and the women of the society, I believe it's every woman's dream to be in the arms of her dream man.

Not getting married won't make you less of a human but I have seen unmarried women secretly wish they had husbands like their peers.

Just imagine, you will have no companion, no one to give your headaches and bill for money too. Marriage is good for women oh.

let them ask Rita Dominic

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Thank God na boi friend e be.

Thatwasepic:
You have to find a trade off between your career and your life, don't sacrifice your life because of your career or you might wake up one day 40 years with no kids. You are a woman you have a biological clock. If you are in your 30s your chances of finding a high value man or the man of your dream diminishes by 50 percent from when your are in your 20s you might have to settle for less and that's where marital problems start, thinking you should have had better. Don't ever sacrifice your life because of a career is not worth it at the end . Good luck

People like you are the reason why that accountant committed suicide at 47.



Who told you a career is not worth it?
Is it your life they are living?



Just because you are in the low income bracket, with very little ambition does not mean everyone has to be like you.




When they get married to high value cheating husbands who have no concrete plans for long term progress, will you be there to help them?





In this world, everyone will not have the same experience, and not everyone will get married in the same way.



STOP PUTTING PRESSURE ON WOMEN.

Omo are there really people like this?!
This is not love but selfishness.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

You just concluded that he changed because you got a high paying job. That's not fair. Did he tell you he is jealous of you. Dude could have some level of insecurities. He's in management and he knows what happens in organisations between bosses and female staff. Bros has rest of mind that you're working in the same company as he is. He's scared you'd be under someone else and can't imagine anything that could happen. You should be able to read between when he agreed you move but to a closer company to his own. Can you still say this is jealousy?

So instead of concluding that he's jealous of you, why not understanding his fears and talk about it with him?

Khoielvis:




We don't know what dating is then. Dating is inexclusive of committments to begin with. So by this definition,what does it imply ?

Well methinks you're taking dating as friendship or a "little above friendship"

As a man, I can be friends with many ladies and feel nothing for them. But these doesn't always go well for women (except the current dispensation) of ladies. So if you mean one can date multiples, would you deny there would be some form of emotional attachments along the line? What if she falls in love with 2 or more guys since she's dating 7 guys? You see where the wahala can start abi?

Whether sex or not, you just can't minus emotions from dating especially when ladies are involved.

cococandy:


This man is her life?
And what makes him high value please?

The late unlamented Kevin Samuels told him so na.

IamMobisola:


Everybody is ambitious, there is no man or woman in this life that is not ambitious in life.
She chose the second job because it pays higher than the first one and she gets a higher position. The guy doesn't want her going far away from him so that he can keep an eye on her which speaks Insecurity. He is her boyfriend and not her husband, he doesn't have any right to make decisions for her. If they were married then she would need to stay close to her husband but their relationship was barely three months when he told her to not take the second job because it is far from him.

The reason why he mentioned that she was ambitious was because she said the second job was like a promotion for her in her career plus the higher salary. That's why he said that

He doesn't have any right to make decisions for her? This is that stupid mentality that keep you girls single into your 30s. Las unar go start to consider to be babymamas.

He has every right to express his worries anyway he wants.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

u should go to church for thanksgiving u just dodged a bullet

Better thank God and move on for a better man to come.. why loving a man with low self esteem who isn't happy with your progress.. his type can be toxic and destructive.. they are Anti progressive

Auntie, if you like, follow advice from women. Women are incapable of giving good advice to fellow women.
It's quite easily explainable why he left you. You clearly don't listen and are assertive. While that's great for your career (which a man does not give a stuff about), it's dangerous for a serious relationship. He suggested that if you need to move, go to one close to him but you chose the one with a higher pay. You are setting a wrong precedent. That's how rebellion starts. Later when you get married and have children, you'll argue and insist on your own choice of school for the kids.

No one is stopping you from growing in your career, but apparently that's more important than a relationship.

Those ones screaming about you dodging a bullet are in their husband's homes listening to him or are still single in their 30's and looking for relatability.

Have sense!

Hello, i wish i could speak with you one-on-one.

Saintmary:



People like you are the reason why that accountant committed suicide at 47.



Who told you a career is not worth it?
Is it your life they are living?



Just because you are in the low income bracket, with very little ambition does not mean everyone has to be like you.




When they get married to high value cheating husbands who have no concrete plans for long term progress, will you be there to help them?





In this world, everyone will not have the same experience, and not everyone will get married in the same way.



STOP PUTTING PRESSURE ON WOMEN.

Ironically, the accountant committed suicide because of listening to people like you when she was younger. Telling her to prioritize career over marriage.

Men and women are extremely different. Men derive satisfaction from being of value in their careers. Women, from having families. No woman really gets fulfilled by having all the money in the world and being single and childless. Check all the women in that category. All miserable.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Move on with your life jareeh
You will find someone else.. Instead of him to be happy about your new job..